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off topic.
When and if you marry,will you ever allow your wife to win an argument? cz u must win from what I c.
just curious.

sexkillz:
The same thing that makes it hard to say i'm Married but unattached!


Logically, you cant be Single but Attached! It's either you are Single or Married! If you are Engaged/Attached you are Single, cos you aint Married yet!

Oh yes I can. Single but attached simply screams am not currently available BUT am still single. Status can change to single and available.
Either way yep, you are still single but it must be made clear so as not to chase away potential suitors.

okay

What is so hard with saying.Single but attached?

it simply means you are currently N/A but that is subject to change depending on circumstances.

whatevr!

let bygones be bygones. Dont string her along now or else you destroy ur current relationship.

freecocoa:
You are welcome, we have our ways, I guess she just wants to know how serious you are with her and what's inside your head.

Well said.

Women have ways of getting info out of your mind. dont blame us.its a gift.

9dynasty:
@pendo89, reading your little script there had me going ** a bit, i forgot i was browsing not watching tonto dike and van viker. . .lol
@poster guy if you know weytin good for you follow weytin pendo89 just act write

well he asked 'how do i tell her' and that was all I cld think of 'how'  Ouch! he must have done it already and there's a river of tears flowing in lagos.
Oh this word called love is bitter sweet.
There's nothing bad like loving what you cannot have!

This particular case is complex cz of relatives .
elope.

sad video

And why are you pro raila?

Hes a traitor and dictator fyi.That guy will sell Kenya to the west! You are joking! Do u know 'one'of the reasons moi was hated by the west was cz he never sucked up to them?
Its the same thing happening.Kibaki doesnt give a damn.He loves kenya too much and not only that.His giving so many goverment contracts to chinese companies has put him at logger heads with the west.

They will use every opportunity to destabilise a goverment just to have their say. Follow what is happenig in Uganda and Kizya Besigye.

Why do you think Museveni not a favorite of the US? because the west want to take over the new found oil deposits in kampala. They want the crude oil taken to their countries for refining. Museveni has said NO. Uganda oil must benefit the ugandans. He has stood his ground and wants to make sure that refineries are built in Kampala and they wont be selling crude to the west! No wonder he has his people's support cz they understand what it all about.
The media will never tell you the true story.They will alwyas paint West as the angels.

Now what the west does is look for a puppet. They have Kizya as Musevenis thorn, They will fund his walk to work campaigns as well as destabilise goverment to ensure Kizya gets power.Then they are awarded contracts.
They have Raila in Kenya. And kenyans know that and are wary.He can sell Kenyans to the west at the blink of an eye.
Is that the kind of leader we want? NO.

Watch sauti ya hague.

Some of your posts make me think that you are still in the moi era.
Kenyans are expressing themselves now more than before.People are not sucking in nonsense. You need to be in the country to see what is happening.
Politics is very dynamic.What you read yesterday is not what is happening now.

Why should Kenyans or any other country invest in the Hague? They are already doing that by remitting money.That is how the hague survives,
on income from its signatories as well as sponsors like germany. Each country should invest in their legal system.If they fail to deal with high profile political crimes then they go hague. That is the whole purpose of  its existence.Dealing with political crimes.

Very good questions you have regarding majimbo. Have you read about how its going to work? well this is what.

>>Majimbo of devolved goverment will empower regions to govern themselves.
>>On the other hand some prefer a economic federalism where a central goverment deploys resources to each region to create wealth.


You need to read the Bomas document chapter on devolution then you will have answers to your questions above. Currently not so many pple understand how its gonna work and that is why many are not in favour of it.

1. Each jimbo will have a premier and its deputy. They will have elected districts with governors
2. Each jimbo will have its own state assembly
3. The taxes raised will be split 60/40. With the central goverment taking 40%.
4. They will have committees to determine now revenue will be raised and used.
5. Lastly,there will be mechanisms to prop up those those jimbos which need help in a manner that is agreeable to all jimbos.

There are your answers. It dont mean that if you are a different tribe doing biz in a jimbo far from your own then your taxes will be directed to your community.No,It will help the jimbo you live and do biz in.
That is going to be the challenge because like I said some regions eg Central or coast as well as rift valley which are greatly blessed with resources will be far ahead of others. But rem also that the the central goverment has will aid and pump more to the less developed jimbos through the 40% tax remitted.
Am not an analyst but I sense many challenges.

Federalism is more complex than a centralised system of goverment. For it to be achieved there must be a positive attitude to embrace and build it.
At the moment the consituency development funds has in some regions benefited some communities.

And Ali has my backing.
Watch Sauti ya Ocampo.

Because they do not wash their weaves/hairs simple. A weave/natural hair should be kept clean and sprayed.
If not washed,it traps dirt,sweat,oil and God knows what else. The resulting smell can be toxic.
Its disgusting so next time you meet one tell her.Excuse me?

^^ great.

1.FRIENDSHIP
2.PEACE OF MIND
3.HAPPINESS.

How dd u capture my mind.

The rest are formulas. like 7 ways to achieve happiness blabla. They are just consolations and theory. How many people can even take positive not negative,positive critism? you do not even need to go far.We see it here daily.
Truth is you will hardly find such a person cz they can only be found in one place. A dream. We are made to sharpen and accomodate each others shortcomings.
At one time I thought I did. But I was wrong.
Those good qualities mentioned by op are cultivated through weakness,failure and blunders so that we become humble and learn not to point fingers at others.
Just look for a friend who will give you peace of mind and happiness.
I am not a dream woman so I do not need a dream man either.

^^ lol what a funny scene that was. Cartoon.
How different is lagos from Abuja? Transport,governance,cost of living etc. Is traffic as crazy as lagos?

^^ she needs to go to mexico.

Lax75:
That's why I mentioned earlier that they live in denial. These are the same type of women who will now claim they are independent.

Well, if old fashioned is how I would be labelled, then so be it. I look at it as true maturity and strength. It's the strong person who looks inward and is comfortable with peace and happiness on their own, than depending on another being for it. To me, intimacy w/out connection is just another means to achieve an heavenly feeling (if that even happens). It's a false sense of filling a void. But then again, what do I know, I'm old fashioned 

Thank you. Happiness does not come from without but within.
What makes you is you,Not anybody else. They can only add or reduce what is already within you.
And yes sex without connection is no different from what the wildebeast do.
Making love is what humans are supposed to do.

ok who is nxt on queue?

^That is my point.
She thinks she can continue from where she left you. People forget that a lot happens whenever gaps occur.
She's afraid of asking if you have a girl because she knows the answer is yes.She is just not ready to hear the negative and that is comforting for her.
But you got nothing to fear.
Appproach her bravely as a different man. Let her see the change even before u open ur mouth. Then forget it and concentrate more on your current relatioship cz it will help you erase her completely.

^^If you tell people that they say you are old fashioned. Sex is just that sex like animals. nothing emotional. But making love is a totally different thing because your whole being is involved not only the sex organs. It therefore bothers me when I hear a woman breaking off with a guy today and tomorrow shes in bed with another. They are just having sex and using it a cure for broken heart.It's using the guy.

There's some people who say they get over somebody so fast. For others it could take 5 or more years to overcome.
But either way. Those who hop like grasshoppers do so cz they fear being soo alone. They are used to men's company they just cant do without a man.
Its like an obsession.

IF [/b]you must tell her.

[b]Setting: Open restuarant .make sure there are people around.
Time: Daytime

Scene 1
Masoaps walk in and takes a seat. Lady xyz walks in dressed to kill with high expectations.
Masoaps quickly extends his hand for greeting to avoid a passionate hug or kiss. They both sit .

Masoap: Hi,xyz. Thank you for coming. I called you cz I got something very important I need to share with you as a friend.(heavy tone)
I am going to keep it brief and straightforward because I have other urgent matters to attend to in the next 15 min.(shorter the better.This is not a break up)

Her: Ok go ahead.

Masoap: We had a wonderful relationship which lasted 4 years.Unfortunately you decided to end it even though I had given my whole into it. I understand you were not ready but as a man I knew what I needed at that particular time and was prepared to take it to the next level.
It broke my heart to see you  go but a man's got to do what a man's got to do. I picked my broken pieces and moved on.
Along the way I met a wonderful gal who helped put the broken pieces back together.What you see now is a completely different guy. Not the one you knew.

Now the best part is this. I proposed to this sweet lady I met and she did not waste time saying yes because she understood me.
And guess what? we are getting married very soon . _Smile You are welcomed. I will make sure you receive a card.
Now having said that, I know you are a nice/beautiful  lady and very soon you will meet a guy that totally appreciates you. That I can assure you because I see it in you.Its even better that you are ready to settle so don't keep the next angel waiting.
Men know what they want and when they find it they want to make it theirs. Tell her that.

Well xyz,I said at the beginning I will be brief so that's it.

Next pretend you are reading text on phone then let her know that you have to leave.  Do not give room for a million questions cz they will result into tears and emotional drama.Now you don't want that in a public place.
Go and never look back, let it sink in.

You have passed the message as a gentleman without drama.
goodluck

darkhand:
Not possible, K leg girl can only be produced by K leg woman. Is the mother K legged? If not no fear.

kidding me?

Is k leg not the same thing as Knock knees/bowed legs? whatever happened to calcium def. and bone deformity? hereditary? thats a new one!

damn. i have a nokia 3310 which i love soo much and pple are despising it.
infact i change covers every now and then and i just love it! yes i really do evn though i got other nokia.
bb reminds me of work and am no fan at all. my friends hate bb! strange.

WHAT A MATURE THREAD!! I cant believe this is NL romance section .
I love every reply made to to the poster. No emotions no insults,its purely wearing the posters shoes and offering[b] 'BIG BRO''s advise.[/b]
And the op even at his age is responding nicely. Its like guys are having lunch talk here! Gentlemen be blessed.
This manner of communication makes me wanna break down cz it gets into into my heart .Deep and understanding.

Beautiful.

Beth Mugo is a relative to Uhuru. That is why shes there to offer him support.
Now when I say I talk anything from weather to diapers' do not take it literally. I simply mean I can talk anything under the sun because it was in ref to your earlier comment. Rem you saying that I talk freely and hey one does not need to be married to mention diapers.Its this politics attracting me here.
Mzungu mweusi is an African who has adopted the white man's culture. Dont worry I got that from my literature class.

2 things could possibly happen in hague;

1.The case could go to full trial and ruin their political chances. This will only be known in 3 months.
2. If it fails to go to trial,the political atmosphere will be highly charged.It will ruin Raila's chance. No that he stands any this time but hes a heavyweight in his own small way.

People are thinking that this is the trial while its not. The ruling could go either way and the defence team is pretty confident. But everybody faces an uphill task including ocampo himself.
If the charges are confirmed ,Ruto's and uhuru's campaigns will be damaged. If its dismissed,they will have enough momentum to overturn Raila's frontrunner status.

Now this is what you need to understand.Ocampos's term expires in June 2012. He has suffered 2 setbacks before and this Kenyan case is what he needs o improve his record.He has never secured a single conviction since he took office 8 yrs ago.

Do not forget also that the ICC depends on the generousity of donors that are parties to the statue. I read that the Economist in Feb reported that the ICC badly needs the Kenyan case to succeed because Japan and Germany contribute the largest share of its $100m-plus budget!
Its just a do or die situation.

Latest reports say that ICC is opening  new office in NBO.

This move is a clear indication that the case 'could' be confirmed.
The courts' registrar Silvania Arbia was in the country last week to prepare for this development.
A number of officers will be deployed to the new office and they will be allowed to carry firearms and enjoy a wide-raging privileges while in conduct of their duty.

Now what amazes me is that these ICC guys have carried out a number of investigations in Africa and yielded 10 cases and 3 trial from what I read.
But they have not gone far enough to ensure that justice delivered by ICC resonates with affected communities.

Okay watch sauti now

^ lol evil man.

mmh canada. they are cool

N101:
I still remember the signs I saw which said "if you urinate here you will be arrested and fined" (loosely translated from Swahilli).  I can't imagine that being a remotely effective deterrent anywhere in Lagos 

Been there? infact they now read. 'URINATE! .They dare u. Before u unzip they are all over you. Those officials are feared more than cops cz they have no mercy. They hate it when people give them extra work.
I love the new public toilets that were constructed so ul never find people doing such in open or back places.
They are well maintained and they provide tissue. But u pay to use.Just a minimal amount if you are a stranger in the city.
Then if you cross the road anywhere other than at the zebra crossing and you are caught?? fine! Of course not everybody is patient but just pray that there's no official near by. And trust me they are all over.
The thing they are notorious for is clamping vehicles when wrongly parked or when you double park. You cant even buy a newspaper before ur car is clamped.
or if you dont have a parking ticket. Parking is damn expensive in Nbo.

;d

But I dont find this arrangement new.
This is simply a trial marriage or what people call come we stay but with the issuance of a marriage cert.
Somebody talked about a waiver   crazy but well you know he has a point after all. But even with waiver a divorce is inevitable.
For two people to agree to this there must be several personal reasons raging from insecurity to precaution.

whatever you choose. it ur life. Am landing in mex in a few hours after all.

mexican food is the best.

And now this mexican law is just ok. Wouldnt mind and am serious about it.

I see not much difference btwn this and prenup cz both are meant to avoid the hustles that come with divorce.
If you dislike this kind of arrangement then you would not settle for prenup either because no one like I said has divorce in mind at the time of tying the knot.
keep it with the laywr and keep renewing the contract. who knows you two could last forever!
What is the big deal.