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Horus:
Which one is correct?
1- A well nourished Sudanese man steals maize from a starving child
2- A well nourished Arab Sudanese man steals maize from a starving child

Neither is. They are both nourished men doing a despicable act.
For it to look 'justified' NOT 'right' he ought to be malnourished like the child.
nway old pic.

3ndy:
DEAR NAIRALANDERS,
DEAR SISTERS,
TODAY SOMETHING MEMORABLE HAPPEND,
I MADE OGBONO SOUP AND PEPPERSOUP STEW,  (SEEMS LIKE STEW BUT IT'S ACTUALLY PEPPERSOUP,  U CAN EAT IT IN DIFFERENT WAYS, )
I ACTUALLY WENT MINDLESS WHILE COOKING,  RESULT IT WAS REALLY DELICIOUS,
THEN I CALLED HIM TO COME MAKE POUNDY FOR US TO EAT!!
HE SAID WHERE IS THE WATER??
ME: HONEY PLS COULD YOU HANDDLE IT??
HIM: WHAT DO U MEAN WITH THAT??
ME: WELL I'M OBVIOSLY BUSY,  SO CAN'T U HELP ME?
HIM: AT LEAST PUT THE WATER
ME: (BLENDING TOMATOE AND PEPPER SNEEZING)
HIM: WELL LEAVE IT I'M NOT HUNGRY ANYMORE
ME: HONEY I REALLY DON'T LIKE WHAT U'RE DOING!! I ASKED U 1 THING AND U ACT LIKE THIS,  IT'S REALLY NOT NICE
HIM: AHN AHN U SAY U DON'T WANT TO MAKE IT NOW,  NOW I'M NO MORE HUNGRY,  ABEG I NO FIT SHOUT
AND HE LEFT,
I FINISHED PREPARING THE MEAL FOR EVERYONE,  WE ALL ATE (STARCH NOT POUNDY) HE DIDN'T BOTHER TO COME DOWNSTAIRS (DINNING-KITCHEN ROOM)
THEN I WENT TO OUR ROOM AND HE WAS WATCHING FILM,  HE SAID NOTHING,  LOOKED AT ME AND WENT TO BED,
ASKED FOR WATER,  AND NOW SLEEPING!!
NOW I'M WAITING FOR THE STORM,  SO I CAN KNOW IF THIS IS GOING TO STAND ANY FURTHER,

Oh so you live in his house but u arent married and you are waiting for him to marry you with the ill treatment hes subjecting you to?
Know what I think? You Sneezed in the soup!! why would he even want to drink it?
skip that.
Andy its a public forum and you are not a teenager. Your guy is just fed up with and wants to move on but he is giving you every reason to break up cz he lacks guts to tell you head on.
There's a kiswahili proverb' Akufukuzaye hakuambii toka'>>If anybody wants you out of his life will not use words but deeds. And you are still here making soup,pounding stuff and sneezing? And hes not even your Husband?

I wait to read a different story from you. Inked nerd and Thief of hearts have tried to make you open your eyes.cheers.

apple

We only spent on the honeymoon.
Everything else was taken care of by friends and relatives.
And it was amazing to say the least.God bless them all.

^^
Brown/rainbow teeth,dirty fingers and continous use destroys men's virility so I read.

3ndy:
This is a very interesting topic,
the man i'm dating and hopefully will marry
is a kind of both but recently is starting to become in-decipherable.
i mean when he still was courting me he was a lot sub-massive,
comprehensable,  loving,  dearing,  caring,
but now that he's tasted d fruit he's become dominant
annoying, boring, stressfull,
i've been biting my tounge for long but i don't know how to make him understand i'm really not liking him this way,
he's always comparing me to other women,  especially my sister,
while having XEX b4 he'd make me lots of compliments,
but now he remains quiet from beginning to the end,
and i don't even know when he reaches climax,  he remains queit even then,  i dunno what to do anymore,  i ask him sometimes
what he'd like me to do but he gets angry and asks me,  is this the kind of question to ask?? do what u want,  now i dunno hw to be submassive but anytime i asks him to cool down a bit he'll get all offensive and run head over heels,  and he definately knows i'm more educated than he is but he always want to prove me wrong,  telling me don't argue over things i know,  and i gently reply honey but it's wrong,  this is how it goes!! and he'll insist he's right,  now not to be offensive i mean i know a lot better so shut your mouth and listen, (what i'd like to say) but no man likes being dominated by their wives/girl etc

I would never ever settle with this kind of man even if I got paid a million bucks! .This smells of future abuse and cruelty.
Gosh.
Gal prevention is better than cure.

3ndy:
dear sisters i seek your advice,
and hope to be happy,
but i love the evans (his name) who cared for me!!
wont he be back??
maybe i'm the one who changed him!!
maybe i changed!!
i mean i think i'm still d same person but i'm not too sure anymore!!
i cry and ask him to stop huting me he apologise today and do the same tomorrow!!
he cares abt me i know as much but he doesn't burn for me anymore!!
he's never showed any signs of violence,
apart from once when he was drunk and shattered my dress,  nothing like hitting me or anything just dragging me away from whom he thought
was my lover,  and repeatedly asked me if the man was more important than him,  so maybe he's just scared and he uses what he has to protect himself.

3ndy:
i tried doing the same thing to him but we got into a fight,  and repeatedly hurted ourselves,
now i'm the type of person that doesn't have the right words at the right moment,
i never know what to say to convey my feelings seriously so i just say the most hurtful words in my vocabulary
i questioned him once,  i asked him if he likes her (my sister i mean) but he said he actually despise her not that much nut doesn't like her
and moreover i thnk he seeks of her approval,  just like the same thing he does with my mum,
i mean for him they are the ideal of a lady but not me,
he doesn't even like my cooking,  everyone likes my cooking but him,
and recently i'm feeling this pressure and i'm having less confidence in my skills and i0m becoming less good,  i no more like what i prepare,
i dunno what to give him to eat,  doesn't eat bread-- doesn't like eggs or pancakes,  ok doesn't eat sugar.
preferes  my sisters beans,  my mums soups,  then what do i have left??
maybe i really should give up!!

Its long since I felt like slapping anybody.But a slap of love to just wake you up from slumber and blindness.

Can you please hear yourself? Are u waiting to die in his hands before your Family knows what he put you through?
You know these kinda stories make me sick. Violence even before u marry?? you got lots of choices and you know what to do.
C'mmon get a man who respects and treat you like a lady.A man who loves you like he loves himself.Not one who keeps comparing you to others.
Where is the love here cz all I smell is cruelty? Your self worth is shattered and that is not the essence of a healthy relationship!!
If you are getting worse by the day than you were before u met him then hes good for nothing,cz hes only tearing you and pulling you down.
How does he expect you to be a good mother to his kids if he makes you feel unworthy?
I understand and feel what Inked is saying.Its really annoying.

It really pains me to see people blinded and expecting the best out of the impossible. How many responsible loving men do we have in this world really??

And let me tell u dear. The way to know an abusive relationship is when a partner keeps making making excuses for the abuser. Always telling him/herself that its their fault they changed!
May God open your eyes and help you before its late.

Wow! the very reason I support prenups! less headache.
ok lawyer show up and save a soul

^ dont wanna mess up your appetite but I guess its the no.1 reason its being banned from entering europe. not sure if its been effected.
But the farmers rake millions out of it.
Just guggle loudly and ul be fine  

jeez  chima silly!

Here is khat. Am sure u know it probably by another name. The outer skin is peeled and the stems chewed like gum.
The effect? no sleep (used by long distance truck drivers).
Funny thing? they chew it 2gether with gum. khat on one side and gum on the other. They always look like popeye
Marc the continous spitting is extremely romantic. love the sound before the spit and   

[img]http://t1.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRdD7qdwg6d3XhFjwOKUT-MKzejmOszE7lS2oJ5bcI2YCS7cZ6F[/img]

Thought!
nxt.

bigprick:
well, one might not be from a country, but might have lived in it at some point in time, so they can understand d language.

Not really.
I ever knew this pignin thing till I joined Nl and it sounds much funnier than normal english. Even though its difficult to understand everything,one can pick 4 english words in a sentence and understand what op is trying to pass across.
Thats how I do it.But i cant comment unless i fully understand.

I prefer a man in control but not a control freak.
If am the one running the show all the time,It will drive passion/respect away.
A man who challenges me is the best and I respect him even more. I hate a man who agrees with everything I say.
A submissive man to me is one who treats me as his partner and is still able to be in charge and take the lead.

you know lef,even though u sound silly at times ur really funny the way you tell. You make me laugh even though I fail to comment.

ok go post that link and stop guys from cursing the North cz thats what the pic depicts.Muslims in kangas are in the North and that is a Southern sudanese boy.

Okay op you are right.
But this is a 1998 photo!! taken by Tom stoddart and posted on a blog site

http://aangirfan..com/2011/12/deep-state-mafia-media-military-moslems.html

see how controversial it is?

S.Sudan and North Sudan are not like they used to be in the 90's during 'we are the world'

MsDarkSkin:
ok why are you making up stories?

a beg open up a WORDPRESS account jor.

onila:
someone from Kenya posted it on facebook from an East African newspaper. so I dont have the real source but the story is very true

brb with the truth.
South or North sudan? S. Sudanese refugees in feeding centres went back to rebuild their nation. They are doing well and swimming in oil

mg215:
Thanks for the good tips, i plan on going to east africa too. It would be helpful if you could teach me a few Swahili words, but i will go to the kamusi website. Kampala and Rwanda sounds like a lot of fun. I have heard much about burundi, but i plan to visit there. I just want a woman who i can connect too, i want to have a connection. Are you from the East Africa region, you know a lot about the area.

Tell nlanders more about urself and ul be able to connect with one at the dating section.
i c you r a newbie 

Happy 2012 Marc. May your tents be enlarged (not camping tents but the different areas of your life )

Poster mentioned generousity.Good attribute but that is not all that goes into a relationship.

I am dating a generous somali man but I love the way he chews khat even more.

funny. but if u wanna go EA. This is my take
Kampala>> Amazing sex. The gals could drive u mad kabisa.
Tanzania>> Humble,beautiful,kind and submissive
Nairobi>> Variety. beautiful,independent hardworking,anything.
Rwanda>> omg. The women are very very beautiful,tall and curvy hardworking too.
Burundi>> no idea really
Seychelles>> models.
Ethiopia/Eritrea>> Gorgeous beauties but tread carefully.They are wary of outsiders and their men very protective.
Sudan>> Black is beautiful. Tall and kind. I think only a sudanese man can manage a sudanese lady. (just my thoughts)
Somalia>> Beautiful women but they are in Dadaab refugee camp. You want 10 kids? they give u without complains. Just pamper them. They rarely leave their people and love living in masses and burning incense.

Could teach u swahili but I have 2 students already and am tired. Get a 'kamusi' >dictionary.

wish u luck livingstone

Always look on the bright side of life.We all learn through mistakes so thank God the man wasn't a rapist and he did well to throw u out at 7 am.
Infact that was too late. 6am would have been better.
You sound okay and sober like many other girls so help urself by hanging out with the right crowd and in the right places.
22, dont stress in finding a great man cz he will come knocking as u busy urself doing the right thing,at the right time in the right place,the right way and with the right people.
Dont complicate ur life cz its not that complex.
And note this'your destiny lies not with a mortal being.

C'mmon poster this is not proper marketing. Yeah pictures speak a thousand words but this speaks 100.
Post proper pictures of the interior cz thats what people pay for, not the outside plus detailed info. including costs if u can.
And where in lagos> for ease of access cz to me lagos is a city plus the port area.No other place I know except the famous bridge where angry nlanders throw themselves.
Finally finally,who owns the yacht? it helps determine the quality of service expected.
I can give u a client coming over there.

Your title is incorrect. That was YOUR LADY not LADIES.
Why are u crying now?instead of rejoicing at your discovery before tying the knot. We have heard it said over and over that a broken engagement is better than broken marriage.
Thank God u found out and find a girl/wife that values and respects her body, not one who sends her body parts to all corners of the world for reasons best known to her. could be her trade.
Then ask urself if your without sin. At times we are quick to condemn but we are the same people who ask other gals to send us Unclad pics of themselves.
We enjoy watching them but dont want them as gf/wives.

Dont be ashamed. pick your bows and arrows and go hunting again cz game is plenty.
why are u scared of ur parents? how old are u anyway? Dont they trust u enough as a man who knows what he wants in life?

It is possible to lust after many women but love only one. Humans are not animals.Even though a small % could exhibit tendencies.

[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=837964.msg9887722#msg9887722 date=1325604180]Lawd have mercy!

Generous men aren't ethnic specific and I am sure generosity isn't the ONLY REASONS why anyone date whomever.

They are attracted to someone who just happens to be Nigerian and generous. [/quote]
Happy new year gal.
advice.

Who said kids = shapeless?

I got 9 kids.And I find it hard convincing peeps I have a kid.

Be a sexy mom.Its very possible.

Poster is just thinking and talking her age. With time her mentality will change.