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1metre:
common sense will fail u if u don't apply wisdom.


Applying wisdom in the midst of temptation is the leeway to overcome it not by God's grace or mere common sense.

I don't see any distinction btw d common sense am proposing and d wisdom U r alluding to....its all about word usage....and d way U perceive d word "common sense"....

1metre:
common sense will fail u if u don't apply wisdom. I do not subscribe to joining the bandwagon because people are jumping. There must be a justifiable reason for any action. I do not climb on top a skirt becos it's made available rather I do same on ground that it is morally justifiable. I will not becos blood and water run through my vein i stoop too low like a beast.



It's quite clear that an average Nigeria is a potential rapist judging from your vantage point. Must u sleep every lady that come your way? Applying wisdom in the midst of temptation is the leeway to overcome it not by God's grace or mere common sense.

hahahaha....dis is a misrepresentation of wat i said...bro U clearly misunderstood me....please next time do well to ask questions without making hasty conclusions....
wud U be comfortable if ur wifey or gf decided to share an apartment with a guy friend without raising suspicions?
I dont know wat U understand by temptation but it has absolutely nothing to do with ur morality,ur character or ur christian background!
Staying with an opposite sex night and day isn't quite intelligent bro....
It has absolutely nothing to do with d mentality of d so called d "average Nigerian mentality" or being a beast..

My point is very simple...."flee from all appearances of temptation"...don't get over confident and underestimate.....if u think U r standing,be careful lest U fall...

1metre:
in as much as the girl is a bait, u don't just fall prey like a starved he-goat. Your level of maturity depends on the environment u grew up and the kind of friends u keep in such a given environment while growing. The devil u are talking about is in your mind.

True but temptation from history has always over-powered the most noble and disciplined individuals....For crying out loud,U are a human with blood flowing through Ur veins....hence,the best U can do is avoid such situations that will lure U into such....i have some questions for U...Can U hold fire in Ur hands without getting burnt?
Will U venture into a path where there is danger written all over It?
How would U be comfortable with a lady friend in the same apartment without spiking up passion?

Your level of maturity depends on the environment u grew up and the kind of friends u keep in such a given environment while growing.

What wud U say about men/women of noble and unblemished character fall like pack of cards in the face of temptation?
And sorry bro but i totally disagree with U about Ur assertions simply because avoiding temptation aside the God factor has to do with "common sense" and not "necessarily" Ur moral standing....in my own opinion!!

stilldoingokay:
shaeeee cheneke cold weather and romantic movie, expert clap for yourself

hahahahahaha.....my dear leave all dese morality stuff....U haven't seen real temptation.... Wen U do,U will understand "why Joseph had to run away from potiphar's wife"
let me leave dis for U...."If U think U are standing, take heed lest U fall.... "
d only way to avoid temptation aside d God factor is common sense...!!
Unfortunately, common sense is no longer common!!

stilldoingokay:
thanks

but I will choose my husband very carefully,
and what am saying is that relationship doesn't worth the hipe and the pain some people go through.


I can tolerate cheating in marriage which will have a limit, but I will not in fact I shall not tolerate such in a relationship.

lol....U can tolerate cheating in a marriage setting means U didn't do Ur proper homework in knowing or choosing the right person....
and yes relationship does deserve all d hype simply because its a "platform" or foundation for a lasting married life......U don't go into a project without first planning and building a solid foundation....U can't also marry sum one with out getting to know d person well...dats where relationship comes in....I suggest U read "how to choose ur life partner by pastor bimbo odukoya"
and like I will always maintain,its ur choice and ur world...*smile*

1metre:
I still cant fathom how human nature has become so barbaric in nigeria that two mature opposite sex cant cohabit without people thinking otherwise . Op, u need to change your thinking. U attract what u are. As for me, i can stay comfortable with a lady who is not my girlfriend without noticing her romantic nature. Maturity encompass growing into adulthood.

as much as I admire ur moral credentials which is not in doubt,I must inform U dat everyone thinks differently...Even d individual,in dis case a lady, U perceive as "matured" may be secretly having a sexual desire for U.....
All it takes is just a cold weather,or a night together watching a romantic film or sum harmless play can set d fire of passion btw U two....and d rest will be consigned to d history book of temptation.... Bro the good book never lied wen it said..."flee all appearances of evil"....!!

stilldoingokay:
in relationships, if you expect the unexpected you won't be disappoint, I only know myself I don't know about others, if I fined out you're cheating and I can't take It I walk away. you shouldn't trust your partner 50% period.

So wat happens wen U get married? will dat stop an unrepentant philanderer from cheating on U...is marriage a veil that takes away all our wrong habits and character??..see I get ur point but all am trying 2 make u comprehend is dat it doesn't matter if U give 20% or 50% in a relationship, a serial cheat will still be a serial cheat even after he/she is married...and if U ain't committed in a relationship, how do U know if U will be committed wen U get married?

U can't give what U don't have!!

Its like saying U wont respect d guy U r in a relationship with,but will give him respect wen he is finally married to U...haba...I don't see any logic in dat mindset!!
well I still maintain....ur world,ur life,ur opinion!!

stilldoingokay:
in my own world that is how I do things, i don't like anything that will give headache please. humans are unpredictable, and you don't compare relationship which is like friendship with marriage.

they're two different things

U might b right however one must lead to anoda....relationship is a platform esp the one that leads to marriage.... but if we r to go ahead with ur ideology, it simply means dere will be little or zero commitment from both partners....So if dats d case,how wud one know a committed and loving partner with such mindset...?
well like U said,in ur own world,dats ur ideology and possibly Ur opinion....!!

stilldoingokay:
she is just your girlfriend not wife, you guys should stop having Headache because of women

Sorry to bud in but i slightly disagree with this abnormally about this girlfriend/wife controversy...
So because she is not married to the guy...does that now give her the licence to cheat on her boyfriend just because no ring has been put on her finger?
Then whats the point of having a relationship?
Am sorry to say this but thats a wrong mentality....
If U cant be faithful during relationship,You wont be faithful during marriage.....
Marriage is not a canopy that that makes all the wrong go away.....No wonder there are so many divorce cases in nigeria....

Is this our president? Looking so old and frail.... My dear president Ur health and your family should be top most in your agenda....Please do the needful....Its not too late....!

Whats the point remaining in the relationship...Just leave the relationship and go the "rich guy" you want or desire...hope U wont also cheat on the rich guy too?

ohh men,our president is very lean....smh

indeed

frankobaba:
USELESS NYSC

I think d blame sud be put on the state government...dere is a part of d administration dat is saddled with d responsibility of checking faulty structures.....I can assure U dat dese structures before now were marked for demolition but sum one may have been bribed to declare such building certified..

S5155:
Yes the Nigerian Man is sex Driven.it's all they live for

....my apologises ahead for d intrusion... but are women not also sex driven?

ohh my God
why are passengers always quiet wen dey are driven esp by reckless drivers.....most of dese drivers r either possessed or drunk....lets be very weary of buses or cars dat we enter....not every driver on our roads are mentally stable....

franugo:
Romance is expected in a guy-gal rxn...things like writing a poem 4 her, she writing a song 4 him, holding a door 4 her etc... sex doesn't have 2 be d culmination of romantic gestures.
gotta do devotion bro, later things

bro please try to pay a visit to a dictionary on wat "romance" means....U r defining romance based on ur own opinion or ur own idea...now as much as I have no issues wit dat,its however important dat U communicate such definition to ur partner U r having a relationship wit.....in order to avoid future conflict wit ur partner who might have a different opinion about wat romance means.....hope u get my drift?

franugo:
Sexual attraction in a rxn is a given, sexual intimacy on d other hand isn't. where we differ bro is what romance entails in a rxn.

its quite simple...just "define ur kind relationship" wit u partner...whether romance is involved or not....that's wat the OP was trying to say...

franugo:
Oga we r basically saying d same thing, where we deviate is how u view romance...i bliv u can have a romantic rxn without sex, just like u can have a sexual rxn without much romance

Romance is the expressive and pleasurable feeling from an emotional attraction towards another person. This feeling is often associated with sexual attraction. It is eros rather than agape, philia, or storge.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romance_(love)

I think most of those commenting against Op's post are seriously having comprehension issues......
There are clearly "different kinds of relationships"...
Before U enter any,ensure that U have "defined" that Relationship to avoid having difficulties with Ur partner in the future....
"Romantic" relationships involves s.ex....If U dont want s.ex during a relationship,then dont go into a romantic relationship..
....from the start,make it clear to Ur partner about the kind of relationship U want.....
If Ur partner agrees,Fine...
If not,then go Ur separate ways..
..Be in a relationship with someone who shares Ur moral or spiritual values...finito!!

Ifedith:
I don't know why you're taking this simple topic and making it complicated. Jesus says, if your left hand will cause you to sin,cut it off, simple solution. This guy just gave a simple solution to girls who don't want sex but want to be in a romantic relationship, the solution was simple,stay away till you're ready to have sex, if you can't stand the heat, stay away from the kitchen. Simple! Why are you making it difficult?

Exactly...and i think the OP is actually talking about compatibility here....If U want to have sex when U are married,then seek for such Ur kind of person in Ur life....Its wrong to go asking for a romantic relationship as if the person doesn't understand what it entails....

Just had to go through the OP's post for the second time(Just to be sure) and the comments,esp from the first page,that i'm reading are totally different from what the OP is talking about....Is it that most of those who rushed to comment didnt understand the write up?

little by little,Christians and pastors are getting liberated and speaking out....lol...

first it was givers embassy,now this pastor.... soon the scales dat blinded gullible Christians will fall off....that's wen U will know who they truly believe in..their charismatic pastor or God!!

A time will come when no pastor will either preach about tithe or seed sowing...cos how wud U tell a wealthy man that he will have "landed properties" that he has in abundance....

Don't get me wrong...am a firm believer in giving generously to a cause and to the needy...please study slowly (Matthew 25:34-45)

meanwhile...neymar's face after the el classico full time scores

Just looking at the pics esp the one where a guy takes a water bottle made of a P disgusts me....
I think as christians,we must speak against such shameful acts...
Why would a guy start having se*ual feelings for another guy? Come on,thats Unnatural
Or a lady having "wet dreams" about another lady? Thats so terrible and abnormal
Even if one isn't a christian,there are some despicable and irritating acts that should not be tolerated.....
However,i do have some slight reservations about the law on homosexuals esp the part where they are imprisoned for 14 years....

Now i know the act must be condemned but not the person....
The ideal thing to do is to offer them corrective therapy and not banish them to a prison filled with perverts...
I believe that homosexuals need psychological therapy(rather than 14 years in prison) because most of them have either been brain washed or left to think homosexuality was from birth(which is blatant lie)

if dere is any consolation, Chelsea is losing 3-0 to a club dat has sold deir top striker....

kai after today, all d bet companies will be smiling to the bank..
lol...

haba all dese emotional noise because Liverpool drew....wat wud have happened had dey lost....Chelsea r rite now losing 2-0 to lowly burnley,arsenal almost go thrashed against Leicester,and crystal palace is losing 2-0 to d new prem boys HUD
d transfer request by coutinho really got d beta of d team considering how influential he is to d team and d timing of d news....every one has a right to be disappointed but not to start bashing d team after every disappointing game...imagine sum one her calling Henderson an over rated bloke....forgetting dat his absence was d reason why Liverpool lost to Chelsea during dat year wen we were about to clinch d prem league....please my Liverpool fans take a chill pill.....YNWA

funmyade:
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tecno phantom 6 plus specs: Ram:4g ram;internal storage 128gb;processor decacore 3.1ghz

Samuel1106:
For me tithing is beyond Christianity. Because Christianity started after the death of Jesus Christ. Meanwhile, Christ in Matthew 5:17-20, said He didn't come to abolish the law. In Luke18:12 (Matthew 23:23) made reference to payment of tithes. In Hebrew 7:1-28, we also have a clear understanding about tithing. So I think tithing is an injunction from God which must be practiced.

If you had read hebrews 7:1-28,U would have come across this scripture...

18 The former regulation is set aside because it was weak and useless 19 (for the law made nothing perfect), and a better hope is introduced, by which we draw near to God.

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secondly,Matthew 5:17 "emphasizes" on Jesus "fulfilling" the law of Moses...in other words "accomplishing the purpose of the law" of Moses
That scripture is made clearer when U study Galatians 3:21-25 and Romans 13:8-10