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I would consider 50/50 disrespectful if she looks down upon the man. I call it sharing responsibilities.cud be even be 20/80 but something!
Cool.

Blessed is your wife to be for hers is the kingdom of coogar.
amen

very good tips MBJ.

Oh and at that point in time you place al your hopes in the savings?
Ha in other words the wife should not even buy food and take care of other bills while you use savings to take care of kids school? cz culture forbids?
Get real!

Does culture care if I drink water for breakfast or buffet?

A woman willing to foot bills you say NO culture forbids.
She depends on man 100% you call her gold digger
She offers 50/50 you call her disrespectful

WHAT DO YOU WANT!

@coogar
And so if we marry and you happen to lose your job leaving me to shoulder the responsibilities for the time being,does your jobless status make u a lesser man?
I guess culture will call you 1/4 man then.
And what if am dating a dude that has no job now? is he less of a man cz am paying bills?

@ coogar let him find you here bashing him.  

coogar:

it's disrespectful in africa for a woman to pay a man's bill.

Which Africa now? Does 'Africa' pay your salary or meet your bills? Narrow it down to your pocket coogar.
Am even lost now.are we talking about married woman or singles? cz the issue shouldnt be a big deal in marriage.i said even if i was a married woman capable of shouldering 3/4 of our bills then whts the fuss? its investing in us.

sexkillz:
Pendo! Spending on a Woman, Yes or No! Right or Wrong? That's the bone of contention here! I'm not in the category of BB, Weave, Chicken crooners! Go figure!

I cant speak for women folk but for pendo since we r all different.
If we are not married? The man is free to do as he likes. I will not allow him to spend his money on me as if I don't have my own.
I will seriously respect him if he allows me to chip in. even if its 20/80.I will allow him for ego sake.But he must be aware that I can take care of myself.

Rem,I said its not independence but a satisfaction that comes out of it. No good feeling than spending what you sweat for.
could be psychological.

Weezzy:
Thanks though, buh do you think moving on is difficult for me because she is my first??  or could this be what they call love?

just call them first lessons in love.Baby's first walk. Why should moving be difficult? Almost everybody goes through that training but they emerge stronger and wiser Pick the valuable lessons learned,build a bridge then cross it. Don't rush to start another relationship till you have crossed over the bridge.
it means you have healed.

And yes you can find a girl with both outer and inner beauty. gd luck

Reality lol @ 10 star hotel . Even Burj al-Arab is only 7 star!
If we can't afford 2 star resto,we go to the park. you buy drink,I buy icecream.life made easy.

Sexkillz.

Problem with you guys is that at the mention of spending you bring in BB,Weaves,Chicken and all the other petty stuff.
Now I though Roki referred to a single lady and man on this thread. In marriage you share responsibilities.I can buy food while he pays bills but if he insists on doing everything? well Halleluhya.I will smile cz we are married and everything benefits us.No fear here. rem u talking about Assets.

Listen I once offered to pay lunch for a dude and he declined saying he won't allow a lady to pay his bill.
When it was coffee time,I insisted till he accepted.That was fair and I felt good.
That is the 50/50 am talking abt when dating. But if u insist I wont force.I will simply let you know that I wasn't really depending on you but was ready to take care of our spending.

what would u advise somebody in your predicament? say your bro?

50/50 rule.

I love taking care of my own needs. Eat/pay bills out of my own sweat cz am not incapacitated.
To me its not about independence as such but discipline I get in handling and budgeting my own money.
I love that.

Mr bin, I dont believe your story one bit. u just threw it here 4 discussion. not bad.

LaShawn:
@Pendo89
Maybe I am  


No, I don't mean that kinda guy. I mean a man who loves God, is smart, intelligent, well spoken, clean, has values, is confident, isn't playing me around, and is humble (it takes a strong man to remain humble). A man who won't take advantage of my calmness like my ex did.

Also, I have dreams and please, such a man shouldn't stop me from achieving them if those dreams won't be detrimental to our family.

Lashawn.I am now convinced you are my twin cz I have been taken advantage of by a 'God fearing intelligent, wellspoken,humble, and handsome kind of guy'.
I keep saying I dated a volcano.
So I changed and purposed not to put 'God fearing' first cz people abuse that phrase and use it as cover. Have the right connections and hang out in the right places. You will find them.But be wary of those who come in in the name of the Lord cz u cud be disappointed down the line.

Know what you want in a man and be friend to the right guys. He should be able to notice you from ur connections.

CalienteMi:
The braids were tight and you are right the more braids you get the costly it is.  Depending on what type of braids to get you will pay between 180 to 500 if you go to a professional shop excluding your friends and families.  

OP

The perfect gift you can give a man by telling him you will not get your hair professionally braided for a year.   You will have more money to spend on him!  

Men like to be spoiled.  

Now you went offcourse.that would be some 2000usd/yr saved if she does them every 3 months.
but its not the quantity or value but the meaning of the gift.

CalienteMi:
Cute picture.  

Who did your braids?

local
I had to wear braids cz of the heat otherwise I hate weights on my head.And would you believe what those spaniards were telling me?
That a strand costs usd2 to do!! So they were calculating how much it took to fill my head with braids.I really laughed knowing it cost me usd 15 to do everything!
I now know why they wear thick braids.Its too costly so the less the cheaper.

chicken salad

I have uploaded my pic here so many times whenever sombody asks so its not really an issue.I used to be scared cz of some story Reality talked about here.
I have even blurred it a bit.
Am removing it in next 5 min.
I have said over and over am 89!.quiet old huh!

CalienteMi:
Its interesting to see people listing their wish list.

lmao u know u cud be right.

^^ you my lost twin?

Good in what way? ope you don't mean Mr. yes/smiling/nice to everybody kind of guy.

The 'good' in my defination are too smart and you don't find them everywhere and anyhow and everytime.

Long One:
She said £200, so I am guessing UK. Except there is another country that uses the £.

You like adrenalin themed activities? That means we share that in common.

Assumptions.You cant be a lawyer.
Not really,all one needs to do is use the word 'dare' and watch me the trek the kalahari alone without h20
Crazy I know but probability works in some challenges.

Long One:
You drive around in the car for 3 to 6 laps after being trained. So, you don't buy it at all, but rent it for about an hour. The good thing is you get to experience the awesome power behind the wheel and the highly advanced Engineering. You must have a full UK license though.

Plus there is also sky-diving, flying, go-karting, the works basically.

That is one irresistable temptation that cud drive me bankrupt in less than 3 months.
Now have you asked yourself where the op is based? Was about to add yachting as another option b4 location came into mind.

^^Provocation.

Waiting for Man,Arsenal and the rest of the football crew to come derail now.
op have fun

jeez! op has made it clear her budget is less $200 or dd u live out some 6 extra zeros.

Where are these cheap ferraris and jets sold cz I cud fill my garage in one month.

I cant pick out a gift. cz men are kinda weird.

Love you make and food you prepare daily.But give him a night to remember. Let it start from the time he leaves the house in the morning and build up expectation throughout the day but leave enough room for suspense.Carry it through dinner and let it pick from there. . Shock! don't suprise him.
I prefer you live a permanent rubberstamp of yourself on his mind.

cheers

Long One:
Maybe it's sentimental to her too (What could have been). She might have really cared for you, you know?

You know op that cud be true as well. She loved you so shes holding on to it. Live with that for now cz sooner or later she will wake up to the fact that you are nolonger part of her life and might return it back.
That chain must be something to make both of you attach sentimental value to it. Anyway just relax and get busy looking for a nice gal then dont be quick to hand over such stuff till you place that ring on the finger.
We all make mistakes but what doesnt kill makes you strong and wise.

yep One, unwell though. bad headache.
Thnks 4 inquiring

killz? I never fight the dude. I HATE fights of any kind verbal or physical. I wld rther accept defeat and have my peace.
His fights minus insults make lots of sense.

dohyn:
Well,I tried talking politely to her, nada.I think she's still pissed abt d breakup even tho it's over a year now, also,this issue isn't abt the monetary value of the chain.tops,it'll cost 15k,it's abt d sentimental value of it,wch she knws very well.

dont use threats cz it will end up in trash if it hasnt yet. Give her a thank you call and tell her its ok she can keep it.
I understand this it not money but the value which money cant buy.Forget and go about life.
Who knows,she might return it if she meets a dude who will replace that with something else. And she wont need to hold on to yours.
wish you luck

^^ oops.sorry abt that. well i was pretty confused at first so i stopped looking at handle.
calientemi sounds good.

dohyn:
Well,we were in a long dist reltnshp nd we broke up over the fone.also,I told her that I meant to gv dat chain to d woman I'm gonna marry, guess I thot wrong(we've knwn each other for over 13yrs b4 dating).I've aldy counted d chain as being gone.I jst want to knw pple's(esp ladies)opinion abt it.if u were d lady,would u gv it bck?knwn the history behind it?am I wrong 4 asking for it? And pls,don't insult her,I still hold her dear, thanks

Returning sentimental stuff sets you free so if shes wise she would do it.If you really feel unsettled in your heart tell her its charmed!   ope she gets scared.

Have you clearly and without anger explained to her how valuable it is to you and that you gave it to her assuming she would be your wife?
If a guy told me that I would return it very fast. But if didnt it goes to trash.

I have returned something very valuable without being asked and I felt soo relieved.

cool.
k we catch up l8trs. I am feeling a bit unwell so am seeing doubles as I push myself.
nice day dear.

Removed her pic b4 I get sued
I really want to see how my friend pulled it.Will show you who he is in the film when its out.
Do you know Gaetano? the one that was once in big brother? u would think they are twins. And I think Gaetano features somewhere in the film since I saw a pic of the trio.Rita,Gaetano and my Friend ie.
Those are 3 countries represented!

Do you recognise this lady Nayah? One rita from nigeria?
Guess what, my friend(actor) sent me this pic of hers among several they took.Shes been around doing some acting together wth a team here including my pal who is such a good actor.
You should see her sleeping on bed in one of the scenes but cant upload it.lol

She looks beautiful. Cant wait to see the play.