₦airaland Forum

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@ Op that lady never loved you or the right word would be respect. Trust me I have been there.It just that she does not know how to tell you so as for them not to be at fault later on.Ladies do that always especially the ones you thought are quiet and well mannered. My advice just dump her and
get a better one with empathy and respect.

sapphiere:
Mother is female, child is female. So?

What about the adopted male child?

sapphiere:
The gender is the correlation

In what sense exactly.A mother and child have not seen each other for years since the mother abandoned her. She then adopted a man who later got married to the lost child. What does it have to do with gender please?I don't get your logic about gender?

sapphiere:
To those who support and protect women, may you have double celebration this month just like this woman in IJN


The FUTURE is FEMALE

I am sorry but what is the correlation between the above post and yours?

lanjum:
What's special about that. I can do more than that just that I don't have salary to transfer

It is not about the money.She did this for her hubby to have peace of mind.

OscarJaden:
A relationship should be 'I water you,you water me,we grow together


Not I water you,I water you,I still dey water you

It is that simple no complications and drama.

Moikiitos:
Our Constitution is the biggest scam and one of the biggest problems among others facing and endearing growth and development in Nigeria.

Unless this is changed to reflect and represent Nigerians. We will have no peace, growth and development in this country, no matter who comes to power.

This is my main point. Some few people in power will never allow it to happen as long they are in power.These people are who I call oligarchs.

Coldie:
U didn't answer my question who are the oligarchs

I am in no position to answer you.Go figure it out sir!

Coldie:
Who are the oligarchs?

If they are hidden then how do u know who to fight?

Look! Don't be naive. This is too obvious to answer.I don't want WAR but as long as there are people benefiting from this current constitution.Social media agitation is just like a puppy barking.This is the reality.

Coldie:
War between who and who?

The people and hidden oligarchs with veto power through the faulty constitution.

Coldie:
People who wrote that 1999 constitution are real thieves

It is not just about bad leaders.The main problem is the 1999 constitution.That constitution is created based on oligarchy not democracy as most people believed. When such constitution is active. Christmas for looters ! The only way to amend the constitution for the people is WAR. Ofcourse we can't afford war but every other diplomatic options we would take will only lead to the insurmountable option.WAR! Only true lawyers can see how deceitful that constitution is.

Hello house ! Please any latest news about customs recruitment ?As in APL.

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BigSarah:
Lol... They have to, who else will pay them sitting allowance elsewhere?
I support secession!
Meanwhile : Biafra and Oduduwa which way

samelesbee:
31st of this month is sure. Congratulations to us all.

How geniune is this ? Source please! Or it's just a hunch.

Stephen038:
Somebody said He/She got an info from an insider that the list will be out today?? This is to remind the person that today is 21st

Is the person a transgender?

They said! Somebody said! An Insider said ! Who we go believe now?

saphiere:
I don't support her but you yourself don't act mature

Please! how does a matured man handles a thief.Explain to him and I'm curious of your answer.

daroz:
How can you do this to your girlfriend? How much is 120k that you now have to bribe the police with 20k?
It’s not that I am supporting her , but I think you went too far. You should have be more matured.

If you are being sarcastic,you are an insensitive idiot.If otherwise then you are a very stupid simpson that cannot differentiate between girlfriend and a thief because of pussy. Dont expect an apology. You need to learn some sense.

To everyone that attended the screening. Be positive all will be well as long all your credentials and medicals are not found wanting.During the screening I observed something after the documents verification.A new file was created for each candidate and your exam slip or registration slip must be there. Your exam slip contains all the candidate information available.From my observations,it is obvious they are doing registration and creating a medical history for each new officers.I have a hunch that all those that attended the screening will be given APL. This is my verdict. By God's Grace most importantly.

Sixfeetbelle:
Why are you only seeing this from the angle of the woman hating the man's family? Can't it be the other way round? You do know some mothers do not 'approve' of their son's wife and will do anything to frustrate her? Including inciting the other family members against her?

Nowadays it's always the case. That is why I brought it up.The man should play an important role here instead of being naive. Balance! Trust me I don't hate women. I only hate emotionally selfish and manipulative women with passion. That is why I said if I see such. Even if we just got married I would divorce her immediately.

texazzpete:
Oya na. This same philosophy is why many widows are out on the streets. Their kids condemned to a life of neglect and poverty. All because their useless fathers preferred to leave everything to his brothers and sisters instead of explicitly providing for their nuclear families.

Notice how it’s only wives people attack with this nonsense. Never husbands.

If someone opens thread to say his wife treats her brothers better than him, her husband, Nairaland misogynists would have a field day.

You misunderstood my words.I said balance is everything.That is what fathers failed to do. Don't pick sides. Picking sides creates division and kills family peace.What is wrong is wrong and what is right is right.Don't sugarcoat your wife offenses and any family member offenses. This is the ultimate role a man plays.

seunayantokun:
This your view about life isn't good.

What he says has a lot of meaning.Only few people would understand this very deeply.

Sterope:
UTI is very stupid and is making a very stupid point.

You are just contradicting yourself. Harry's family is not sensible. She did not alienate Harry from his family. They alienated them. Her non-royal status, possibly her job and race were used against her.

I am not! Harry protected his wife but to leave your royal status for a lady who has experienced marriage before is very extremely immature and foolish. As of his wife if she really respects Harry as her husband she will do everything to convince him not to forsake his family. But trust me if they divorce, Harry will crawl to his royal family. They can go as far to another planet together but Harry should not forsake his family.Harry's wife should understand that she is part of his family.See romantic love is just for a moment.Trust and Respect is what keeps marriage.

texazzpete:
Small boys on Nairaland will come out to defend Uti.

How dem Dey take marry some of una sef?

Even a 7 year old in primary 3 will define ‘nuclear family’ for you as ‘father, mother and children’. If you don’t owe your primary loyalty to your wife, who should you be loyal to?

“I cannot love my wife more than my mother” forgetting that your own mother had her own mother and left her to form a family with your dad. If you see your mother giving more respect to your uncle than your dad, won’t your body do you somehow?

I bet some of you grew up in households where your fathers had to sleep outside or eat the small piece of chicken whenever your uncles came visiting


Abeg, don’t let poverty stricken, illiterate bus conducted on Nairaland tell you you’re a ‘simp’ for giving your spouse the respect they deserve and your primary focus. Even the Bible talk am sef say two to become one.

Some of the clowns will say “why will you ditch your blood family for someone who will dump you and move on”. That is why you need to marry carefully, and not because Sikira has big boobies or big yansh.

Mr man ! Balance is key!

Odidigboigbo:
Uti' statement may be extreme but somehow make sense. Only a fool will abandoned his immediate family because of a woman. A real man knows how to strike a balance between family and wife. To all men, not everything about your family you discussed with your wife and not everything about your wife, you discussed with your families. Know how to shun anyone that seems to be crossing his boundary, be it your wife or relatives.

Only matured men understands this. Kids nowadays will never get this. Balance is the key!

salem1996:
Honestly these women are trying o. Imagine marrying a man like uti,I just can't imagine what the woman will have to put up with. That woman will be miserable that's for sure. The funny part is such women will be the ones to demonise other women who choose to walk away from their marriages ,they will claim "virtuous woman" title for staying in such marriages


I will do anything to my best to protect my wife. Most Nigerians (both from the male and female) don't know the value of another person (aand spouses inclusive). Little wonder too many divorces in our days.

After God, my wife comes next and no one can dear change it, even my kids comes after her ooo

Protect your wife but don't forsake your family as simple as that.

Sterope:
How about saying that there is no possible situation where your family would be rude/hate your spouse.

I don't see my family doing that EVER. If that happens, my brothers will expect to turn my back on them. They are young but they have sense.

Marry into sensible family please.

Exactly! A sensible family takes you as their wife not as an object of prejudice. But some immature ladies who want to get married have already started having hatred for their future partner family even when they haven't met yet.It happens all the time. If I see such, consider that relationship over.
Any lady that uses some romantic love as a weapon to emotionally blackmail their man in separating from his family instead of the otherwise is going to be a very very bad wife.Another point is if she is alienating herself from his family,That is a very bad sign. This is what Uti is trying to point out.

I think we all misinterpreted what Uti was trying to point out.His main point was that family comes first in everything. What people don't understand is that his future wife will also part of that family. He only used Clifford as a point of reference on how determined he would go for his family.That is all.
Using a convicted cannibal or man-eater as a reference is pretty dumb though.
Let us be sincere! Romantic love is just temporary. Trust is permanent in marriage.A mature and sincere women knows this.

sk92:
Out of every 10 people dat went for the screening... only one will be qualified meaning out of every one hundred candidate only 10 will be selected and out of the 3, 200 only 400 to 500 maximum will be selected on merit. The rest na slot, and the majority of the merit candidate without connection na junior staff. Lol. Even soja na 1.68 hieght but custom, them tell u say na 1.70. Use ur no. 6 if u get one.. Them go check chest , BP, 4 klm in 20 mints ECG etc... forget character, them fi tell character that those who represent so so local goverment all of them no meet criterie. Common sense should tell u If the wanted to pick the 3, 200 out of the shortlised they would have shortlisted atleast 20,000 candidates for the screenin...Wetin character go do if u no reach criterie. So lets all keep praying. If u no gree ur on ur own ( OYO).
CUSTOM SCREENING NO DE DIFFRENT FROM ANY OTHER PARA MILITARY SCREENING IN NIJA... The real game starts after the formalities! Goodluck everyone

The above bolded just explains why this is not true at all.it is obvious you are assuming.I understand things didn't go the way you expected.Anyone would feel sad about it.But you never can say, you might end up working for CBN.Please try to be positive and wish your colleagues well man.

For those about eye test question.

Crownofwealth:
The most important thing is to pray for God's grace. The guy before me could only see four lines in the eye chart. The medical officer told him he had short sightedness and thereafter went to ask his boss which result he should write for the guy. The chief medical officer asked the officer to write that the guy was able to read the words in the chart perfectly with the use of his glasses. He also told the guy he just wanted to help him. God's grace is what we need.

Does it really matter that much for one with shortsighted.I used to wear glasses before but stopped it so as not to rely on it all the time.I don't see how that will affect work productivity.I believe this is just to know your health history for future references.Anyways God's grace is always the final thing.