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do you love him..

Hope you are employed and have a source of income for yourself first

Are you ready mentally for the isolation and fighty fighty which will occur at the marriage ceremonies

Are you ready if your MIL or mum does not come round for omugwo

Are you ready if your husband starts abusing you and their is no one to caution him

if you are, please do a court marriage and start your life

They may come around.. if not love and money conquers all.. take solace in that

You do not marry a spose but the family too

lifehacker: and leave both to die?

You asked me who i would save

This statement contradicts the feminist mantra ////

lynpetra: 2sexy,you guys dey misunderstand the babe.I don't see anything wrong with her previous posts.Although I always advocate that ladies should go out and work for their own money,guys must still spend for their babe.No guy go tell me say him never give him babe money,or buy her gifts.They can actually come to NL and rant.I can only blame girls who are overly dependent on their man because no be everytime money dey dey man pocket.Life isn't always rosy!



The babe is entitled to her own opinion and so all those bashing at her are just wasting their time.

No gender has the monopoly of violence

Break the cycle now ...

Mujah1deen: they should pray and keep praying, Allah knows best ,he knows why he gave you this kind of husband, and maybe it is your duty on this earth to change him.

That cannot work
There is a huge potential for loss of life
Violence of any sort should not be condoned...

A seperation for a period (6 months to 1 year) may be an option before the finaliity of divorce

GOD has a hand in everything ...

You are free to believe anything else

Really have you put yourself out there or shelled up as CC said

A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother. - Pro 18.24

Loggin In.///


Ibra for World Cup!!!!


PS This has nothing to do with the fact that I love the short man

eh ya,,, u are too tired to process the post...

ish is sh*t

posting data from sources that do not reflect the reality on ground is the proper definition of kitchen stats

Nigeria has a modest literacy rate (60%) of course skewed by the high illiteracy up north and u come here saying we are illiterate
http://www.unicef.org/infobycountry/nigeria_statistics.html

Just calm down and re read the post again...

Divorce is an option in my book

Marriage is not by force

chineloSA: The minute we start accepting that we have a problem, the minute we can resolve the problem. When the literacy rate is so bad, how on earth can we have an empowered society. How on earth do you expect woman to be on par with man in a society which has always been patriarchal.

myself

So Oga @ The Top is up to some fricky ish...

But I fell in love after checking his profile nd salary on google.

Is this the love you been missing////

Bros she deserve am....
I swear she deserve am

Royal Roy: Lol Pickabeau...... praying for negativity might not be a good thing...... better for you to think and pray positively always.

bukatyne: Lol!

I was trying to tell Pickabeau1 that staying at home and working is different from staying at home doing nothing

Anyhow u spin it, some women choose deliberately to be home makers to focus on their kids
I have so many examples around me

macjive01: One thing is certain im not going to let her have her way. No matter what it takes.
Hoping to talk her out of it.

Man, I wonder how people could be so heartless.
Her only concern is the maid's "witch" kidney turning around to damage her daughter's other organs as the doctors warned could be a possibility.

I pray for such in JAH's name

[quote author=Stånd]Xxxxxxxx[/quote]context is key....dont make it that its only naijans fricked out about nuptial ish...

No one stops you from focusing on your career.. if noise too much... relocate...

It is better to live alone than with a violent spouse

This is not unique to nigeria

even in the great US of marriage is still seen as a culturally significant rite

An article by a feminist...


http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/roiphe/2013/10/marriage_and_the_dutch_what_americans_could_learn_from_the_conjugal_indifference.html


[quote author=Stånd]I think its high time JOBLESS women are stopped from getting married. Financial independence and a good dose of self worth and dignity is needed in situations where the MAN keeps ABUSING his wife knowing fully well that she has no life outside the one he provides for her.

#Again...Naija 'I must marry' mentality, follow-followism, family and peer pressure and the society at large contributes to the problem of single but matured ladies in this country.

......
I use Rita Dominic as my reference plus the insults and abuses she gets on this site alone....Why won't a woman like that rush into marriage with a beast![/quote]

Which gender (in)equality are you referring

Girls getting first or 2 1 is not news.. they beat guys in school...
they work offshore as engineers, telecomms...just like d guys

they own businesses...tara, bmpro, zapphaire events are all indudtry pacesetters

Which& inequality are you talking about

Instead of using data from desk analysts as diaspora e- warriors do , lets talk real life ish
Show me a woman denied an education because of her gender or a job or whatever....

chineloSA: Ok, perhaps outside of Nigeria. Gender equality is very bad in Nigeria. Talkless in Government. If you see those few people, especially when they are being celebrated, like the ones you quoted, that should tell you alot.

Woman in Nigeria would not be falling victims of abuse and they would not be choosing husbands based on money. So lets not deceive ourselves.
Seeing those 1,2,3 people infront of your eyes is not representative of woman of Nigeria. Seeing woman driving big cars funded by husbands does not mean anything.

I refer you to a few sites. Go to government websites and UN sites. So woman in Nigeria are not emporwered.
Got this Map from Wiki rubbish, thats the least I could do for you for now.
Green - ( most gender equality) most empowered, red- ( least gender equality ) least empowered.

As in eh.. Jonathan pls help us with these ASUU ish...

[quote author=isale_gan2] Where are all the Black guys? Some used to cry that Arsenal was the African team of the Premier League. [/quote]Please what skin colour is Walcott...

Someone should have gone to specsabres ...

not again... are the mods dead?!!!

^^^^8 years?? ........This age gap is normal in most parts of the country aside the SW

But she is too young..

khattab02: that is wrong Islamically. It is Haram! A woman can't be married to two men even logically.

Good to know Islam supports common sense
That statement should go to those saying polygny and polyandry are two sides of the same coin

naaaa

bukatyne:

So we can infer that a woman that accepts her hubby marrying second wife is a phool!

EOD

Thats not what i said, the phool is the man who will be the second husband

Why share a woman with another man when i can get my own harem

@chineloSA.. women are free to be economically empowered..
Nowadays females have access to education and employment opportunities
I have female colleagues and coworkers who are running tinz

The best student in Bells is a female who even had to drop out of Unilorin cos she got pregnant at 18

Moreover with more people like all you here who will not take abuse, this syndrome will die out

chineloSA: Anyways, I did not say give us the world to rule. I said woman should be given Economic power and freedom. Meaning the world should be enabling for woman to attain financial independence and freedom. Not when you want contract you have to be laid etc.

I dont know what men want!!!!!

You don't want woman to attain financial independence. At the same time
You don't want woman marrying you for money so that we can be comfortable.

What have we done to the male specie, to deny us Economic Freedom ?? Eeeeeeh??

yellowpawpaw: We can stay on d net going back and forth about abuse meanwhile d real koko is happening out there. Anybody wanna stop or help abusive pple, pls go to the field.
Preach it there. Join ngo. U r in church, join evangelism cos it will give access to pple direct and preach it outta there.

lmaoo... ypp your post is funny.. reminds me of this image...

www.nairaland.com/attachments/1397407_Nairalanders_jpg5831ecda0766fe0df276f4d4030da65e

PS No gender has a monopoly of violence; break the cycle

^^^ True.. we can always agree to disagree on some issues

bukatyne: A man should take responsibility for his actions

Is a woman allowed to marry a second husband if her husband is not a good husband?

She is .........

the issue is the phool that will accept

Why dont u jerk off if arsenal cannot acheive anything

Some of us are happy

Why take panadol for gunner headache ...

Eze Promoe: [color=crimson]And you should not fail to also remind me this when you make it to the Europa league next season

Arsenal ko, Bomb factory ni [/color]

Im struggling to decode... please put more letters


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Chillisauce: You wish
Sorry to burst your bubble.

^^ everytime i see your post,,, i laff n think of that meme on the family section...

do you refer to the same males that some of you refer to as randy goats, cheats, reprobates, pant chasers abusers and all the complimentary words you guys give males on this forum..


interesting ...

Caracta: Girls run their mouths anyhow and leak secrets over a bowl of popcorn. Guys (most of them) don't have time for petty talks. Girls sulk and cry when you hurt their feelings and keep malice for months. Guys talk to you about it immediately and 'force' an apology from you, especially when they are true friends.

Don't you just love them?

Yes

mysticgal: I've watched world war z @pickbeau and cooger,have you watched 'the details"starring the spiderman guy>>it really pissed me off

No.. wit your review will not even bother..

garfield