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 Romance › Re: The Girl I Nearly Committed Suicide Because Of Now Wants Me Back.(advice) by openmine(m): 4:51pm On Jul 06, 2017 |
itsmeurLady:lol...was only correcting U...advise no b curse...  |
| Romance › Re: The Girl I Nearly Committed Suicide Because Of Now Wants Me Back.(advice) by openmine(m): 12:50am On Jul 06, 2017 |
itsmeurLady:With all due respect to ur misguided comments,does ur assertions also include your father and brothers? Please stick to the topic and stop the generalization!!! |
| Romance › Re: My Fiancée And A Man Are Living Together, She Said It's Nothing! by openmine(m): 6:53am On Jul 03, 2017 |
lilyheaven:My dear you are treading a dangerous path....the bible said flee all "appearances" of evil.....My point is if you know the advances of those guys you are staying with esp "the one where he passes near you with an erected P",then you must start making swift arrangements for another apartment rather than trying to form macho.... The truth is that no matter how "strong willed" you can be....there are appearances of temptations or seductions we must avoid rather than wait for it to show up on your face....U really havent seen real seduction show up on ur face....You will be surprised about how fragile ur mind might be..cos when the deed takes place,you bf will change his initial tag 4 U..Avoid such scenario before like ebola before it consumes you like wild fire....#myopinionsha 1 Like |
| Christianity Etc › Re: Is Catholics Praying To Dead Saints Biblical? by openmine(m): 5:35pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
@OP, True.... |
| Romance › Re: Breakup After Being In A Relationship For 4 Years by openmine(m): 12:25am On Jun 27, 2017 |
Sorry about that bro.....stay strong... I guess this relationship was ur first and it was kind of painful considering the amount of time and effort put into it for 4 years only to see it slip away from ur grasp without any for of preparation.... There is one rule i have learnt......."get ready or prepared to lose your relationship no matter the duration" No relationship is full proof...so for now focus ur direction on productive venture that will distract U.... Thinking about her will only make U do sum tin stupid and silly...stay strong!! |
| Romance › Re: A Non Communicative Relationship: What Do You Advise? by openmine(m): 8:48pm On Jun 24, 2017 |
1. Talk slowly Typically, good talkers don’t rush into a conversation. They take their time when they reflect on something and when they say it out loud. They act as if they have all the time in the world. This makes them come off as centered and collected. Model this way of talking and you will create the same effect. 2. Hold more eye contact Most people keep eye contact about 2/3 of the time or less when they talk. In my experience, it’s a very good idea to hold eye contact just a bit more than that. This will convey confidence and interest in interacting with them. 3. Notice the details People with good conversation skills tend to notice the kind of things that the average person doesn’t notice, and to bring such details into the conversation. They may notice and point out an interesting ring on the other person’s hand, a certain foreign accent, or a certain voice tone they use when saying a name. Thus, such individuals impress people in a very elegant manner. 4. Give unique compliments Anybody can pay a generic compliment to try and get another person’s appreciation. Charismatic people on the other hand are able to really pay attention to others, to look beyond the facade and thus, pay unique compliments. Do the same and besides wooing others, you may even help them find out things about themselves they didn’t know. 5. Express your emotions It’s very rare to meet a person who is comfortable talking about their emotions and how certain things make them feel, especially with strangers. Yet this way of talking is a real virtue. Don’t just present the facts, you’re not a newspaper. Express your feelings about those facts. Keep in mind that it is at the emotional level that people connect best. 6. Offer interesting insights Anybody can talk about the news or express basic opinions. But good talkers can frequently tell you things you didn’t know and that you’ll find fascinating. This is why it’s good to have knowledge into fields such as psychology or sociology, and bring such knowledge out at the right moments in a conversation. 7. Use the best words The ability to talk smoothly has a lot to do with choosing the precise words to convey your precise feelings or thoughts. Constantly develop your vocabulary and practice communicating as accurately as possible. It will help you develop a way with words and allow you to express yourself more easily. 3 Likes |
| Romance › Re: Man and Woman are different.. Nothing like Gender Equality by openmine(m): 12:47am On Jun 23, 2017 |
kyaagbanairaland:True...i concur |
| Politics › Re: Zakzaky Is In A House We Built For Him, He’s Not In Detention – Lai Mohammed by openmine(m): 9:12pm On Jun 16, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste: 2 Likes
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| Sports › Re: Kelechi Nwakali And His Girlfriend, Francis Jacquelyn (Photos) by openmine(m): 10:50pm On Jun 14, 2017 |
whats up with african celebs and dese funny razz hairdo once they hit the limelight....  |
| Crime › Re: Two Men Fight, Complain To Police Over Refusal To Pay After Anal Sex by openmine(m): 7:42pm On Jun 14, 2017 |
IgboticGirl:Sorry to disappoint ur obviously tribal comments but such disgraceful and debased acts has absolutely nothing to do with a particular tribe or race...Please take note....and for the records,am not from yoruba!! 1 Like |
| Christianity Etc › Re: The Meaninglessness Of "I Have A Deep Personal Relationship With Jesus Christ" by openmine(m): 6:34pm On Jun 10, 2017 |
| Romance › Re: Create Your Own Luck by openmine(op): 9:27pm On Jun 07, 2017 |
| Romance › Re: Create Your Own Luck by openmine(op): 9:25pm On Jun 07, 2017 |
Would you call Chika lucky, nope, it’s not luck, it’s not even connection as it were. Chika earned this employment by creating her own luck, how? Locating her-self where it mattered and working in a manner that would attract favor and assistance. I didn’t know Chika from Adam, we are not related, not even the same state or tribe, I don’t know her family, background or history. In fact she’s a total stranger to me. But I couldn’t help but recommend her on the account of her attitude to work, customer service and mindset. I need not know such a person to assist with anything. If she was at home, watching TV, sleeping and generally relaxing she would never have met me. If she had pride and felt it was belittling to work as a waitress in such a public place she wouldn’t have met me, If she had a poor attitude to work, grumpy, irritable and nasty to customers she wouldn’t have caught my attention. If that fateful evening she had insisted she had closed and decided to go without going the extra mile to get me something to eat we would never have conversed and I wouldn’t have recommended her. She didn’t even know who I was and she didn’t go the extra mile ‘because she wanted my help, it was just her way of doing things to and with every customer. Chika created her luck. She has a good job today and an exciting career in an industry she loves and she’s very well paid. Today her friends and family members are proud of her and want to associate with her. She’s no longer an embarrassment to them. All those so called friends can’t stop calling her and asking her to help them submit their CVs in her new organization. Hmmm, life is like that. My dear friend I challenge you this morning to create your own luck, stop waiting for your breakthrough, break it through by yourself, make it happen! Deal with this pride and arrogance and unnecessary air of superiority. Rise above the opinions of men and stop thinking more highly of yourself than you ought to. Stop watching TV and sleeping all day long, get up and go out; go get something to do. I can’t understand how a none-income earner would say a particular amount is too small. There is more to gain from being employed than cash reward. Create your own luck. And if you’re working in a place where you’re constantly under pressure and you’re not particularly happy, the worst harm you can do to yourself is to take it out on your clients and customers. If you’re grumpy, rude, unfriendly and nasty, you could as well be pushing away your favour, helper and good luck. Being lucky is not an act of nature, dear friend, create your own luck.  |
| Romance › Re: Create Your Own Luck by openmine(op): 9:24pm On Jun 07, 2017 |
According to her, she couldn’t just sit at home, eating drinking and sleeping without doing anything; she couldn’t afford to be idle; she’s not wired like that. When she began to work at the eatery her parents were not happy with her, they felt it was embarrassing, given their status and the fact that they could cater for her needs until a good job came along, but she ignored and pleaded they allow her get busy pending that employment she really deserved and they eventually agreed. Her close friends didn’t make it easy for her as well, they criticized her and mocked her wondering why as a graduate of economics with a second class upper she would opt to be a waitress in such a public place, where everyone would see her and treat her anyhow, besides her parents are well to do so why yield to unnecessary ridicule? Chika concluded her story still with a smile on her face. I was very surprised, I was impressed, I looked at this beautiful, young girl talk; not believing my ears. What I’m used to are people her age criticize the government, their parents, an uncle or relative who’s refused to help them get a good job. They’ll rather sit at home, watch TV, lounge, waste their lives on social media and make excuses for their unemployment. They have a defective believe that they have paid their dues just by becoming graduates and it’s time to ‘enjoy’ I asked for her details and requested she sent her CV to my mailbox and promised ill assist her with a better employment. She called me a few months later and was excited to tell me she’s gotten her letter of employment from one of the leading telecoms companies where I recommended her. She was very happy, excited and very grateful. Her monthly pay package is much more than what she’s ever dreamt of as a starter, and today she’s proud to flaunt her ID card as a staff of one of the biggest and most successful telecoms company in the world. She made it. |
| Romance › Create Your Own Luck by openmine(op): 9:24pm On Jun 07, 2017 |
It wasn’t the first time she was attending to me; I’ve experienced her quality of customer service several times – warm, friendly and hardworking. Every customer likes her; they all want her to attend to them, she appears to love what she does and she does it with passion and diligence. Chika worked with one of the many eateries in Ikeja GRA in Lagos. She was a waitress, taking orders from customers and serving their meals. In spite of the pressure that comes with such responsibilities at times, Chika would always remain cool and calm with a smile on her face, taking in the pressure and addressing complaints from different customers. I’ve always been impressed by her attitude to work – the way she would apologize to both young and old even fellow ladies her age or even younger. No nasty attitude no airs, just doing her job and doing it well. That evening i needed a quick meal, I hadn’t eaten all day and I was really hungry, I was there a bit late and most of the shops were shutting down, most meals were sold out and nothing really much was left. I was lucky to meet Chika who was already preparing to go home too, I asked her to please get me something to eat and with a smile she went into the kitchen to see how she could sort me out. In about 5 minutes she was back with a hot meal, still smiling she placed it on the table with a cold bottle of water. I could see she was really tired from all the hard-work from day-break but all the same she was willing to wait for me till I was done. I was impressed. We began to chat as I had my meal and she told me this much. Chika is a graduate of Economics from one of the leading, first generation Universities in Nigeria. She graduated with a 2.1 about 2 years ago and upon completion of her service year, she resolved not to just sit at home and wait for her dream job. While applying for employment in various preferred organizations, she took up this job as a waitress at one of the eateries in Ikeja. |
| Romance › Re: To The Men - Get A Spine by openmine(op): 6:06pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
Papiikush:True... |
| Romance › Re: To The Men - Get A Spine by openmine(op): 6:02pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
Papiikush:Try to bro....U wont regret it!! |
| Romance › Re: To The Men - Get A Spine by openmine(op): 6:01pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
Stop boasting about how industrious and independent your wife is as with time you’d be surprised her independence will become annihilation; she’d just assume you don’t exist anymore or pretend you’re dead in her mind just to maintain her sanity and not out of frustration kill you one day. Be a man, be a man, it’s beyond muscles and six packs, beard gang and designer clothes, it’s about your inner strength, hard work, integrity, honesty, trustworthiness, intelligence, superiority in reasoning, solution mindedness, productivity and the capacity to pay bills. No dinner or vacation or even marriage is romantic for any woman if she’s always footing the bills. Don’t be deceived by this gender equality campaign – I promise you the noise is just out there, your wife is just thinking it when relating with you, in dealing with you, she expects you to be in charge; its human nature, we can only pretend, nothing can change that.. My dear man, get back into that ring of life and fight the fight of your life. Your wife is worth it, your children deserve it, be brave; be bold; be courageous. Don’t be a wimpy man, be a real man. http://www.muyiwaafolabi.com/today-frankly-speaking-get-spine/ 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: To The Men - Get A Spine by openmine(op): 6:00pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
The implication on our society is that the male kids raised in this abnormal homes will naturally assume their wives in future should also be like their super mums. These male kids when they mature and get married will expect their wives to be like their powerful mothers – doing everything, providing everything. If unfortunately, they end up with women who are from normal homes there would likely be compatibility crisis. Also the female kids raised in this abnormal homes will also struggle to support, collaborate and sometimes submit to their own husbands in future; they can’t see power, responsibility and authority in their fathers and their husbands trying to wield it will appear unusual to the innocent girls. These kids have been raised wrong and their spouses will suffer for it because their fathers failed to be real men. My dear friend, are you a man; I mean a real man. Come on, it is time to fight. It doesn’t matter how hard life has been and how many times your back has kissed the canvas in this terrible fight of life, believe me you just can’t give up. You must get up each time you fall and keep fighting. You can’t afford to give up or throw in the towel, it is unmanly to give up in a battle, brave men don’t give up; they die fighting. How can you call yourself a real man and right under your nose watch your wife and kids suffer so much and you just throw up your hands In despair and not be challenged and motivated to do something smart about it? How can you keep coming up with excuses and blames for your reluctance to be brave and courageous and persistent? Why would you keep using religion and so called destiny design to excuse the pain and heartbreak of your own family day after day as they struggle through life – doing for themselves what you ought to be doing for them? It doesn’t matter how tall dark and fine you think you are, without a spine, you can’t count yourself a real man. Come on now get a spine and get back into that ring and fight for your life. Encourage, inspire and motivate yourself to do the needful. God gave you that family as a blessing and for a reason and you must be responsible as you’ll definitely give an account. |
| Romance › Re: To The Men - Get A Spine by openmine(op): 5:57pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
Frankly speaking, things can be very tough and rough and scary at times for men. Life can be mean and tough and merciless. It’s a tough job being a real man in today’s Nigeria I tell you. Everything within and without appears to be positioned to frustrate your effort, attempts and hard work as a man. Most men have dreams – yes we do and really wish the dreams will come true. It’s a thing of pride for any man to sufficiently provide for his household. It’s an honor for a man to generously carter for his parents, his in-laws and relatives. It is gratifying to, at all times, have answers to financial questions and demands, It’s a thing of pride for us as men to have what it takes to protect, provide and promote our wives and kids. To have a happy wife, to have happy children, to have a happy comfortable home, to have your parents rejoice over you and to earn the admiration of friends, associates, the community and even strangers because you have what it takes to confidently answer the name of your gender, is the height of satisfaction for any man. But many men are trying and failing, they are giving their best but not meeting up, they are working hard but still can’t deliver, they are sweating profusely but still can’t make ends meet. Consequently many of them are afraid and insecure, and worried, and temperamental and sensitive and erratic because they feel very much less than what their gender represents. They think they’re failing and what everyman hates is the thought of losing. Men hate to lose. The fears, the discouragement, the tension, the insecurity, the worries, anxiety and cluelessness are all bottled within but as a man it is embarrassing to show it. The people that depend on you and look up to you must not know this, you’re afraid what it could do to their confidence, hope and belief in your leadership. This is what the society says, this is what the society expects; unfortunately. For some other men, they’ve had enough and they do not care anymore. They’ve given up on manliness and have jettisoned their responsibilities. Their women have inevitably taken on the role of leadership in the home and in their lives. She provides, protects and decides especially on financial matters. She pays the bills, protects the home and solves every major problem. All the man does is serve her the notice of a fresh problem, challenge or need and she responds. Some of these women don’t mind or have stopped worrying about this unusual situation. They’ve bought into the “miss independent” syndrome and they’re acting outside of their natural self and selling the “independent” orientation strongly to themselves that it really doesn’t matter. These women are in actual fact the real head of the home and the man is just there to help authenticate their marital status. These women married to these men with lesser strength perhaps live in denial of their everyday frustrations. |
| Romance › To The Men - Get A Spine by openmine(op): 5:57pm On Jun 06, 2017 |
For any society seriously interested in real growth, development and advancement, the men in the land must be courageous, bold, daring and sacrificing in nature. Men, by nature are leaders in the home and the society. The male gender are divinely appointed and empowered to take the lead in life. The men are the providers for their homes, the men are the defenders of their home, the men are the defenders of their wives and children, the men are the defenders of their communities, the men are the defenders of their lands and properties, the men are the defenders of the sovereignty of their nation, men are expected to go to war against any enemy threatening the wellbeing, safety and security of their land and people and in fact die if need be for their wives, children and land to survive and thrive. Great men are brave men, great men put their lives on the line for their women and their children, real men die in order for their offspring to thrive. This is not just peculiar to the human race, this naturally applies even to animals – the lion is the king of his pride. I really would want to encourage and challenge our men as a continuous decline in their roles and responsibilities are becoming glaring hence, bringing about a lot of dysfunctionality, and reprobate thinking within our basic and fundamental human society. Men, failing to uphold their roles and responsibilities in our society has given rise to all manner of destructive thinking, ideologies and activates frustrating the wellbeing and prosperity of the home and society at large. This functionality failure has unfortunately contributed to the bizarre mindset and behaviors amongst the mothers and fathers and leaders of tomorrow. The moral standards and core values that build and sustain progressive societies are being eroded simply because men are reclining and rejecting their God bestowed roles and responsibilities towards the female counterpart, their offspring and the society at large. Our society is mostly in trouble because of the declining number and significance of real men in the house, we’re in high shortage of real men in the land. |
| Celebrities › Re: 50 Cent Hails Roman Goddess Backside On Instagram (Photos) by openmine(m): 10:36am On Jun 05, 2017 |
so? Is that all what she wants to be known for? a big butty? smh  1 Like |
| Family › Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by openmine(m): 3:19pm On Jun 04, 2017*. Modified: 4:14pm On Jun 04, 2017 |
istoctober:It will be better he hears it from you rather than hearing it from some one else..he wont forgive U if U dont tell him urself....believe me it will be worse than you initially imagined! Please tell him and free ur mind!! 1 Like |
| Family › Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by openmine(m): 3:13pm On Jun 04, 2017 |
Young03:Wrong move....what if the person she slept with decides to blackmail her by telling her hubby.....let her tell the hubby and face the consequences(good or bad)....its far better than living a horrible life of guilt and depression! 1 Like |
| Forum Games › Re: For Geniuses Only by openmine(m): 10:12pm On Jun 02, 2017 |
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| Politics › Re: APC, Fashola Deny Promising 20,000MW Within Five Years by openmine(m): 11:37am On Jun 01, 2017 |
busted 2 Likes |
| Sports › Re: "Zlatan Ibrahimovic Can Have Sex With My Wife" - Manchester United Fan by openmine(m): 10:38am On May 25, 2017 |
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| Christianity Etc › Re: Any Church Where The Preacher Is Important Than Jesus Is A Cult – Gbile Akanni by openmine(m): 7:46pm On May 24, 2017 |
Seconded...not only a cult but a huge scam!! |
| Politics › Re: Obasanjo, IBB, Danjuma, Others Running Nigeria With Buhari - Pat Utomi by openmine(m): 6:50pm On May 24, 2017 |
KidsNEXTdoor:  1 Like
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| Politics › Re: "Buhari Will Win Presidential Election Again" - Garba Shehu by openmine(m): 5:28pm On May 23, 2017 |
when politicians from developed countries label their citizens,they insert words like "great","unique",or "brave"...but here,the tag is so demeaning....how wud sum one in such an exalted position label Nigerians as "ordinary" ?? 1 Like |
| Celebrities › Re: Sir Roger Moore Is Dead, "James Bond" Actor Dies At 89 by openmine(m): 4:40pm On May 23, 2017 |
hmmm....was watching one of his James bond movies moonracker last week....aside Sean Connery,roger Moore happens 2 b one of my best James bond star....slick,confident,intelligent but ohh men,Moore over like ladies....and dat has always been his weakness...Lol...RIP oga Rogers! |
| Nairaland General › Re: Generator Fumes Kills 3 In Benin, Edo State (Photos) by openmine(m): 2:11am On May 23, 2017*. Modified: 9:25am On May 23, 2017 |
DollarAngel:U r right...however ignorance is no excuse....Its even written boldly on d generator that its only for outdoor purpose.... 1 Like |
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