A lot of men do not understand what it means to be head of a house. They think head is rulership just as Buhari thinks. They do not understand that headship is service.

As a husband God has called to you to serve that is why there is so much issues and misunderstanding in marriages. Why keep malice when your wife offends you instead of communicating with her things she says that upsets you and how you'll prefer she communicates her frustrations.

Calling people names when upset is absolutely a no no. We need to learn how to communicate effectively and keep our pride at the door when it comes to relationship.

All the problems here has do with poor communication and ego on both parts.

You both need to seek wisdom on how to solve your problems. This is not worth a divorce as the second partner won't be any better if you both do not fix yourself.

It's just like Buhari changing from APC to PDP. Same person. He won't do anything differently.

@Elenali please is it same process for sweet potato chips?

frozen70:


Just travel with her yo her family and hand her over to her parents

Go and have some rest, after that, request for your bride price and move on, even if they refuse to return it, just move on

They will return it

In marriage some issues like this are easy fix. Not everything should end in divorce.

igwebest23:


My brother I know my wife is my responsibility. But d issue now is that she is making money. She has like 250k saving In her account. Her shop rent is just 90k. And she wants me to pay it. D money she is making, is it ordinary paper. The issue is that ladies of this generation is different from our mum. I live in well furnished two bedroom apartment, paid by me. People are passing my wife shop seeing d level of customer going in and out, d think she is contributing to d family. Is better I marry a girl that is not doing anything that will be submissive to me. I noticed d little money she is making is entering her head.

This "ladies of this generation are not like our mothers" is becoming tiring.

Why are you hiding your salary from someone you are supposed to be building with?

What's with that? I tell my friends my salary why not my spouse that's my teammate so that we can plan accordingly.

Now you are getting upset when you already laid a foundation of secrecy, mistrust and alpha male attitude.

Sit her down, tell her how much you earn have a joint account if possible. Share your responsibilities.
Don't understand how people in marriage keep saying my money her money. It should be our money.

koolaid87:
You suppose stay Russia bro.

You could have pimped the Babe out to the rich dude and make money from scamming his ass. (Yes, i said scam)

Now, you're back in naija and still broke cos that naija B1tch wouldn't have left you if you were rich.

So you need advise on how to forget her? I hope say no be family money dem take send you go Russia.

You need street knowledge

There's nothing like love. Life is politics (everybody looking for their best interests)

He doesn't have the visa to stay back.

He's missing her because he's broke.

namiji2598:
Good morning nairaland
Good morning Nigeria


Sometimes when I look back at my self, I was a good student, the best in my department, but after graduation I have learnt that book life is different from street life....
I have been depressed in the past, but i motivate myself and move on.
I have been teaching in one private school like that for two years now hoping job go come yet nothing nothing


Are there people wearing this same shoe of mine? If yes how are u coping

Don't give up dear.

I know a friend that saw himself through school doing menial jobs, graduated with a first class couldn't find a good job but he kept applying for scholarship abroad.

He's studying here now in Australia and the school paid for everything even pocket money.

There are lots of scholarship opportunities abroad look into it.

EdoAirline:


Eye service people.....ummphhhh...

there's a reason why she was rude to you or another person...

perhaps you went to her dm asking for urgent 2k.....

or perhaps you told her you're her biggest fan....and went you got nothing in return...you came here to rant....

Nigerians...abi no be una again...we can stir up drama for africa....

just know that no smoke without fire

I don't know her personally but watched her during celebrity Gulder ultimate search.

Her attitude was nothing to write home about on that show.
She was so hateful and spiteful. Never minding her business and always jealous of mumagee that didn't care about her.

Hopefully she has matured now as it was a long time ago.

Petyprincess:
So i got a call from chef, he asked if i love everything about this resort/hotel and if there's anything i will want them to improve. I told him nothing because everything about this hotel is awesome except I'm not familiar with the foods which he asked which food do i like so he can prepare it for me specially, I told him i love their fried rice and jollof rice, he said he will send me fried rice for free with my normal dinner tonight.

Please i feel like a princess now, people here can pamper you ehh

Please ask them to improve on their food plating to make it more attractive.

Feminism is the beginning of the end of marriages.

Men and women are not same and can never be.

In God's design of marriage, a woman is under a man so when she steps out she has her husband to answer to. A man is not under a woman but under God so he has to answer to God when he misbehaves.

Because men cheat doesn't mean women should.

A man cheating is not justified but a woman cheating is an abomination.
Young ladies don't let SM fool you. In the days of old a woman is killed for cheating.

It is an abomination for a woman to step out of her marriage. Stop teaching young ladies rubbish in the name of equality with men we are not same with men and can never be.

If only we read our bibles and not let people who we are not sure of their spirits guide us into damnation.

Broken2020:


Oga if you read my posts and comments again without loud music I guess you will have a bette understanding.

I even acknowledged my mistakes, the issue of visa is neither her fault nor mine

I don't have to read it to hear from her.

What has the money for upkeep and rent you pay got to do with her actually deciding she's had enough of your threat to leave her and has realized she may be better off without you afterall got to do with anything.

You want the little boys here to bash her and ask you to leave her or the ladies to think you are such a good catch because of how much you claim you spend on your family?

Broken2020:


My brother as I type now am crying, I don’t know what this girl want but from all indications she must have been introduced to someone else because this kind of character is what I have never seen with her.

Why don't we hear from her.

You've painted yourself like an angel.

Someone that has visted you once why would they deny her visa a second time?

You always threaten her with breakups and also body shame her. Seems like a toxic relationship to me.

Sheezybobby:
Hello Palz,
A.M, Am a little bit confused, i graduated at a tender age of 19 years, Currently Serving at 20years of age. But My wish all this while is to travel to Abroad to Further/Relocate, but my parents want me to take a Nigeria Immigration Job, But am a Confused,

I want you to advise me friends, Cause am so confused, Also what is the Salary scale. (Immigration) for a B.sc graduate,
I will appreciate your opinion, Palz

I'll advise you as I'd do my younger brother.

Get the hell away from Nigeria and watch your life reach it's full potential.

amliftedhigher:
People like the op will be envious of immigration controllers but alas he doesn't want to work towards that rank. I bet you no Nigerian will go to the USA or Canada if you give them job as an immigration controller

You need to dream bigger than your current situation.

That role may not earn up to 200k monthly.

I earned far more than that but still migrated. Some of my friends here were earning between 1m and 1.5M monthly in Nigeria and still migrated.

Was it worth it damn yes.

Open your mind. The world has a lot to offer. Don't limit yourself. You can be as big as your dreams why not dream very big?? And it's free to dream

anochuko01:

you probably dont have a family to feed, so you can afford to stay hours inside holdup...

I do have family to feed darling. But you need to realise you are being shortchanged. Unfortunately I have more respect in another man's country than in mine.

You deserve more dear. Don't accept mediocrity.

anochuko01:
This is idleness sha. Schools aren't in session, hence the much time.

What else do y'all want?
Na when them mobilize soldier una go know say police gentle sha

Sometimes it's best to keep quiet and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and confirm it.

Not sure I'll be coming home in the next 5years.

Useless country.

Mizflo I sent you a PM.

Please don't give up your daughter.

You can't trust people these days with all the paedophilia going on. Where in Asaba are you?
I don't live in Asaba anymore but have friends that do and will like them to comfirm your story then i can offer to help.

Angelanest:
Entanglement indeed...lol. Some people said Nigerian girls are sex starved abroad but e be like say na scam. Nice video by the way.

People love to project themselves on others. By saying Nigerian girls are sex starved.

Women are approached all the time. The question is are the guys worth your time and are they looking for same thing you are looking for.

Meeting men that are not worth your time happens at home too not just abroad.

And she's very correct as long as you are approachable you'll always be approached.

I smile and say hello to all Africans male or female. The guys smile back and respond but some ladies find it difficult to return the hello coming from a lady like them.
imagine it's a man

daddytime:
Lol...



How many man wan remember?

If I nack una tory of my experiences as a hawker ehn?

That river killed someone i know while growing up. And it's this type of of play with friends that took him there and he drowned.

bellong:


What is your spouse's qualification and experience?

Welldone Bellong.

I honestly don't know how you do this.

I benefited from your knowledge 2years ago and here you are still doing this when most of us have forgotten this thread and barely make out time to give back.

May God continue to bless you for all you do. It's just so amazing.

XhosaNostra:
I'd say you're a narcissist, but you're self aware. People like you usually have deep-seated abandonment issues or suffer from fear of rejection. You only skim the surface when it comes to emotions, so noone can get close enough to inflict any sort of pain. Get them before they get you type of thing. Underneath the seemingly uncaring facade, there's actually an extremely sensitive person that's scared to death of getting hurt, so they put up all these defences to protect their mushy core. Something like a human crustacean One person will manage to break down your walls though, mark my words. But it'll only take one person. It won't be easy sailing. There'll be a lot of vacillation between enmeshment & suffocation on your part. Good luck to the poor girl

No one breaks narcissist.

He may have some narcissistic tendency but I think he has more issues than that.

Narcissist are rarely self aware.
They love to be in a relationship as they can't be alone hence they more than one relationship at a time becaus they need backup and can't be alone as someone has to massage their ego.

They are serial cheats. They don't have sex and leave. They only discard when they've seen a new supply.

This guy has more issues than narcissist do.

May God spare women from devil's like these people.

UnclePrincipal:
I'm following this thread. I think i possess some of these personality traits op has.

It's called narcissistic disorder.

That's why we have lots of marriages and relationships with problems.

A good percentage of men are narcissist.

3Ceagle:
Nairaland is becoming a huge joke and it was not like this at the begining. The failure of Seun in checkmating the excesses of some persons has turned the platform to a medium for breeding hatred. I wouldn't say this is intentional but allowing all sort of comments to pass through reading on this platform tend to raise suspicion. This is how Rwanda crisis started, except we have all agreed to pull the country down and rebuilt it from the dust of carnages.

I never knew such hatred existed until I joined this forum.

crackhouse:
The woman must be a retired harlot.

It's easy for you to say such a thing to her because you don't know what it feels like to watch your kids starve.

If men had an idea they won't be impregnating women when they can't provide.

I hope you don't add to this societal menace.

Get older and come and modify this comment.

Akpaamunsi:


Oga. Na Australia the ugliest and most rejected Nigerian girls full o.

You call people all these I'll like to see your pics.

People always see a reflection of themselves in other people.

gargoylern:

A couple of reasons. They don't know how to approach, since they have never approached a man all their life. Na una Naija guys dey rush them na, lol.
Two, the white guys don't really find them attractive. Some asian men do though. Some Nigerian men also do. But because most Nigerian guys are not stable (i..e they are still working survival jobs), they are not ready to marry.
Trust me , these Nigerian girls are in serious dilemma.

Again, if you are a Nigerian girl thinking of immigrating to Canada. Think twice about it. Be sure that's what you really want.

You noticed all this but didn't notice at middle age a high percentage of men that married foreign ladies get divorced and start looking for African women that will retire with them.

Buhari that's infected with the virus.

And has sneaked out with Abba Kyari for treatment outside the country.

dwizzed:
Is there any case of a child infected by the virus or is it just for adults?

From previous cases, adults are mostly infected.

In Wuhan only 1% of cases where children under 9yrs.

And they all recorded zero mortality rate.

The fear is them infecting older people.

obakovich:

God bless u

God will continue to bless him until something bad happens to you and your wife has to marry someone else that treats your kids as less than humans.

Vyvyanvyvy:

He will be 12 years in August , my daughter is 6 years, I have one daughter for my husband she is 2 years and I’m pregnant with another one. Their father is not in Nigeria and I don’t have his contact or his siblings. Yes I have a grocery shop I foot 70% bills in my house

A man that's comfortable to see my own child being unhappy is not for me.

Personally I would have left him because no one comes between I and my kids.

Or worse still bring my child home without his consent and let heaven fall after all you are contributing 70% to the running of the home.

Best still take him to a boarding school. He'll be happier there.

Triggerdaclub:
PLS PEOPLE I'M WRITING FOR GENUINE ADVISE.
I'm a medical doctor 30 years of age. Had my MBBS degree 2015 from Russia, I've completed my internship and Nysc and have 1 year post Nysc work experience.
Now I want to relocate to Australia to do Masters, so what I'd like to ask is;
1) what's d best career path for me? Cos I'm aware becoming an Australia licensed doctor is quite difficult.
2) Which Masters program should I do in a medical related field which is in high demand so when I'm thru I can easily get a job?
3) If I opt for Masters in nursing would I be eligible to be registered into the Australia nursing council after completion of the program cos I know nurses are highly sorted after in Australia.
4) Which part of Australia would I have THE MOST job opportunities in the health sector.

NB: I thought of applying for PR but one of the criterias for Doctors is to pass the AMC exam which is time consuming.

PLS HELP A CONFUSED MIND.

Hoping to hear you guys response soonest.

Thanks Dr Collins.

You can study masters in Nursing in a regional university so that you can apply for PR with Nursing.

You'll always find a job in Australia.

When you get the PR you can write your medical examination to practice as a doctor