₦airaland Forum

HCH3COO:
churchgoers are not necessarily true christians osisi, don't forget.

oh quiet you

ehie:
abeg i don go oh! the stupid ideology of feminsm is what is bringing the western society to its knees, Britain and most of Europe are now contending with the fallout of dysfunctional societies, eg
Binge Drinking
Knife Crimes Holiganism all because the most important structure of the society is collapsing, the family
Continue to kid yourself and get married with your strong head,
i give love 6 months tops
Character,Kindeness Loyalty an eternity.
Choose the way u all want to go, bye all

dalu

i mean i understand what yal are saying. i mean i now see a different perception of being "submissive". I know im a lil bit stubborn and head strong, but that is just me. im working on it. I know when i get married that alot of what im saying will be changing noting i marry the right man. But alot of what im saying now will still stand.

agaba123:
I don't even think that women like it when their husband is not strong or even treat them as equal come to think of it. The 'naija girls' in particular will think you are not man enough because all they learnt about marriage from their fathers is that the husband is the lord.

I will prefer a reasonable babe fom over here to anyone from naija any day because I need a friend and a companion not a slave. Most women like it when they have no say.

I heard of guy in Kaduna who would not discuss with his wife. His reason was that if he does the woman will take him as equal. Whenever he wanted to have a chat, he would go to a woman married to to another man.

The so called was loving it and was calling him her husband

Lord of gini??

Queenisha:
God bless you.
Onyinye needs to read this.
The key is in finding the right man and submission comes easy.
If you have a man that would lay down his life for you and the kids, there's nothing you wouldn't do for him

You guys act as if im the woman from the "Devil Wears Prada" oka of course i would willing feed my husband, cater to his needs, be there when he needs me, respect him as the man, but there as to be something said on my part. Oka it can't be the man making all the decisions in the household, am i not his partner?? Don't i get to decide the final decision too?

ehie:
@Pataki   am just a lone voice in the wilderness,
Am just tired of all these aggresive attititudes some chicks pull.

the numbers of degreess and doughs and visa stamps don't make u a better person just a flashy one, it is wha u think, how u act, what u do

Nne, abeg go and submit your life to your husband.

HCH3COO:
u are a lost cause.  

blah blah blah.

Queenisha:
unless the man is incarcerated.
anyone that says her husband will not be the head is kidding.
That's the only way the marriage will work

submission doesn't mean slavery

totally agree
partnership that splits up 60% of the time is no longer partnership
na madness.
There is an order for marriage.
Just like there's an order in your place of employment.
Your boss is not a dictator is he?
but he makes the final decisions and cannot function alone without the employees.

submission is not synonymous with dictatorship

So now im an employee?? oh goodness gracious.(faints over in astonishment)

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=155971.msg2588554#msg2588554 date=1217525682]I think u have a picture of a man that will tell the wife what to do, what to eat, what to wear and who to talk to, sister, that is no marriage, that is slavery, because submitting to your husband don't means he will rule u, he will only guide you and together, you will grow and be happy together, infact, many ladies control their husband and yet they don't know it.[/quote]hmmm, you do speak some truth.

HCH3COO:
It is a partnership with a God-chosen dictator.  How dare you disobey the will of God.

I was born and raised in the Anglican Church so you can't tell me nothing about the Will of God. im just saying is that why can't we both lead? Two is always better than one.

Queenisha:
My dear,with this stand,you may not be married for too long.
Go and mark my words.
There can never be 2 captains in a ship

Last i heard, a marriage was a partnership not a dictatorship.

davidylan:
how old is onyinye2? 15?  

add six years to that.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=155971.msg2588462#msg2588462 date=1217524996]there is no 2 ways about it, it is either u want to respect the word of God or not, if you want to respect it, yo have to submit to your husband, however, there is a gray area between submission and being stupid, submission don't means when he is beating u and maltreating u, u have to say yes sir, it means, u have to let him lead, and likewise same bible says, the husband has to love their wife, like jesus loves the church and he gave his life for it, so if the man loves his wife like such, trust me, submission would be so easy.[/quote]Nne, define submission for me.

rubi:
The husband is the head there is no doubt about it ut in this part of the world where we are in no help from anyone and the man refuse to be sensitive to the woman need like onyinye rightly said at least when a woman comes back from work and the man is less busy at home just help to prepare something for her it will not make him not to be the head of the house the boys will copy too and treat their wives the same

All said and put to law.

HCH3COO:
Are you not inhabiting the same household  

Yeah but he can control the kids but as for me, mba.

@Baxilexi
Nice offer but i will pass. You sound like you would be willing to be a man who stays home for a living. And i don't deal with slackers.

ehie:
the husband is the head, that is what the bible said, submission, when u go out of God's will ,
well the rest is history
if u don't respect your husban how will your kids respect u and the world they are to enter.
selflessness is not foolishness

Nne you got it all wrong. You see i understand that the man is the leader of the household but not over me. Of course i would take of my husband's every need and so will he do the same. But submission, mba

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=155971.msg2588391#msg2588391 date=1217524435]they are surely not refering to nigerian borvas, because a brother will want to walk behind u to assimilate all he got in you and raise his shoulder to show off the sista and tell all want to be to keep off.[/quote]NOT all of course. The guys who were raised in the states are good. And so are the ones born and raised in naija. But those mu mu ones over shadow the good ones.

HCH3COO:
ehie, how do you qualify this statement?  A girl who is standoff-ish and pompous, who refuses to cook for her husband because she's the president of her company?    See why I say a lot of these girls don't share our similar interests.  ehie, I might need your number soon. you're a rare gem.    .  If my wife's work gets in the line of her homely responsibilities, she must find a job that honors the safety of our marriage.

I would of course cook for my family. That is a priority. But sometimes when i come home, i am tired, i would like to see a nice little meal waiting for me.

HCH3COO:
how you take know this    playing the gender card again? that's another thing about yankee girls: feminist brigades.

Oh so you want your wife to walk behind where ever you go??

rubi:
The problem here is most naija guys in abroad wants a woman who will walk behind them and not beside them

It is officially. You my long lost twin!!! I hate that. I walk behind no one.

HCH3COO:
that's the type of mentality i'm talking about.  
I believe I have better chances of  

Tell me what mentality you are talking about. cause clearly we have different answers.

ehie:
lol onyinye, ure touchy, haha

Yeah gurlie, i  mean if i spent a whole day discussing economy plans and world affairs, the last thing im fittin na do is cook for no body. in fact im the one who should come home to a meal.

HCH3COO:
thank you sister.  that is the type of mentality missing in so many of the girls that are bred her, in my opinion.

Oh quiet you.

ehie:
Its so easy to get divorced in America, "our marriage isnt working" so it ends,its like people don't put their hearts in it.
Nigerian culture knocks into u that u should stay a virgin and stay with your husband till u die,
bottom line is that the reason most guys marry Nigerian girls is that they are more patient,more in tune with their positions as wives and not as rivals.don't oversate their independence ie i earn a million dollars, blal bla bla,
Husband,  first,Kids Second Yourself third, even if u are the president, u go home and cook for your husband
so far it has worked the divorce rate in most african countries is far less that those in the  west,

You had me until right about there.

HCH3COO:
Not as soon as things are not peachy, but you're are more likely to - yes.  Those are some of the things I have observed.  I wish they publish reports on these things so I can back up my observations.

Nwoke, abeg go and do research.

madamkoko:
Yes, its a question of choosing to be compatible with someone. Yes, I agree with you.


BUT i think its intimidation, when it becomes a conscious decision when one purposefully opts not to date someone abroad just because they're abroad (at least try them out. give them a chance.) don't assume they're any less Nigerian,  ,  there's no difference in a WELL MANNERED, EDUCATed Niger babe abroad and a well mannered education babe in Niger.  no difference. same lessons. same manners.

Thank You very much.

HCH3COO:
his argument is that it happens more in obodo oyibo.

So are you saying that me being brought up in ilu oyinbo, that i would run for divorce as soon as things are not peachy??

rubi:
I keeping saying this that whatever I am today my father contributed alot to it in all ramifications of life.

And i hate to admit it too but yeah i was blessed to have so strict parents. And not only did i have my parents who would be strict, i lived in a neighborhood that was 89% nigerian so yeah all the neighbors treated all the kids as their kids. so i couldn't do nothing with out someone not knowing. But im glad i was raised like that.

HCH3COO:
upbringing is usually not in favor of the ones here.

GINI!!! are you serious?? you have no idea what i went through being raised here.

HCH3COO:
most likely, yes.

most likely, no.

cold:
Since my last post i'v bin thinkin and deeply too.Wldn't u guys agree with me that a naija babe bak home would endure more stress of marriage than a naija chick living abroad.Because it can't be rosy all the time.

Gini explain yourself.

rubi:
Thats very wonderful of them

I didn't think so at the time. They were so strict and made us learn the Lord's Prayer in igbo and i was like "I can't wait to leave" but when i left all the things they taught me helped through alot.

madamkoko:
LoL @ breaking combs.

Every new comb i would buy, i would break it, bend it, deform it. I just had enough and was like perm my hair from root to tip.

Queenisha:
don't mind them
our very own hotfunmi aka redhotchic already gave a diagnosis that I agree with.
some of our Nigerian men have nothing but ordinary  akamu in their balls.
In Igboland we call them efulefu

Ha ha, efulefu!!!

HCH3COO:
Through being born to Nigerian parents?  Or because your Nigerian parents implemented Nigerian culture in your home and exposed you to the way Nigerians live  or because you see it?  Seeing is not enough.

Yes my parents implemented Nigerian culture in your home, in our life, in our school work, everything. And i grew up in an area that was mostly nigerian people.

HCH3COO:
How did you get the best of both worlds

I got to experience both cultures

Water boy, i am not spoiled at all. I have had to work hard for everything.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=155971.msg2588042#msg2588042 date=1217521234]and sometimes, i blame our family back home, because the kind of pressure that is put on anyone abroad, will make a good girl gone wild[/quote]Pressure ke?

Oracle14:
I think the Nigerian girls abroad get caught in the dilemma of too worlds (the western and the Nigerian); they adapt to the new society; which makes the Nigerian guys scared that girls are unstable and thus choose going back to Nigeria,  I do not support this, but what can they do?

I wonder why folk feel this way. I mean i got the best of both worlds. Both Nigeria and The States.

cold:
The truth of the matter is that most naija girls abroad are considered hustlers,if u catch my meaning.Naija guys biliv they're only in a r/shp 4 what they can get out of it & send to their families bak home,so they avoid them like the plague.

May i ask where these stereotypes are coming from?? was it something on naija babe did??

HCH3COO:
What perception   Stop halving your sentence.

Dont tell me what to do. Im just saying they think that oh we are spoiled and yada yada

madamkoko:
Good for you.

Perm, straight, whatever: you are free to do whatever you want. As long as you look good.

I've done perm and all that jazz,  didn't work too well for me.

Yeah and i have tried the whole natural thing too. But it got to the point that i was breaking combs and it was just yuck.

HCH3COO:
Why    What have you observed  

Well i have noticed guys born in naija who come aboard have this perception on the Naija girls who were raised/born aboard.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=155971.msg2587928#msg2587928 date=1217520372]jamo = jamaican babes

Cos lots of our babes want to be like then, meanwhile most jamo boys would do anything to marry a nija babe.
Anyhow, nothing like a nigerian woman with nice onion ass[/quote]Well there aint that many Jamaicans where i live but i doubt i would want to be like them. Ha ha onion, more like . . .

rubi:
Most men are intimidated by Nigerian girls here in abroad and have this impression that they are spoil. They also believe that the ones in Nigeria are very very innocent and decent which are all lies

Are you my long lost twin?? you took the words right out of my mouth.