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I beg to disagree. Resist? it depends on your current partner and how hes treating you cz once its over you must get over it completley and leave no strings attached.
Any feelings(good/bad) you harbour for your ex is a sign tht that you are still on the bridge.
Once something/someone is out of my mind its gone kaput for g. They become strangers.

* singing cece winans Jesus you are beautiful to me.* Cz that is wht you have always been to me and forever will be.
I am humbled in your presence.

^ really.I dont hear much about Abuja but lagos.
Eritrea has an approximate pop of 6 million. Its ranked 47.
Kenya with a population of over 34 million is ranked 23.

I doubt therefore that population is the determining factor. Good governance is key.its effect will be seen in other areas.

Creamish:
Therez sth your still not getting right . . . . . and its the fact that every1 is entitled to his/her own opinion. your view must not match mine and my life isnt the same as urs. I saw the potential in my hubby . .and since im not and have never been the materialistic sort . . i gave him the chance. I actually said NO to a multi-mililionaire and stayed with my hubby cos they both have diff personalities and i preferred that of the guy who had no job . . . datz ME . . not U . . . I have different priorities which i trust when making life decisions.

I cannot tell the next lady to do what i did cos she is not marrying my hubby. I dont know what kinda relationship she has with the person. I can only speak for myself. It wasnt stated anywhere in the post that we shuld speak generally and flush down opinions dat do not conform with urs.

That's what am talking about.A man with potential/ zeal /ability.This kind of guy could end up being the next king of the land.I would definately not turn him down because people who make a difference or bring change are people with potential and ambition.Its just waiting for an opportunity.
But that jobless dude who has no ambition,potential or desire? Realise one thing,It does not matter how much support I offer you.You alone can change your destiny and you must get out there and force things to work in your favour. Sitting and lazing around will not take you anywhere. If we date we date with your cvs in ur bfcase and out of every 5 calls you make at least 3 must be to a prospective employer. That is being hopeful and visionary.I just love the sight of a working man even if hes pushing a wheelbarrow.

@emofine I know its a joke but if its not, you need to be my friend cz by the 3rd day you will consider becoming a nun.

@killz. The frequency is mind disturbing unless one is into 'that biz'.

now now now. 15?
is it biz or what? Am now calculating the age one started dating,how long it takes to build one relationship, when one jumps into bed,when it ends and when one picks another relationship then repeats the same cycle over again.
Is there nothing else to keep one occupied except jump from relationship to relationship knowing what it takes to build one relationship.
nway even 2 is a crowd. thts my own opinion.

Nayah:
^^ Exactly, this is about frustration and inferiority complex and this things have nothing to do with love normally

They do to some extent.See with a job you have the finance. Finance will help you take care of foundation stuff(activities) that help your love blosom.Its like oil/manure.
Now that does not mean that without finance love will not grow.It will but there will be lots of squeaking and hardships along the way.
Imagine how a man would feel if you are the one paying for dinners,outings,plus everything else and you go ahead to finance the wedding because he has no means.
That is a dent on his ego and it will one day show.my fear.

I think it's easy for a man to marry a jobless lady but its because no one's ego is threatened here.
Reverse the roles and picture a jobless man marrying a woman with job.  You may try as much as possible to make him feel like a man, but deep in his marrow he feels inadequate because its a God given responsibility right from the days of Zinjanthropus.It becomes difficult to deal with a man suffering from inferiority complex cz every attempt at doing good will be misinterpreted. His friends will also rub it in and you will be the one to take care of his frustrations. Then he starts exhibiting anger and stuff.
The reason I said its emotionally draining.
I think I would be patient for the sake of ego cz men and egos are inseparable.

sexkillz:
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If i have a job and she is Jobless, no problem
If she has a Job, and i'm jobless, Problem aplenty!

That is the 'ego-struation' I was talking about.

Men stress more than women because its a mans role to provide.If hes unable to do this he feels crippled no matter how much the partner is blessed.
I know a few men whose wives hold high positions and earn good enough money to take care of both without the man's input,but the man would rather sell wares in a shop to  fulfill that urge of being a provider.I therefore find it hard to understand a man who lacks zeal and ambition in finding employment.Its beyond laziness.

A man searching is not the same as a man content with his no job position.

^^ Assessement focused on

1.Safety & Rule of Law,
2.Participation & Human Rights,
3.Sustainable Economic Opportunity
4.Human Development.

No uniform standard poster.the defination of a good wife varies depending on individual's tastes/preferences and some are way out of this world.
so go for what you think you like.

ineresting.nice

sexkillz I once had this pastor who was so tough on men waiting to marry.
He kept emphasising the importance of a job before marrying and I agree with him.
I rem him saying 'you go ahead and marry but will you put your spouse on the tree cz you cant afford rent?
Sexkillz dont be romantically disco whatever,   love is good.But you need to eat and pay bills in order to love well.

Is waiting for him to get one a prob? For a start a man without a job is pychologically tortured.It will start showing in the way he talks and acts and the relationship will just suffer.
He will feel inferior even if you try your level best to encourage and support him. Now that can be emotionally draining.
What are his future prospects? is he searching? If hes doing nothing about it?? I have my reservations.
Love is a sweet thing.It just doesn't pay bills which can be overwhelming at times.

visa visa mmh, I think Mpesa was the best thing to ever happen in kenya.It has made every citizen a walking bank. lol
Very convinient,fast,cheap.

AMEN

Kenyaman where art thou. This is the kind of stuff you ought to be looking out for not hague page and wage.

Have you been to gigiri. The HQ of UN? All vehicles plying that route bear the UN number.

I think most of these multinationals are taking up offices at Sameer Park on mombasa road.  beautiful beautiful park ,you never took pics of that.

And am soo delighted!! BA Freighter will start operating this route from next week!! they have been serving passengers and cargo only when space allows but the perishable biz has made them reconsider.I think that was very good news to my ears.biz wise.

Thank God they are expanding the airport cz av been seeing 'strange airlines' in this region. And then there's also an extension of wilson airport(serves NGOS') taking place.

mbote nayo moninga
ope you are poa
your thread is one mixed grill. A conglomeration of languages.

Yeah right. I call them  Batu ba Bantu  .

k nayah gotta go now. had a root canal today and my mouth is all swollen and stuff.

kesho. nite nite.Keep the african spirit flowing.

mmh well can try. I said 'try' needs lots of practice ama?

lol MMM is really cool.He saw the LIGHT! _{ope its the light am thinking of.}

lingala music is addictive. You need to be 'properly' endowed to do it well or else you look like a mosquito doing Bikoutsi.
criminal offence that is.

^^ Halle looks like a typical tomboy.Not bad.
bald as in bald bald? you walk like that? I am having pics of you in my mind already

^^ lol hes transformed

k nayah time you dedicated a makossa and Bikoutsi style here.  

Now am dumbfounded or discombobulated.

Ah ah this is Nayah's moment but since you sparked it I will make it brief.

I pendo would like to pay special tribute to the Father of the chosen one _{lord help me} and NL in general.
May the woli fighting spirit keep burning to the 3rd and 4th generation respectively.

Aaaw Nayah what do I say?I love you too gal funny you are also part of the reason I felt at home here.
You sure have that 'african spirit' I truly truly love.
Natondi yo/ahsante sana.
God bless you gal

^^ How do you manage to reply to a post before it even gets posted? Are you faster than the author?
Abeg I tire o.

M M M:
op        u & your friend should be happy dat it is just HIV & not even d almighty AIDS  

I mean what better answer than this?? hes giving up too early. Who told him he's going to die anyway? And who told him he cant get a wife and have a healthy kid?
Ask him to read the story of one Asunta Wagura who has lived with the virus since 1988.
Her courage and hope kept her alive. To top it all she gave birth to a very healthy HIV free baby boy.Everybody had ruled her out.Good news is. she's still a strong journalist heading an NGO and taking care of her very beautiful son. A role model to many infected people.
For christ's sake suicide never a solution. HOPE IS.

^ well would love to but I dont trust the sourse of the ingredients. Isnt it supposed to be benga? *music*

Are you saying in the whole of lagos or wherever you are you has no professional photographer to capture the exact type the embassy requires? You only need the microsoft office pic to adjust the size if you cant get one. Do not mess with shadows/contrast/background of appearance. Even if its 600 by 600 with wrong features it wont load.
Am sure you have read the instructions so well and its just that.Nothing more and nothing less.There's no compromise at all so do exactly as required.  Try as many pp photos as possible.Just read  the instructions.! I like the photo verifying process.
You guys give up so easily or are in haste.

Why are guys having issues with job group? seriously people READ and browse well. If your job is not in the list then you stand no chance. The website has all info. Read read and read again. Its not difficult.

ronkebp:
What is GEJ

amefi:
It means Goodluck Ebele Jonathan- the present Nigerian president.

_{oh boy I though it was accronym for an illegal group. thank you.}

^^ not soo bad.Nigeria is still a giant. I think good governance is the problem.
Can you take a look at somali? 8! beyond redemption. The next country is at 31 and the gap is too wide. But there's a somali and somaliland you know.
I dont know why they didnt feature somaliland cz the country is well governed and has a constitution with elected leaders.Its peaceful unlike the war tone somalia.

Not disturbing really. Its just that I like being realistic. I would love to see every kenyan live in Runda,Muthaiga,Kileleshwa,Nyari,Loresho,Ridgeways,Garden estate, and so many many other posh areas. The estates coming up nowadays!! But is that realistic?

I will give you and eg. You know Kibera slum? the largest slum I even think in the world
The goverment bought land and built very nice apartments and asked the genuine residents to move out of slum and occupy the houses cz they wanted to transform the land.
LOL guess what the kiberians said and do you know who their mp is? Raila. They refused to move! saying that theres a standard of living they are used to and they cannot adjust to the 'new life and way of living'!!
It is a poverty mentality holding them bondage. They wanted a house where they dont have to pay for electricity or those bills that come with the modern style of living.
And you know the houses were given to them at a very low rate cz the goverment knew their status.But No.the mama mandazi said she still prefers cooking her mandazi next to the railway line and risk her life.
That was the most crzy attitude we saw. You can remove a villager from the village but you cannot remove the village from him.

Ok give 8k per day to some dude. You know a citizen without a vision will do nothing with the money. To some their vision/goal is to drink as much as they can before they die.
To some its to sleep with the largest number of prostitutes in the land. I mean its not just about raising wages to make a country look good.What about economies of scale? You work for it and earn it.That way you will be careful with what you do with the raise.
Am glad we are 'almost on the same plate' anyway.

Candyness:
NYSE.  Thats where I work.  When you get to that level in life, let me know and I can help you. Good day!

Wow.thats so cool Candy. Congrats.
sorry but I will go offtopic a bit. Have you met Robert Darling with his craze?  
Have you read the caveat on his sign? would you do such a thing on wall street if you were him cz I really like his guts. 
If you meet him please tell hm to remove the ring and increase his chances otherwise no hope for him

This should not be a question. Its common sense.