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mashnino:
u just said everything

And the bolded is your own answer to your own question.

ish
photosynthesis. be more elaborate. She's a cool dada.
isnt she?

mashnino:
sowie to ask but describe a perfect woman from your point of views,

She doesn't exist.

I think what you described above are attributes of a 'perfect man'
We know they don't exist. Everyone must have a weak area esp.in no. 5 and 11.
But if any ever comes across any perfect ,please do not hesitate to holla,will be glad to take photo of him.
thnks

^^ jeez. is there no way to mend this?  I mean if hes not violent or abusive what could be worse than that? have you tried all options and failed cz divorce should be considered as the last option.
Thats a pathetic situation to find urself in. Strangers living under one roof.
Am sorry for you. But share with somebody close and mature cz this marriage of yours has cancer and needs urgent chemo.

Time they say heals all wounds.scars will remain but the wound will heal.
That family has suffered deep psychological trauma and need professional help.children included.
What he needs is the right attitude to handle the effects of the rape.
I hate to imagine what the wife feels especially if the husband fails to offer her psychological support.
Its like being stabbed twice.
God will comfort them.

Oh men the story is too long.
I only read the first paragraph and gave up after coming across Temi, Teni and Timi.

claremont:
Only in Nairaland will I hear someone saying that "Almost everyman is r-aping someone somewhere"! 

I don't believe r-ape is exclusively a male dominated "sport", females r-ape men as well. Therefore, if all men are potentially r-apists, it then follows that all women are potentially r-apists as well. The same characteristics of a male r-apist is also applicable to a female r-apist, no gender discrimination here!

ok.We are all potential rapists then. Only that some use brains, while others use the other leg.

^^^ ;d ;d ;d

^^ I discovered one thing. People especially grownups don't change.Change is foreign to us.
You lie to yourself when you keep hoping for change esp in an unhappy relationship.
Yeah it may happen but only in few cases where people are 'willing to change.' If I see no willingness I step.

^^ wise and strong now.
Fear and being naive is another culprit.We tend to fear the person we are in relationship with.
I dont even know where the fear emanates from but I think its cz you surrender your will to the person and he controls you. You become a puppet he can manipulate at will.
I d rather date the devil than a violent man.

I have experienced one before but I held on cz I kept saying he would change but it got worse by the day.
What is more sickening is when the dude admits hes got a problem but he cant do anything about it.His only way of venting out anger/stress is by way of abuse.

MRbrownJAY:
oh yeah, sadly, i blame SOCIETY and RELIGION for this craze. so many are in abusive r/ship and people will tell them to "pray". any marital issues they will go and talk with their pastor, who in return, will be against divorce whatever the problem is.

Exactly.That is why I have become a W.A.W soldier. . Some teachings are not practical in some situations.
A ' stingy' boyfriend _{where is lovegal} is 100 times better than a violent one.

@ Lax. That is a pretty sad story. What makes me sick is that people hold on till they kill each other .Then what next? They live orphans behind.

I love what one phil said. Its worse bringing up kids in a hostile war like environment with 2 parents than in a single parent home.

Violence/abuse is a silent killer.

The same way blind/dumb people fall in love with each other.
I think chemistry/communication takes place in the soul first before it manifests in the physical.

MRbrownJAY:
there was a story here in the news a while ago where a man was trying to ra.pe a woman and she said she will cooperate if he doesnt hurt her and when she went for sucking him, she bite the hell out of his Joystick. his cries of pain/help was what brought the police and caught the criminal!  lol!

also, what about calmly telling the guy:"hey, i am HIV+ so be my guest brotha!!!!!"
if he has a condom then he needs both hands to put it on so that would be the moment for you to RUUUUUUUUN!

Jeez some of them have HIV already. Besides do rapists even think HIV? They know you will attempt anything including lies.

MsDarkSkin:
Yes. it's possible and happens all the time.

im not the toughest babe in the world but believe me should i be in the predicament
and am able to "hold him", he would be in trouble!! 

That's what I think too. We have 2 hands,teeth and legs. Those combined and used timely can save you.
I would only remain still if I sense murder.

M M M:
pendo98

yes of course

I almost killed a white girl dat wanted 2 ra,pe me without condom  in a hotel røom last 2yrs in cuba

[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=760933.msg9156642#msg9156642 date=1316142621]Somebody is lying.[/quote]

tellwisdom:
pendo, it seem yor preparing to visit a Rapistt

No wisdom I want us gals to know theres a way contrary to what people say.Everytime I read a story on this I see many many loopholes.
If you are fast and very tactful you 'might' escape. But give it a chance at least if you ever encounter one and you will have yourself to thank.

^^ you know what? i agree with you.
i think I could suffer paralysis if i encounter a sumo.But a small short man? bite his ear off.

claremont:
It is better for a a lady weighing 50kg to go and hang herself, than for her to grab the balls of a "Japanese Sumo wrestler". Death via suicide is sweeter than the one she will receive if she grabs a "Sumo wrestler's" ball!

am trying to figure out if you r referring to the sumo's wrath or size of stuff to squeeze.
whatever the case,the sumo is better dealt with using spray or calmness.

mmh karate seems to be more effective in this case.

^^ Now you are contributing.
So a small lady cant grab balls? If the guy is 90kg the balls weigh as much?

Natasha wow.

xynerise:
^ did she win d fight? No offence pls .
@pendo. Wetin u and rap.e get sef?

Not really.I am practising karate.
dont we read about them here all the time when people go on dates,visit male relatives etc
I want to believe there's something one can do to escape.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=760927.msg9155913#msg9155913 date=1316124476]@ Pendo89, if you ask me, this topic is not even worth discussing. (no offeince).

Every single human being born of a woman, has the potential of being "a bad person/sinner".

So, yes all men are potential r[i]api[/i]sts.

You, Pendo, are also a potential ra[i]pi[/i]st.   [/quote]Case closed.

Xynerise. Not really am practising karate. These rape stories are too many.

claremont:
WHAT IN THE HELL IS THIS LADY SAYING?! Okay, I give up, I really do!

Claremont sleep well.
I have read despoil stories here on NL romance section today and am just throwing this out.
Its only a question not a fact or statement so dont top pick out a line and crucify b4 you understand the context

What about Teeth? Those are weapons of mass destruction you know.

^^ So many despoil stories av read here today.Those 2 topics came to mind

^^ Yes Rokiatu.Oooh the clergy top the list.
I have been reading lots of violation stuff thats why I decided to ask this.
Almost everyman is Desecrating someone somwhere.

^^^
Those are samples. I can't prove cz those are other peoples stories but violation is everywhere.
You guys keep saying all nigerian girls are golddiggers don't you? But you know its not true.
Mine is a question not a closed statement.

Some thieves or robbers must steal.They sleep, eat,dream and plot how to rob 24/7.
There's the other group that steals on sight.They don't think or plot about it till they see the goods.
You know what I think? it could be an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

In that case men suffer from despoil related OCD.
The r.ap.i.s.t.s exhibit obsessive and compulsive behaviour while real men suffer from obsession only.
Real men have learnt to tame their compulsion.
But its still in there though  

A man once told me that a woman can actually fight 1 guy trying to violation her.
She doesn't have to know karate or anything but her mouth can act as a weapon. Bite or Scream or whatever!
And there's that other place to kick as well.
I have my thoughts on this but help me understand yours.
Do you think a woman can fight off a despoiler on her own? assuming he is not armed?

I have been motivated to ask this cz of 2 violation stories I read here so help me understand.
At what point does the 'violation urge' hit a man?
Is it an ogre lying dormant in every man's heart waiting for the perfect opportunity and environment to strike or one that pops up as soon as a man sees a lady and feels that its either now or never.
So does it mean that men who don't carry out the beastly act have learnt to exercise self control over the ogre?
Its still in there rem.

If for instance a girl gets violated after she goes visiting her boyfriend or a male relative, ( yes those two whom she trusts),would we be right in assuming that the man has been 'harbouring and nursing' that urge and was only waiting for the perfect moment to strike or you want to convince me that he thought of violation the moment the girl walked in through the door?
I know there are mad fellows who violation at will but when it comes to somebody being violated by relatives or close friend, I wonder if its an inborn thing(ogre) in men that drives away common sense at that particular moment.

What characteristics do potential rapists posess? I am sure they don't which again confirms my fear that its a silent dormant ogre in most men.

Stay safe.

tashanja:
Do not be fooled by stereotyping, in fact there are quite a significant number of people, even in West Africa, who find petite or slim women in general quite appealing.
Slim is attractive, healthy and beautiful

Thank you.

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