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Jmichael1:
Good day my fellow nairalanders.
please i'm not good in writting,abeg make una pardon me.i just want to go straight to the point..
i'm michael,the first child of my parents(all boys)as a 1st son,i took 90% of my dad character of wish i don't like 70% of them but i can't stop acting like him,i behave exactly like him in almost every tin
I have tried all i could to stop bt no way...
Please want do u guys suggest for me to do?
i don't want to live the kind of life my dad lived.
please i need your advice...

God can replace your natural traits with supernatural traits. All the best.

When working for someone, maintaining professionalism is important. Do a letter, giving one month's notice, that you will be moving on with other career options. Thank her profusely and put full stop.

That letter/email will be binding incase she denies that you didn't tell her or that
She won't pay you your last pay.

Keep things professional

Open you mouth loud enough to be heard and tell your cousin to pls find somewhere to live.

It's very simple.

theForth:
It is always easy for women to remember that love is patient in cases like this but when a man is incapacitated to provide for his family, even for a short while, you guys seem not to remeber this.

For me, I don't carry anybody's weight, I don't fix things, I simply move. I won't feel bad if my wife leaves when I am broke for I know that's how women are wired, but I don't expect anyone to be pissed off when I leave a wife that can't bear me a child.

I am not patient.

God in heaven bears me witness as I say this, lack of money can NEVER Make me leave a man I am married or engaged to.

Same way my kind is rare, same is the kind of man that will wait no matter what rare. And I pray to God in heaven, may the rare meet the rare.

All the best in your impatience.

One thing I will tell you is this, do not ever undervalue peace. Some men traded a peaceful childless woman for a woman full of troubles and many children.

Don't forget it's the woman that will raise the children, a troublesome woman will raise children in defiance to their father.
Utter frustration on the man's part.

You may say you will take your chances, to that I say all the best.

Udo.

This is what happens when a child of God prays, indignation in the camp of the enemies

Love is patient

If you are not getting younger, you can is she getting younger?

Selfless loyalty.

It is when things don't go as planned one will know who is really on their side.

Stop thinking I, I, I, start thinking we, we, we.

You are in this together.

Seek God's face because he never disappoints.

Tea and bread, rice and and better tomatoe stew

Focus on your future. Stop sucking life out of your destiny. Give your destiny a fair chance with Jesus. Pursue Jesus instead.

There are somethings that should not be said.
Who asked you

vikstandon:
I sincerely desire one...but I don't have a girlfriend.
Why is God taking time to give me one...I feel so lonely.
He has always said my Father can't give me one, that the gift of a wife comes from Him...But He is taking time. I dey feel that lonely everyday and the void is becoming deeper everyday.
Let the person to feel it come...But I fear so much that I don't want to make mistake in marriage.

the void is getting deeper and deeper cos you are dwelling on it more and more. Shift your focus today.

God knows the perfect timing for his children. Perhaps he is still working on you and /or on her too.

Let's learn to trust God absolutely because His thoughts towards us is good, to give us that expected end. Amen

Thank you mummy. You are in the spirit.


Let me add, WE MUST ALSO DROP EVERY FORM OF SEXUAL EASE LIKE MASTURBATION.

If the thing is doing you to do, cry to God let him see how you are burning and see He is your only hope.... That's for elementary.

As we progress, there won't even be the intense burn again because we will be full of holy fire. Glory to God! Thank you Jesus. We will continue to please you in our members in Jesus name amen!

He has good parts no?

Focus on his good.. You are building a mountain over something you can easily ignore or improvise.

Happiness is free in this life. Do not kill yourself for nothing.

If you ask me, I will say please readjust to suit your husband's lifestyle. Carry your children out if you must. It's not a do or die affair.

Abeg stop magnifying basic issues. It's not a big deal to graduate from the university a virgin.

School is for studying not for sex.

God forbid.

No matter the problem, how will you say you will do anything and you will worship the person.

Lady turn from your idolatry. If God can't deliver you, if you perish you perish. Learn to put all trust in God.

You will reap curruption.

You will keep praying for him. It's a bondage. Let God set him free. Pray warfare prayers cos you are dealing with demon(s)

PastorMIsBack:
Not weird at all. Welcome to the club

That's a good word.... I don't have friends tho.... I have friends but I don't keep close friends. Reflecting on it, I may be a bit weird.

Pweetyccee:
Wow
First to comment
D week go sure me dat
Biko any award or giveaway for me
Una happy Sunday

First to comment doesn't carry grace to make your week great. If you want your week great, you can engage the principles of favor and grace in God's word.

Omihanifa:
Congrats, the only advice I have for you now is that you should avoid bad friends and stay away from distraction ( women)

I don't see op replying this as he is replying other posts with "aww thanks". Is it safe to say he has every intention to do the opposite of what you advised?

You have a girlfriend you sleep with. You are already living in sin and yet want to be delivered from it. Here is how it works you either drop sin totally and invite to Holy Spirit to strengthen you or you drown in the sin.

God can't come in cos he is light and there is darkness already present with your full permission.

All the best. It's all or nothing.

Marrying the wrong person.... Seems to be the worst punishment here on earth. Pray hard before you venture. Pray like your life depends on it cos it does.

Nonexisting:
What kind of alterations? What do you normally do to warrant such. Don't come here with half baked information.

so in your opinion, its possible to justify a man flogging his wife in front of their children... What a tragedy.

oldienavie:
Hi Op, I am very impressed with how you write.
I mean very few Nigerian youths even adults have a good mastery of communication and can express themselves this good.
I can tell you are not a bad person, just dealing with part of what is the growth process for a youth your age in an environment that a country like Nigeria presents.

I will give you a few tips:
Pick up a passion for yourself, coding, learning to play an instrument, Animation etc.
Your jealousy stems from the fact that you think you aren't doing as well as you should so that makes you to start judging yourself by the standards that others around you seems to have reached and that makes you to feel a sense of jealousy.

Let me put this to you, everybody gets jealous. It is part of our element as humans, sometimes it is even justified but you must know how to manage it and use jealousy as a fuel to drive you to achieve your dreams.

As regards women, dont worry, just focus on achieving something for yourself, in a country like Nigerian where way too many women and trying to get married to few unwilling men, lack of women should be the very least of problems a man should worry his head about.

Look around you, there will be one lady that likes you and you know it. Probably you think she is not up to your standards, try and come down to her level and show her love.
These are the kind of men a man should commit to, do not commit to a woman that you will struggle to impress every day. Look for a woman that loves you that way you can live a life without pressure.

Again, keep working on developing yourself, look for a passsion and pursue it, it gives your life purpose and lets you have the direction that you need.

If you'd like to reach me on whatsap then here is my digit save it cos I will take it down in the next few house :

there is nothing normal about jealousy. It's a sign of illness in the mind and should be treated intentionally. Your advise is very bothersome and it exposes your true mindset. What do you mean he should lower his standard and accept a girl that likes him? More like he should pity her and be with. Meanwhile at that age, coupled with his insecurity and jealousy sickness, he should focus on self development, particularly on his jealousy problem. At this condition, he is capable of ruining a girl's life, monitoring her social media, her phone and in case you didn't know, jealousy is the root cause of crimes of passion.

Op you have a very very big problem. You CA a pray it out of your life by asking God to help deliver you because jealousy is a demon.

ChiomaCa:
I'm honest with my story. And I have never for once deny him of sexual intimacy. Infact, most time I make move, almost all the time. I swear to God Almighty. I'm feeling as if I'm ugly and not good looking enough

I don't know much as I will like to in the aspect of spiritual things but I am myself coming to some realizations..... Thinking out loud, have you thought about signs and symptoms of a man who has a spirit wife? One thing is certain, demons are involved, the question is how many, and what kinds.

Of course marriage works well. My parents are married. I have few friends and family having a swell time being married. Marriage is heaven on earth with the right person and being the right person too.

Most girls are very very protective of their father. I have seen your situation play out before.

Yes, you would have helped her get use to her room way before now.

If you are hoping she will grow up and start using that room, I am sorry it won't happen. Even when she is 7.

What I will advise is that during bed time, take her to her room, do what ever routine, story telling, or song singing or cartoon watching then lay with her and tell her to sleep. Act like you are sleeping with her. When she sleep, get up and leave. If she wake up and cry again, take her back to the room, lie with her till she sleeps again.

Continue till she forgets what it's like to sleep on your bed. This may take up to a year but better now than later cos the more you delay the harder it will be.

Please she should not mistakenly see you both doing that pls before she will climb her class mate in school. Abeg, for the sake of her innocent class mates. Thanks

Parents, wash your hands and give your children proper upbringing. This is shameful. How can a young girl have this kind of vile mindset. It's well.

Kobojunkie:
Jesus Christ said that those who love Him are those who submit to and obey His teachings and commandments - John 14 vs 15 - 25. The implies that the only way to maintaining "fervency" is through obedience of each and every commandment as given by Jesus Christ to us over 2000 years ago..

that's great. Thank you

Xaxov:
Constant prayer and meditation will do the trick. Remain Blessed

that's great... How constant tho? Say in a day.

Hello dear believers,

How do you maintain fervency in your spirit? How to you stay charged up and on fire? How do you maintain having your spirit stronger than your flesh.

Could be your routine, your choice of spiritual exercises and the frequency, etc.

Your responses will encourage others (including me) especially those new in to the faith.

Shalom.

enthronedbyGod1:
Masturbation and pornography is a very subtle and extremely potent weapon of Asmodeus. It's much more potent than most other forms of sexual sin.
It takes 2 people to commit most other sexual sins, but masturbation can be done anywhere, with only the doer involved. So the guilt isn't as crushing as others like homosexuality, adultery, fornication,e.t.c
Almost everyone has a smart phone ,which makes porn so easy to access , and masturbation can be done for years without any other person having knowledge of it, but the doer, God and the devil.
There are married women and men who are still bound to masturbation. They thought marriage would set them free ,but realized after marriage, that it's much more difficult than that. It's extremely difficult for a husband to satisfy his wife who is involved in such during sexual intercourse and much more worse when the lady in question uses intimacy gadgets to masturbate. Some ladies involved also find it hard to be moved sexually by their hubbies, while some get tired easily. It's also very difficult for such kind of lady to meet a husband that'd match her sexual appetite and this has made so many of them resort to testing before marriage. On the other hand the man involved would begin to have erectile dysfunction when he gets married and might also begin to experience low sperm count and other problems. Some even mess themselves up just at the sight of their naked wife, This is why some guys mess their trousers up, just at the sight of a lady. Some even become rapists, cos the sexual orientation in their minds have been programmed wrongly.
Masturbation also progresses to homosexuality between both genders at times. Not to talk of the spiritual implications of masturbation.
It's much easier for a guy to accept that he masturbates than a lady. Accepting there is a problem that has to be overcome is the beginning of freedom.
It's a whole topic on its own that should have a thread of its own, however I believe my little here goes a long way.
If you're reading this and you've never engaged in masturbation, please don't try it. It's easier starting than stopping.
Flee every appearance of evil.
May God deliver all who find themselves in such act in Jesus name. Amen

@QueTeddy please read above quote