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Sexkillz u know we can last here a whole day so I give up.

You are more theoretical than practical.

sauer:
yeah, women who do not have regular sex and undergo frequent menstrual cycles, are in danger of suffering any reproductive cancer. This could be br/east cancer, ovarian cancer, etc. When ovulation is not interrupted by pregnancy, the ovarian surface starts undergoing repetitive disruption and repair. This can cause cells to proliferate, leading to cancer. For bosom cancer, am not sure if there are detailed scientific studies just yet. But studies of nuns show br/east cancer is prevalent amongst them.
Bottomline: if one is unbarred by religious sentiments, early sex certainly helps human growth!

Thank you for explaining in detail.I am more informed now.But as far as bosoms are concerned do u think its got to do with the milk ducts?
Probably they get clogged or something? not really sure just guessing here and I am referring to nuns who practice celibacy not girls who will one day get married and have babies.

La Parisienne:
If you got married  in your teens and it worked for you, fine and good. But pls stops forcing it on everyone cos we are not all the same.
Where I'm from, we don't celebrate teen marriages. I don't see anything wrong with a lady getting married between the age of 21-27.
As for the older ladies, you don't knw why they are still single. Pls stop all the judgement, you are not GOD.

Its evident you dint understand my post at all.I used the word prefer and early in life.What you should have asked me was what early in life means because that age you specified is close to what I mean even though 21 to me is still too young. 24- 30 is my early in life.
But when I say some communities practice teen marriage I mean it even though thats not the topic of discussion here.

I repeat again and this is what you need to focus on more.

1. Finish studying
2. Find a job.
3. If you are the marrying type then think marriage and dont wait to get it all cz that time will never come.

Be financially stable,socially stable,emotionaly stable before you jump into that institution. Now how long that will take, I repeat depends on your environment.

Read the part where I said some unmarried ladies are much happier than the married ones. That is enough to tell u that getting married to fill a gap is not the answer.

You dont have to worry if you are not ready because marriage is not forced.The societal pressure is what makes young women rush into it.
But its good when you find the right partner at the right time.

ugosly:
Exactly why I thought it sensible to bring the topic here to get medical inputs from doctors and mature experienced sisters in the house. Normally,I would have thought it was a lie too but I have witnessed two cases(family friends,no be dem say) of women who waited till marriage at the age of 29 and 31 respectively going through this experience.One is in her 4th year,while the other is in her second year and few months in marriage
. For that woman to boldly talk about this to the girls,I believe she must have strong medical proofs. Oga,I know wat I heard and I,m serious about it.

What I know is that ovarian tumours are prevalent among nuns because they practice celibacy forever. Ask any gynae to tell you the truth.
What happens is and this I read, is that a womans body is designed to carry a baby at one stage of their lives. Now if that doesnt happen tumours occur and they behave like 'babies in the womb'.
These tumours feed on blood the way a baby does and some women have mistaken tumours for babies only to be disappointed when they start bleeding heavily.
Now Tumour can cause Infertility and there's no dispute about that.I therefore think you missed to listen to the full lecture by the matron and only heard a small part.
Other than that, I see no connection.

Look here killz unless its a job he has no excuse coming in late every other day. For heavens sake the marriage will start dying a slow death.
If its a job people work around it and create time for each other to make up for lost time.They dont quit or move house all the time esp if they are only but employees.

By the way a job is not only about income but satisfaction. Which educated wife wants to sit on her degrees/master and wait for u to bring food everyday if she's fit and healthy to do the same?
You think it would be easy convincing her to quit her job cz u love her?? 

Ok he doesn't need to smell fragrance. I used that cz men are not good at hiding. I also don't like men who come home at 5 on the dot! doesn't he have friends to catch up with or a life outside the home?
Gosh I want my man to have some responsible freedom. Thats being man.

Cuddlemii:
Lolz at teens and help. How about advice for unmarried "ladies"? Btw Happy New Year!

Happy new year.

There's too much advise around here I am left with no advise at all.
Who is an unmarried lady? You know in some communities once a lady starts her menses shes ready for marriage.
But in today's hectic world one needs to be level headed up there. How long that takes depends on the environment she lives in.
I prefer a lady marrying and having kids early in life.To be sincere lateness is not my cup of tea.
But then who am I to judge? Some old unmarried ladies seem happier than the young married ones.
It all boils down to an individual.You wanna marry at 90 thats ur biz,you wanna settle at 18 fine and good its still ur biz.

Wheres uncle Orinkila by the way?

[quote author=maasai!! link=topic=51356.msg9939593#msg9939593 date=1326265659]Pendo incase you havent realised there is a huge market for home stay travels in kenya. Not everyone can afford to stay in a stared hotel and certainly not everyone can afford an IATA certified travel agent. Yes that includes meals, and why would you want to know the neighbourhood and yet its not you traveling? [/quote]Cz what you quoted is too cheap!! for a foreigner esp. That's breakfast money bwana.
Why shouldn't anybody trust an IATA agent? Give me one reason why I should not refer a tourist to an IATA one.If he cares about his safety he will be able to pay slightly higher than what the juakali ones charge. I just dont trust anybody cz I have worked in this industry before and some crazy agents have dumped tourists midway of a journey for failure to add money.Whom do they report to when such happens? nobody cz they are not qualified.
Why am I interested in location? men that rate sounds soo Dandoch. Please clarify. I have no personal interests really.
I just need him in good hands and then it will be non of my biz.
How best to help him? Point him to ur website.Let him browse and see what you have on offer. Rem this is a honeymoon and honeymoon is not just a come sleep eat and go affair.
It must be exciting and affordable but affordable doesnt mean poor quality. Guide him well if you really mean it.

Done laughing in woriah
Lemmie try and help the teens out there.
The world is crazy and there's lots of pressure from every corner to succeed careerwise and have a family at the same time.
Its enough to drive one crazy.
But girls for christs sake,its true there's what we call a biological clock in women.Its God's design but humans try to beat it.
Finish your study first,get a good job that puts bread on your table and if you have marriage in mind do not wait till you have it all.
By all I mean wealth,knowledge,experience etc.You will never get enough cz thats the human nature.Always wanting more.
And at what age will that be? I got no idea because some are lucky to finish study early and get jobs while for some it comes late.
I wouldn't advise any lady to marry just to fill a gap in her life.That is a wrong reason.Let her be fulfilled before she can being fulfillment in the other partner.


Having said that,theres no sin in not marrying.Its a free choice in a free world. And what matters at the end of the day is your happiness and the positive influence/impact you bring in a rotten society.

Hilarious comments. Just wondering what its like to laugh in somali esp after chewing khat.

sexkillz:
[color=#000030]What are the several reasons that'll make my wife come home late at night? Mind you, we live close to her place of work?
If your husband comes home late and you dont care, it means you dont value your marriage! So any male that has been with a female should smell of fragrance? Chei!
Who's talking about controlling a partner here? Did i also control her throughout the day?

If you'll be permissive about the way your marriage mate lives his life, that's your own what? Your own cup of coffee! It is out of love that i will not tolerate my wife coming home late! I cant bear anything happening to her because of a st[i]u[/i]pid job!. . . We live in a wicked world! Preventing situations is far easier and more economical than proffering and applying a solution! I wont allow a car hit me before i know i could get injured![/color]

first allow me to laugh at the way you reply.Its humorous.
But look here sexkillz you are talking about your wife while am talking about hubby.
Now we all know its unusual for a wife to walk in late as compared to the man. No married woman wants to walk in late cz shes got chores to do and kids to look after ie if they got some. Fyi married women start planning what they will do before they get home so u can see how eager they are to get home fast.

But lets say she works nearby and her job is a security one in nature.You know those people who are always the last to leave the office? (dont say its only men who do such cz a job is a job and we all know jobs dont come that easy). After ensuring the whole place is locked up, cctvs are working well,she gets held up in traffic,she passes by some shop to buy a thing or two and ends up home at 8.Is that late for you? Will u still move right behind the office compound?

What if there are no nearby affordable houses for you? What if you got kids in school and u need to factor in their transport as well? would u rather your kids arrive late cz u live a 1000 miles from their school? Or will u also move your kids to a school near your wife's place of work??
Are u telling me that your wife's job will always determine your moving house if she comes in late with genuine work related reasons
You talk about moving house like its a simple decision to make. Suppose you move today and she loses her job the following week?
Sexkillz reality is different from fantasy.
Now my hubby coming in late doesn't mean I don't care.It means I need to understand why he comes in late and not judge him unless he gives me reason to and the reasons I outlined up there.
Some things in marriage need a lot of understanding and maturity because you may end up fueling the very thing you assume you are preventing.

sexkillz:
[color=#000030]To them, "Independence" Means coming home to your husbands house late, and husband asking them "baby, how was your day?". . . Smh!
Thank God Naija women don get sense! With all the ritualists and "ogwu ego" miscreants, patrolling at night! Bro, to confirm my statement, just check all the answers on this thread, that supports women coming home late. . . NONE of those in support lives in Nigeria! [/color]

excuse me?? I live in the 3rd house from the 4th mainland bridge.Drop in for a mug of coffee.
But see your reasons for not allowing her to come in late.
And by the way how late is late cz the op dint specify. If my hubby drives in late (btwn 9 and 1 am) I wouldn't care as long as he doesn't come in smelling female fragrance or drunk.He ought to have a genuine reason and that I got no probs with at all. Besides I don't think it ought to be a daily affair unless its his nature of work.
There are several reasons that may keep a partner out late at night. You cannot be too controlling because for heavens sake,do those ritualists work only at night? What about the rapists? and what abt the cheating hubby/wife? with all the hotels and lodgings offering day rates?
I know, I know ul say the chances of all that happening at night are high.Security matters but you cant monitor a partners movements 24/7.
There are things that would raise suspicion if he keeps coming late eg,no intimate urge,no appetite, not interested in talking,smelling strange fragrance,avoiding eye contact etc

ugosly:
Hey pips,recently I overheard a house mistress in an all girls burden school,during a counseling session,advising and encouraging a group of young girls to ensure they start engaging in se.xual activities at age 18(being the age of consent)
Thank you.

I am finding it hard trying to believe that part.
But Unless its medically proven I say its a lie.

[quote author=maasai!! link=topic=51356.msg9939234#msg9939234 date=1326260019]Hi Suny, i can organise a home-stay for you if you are interested, its a neighbourhood that actually has alot of Nigerians, and in the end you will save a fortune. ( $15 for both of you including meals) [/quote]Masai for christ's sake hes planning a honeymoon not looking for a lodging.
I just calculated that and you mean to tell me he will spend ksh 1305 for 2 people? Is that breakfast or what? cz it cannot be accomodation plus meals in a reputable place. Okay lets say its possible what else after eating and sleeping??
You have not given sufficient details.Mind telling me the exact location of that neighbourhood??
Are u IATA certified just in case anything goes wrong? You know I look at any foreigner as a tourist regardless of colour so offer him what you will offer the european when he comes to visit.Do you have a website?

Sun2july:
Thanks alot@pendo, i think, package tour we most prefer but how do i arrange it. Thanks

The best way is to get an IATA approved Travel/Tours agent to help you arrange one.They will show you what is available and at what cost then you will be able to choose what suits both of u.
There must be certified agents in Nigeria if you want to book from there or better still a Kenyan based one can give you the best package because they are well informed.
I believe the best agent should be able to work within your budget.
Can I hook you with an agent in Kenya? If u need one let me know and I will be glad to assist. That's the Kenyan spirit.
Karibu,I just wish that u enjoy ur honeymoon and keep coming again.

Assumptions.

of course I would. its the reason that matters not time.

Lola I must commend you for your great sense of imagination
I will say again 'Lola's got talent' So don't limit it here on nl but let it work for you.
Keep it up gal.

Not all men.Those are insecure guys.But again,women who rub it on their men's faces irritate as well.
Have it all yeah but please act humble if you want that man to cherish you.

22 year old looking for 36 year old woman to marry? damn u are still in the cradle drinking milk and you want a woman chewing bones?
Think ahead and stop lusting after older women.The age gap is just too wide she will end up being ur sugarmummy!!
Seems to me that you are not ready to handle a 22 year old girl and am wondering why.
You are a man not a woman.

Sun2july:
No doubt Kenya is  a very fine place to be. I was thinking of travelling to Nairobi for my honey moon November this year. Pls can someone tell me of a nice and relative not too expensive hotel in Nairobi, d differences in naira to there currency and prices of hotel accommodation per day or hours either in dollar or naira. And any other info i needs to know. Thanks for contributing.

I know gallivant is better placed but I can still chip in cz I know Kenya inside out.
Thing is ,Nbo has good hotels but most people who stay in the city hotels are business tourists or those transiting to other hotels outside the city.
Serena,The tribe,New Stanley,Fairmont,Intercontinental,Fairview,Ole Sereni, Boulevard,goodness I could go on and on and on.

But listen no one wants to honeymoon in a busy city cz u need the peace,the relaxation,just the two of you not traffic noise.
If u need a good honeymoon go for a package tour. Its inclusive of flight to and from wherever ,shuttle services,tours to places you would like to visit plus accomodation in more than one hotel.A good agent can organise that for you.

Did u say November ?
The hotel rates are usually high during the peak season which is btwn Jul and Oct due to the wildebeast migration in the mara.
So its always best to book early before the hotels get fully occupied. And  trust me they do.

I mentioned package tour becz ul be extremely bored if u u choose to spend your honeymoon in the city.
Do not also forget that this year is Kenyas election year and politics will be in high gear.You sure dont want updates of political gatherings from your hotel room in the city 
Plus the threat of terrosist attacks is real and even though security is beefed up,Trust me, u want to be in a far away hotel from the city where u dont have to be frisked all the time, till this elshabab thing is over. When you come for anniversary then you can stay in the city and tour the vicinity.

Best honeymoon places in Kenya are the coast (beach and sunshine),the weather is something else.Very warm. At the coast warm clothings are unheard of cz its very hot, thank God for the cool breeze from the ocean.
The other place is the Rift valley.Now the hotels and sites there ul love.There's plenty to see and do as you honeymoon.
Lastly the central Kenya. Beautiful scenery,wildlife just everything.The choices are too many.

Hotels range from 3 to 5 star. A 3 star tourist hotel is great in Kenya cz the 5 star ones are for the likes of Biden.The figures are something else.
Your budget will help determine the hotel type plus the location. (just go out of the city for a cool honeymoon)
So if u really are serious,I can connect you to an IATA approved agent who should help you figure out what it is that you want.

ROE: 1 usd = kes 87.05.(damn still weak) Its usually 80.
         1 naira = kes 0.5.

I used the currency converter on google.

Note: If one finds the hotels damn expe,theres the option of guest houses and they are good.esp one methodist guest house. Its a hotel actually but dont expect beer and disco there cz its church owned.

I cant tell u the hotel rates cz it depends on the hotel or the discount the agent will give u if u choose to use one. They have a good rapport with these hotels if they bring clients and are given good discounts.Better than if u bkd directy urself.
Rates also depend on the service u choose. FB/HB/BB which one?

I have spoken a mountain but in summary note the following
1. The hotel location
2. Is it package tour?
3. Dates of travel and duration of honeymoon.
4. What u expect
5. And carry an expectant heart.

Its exciting.
karibu kenya,hakuna matata.

gallivant can help u choose a hotel

I double posted so ignore this pliz.

kokoye started this thread in 2008?
wow .

yep.

jay bee:
Using your Pareto's analogy pendo, he still has to determine which ratio will provide him with the best return/satisfaction.

Would he as a grown up man continue going to his dad to choose his bride for him or would he rather just follow is heart as most well informed people do.
Would he continue dating the girl knowing fully well the family has reservations and potentially can provid them problems in the future?

If we all believe the general saying that love conquers all then it's a simple decision for him to go with the girl as long as he ain't doing so because of the guilt he had be dealing with if he didn't.

IMO, parents should only be there to give blessings not to be a determinant factor when choosing a bride as they won't be their 24/7 throughout the marriage

lol at best return.Sounds economic.
But do you expect anything less than 100% when choosing a partner? Weaknesses aside,we expect the best.100% commitment,love with no room for doubts.
If we are seeking a biz contract that would be okay coz it can be reviewed,but this is a supposedly life contract

But I like and agree with what u say. Nobody wants disrepect their parents but I just cant understand why some parents seem trapped in old mentality.
Here is a smart son of theirs ready to conquer the world.Instead of letting him explore what is good for himself they cave him instead making him feel guilty.
I have discovered that a good no academically smart people have trouble making relationship decisions.I think much is expected out of them and they want to obtain Masters and PHDs in relationships as well.
Its just not fair. Wish he had a sober uncle to make the parents change their minds cz its true if u let parents choose the bride/groom,chances are they will run ur marriage as well and u cant blame them.
How old are u op by the way.

jay bee:
He has two lingering scenario weighing on his mind so the best thing he can do is weight the risk of whichever action he decides on and offcorse chose the one with the lowest risk.

Thats scary considering this is a marriage and he needs to go in with a fully made up mind,not a 20:80 situation.
In my view life decisions are a major risk and therefore if we choose to make them we must be ready to bear the full risk not half or quarter.
That gives weight/commitment to the decision.

Am just wondering which is worse.Going against parents wishes or denying yourself the freedom of choice as a grown up man.
Its good for a man to posess the ability to make a critical decision and bear the consequences or else he becomes a slave to the whistle blower.
Its also good to obey ones parents but one good book also warns these parents not to provoke their kids to wrath.