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lovelydoll:
lol ofcourse she knew about guys she just never had any personal experience with them ,plus movies are superficial on love they often show a lost girls and all of a sudden prince charming appears out of nowhere they fight at first,then get married.

my dear listen. I feel sorry for what happened but I always say nothing new ever happens in this world. This girl grew up in an all girls school you say,well many of us did but we were not very ignorant. I was a closed up person,I completely avoided boys cz I didnt know much about them apart from what I read/heard so I can understand the being naive part.But that doesn't mean you be ignorant.Even biology lessons tell us how boys body's react.
To be safe I never accompanied any guy to his place cz I knew anything could happen. I wasnt an angel.I had read about r-a-p-i-s-t-s and seen movies so I always had that in mind while dealing with boys.Playing safe was my tactic and it helped cz I avoided risky situations as much as possible.
Now I know there's an age where every girl wants to know what lies on the other side.you want to be juliet and him romeo.
I guess that's why she accompanied the dude home. risky.
I hate to imagine what would have happened if she found other men there with him.Nobody dragged her there. A good guy would have let her go but did she even know the guy too well to go into his house? what if he was a murderer?
Upbringing aside.We take risks and they come with consequences. Its unfortunate but let her rise up and move on.The guy is probably plotting for another girl. Responsibility lies with the girl.

Then please warn her next time never to voluntarily walk into into a strange lion's den and expect not to be eaten.Lions are merciless.They bite their own cubs.
And then tell her never to allow a guy boost her self esteem through sex. She has a lot of work to do on her esteem first before she starts dating

And the op is happy of course cz purpose has been served.Some things are best ignored if intention is to invoke.
Reason am not angry cz It's not a subject to discuss,defend and justify why. No. The answer is just too obvious.
Its like saying men are useless.would you even bother defending that?

agnesefe:
Please mod, I am constrained to comment, despite initial resistance to the contrary, on the redirection to this thread from the chauvinistic link on the homepage. The tag and homepage treatment would-if it has not- provide fodder and soothing for the ADHD, that this currently presents,-given the bracket and tenor of his submission- despite original noble intentions asides eliciting traffic. In addition, the barrage and wanton salvoes to both the username and forbearers has further elevated its status, if the current skewed evaluation of humor and celebrity is anything to go by, and won the affection and interest of a segment of the e-community and, by some serious extension, provided armour for misogynists and male chauvinists alike-the persecution of a people or order only strengthens or arms their resistance and resolve. That army is not deserving of our promotion-the appropriate response would have been to ignore or educate, rather than fall for the cheap bait.

God is good. Indeed english came by plane to others not boat.

There's no question needing advise there since your answer is cunningly hidden in the question.
mischief.

I read the title and knew the op is out to provoke. Its like he wants to see women fight and rant over the topic. Why give him the attention?
See no sane man would utter such nonsense and I doubt the op is a 5 year old.
It just sounds childish not annoying to me.

Eritrea protests against Kenya threats

President Isaias Afwerki's Eritrean state has been accused of sponsoring Al Shabaab, a Somali militant group associated with the Al Qaeda terror network. Kibaki’s sentiments underline concern about the threat posed to Kenya’s security by Al Shabaab.

Eritrea has protested at the threats by Kenya to review ties, intensifying the diplomatic row between the two countries ahead of a much-anticipated meeting of their foreign ministers.

A statement from the Eritrean foreign ministry dated November 5 described as "regrettable" Kenya’s implied warning that Nairobi will view the alleged arming of Al-Shabaab by Asmara in a very serious light.

Al-shabaab tries to hit back at Kenya

Al-Shabaab launched two abortive attacks against Kenya’s security forces in towns along the border as they unsuccessfully sought to fight back.

A time bomb planted by the roadside exploded at around 10.30 a.m. on Saturday in Hagardera patrol base within Lagdera division of Garissa County but no one was injured.

Police suspect it was aimed at a police vehicle that was to use that road but it exploded a few minutes before the vehicle reached there.

Meanwhile, the military announced that they repulsed a boat carrying suspected Al-Shabaab militants that got into the Kenyan waters yesterday morning.
The boat from Somalia was challenged to stop but the occupants started firing at the military personnel. The navy officers shot back and the boat sped towards the Somali waters.

“Meanwhile, the border remains closed and fishing is not allowed,” he said, adding that the Navy was doing everything possible to ensure the waters were secure.

The General tasked with wiping out Al-Shabaab

https://www.nation.co.ke/image/view/-/1267900/medRes/308054/-/maxw/600/-/ye241b/-/ngondi.jpg

Maj-Gen Leonard (centre) greets US Marine Lt-Col Steve Nichols (left), at Camp Lonestar during Natural Fire, the largest combined exercise between Eastern African community nations and the United States.
A military general famed for revamping Kenya’s peacekeeping efforts in Sierra Leone, among other heroics, is leading the war against Al-Shabaab in Somalia.
Major-General Leonard a special forces officer described by colleagues as brilliant and a strategist, has been given the task of ridding the country of the menace caused by the militant group blamed for fanning insecurity in the Horn of Africa.

^^ how dd u now that? cz ur very very correct

habari nayah,
c'mmon peeps.sophistication is not only make up,dressing or hair. That's doing injustice to the word sophistication.
knowledgeable/experienced lady,exposed to the world and well travelled,refined, good fashion sense and a bit complex that is a sophiticated lady.
A full package.Is there a guy who hates that kind of lady? probably the likes of sexsinners.
Good eg, of a natural but sophisticated lady is the op herself.

I think men dislike 'artificial women'. Thats where makeup/ettiquette and fashion sense play a part.

Meklex:
that was in 2010, I got some doe to trash around, so I lured one in coz her name got 'sexy' screaming all over it, dday was here, I iron cloth, did some shaving, stashing the money for pocket, I stepped out, my neighbours dey look me like person wey don win lottery, me no blame 'em coz dey got no chance, I com enta okada go place of meet-up, na so I call the chick ask her which kin clothes she wear, she tell me say na red top, I lookd around for red top, and I saw one wowolic inside the red top, her fatness na jumbo size, with stretchd marks and big nose and one scary eyes like that my legs now pinching me for a marathon, na so I run all the way back, reach house change my username 4 nairaland, the girl sef stil dey claim sexy, I pity her mirror oh.

Oh boy. I choke on coffee again.

^^ seriously. i need t know. i could recommend u know.
now what is with the cattle ranch?

amen

sexsinners:
nigeria is doomed, not one person here feels guilty for their sins.

that's why only old ppl come to my fathers church

sexsinners:
i should probably get a hot girl so that i can get more youth to come to church.

now you.
read all ur threads and see how crazy u sound.

justwise:
Probably the only girl/woman in the ''village'' , . . . . sometimes what you see as positive influence could affect another person negatively. It takes a very grounded girl to remain loyal when the going gets tough.

yep yep.one man's poison, meat.but at least u agree that its all about choices. Dont want to push that positive and negative influence further.
Fact is there's is always that grounded loyal nigerian girl whom the likes of the guy above you refuse to see yet they are all over the place.
cheers

justwise:
No matter your age or class you will be influenced by either friends or the society, you will be an odd number if you choose to go ''solo'' or be island of your own, you can't carry on being the only g-a-y in the village for a long time.
Everybody would love to have the type of the rela/ship you described but the truth is that they are very rare to come by.

lol @ the only man-lover in town.
Positive influence I hope that is what you mean.Its got to be positive to influence me. And Its still up to me to decide how far it will influence me.
Things are not forced on us. We embrace and adopt them and make them our lifestyle. A lot depends on your persona,beliefs etc.
No man is an island and no man is a tazmanian devil as well. you choose what you want into ur life.good or bad.You decide.
So for me to make decisions based on my friends opinions and lifestyle is pretty childish.Its simply bringing weeds into my island.
we be friends but I decide what is best and works for me.

[quote author=ANTI- sex link=topic=797808.msg9494023#msg9494023 date=1320603195]^^^ is not funny and u aint seeing my teeth. d pray for good job den cbn will call dem to forget interview and start work as soon as possible, y me d pray for even ordinary police work [/quote]This guy
dont despair. send me ur resume.
nway op, I think what ur seeing is in the mind cz of the pop ratio. C,women are generally more in number than men, so in ur church 4 instance out of 100 people praying 4 jobs, 60 are women and 40 men. Therefore if 30 women and 20 men get jobs, u will see as though more women are getting it than men.but if u look at it properly ul see that the number of men getting the jobs is equal to the women.
Just my thoughts even though I am well aware other factors could be at play.

justwise:
The picture you painted works in real world, where people love you for who you are and not for what you have, very few girls will stick with a guy who is not financially ''useful'' to her any more after getting used to receiving. She may try for some months but when her friends get new gadget, new hair-do, going out for dinner and her boyfriend couldn't afford those again then it will not be long before her body-language start changing forwards the boyfriend, they argue about every silly things, cracks start appearing in the rela/ship. her ''friends'' will advice her to dump the boyfriend for somebody who ''value'' her more.
You could count with your fingers the number of girls who will stick with a broke-[i]ar[/i]se guy long enough without doing a runner.

yeah few I agree.But the bolded to me describes a very immature/insecure girl. One with teenage tendencies who is still influenced by friends and people's opinions.
Whatever the case,no relationship is forced, its a matter of choice.You choose your kind and deal with it.
It's just wrong to blame the world for one's own choices.

chima,that your mind is just something else. 

justwise:
Yes i agree with u but i'm basically saying that  in Nigeria sometimes, the opposite is the case. Even if you are smart enough to win her mind without the ''goodies'', it will not last until you cement it with goodies, buying the recharge cards, money to get her hair done, BBs. . . ., this is the value system, if you don't give (with love or out of foolishness) you will be dumped like hot potatoes cos there are ''foolish'' guys out there who are ready to do that.

That cementing is what I call nourishment and its supposed to be a symbiotic kind of relationship not parasitical one or else one dies in the process.
Everybody even william and kate treated each other even though not with bb,weaves or cards.
But you,as well as I know that the treats are a way of getting to know each other better and build a strong relationship.
If it all ends in bed or at the burger place everytime u meet with nothing solid then I call it barter.
Now ask yourself what happens if at one time things go haywire for you and you are not able to buy the goodies? If the goodies were the cement it goes down the drain. But if true love and other valuable qualities were cement it holds.You will not enjoy the luxuries but it will hold.
a malnourished relationship you may choose to call it since you say it's a value system.

justwise:
That is supposed to be the case in real world but unfortunately 8 out of 10 cases doesn't work that way.

No matter how much you claimed to love her by word of mouth its all crap until the goodies start flowing, then that is love in action.

well said chima
dont miss the point. I said a smart guy wins a lady using his mind and not his wallet and vv. When you buy her goodies/treats thereafter you are not buying her love but nourishing what you already got. Am sure there are several of such gals in nigeria.

A foolish guy will buy spend money to win a gal. Now whatever he does for her therafter is not nourishment but survival to keep it afloat.
Its called barter trade.Money in *love* out.

question really is what does caring guy mean?? spending?

justwise:
Well. . . in Nigeria, buying ''gifts and giving money'' is a core part of rela/ship, you show how much you love her by action (gift/money) i must point out here that its not all Nigerian girls that does this.

If you are not a ''giver' then u don't stand a chance.

Not nigeria only. Its done all over the world and its very okay. What I understand you to mean is, that very kind act of buying gifts is depicted as foolishness.
Now my guess is it would only be called foolishness if you are using the money or gifts to buy her love. She can sniff a mumu.
If you win her with your mind and then accompany that with gifts/treats am sure she wouldn't call you mumu.
A mumu guy has nothing else to offer in terms of care except buy stuff.

justwise:
Both. A guy could be a mugu to one girl and a caring one to another girl, it all depends on how the girl sees it, she may think that a guy is giving her stuff cos of her looks or her charm is working on the guy while another girl will see it as caring and generous.

That is what I was waiting to hear. You are buying love instead of letting it happen.And she knows it that's why she labels you mugu certified.
care = buying stuff= foolish/mugu.From your statement both gal and guy are mugus. They both assume.
Caring is broad.C what chima typed.Its deeper than buying stuff.
If you buy love>> *caring* you will need to keep trading to keep it afloat.

justwise:
The same thing a ''mugu'' does, it all depends on the receiving gal.

ok I take mugu to mean foolish.
so a caring guy does foolish things? why shouldn't he be called foolish then?

and what exactly does the caring guy do to be called one?

aha ok nice then.

LMAO ILEKE. that's slow death.
But lemmie help some dudes like killz.The reason universal manuals don't work on women is cz no woman is a copy of the other.
Each woman has her own manual so read her well then apply it and ul live happily ever after.

But I thought the lady washing the baby was a younger sis/relative to the wife or something. The reason I didnt bother much.
If they are one and the same person then that is quite a transformation.after the baby ie.
What ever I love the kids' hair/smiles.