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Chillisauce: They love the money or the Men .

I agree with Stillwater.

99% are

is there any difference

You are free to agree with her.. opinions are like pure water...

[quote author=Night$hift]I hate when I give the story of my life on a faceless forum like this, people still question the authenticity. What will I gain telling lies and wishing this present predicament on myself if not that I find myslef in the situation?[/quote]Dear Sir, i dont doubt you but im giving your spous some benefit of doubt...dazall
No one can be totally innocent

^^^ ok o...

Please keep away from Naija men for your own good

The same people that are feted for their generousilty and ...

SA gals love naija guys die...

I hear akatas like naija guys too

Dont know much about the russians

Asians run away from naija males

[quote author=Night$hift]My brother, I don hala, I don shout, I don talk softly, I don preach, I don beg, I don cry(sic), I don kneel down sef. I no know wetin una want make I do again yet she won't give any reason for her actions. Na only to craze remain , and everyday she keeps graduating from one seemingly wicked act to another.
I have examined myself and my only offense in all sincerity is that I am making less money than her at the moment.[/quote]If this is true,,, she may have someone outside or in the wings

urban legends and dodgy research,,, hahahaha

gluv01: Buhahaaha...The girl looks like...hahahahah ;

orobooo huweee

Yes..

dopeJemi: Hair? Thought he was talking abt complexion

He said black women are not featured in music videos....

coogar: nah....
they have to show internet support to their fellow female. women are actually the ones that would raise the loudest alarm if they discover their baby brother is about to get married to a runs girl.

women with their mother hen attributes are more protective & they would kill before they see their brother getting married to the wrong partner.

all what you are reading here is just a facade.

hahaha... nice one... you are 100% right

baralatie: and some women died by goin 4 mr not perfect

Unfortunate..... risk management principles

After assessment you treat, avoid, insure or ignore... tajke your pick

bukatyne: This is Africa

Society does not help truly but life is an individual thing

[quote author=Donalð Genes][size=18pt]How many of our Artist dey use Black girls for their Video? ehh answer me?[/size][/quote]the truth is that our women are not proud of their hair (hence they use human hair to look caucausian) their figure (hence they tend to become skinny and thin).
Unfortuntely they are also agrressive .. the judge Shymexx will give you more information on that

But I still gbadun them..

Remember taht you are free to love any tribe, colour or race of woman that catches your fancy

Cest fini

[quote author=fresh_dude]Absence of respect sounds like a huge root cause, so also is absence of love. Perhaps, Night$hift has a portion of the blame in terms of the lack of respect that does not give wifey the right to be a nuisance.
But as some have said he must have caused his wife's behaviour. I advise him to change his ways and stop provoking his wife to anger. [/quote]hmmm.. May God help us

In that case, no problem

I think what you ladies have an issue is the reputational issues..


same actions

One is seen as a player and the other a ride...



Well i wish you all success in your campaigns.. maybe in 50 years time, promiscuity will be frowned equally by both genders

deols: Read what I wrote earlier. I agree with the Op. I would be angry if a brother knows and does not tell me aomething like this.

But I disagree that a guy being promiscuous is different from a lady being that.

The lady could even be wise enough to use protection amd the guy silly enough to contact STIs that may render him infertile. In women, The risk is not as much as you make it seem.

[quote author=Donalð Genes]NO sir at the Bolded? I totally disagree, and why do you think the myriad of Nigerian Artists crave to have fair ladies in their videos? Literally speaking, Black ladies are so fine but not as much as the fair ladies,just a nuance difference sha[/quote]your opinion.. nothing like black beauts anyday...

Superb fresh skin, curves, every..

very pragmatic post...

andromida: I don't believe he is showing any mixed signal. The signal is clear he is not fully committed to her, marrying a woman does not mean a man is fully committed to her he may have married her for any reason in his mind. Maybe he feels its time he settled down with a good girl and then continue living life like a bachelor. Talk is cheap anyone can tell you all sorts of sweet things if their actions don't match what keeps you from walking away or taking a step back.

She knows,he knows those ladies are not just friends nobody bothers to hide "just" friends names. She knows he is lying to her but she is still there. She may want to ask herself why? she is responsible for herself this is the reality right now. How can he love her and disrespect her consistently. Again why is she there? so maybe she can handle it, maybe she likes the drama, maybe she feels this is as good as it gets, maybe she is scared of being alone again, being alone at a certain age is not easy. Maybe she believes in him that this is a phase and he will grow up. He may even be a Muslim and is entitled to extra wives. Some women really can handle cheating men they know how to turn a blind eye as long as he is good to them. If she is completely unhappy she will be long gone.

hmm... incidentally he had a NDE according to him so you may not be far from the truth,,,...

I believe we should look at all sides and try to get the root cause of the actions of people...

To help his heart, he should be calm...but i still think that divorce shd be last resort

[quote author=fresh_dude]Lol. Thanks for the compliment.
However, I don't share your optimism, that is not to say it's not salvageable o.
The way I see it, I find it strange that this woman has been this way has been this way for years and my guy has been enduring because of his values and their child. Now, wifey has come into the big time and all of a sudden it's no longer her usual tantrums and drama, she's threatened divorce and has almost made good on it.
Now, people say she's being instigated, I agree. But I also know that she could be instigated to include one powder or concoction in Night$hift's food one day(apparrntly, her family thinks for her). It has been known to happen, who's to say it can't happen to OP? And that would be that. She may or may not be caught, and if she is nko? Will that bring OP back from yonder?
And that's just one likely-death scenario. Who's to say OP won't die prematurely from excess stress? Do we know the condition of his heart, does he, himself, even know?
It's noble to want to save a marriage/home but, at what cost!
It takes two people to have a marriage and one of them is already one-and-a-half leg outside. He should cut his losses and move on.[/quote]

bukatyne: People scream TIA especially when they wanna give reasons why a woman should be oppressed in her marriage

It's well

TIA is what please

weazley: i had seen read smth like dis bfore, amean with d seizures , on a website, a boi had frequent seizures and d father used marijuana i think , chewin marijuana could help d situation,

I saw that documentary on CNN...

Important he gets his head back into life

This thread may help

https://www.nairaland.com/1347408/feeling-suicidal-come-here-first

i knew it was an urban legend.. hence the 'strange' qualifier

However dont be surprised some dodgy research will appear in the science journals soon

Thats how some researchers said men were responsible for menopause cos they left older women for younger


http://www.livescience.com/37430-male-preference-younger-women-menopause.html

Women go through menopause because men have consistently preferred younger women in recent evolutionary history, according to a study published today (June 13) in the journal PLOS Computational Biology.Thus, menopause is not evolutionarily advantageous and may be the result of a series of random, harmful mutations that accumulated in women but weren't acted on by evolution because the women had already reproduced by the time the mutations affected them.

Ok's LAW///// Abi,.. easier to enter a door once u know the key is under the doormat.. hahahahaha

coogar: that's a lie from the pits of hell...
the more a dude shägs, the better for his sëxual health & the incidence of prostrate cancer is reduced to the barest minimum. a married man that is shooting blanks must have been shooting blanks since his birth - it has nothing to do with his sëxual history.


abortion is way worse.....
yes, sometimes runs girl are the most fertile but why would i even want to take such risk? my chances are better with a non-runs girl than a chic that has been passed around the block. there's also the small detail of okafor's law to consider.

bukatyne: I believe there is a difference between 2 - 3 relationship before marriage and been a runs person.

I thought you were referring to a runs person

play the field - have relations a bit here or there.. see more definitions

http://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/play+the+field


play the field
to date many different people rather than just one. When Tom told Ann good-bye, he said he wanted to play the field. He said he wanted to play the field while he was still young.

play the field
to have many romantic or sexual relationships She's not interested in marriage at this stage, so she's quite happy to play the field.

[quote author=fresh_dude]They want to meet Mrs. Night$hift. But they don't ask for the husbands of the multitude of women who spam the family section with tales of woe abourt their husbands and in-laws.[/quote]hahahahha.. u are officially a funny guy.. but i stil think this situation is salvageable

Me im not a fan of afrikan culture...

u see the name

A fi ri ika... translate

if we have values as we think we do, we will not be corrupt and let our students idle away in misery, let our aged die in queues waiting for pittance or deny workers a fair and equitable wage

All that values crap na wash

I agree with you, what is bad is bad

bukatyne: Sure you read my posts?

What is bad is bad.

Everyone knows stealing is bad; whether some people will be friends with one or marry one is another kettle of fish

Funny enough, it is still Africans that will be screaming culture and how western culture is eroding our 'values'

Chillisauce: And I thought I was carrying you along

I just dey look u.. hahaha

bukatyne: How does this relate to 'due to career, people run the field'?

This is what i meant.. nowadays its getting rarer for people to be single relationships into marriage.. more common are 2 or 3

Some may be principled to be chaste thru the relationships but a minority... so its reasonable to expect some mileage

Extreme mileage is what is frowned upon.. You get now? phew

That is commendable of you.. i wish you success in your relationship

Nice point.. in my experience na the runs babes sef dey fertile pass


They know how to treat men and even may be prggers before D day... so no shaking


But e dey happen wey lacerations exist in the womb

True at bolded..
Do you know in the old days, people used to divine to know the fertility of women...

Chillisauce:

What I was trying to say its that things happen for a reason,
One is TTC doesn't mean they perform a lot of D&C.

I had some very bad friends during school days, they all got married while in school and got their kids too.

While some very good girls, got married after school..very good..but they are still TTC.

What went wrong. I'm not in the position to judge.

Don't be surprised, OPs sister in law might even be the first to get twin boys.

and there you have it wrong ... no one is perfect and there is no one world view as you seem to advocate round these parts

I believe there are multiple world views ...

I agree with the bolded but be cognisant that some will manage the situation

Some will move on and find their own Mr Right
Some will move on and regret their non compromising stance

Everyone to hissef

The fact you dont like the advice does not mean it is not realistic

bukatyne: Sarca gini?

You seem to have the perfect advice

Nobody is looking for Mr./Ms. perfect because there is none. We all have our little issues but some things are not issues. A cheat, abuser, liar etc. is not fit for marriage however you spin it.

Let's stop all these manage 'anybody' advice we dish left, right and center.

Chillisauce: Why you come spoil show na

so u sef know say u dey misyarn

bukatyne: How many career people run the field?

Are you dating your first boyfriend
If you are then you are not the people the statement referred to

bukatyne: make sure you frame this advice and keep it in your living room for your kids to see everyday and emulate!

Not sure i get you,, r u trying to be sarcastic...

@chilli.. i like you being pragmatic on the issue andthe fact you kept true to yourself
You even comtenplated single motherhood,,, bravo!

You keep it real and I can deal with that rather than people who cant put their face to the plow but will chicken out at the first stop

[quote author=fresh_dude]So, in your opinion, he should wait for it to become physical? I see the man can't seperate now because he has no right to peace of mind.[/quote]I am saying they should submit to counselling before seperation

Things can go south if seperation is not well managed too .. promiscuity, etc

deols: With all the forms of contraception available, she could be ever ready but never pregnant. There is no reason to allow male promiscuity and victimise the ladies involved.

NObody is victimising any lady ,,,,
we are saying how it is

Will you allow your blood brother to marry a course mate u knew was promiscous in school days and had had multiple d & Cs

Lets be real here and just not brng theoretical stuff

Its a fact, due to people marrying later to set up careers and stuff, people will run the field but moderation is key