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^^ miracles ones.

sasa nayah,

Age,careers,distance,money,desires etc are some factors to consider before making this decision.

You can conceive on ur wedding night,no probs or wait 2/5 years. depending on what your factor is.

I wld rather wait 1/2 yrs.

Better still Pray like this

Dear God I first want to thank you for this great husband you gave me.
You have been faithful to supply our needs according to your riches in glory.
God you have said it in you word that whoever does not work should not eat.
Lord we don't want to go against your word and its for this reason that I have decided to fast dry!till you open a door for my hubby. _{hunger strike}
God my heart aches at the thought of denying ourselves a great blessing in the name of a baby simply cz we cannot afford to raise one.
Haven't you said in your word that kids are a blessing and that blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them? It means that we are not enjoying your full blessings God and we are nothing but mean and very very selfish.Forgive us Lord.
Dear Father, help my husband to get a real job like the rest of the folks he ministers to. It's a shame to you Lord when your 'humble' servant eats from the handouts given by fellow brethren who toil day in day out for their families. My income is not even enough to help me buy him a nice pair of shoe,tie or even take him out for dinner!!
Please God,we have suffered enough shame and its time you gave my hubby a real job!.
In JC name Amen.
Pray like this everyday in his presence.

There's are different kind of relationships @ with own symptoms,singles,marriage,biz, ok romantic.
Know why I ask? cz in marriage lack of sex is a symptom of death but same cannot apply to singles who have chosen to abstain.

Those that cut across both include; communication breakdown,Insensitivity,lack of passion, reduced call frequency, out of sight out of mind,etc etc.
Before it dies it goes into a comatose state, if no sign of recovery its kaput!
next step is come to nl

^^ you are not even helping her just making her feel worse cz the milk is already spilt. People make mistakes.
Hers was major but what to do now?  Picture a dude sitting on sofa the whole day doing nothing but reading bible!!
Good lord,I think I would place a sign outside the gate of our house reading 'Welcome all to the church of lazy dudes.'
Then go hide.

What if she is his Mother?

Don't you think she deserves to be angry?

M M M:


ok
no problem, am coming
now

but i will buy dem in rome

do they sell cds at the vatican? Blasphemy!

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=766937.msg9206681#msg9206681 date=1316797981]I always wonder how Pastors survive, thought the Govrnment atleast pay them (when I wa young o).

I've ruled out Pastors long time ago. God forbid bad thing.

Any man that is more religious than me is a no no. I pray not to be bored out of my life.

And then you have the most dirty pastors.[/quote]A true servant of God is one who works with his own hands and eats out of his own sweat.We have too many lazy dudes around waiting to feed on others hardwork. It makes me soo sick.
Even though we have a few honest ones,they are only a handful.I can smell a lazy one from very far as they are found at both extremes.
Excessively rich or too poor to afford a basic meal.

True this is a family section issue. You will get varied answers there and then you can work out smthing.

M M M:


am so happy

on my way 2 your house but just realize, i forgot d 5 packet of louis vuitton condom but dont worry when i get it,

Straight 2 airpot

That wasn't a mistake Mr. The guy above knew where we were headed so he made you 4get that delibelatery.Now don't try going back for them cz ur gonna miss ur flight and our vatican date will not happen.
carry the rosary!

[quote author=Ileke-IdI link=topic=766937.msg9206606#msg9206606 date=1316797283]I usually run from those types

Everybody is preaching nowadays, even Shina rambo quoted the Bible.

But the thing is annoying. Everything has a bible verse attached to it with these men.[/quote] @ shina

Trust me I have worked with them before. They have away of woing vulnerable ladies with scriptures LOL.So if ur dumb enough you fall for them.
What the ladies fail to understand is that these dude's source of finance is the church ie if they have no meaningful job outside church.
They are given some cash y church to support them as they carry out their youth work/whatever ministry.
But when they marry they are on their own unless they become pastors. Am sure he had enough cash to date this lady before marriage.
I passionately hate anybody who uses God's name as excuse for laziness.Its just criminal!

M M M:
i will give it 2 charity

MMM reborn

Yeah these kind of men appeal to single ladies in church.They are full of hype and revelations.They are young and full of vigour promising heaven on earth.
They lead the youth,choir everything.They are admired cz they seem to know it all.
So she fell for one cz he promised a church. Its waste of time condemning her for marrying such a lazy dude who expected to feed from tithe cz she's already married to him. Now you deal with results not prevention.
Unless this dude wakes up,this lady is fed up and anytime shes walking out of this relationship.

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=766949.msg9206452#msg9206452 date=1316795510]pendo89.  sweeery. are you falling for that 1952 chat up line?  [/quote] ish,I would love to visit Nigeria one of these days and meet some of these clowns.

@ killz that Amala looks yummy. esp the first pic. Must all your dishes contain a white lump?
popcorns is fine for movie.

I am a believer but I run away from such men. Especially those who say use words like 'full time ministry,called to serve and all the other excuses lazy servants of God use.Its unfortunate you are marrried to one.
Write this scriptures in bold and stick them where he will read daily.

2nd Thessalonians 3:10>> If a man will not work he shall not eat.
1st Timothy 5:8>>If anyone does not provide for his relatives esp members of his own household,he had denied the faith and is WORSE THAN AN UNBELIEVER.

If he says church is work tell him some of the 12 apostles were fishermen and others doctors. Tell him industry is crowned with God's blessing and idleness is loaded with a curse.

I wont ask you to pray cz am sure uv done that.You guys dont have kids,So to get him to act stay without providing for a week. Go hungry both of you.
I know it sounds harsh but I cant think of a better way.
Hes too comfortable cz ur doing everything but instead of seeing ur sacrifice and getting up to work,he sleeps more.
That is not what God called us to do! What a shame to God's name.

^^ That's so sweet of you.But mind telling me what Amala is?

A crazy and busy friday but I dont mind taking MMM  to Rome.
Dress up for vatican Mr. and No we wont! its a holy place

[quote author=.NET link=topic=766358.msg9204828#msg9204828 date=1316780582]During my University days, there was this chic who had a long crush on me (and I did not know). She did not know how I was going to respond (or react) if she ever told me about her feelings. Sometimes, I observed that she was acting up somehow whenever I was around, but I did not bother myself, because I didnt know what was on her mind (I dont read minds)

One day, she mustered the courage to tell me. Although we eventually did not date, we became BETTER friends. She became her normal self and did not have to bother herself about how I was going to react ('cos I explained politely without insulting her, why we could not be intimate).

Today, she is married to a very nice guy and we are still very good friends and she still holds me in high esteem.

Lola, my advice is that you sit down with this guy and tell him your mind. From your description, you've known him for a while, so I know he won't bite. If he returns your love, then congrats. If not, no wahala! At least, you have let it off your chest. Stop burning slowly my dear. Tell him how you feel. Who knows? The feeling might just be mutual, but how can you know if you dont tell him

Cheers,
.NET[/quote]Aaaw! so touching. But very sensible.

airline .any other EK sorry.

^ nice to see u back. love ur purple short precise answers.

Would feel nothing.That is his profession.Not all married couples have insecurities.

Hey,wis wis,Its Emirate[b]s[/b]

What about EK? colour of suit and Ek??

My praise to you this day Lord.
There's not a friend like the lowly Jesus.No not one.No not one!

amades:
‘What do men do with those big back loads?’ your crazy op.

If you present one big buttocks [/b]lady and one flat [b]buttocks lady to a man, he would prefer to choose the one with bigger buttocks.

Nigerian women with bigger backyard get men quicker than the women with flat ones.

Even, many married Nigeria men whose wives have flat buttocks [/b]normally run after bigger [b]buttocks women outside their marriages.

enlarge their buttocks so that men will like them.

The truth is that, women suppose to have presentable buttocks. To learn how you can enlarge your buttocks, click this link http:///nyPCfM

Oh God my ribs will break!! op did u have buttocks for breakfast/lunch/dinner?
Ah! lemie vamoose before I see more buttocks!!

Call me,

How do u expect them to call you when you failed to include your contacts?. This barter trade I understand is called 'runs?

You sure have guts.

odiaero:
There is no breaking point when it comes to Nigeria women

You guys never cease to amaze. How an innocent thread transforms into a nigerian woman puzzles me.
What do u mean they don't break. are they rocks and not women with hearts? I have never met a people who despise their women the way you guys do.
And its not just on nl, I hv a workmate in UK who narrated a horrifying story about domestic abuse from his woman. And he vowed never to date them.
NL makes it even worse.Love and appreciate them first then you will reap the fruits of your love. Theres still a generation coming.

This lefu inhales/exhales fantasies not O2

I only agree with the last paragraph & because you used the word 'many'. Some women behave like lot's wife.
A lady may take in lots of crap with hopes that things would get better but there's a breaking point in every woman.The point of no return.
you get out lot's style.Never looking back.

[quote author=D_BestDoc link=topic=765510.msg9198892#msg9198892 date=1316703640]Sweet Lord :oDid someone hack in2 MMM's account ?Cos dis surely does not sound like him.
Dis is the most reasonable comment that has ever come through this account [/quote] Been asking myself the same but u know I purposed to mention him in my prayers and I see God has been faithful to honour that.

with ur kind of name?

sexkillz:
Sooo TRUE! All she is actually looking for is some serious BACK UP on NL! Well there's no smoke without fire! Where did you go wrong OP? Cos you just fed us half truths! Start with refuting the allegation levelled against you by ebonyvibe!

That is uncalled for, she just said she came out of an unhealthy relationship. People never narrate the whole episode here cz theres usually a lot involved in the background.Besides we only hear a one sided stories on nl and that is what we respond to.
Now unless you have been in an unhealthy relationship before, its not easy to understand somebody else. Good thing I have been in an unhealthy relationship so I kind of have a clue about what shes talking about.
I have not read where she says shes sleeping with another dude so why assume?

NRI PRIEST:
Firstly,u knw very well that what u were intoin the name of relashionship was a fornication in the eyes of God. And all of a sudden u decided to believe that it was God that saved u from your unholy affair! Chaaai, we have really brought shame in the doorstep of God, God have mercy on us.

What on earth is this kind of condemnation. Even JC wouldnt.How dd u priest come to the realisation that you are a sinner since we all have fallen short of His glory and nobody is justified through works?  The op's eyes opened,she decides to change her course and you condemn her for doing exactly that?
May God have mercy on you first.

Op that is called healing. When you harbour no bad feelings for the person that hurt you it means you have healed.You can meet and talk about the person without bitterness or anger. You can even buy them coffee as a friend and feel absolutely nothing.You crossed the bridge.

Wish you luck in future relationships.

This op is crazy.

But lefu I thought ur based in UK.
How come you only see,smell,hear and watch nigerian gals 24/7? How do u keep track of all these stuff you talk about daily when you are not in nigeria?
And why bother when you have a ukrainian by ur side feeding u icecream? If I were u I would be least concerned with what I really hate.

What a topic full of generalisations. I have come to my own conclusion.

>>There are men who just love to spend on women. The loaded who believe that money is the door to everything and would never allow a woman to spend a dime while they date. Unfortunately these are the same men who come here crying fowl when things fall apart.
Please go ahead and milk your accounts to please but please spare us the goldiggers threads.

>>We have those who suffer inferiority complex and would go to any length including selling their Dad's bikes to please a girl. If you are silly enough to do such a thing who do you blame? I have lots of respect for men who are themselves and have no shame accepting their situation. We can always work something out.

>>Then we have the other smart men who believe a relationship is about sharing. This is the group I love,my friends.They don't feel intimidated if the woman decides to treat them every now and then.It takes a sober and mature man to handle this sort or relationship.
This kind of man will not take loan/steal /sweat to please a lady.He will allow the lady to take charge when things are not so okay with him and VV.
There's no looking down on @ other because the relationship is not based on 'if or not u spend on me' but mutual respect,sharing, love and understanding.
When we are both broke we stay indoors and eat popcorns as we watch movie and laugh our lack away as we wait for a sunny day.

Now I know that people derive satisfaction doing all sorts of things and some women feel elevated when they have the type 1 kind of man. No problem with that. Just do it fully aware that this is not a marriage but dating stage so everything spent at this stage is a risk.

Is it wrong to spend money on woman? Of course NO! Neither is it wrong to spend money on Man I love. Try to balance it.

But spending is such a broad word lemmie break it.

Rents/Fees>> These are parents and relatives responsibilities,but if the dude is philanthropic enough,God bless him but DO NOT demand. Hes only your lover not hubby.
Personal stuff >> You are a lady! learn to take care of your personal needs.
Dinners/Outings/Movies/Shopping >> Share,share. Do not demand, but If he INSISTS on shouldering everything? allow him to. Its good for a lady to have money with her everytime they go out. Its back up.

My kind of man is the one we share everything together because that to me a balanced not lop sided relationship.