₦airaland Forum

jaxxy:
u are delusional if u think most women want a man who dominates them because he has more money. That is a great mistake. They tolerate ur nuisance because u have more power that's all. Let the table tilt in their favor ans see what happens to u.

I don't think you are making sense even to yourself.
Of course when the table is turned and they are richer than you it goes against their natural hypergamy, which results in being more bitchy. You are making my point!

jaxxy:
This are because u allow them or accept them. if u rejected what u don't want like women do then there will be a balance.

I don't care what women want. if u are rich u should care about what any one wants u can go for who u want u mustn't marry a broke gal because society says only a broke gal can marry u.

Has nothing to do with what society says. Most men want a woman they dominate, while most women want a man who dominates them. I think nature made it that way

jaxxy:
who cares about their desire. what of the man's desire? Do u think every man wants to marry a pretty broke gold digger??

Well na men they stupid sha. U have been warned if u can't find a confirmed genuine person better marry ur level or above.

women are not configured to marry up financially. there are women who marry down financially bt the man must be up in some other areas.

There is how you want things to be, then there is how things actually are. A rich woman would rather marry a richer man, while a rich man wouldn't mind marrying a poor woman. That's how it is in all aspects of life - women want to marry a higher man. That's just the way it is

Iamicekid:
Lol typical Nigerian, everything revolves around money, this ur story u just put down not everyone is so desperate for papers, there are job that gives you sponsorship, some give u PR, not everyone has to go down the road of paying to get married and collect papers or faking marriage to collect papers that’s desperation right there, and that one of the things u people do that spoil our name over here, I don’t know the kind of setting you grow up in that making you reason like this, but cause u no get money doesn’t mean u shouldn’t look good or smell nice and doesn’t mean u can’t attract girls here, this is not Nigeria that everything has to be transactional, last I can remember sef u can still get enough girls attention by just looking good in 9ja now abi 9ja has been that bad ni or na u guys no just get game anymore that now makes u think having money equate to having girls attention that if u don’t have then no girls for u but pls change that mindset b4 u move abroad peace ✌️

I'm not sure you know the import of the word MOST which I wrote in capital letters. This discussion is why many Nigerians go home to marry. Most people think it's to satisfy people or parents or this or that, when it's simply because that's their best option. And many Nigerians can't even afford to go home, so either they stay unmarried or they marry whoever they can marry abroad.
As for money, it's important because time is money. You can't be working all the time and saving and sending money, and same time have time for all sorts of toasting and schmoozing with girls, and all the expenses that go with it. When in Nigeria you'd have lots of time, plus your money will go further, plus better girls will regard you more. It's common sense.

jaxxy:
where are the people that said women should marry up and guys should marry down?

See una life?

Hypergamy is a scam. Every body should marry their social level or class to avoid story that touch.

Nobody says that. It is just how women are naturally - they have an inate desire to marry up. If they can't satisfy that desire they may settle as they get older, but they won't be happy about it!

Iamicekid:
Cause most of them can’t hold conversations, some of them no even sabi toast woman without having to flaunt something, so when they see they have nothing to flaunt to impress woman here they go back home, where they find someone they think they can control with the little they have only for them to bring them over later then wahala go start… I started my travel journey from SA na from there my standard of woman increase, then I moved to Russia that when I started dating whites and they are lovely souls, one of my gf at the time even came home to 9ja with me then, then I moved to Germany even tho there are some racism here, I still dated white and she was also lovely, went to Poland too but didn’t stay there long but the ladies i hookup with where lovely now I’m in Sweden and my standards and taste in woman keep increasing.. knowing fully well I could have married any of this ladies but I wasn’t ready to settle down yet cause I know I still get a lot of journey before me that why I always find excuses to cut it off and most of them we still talk from time to time, one even had a conference she came to do in Sweden last month and she stayed at my place.. see ehn if you are a Nigerian and you have no problem in letting a woman have an opinion or say and you bold enough to follow them talk without having nothing to flaunt in other to lure them, try talking with any woman outside 9ja and see just date one for just a month and come give your report

With all due respect, this your story seems made up on the spot for the occasion.
Here's how it goes for MOST Naijas abroad - they're busy working overtime probably at some menial job AND saving and sending money. They have neither the time nor the money to be doing all this toasting you are talking about. PLUS they have to scale racial prejudice, cultural differences, and the natural hypergamousness of women. Only a certain class of women would be open to most of them, and usually it's not the type of woman you'd want to marry - unless for paper. Even at that, many Nigerians have to PAY a girl for fake marriage for paper because they can't find even a low class girl to marry.
They go back to Naija to marry because that's their best option, not because of any of these other things you think.

Beloved009:
And instead of you to be part of the 36%, you decided to be part of those 64% struggling

Humans are not that different from one another.
Doing a regular job and working overtime all the time, you can be part of the 36% to the extent that you saved say, $20k. But not to the extent that you did all these below. It is simply impossible.

Archie30:
Nigeria is my heritage and this has nothing to do with Nigeria but everything to do with FACT and LOGIC.

Focus on real life.
REAL LIFE in UK is full of men who had to leave the house for their wives and children, you can hardly find a case where the wives and children left the house for the man!

Iamicekid:
Lol if u say so but you see that the place of a woman u just talked about is the main reason they come home to marry and bring them over here, and find out later that person wey u go marry for her to know the place of a woman will even be more power drunk when she gets there, I been in a relationship with Atleast 6 white girls since have been here, they don’t smoke not even occasionally not everything dey portray to u guys in movies are what they truly are, same way not how they portray African living standards is not how we are truly living… Most of u people just want woman that will listen to you only and not hear are own opinions or ideas and come to an agreement, do ur laundry every time and cook for you every time that’s the main reason u come home to marry, fact check guys that can do chores themselves without seeing it as a problem or a woman thing once they come abroad don’t see any reason date a Nigerian again ✌️

You've been in relationships with at least 6 white women? I won't say you are lying but where exactly is this? There are of course exceptions, but truth is that vast majority of Nigerians abroad never go into relation with any white woman, and lots survive on hookers, almost-hookers, or far-from-wife-materials!

But they won't tell you that. They'll tell you they had a long line of gorgeous white girls begging to marry them but they meekly decided to go home to marry, being the meek, righteous people they are!

Archie30:
Not true!!!. If she's making a complaint, you are making a counter complaint. You are not leaving the house! Simple! In UK, only court bailiffs can evict you from your home. Get that into your head. UK isn't US !!!. In fact, if there 're children involved, common sense and happy path decision for the police is to take the woman and kids to a safe home while you are being investigated. Do not leave your home OKAY!!!

You must be in Nigeria or think we are discussing Nigeria
Anywhere in the Western world you hit a woman, you are at minimum leaving the house if she calls police.
Check out this below. The man said avoiding such fate was exactly why he never hit her back. And this was in UK not US

Archie30:
But I'm no sure where they get the idea that you could kick your husband out in UK. Rule of thumb, if tenancy agreement is in your name or jointly held, nobody kicks you out or makes you homeless. She phones the police, no problem, them too can't kick you out of your home. Importantly, ensure you have your lawyer's contact handy. Do not accept to leave. Simple! If you do, that's willingly making yourself homeless. Then if you have a joint mortgage make sure ownership of the house or flat is also shared; the percentage owned by each person should be clearly stated in the property deeds. Don't be deceived by make belief or fly around gossips. They 're all bullshit bingos. Just be clear to protect yourself and make sure you lose not a penny of your hard work

Darammliveth:
This sounds brilliant.

Not so brilliant. If your wife says you beat her, you'll have to leave the house, maybe even arrested, whether you like it or not. If she later gets a restraining order, you can't come near the house while things are sorted out - whether the house/lease is in your name or not!

Iamicekid:
Not all go for the best option most of you go back home to marry cause of your nonsense tribalism, racist, ignorance and pressure from ur families to come marry a 9ja girl that’s fact, ask 100% of Nigerian guys overseas and 80% will confirm this as why they went back home to marry ✌️

This was in the past. These days most guys leave Naija with exactly this mindset you have, swearing not to marry a Nigerian girl, but most quickly find out that's the only way they can marry a fairly decent, non-smoking, non-drinking girl who understands his culture somewhat, and understands the place of a woman. Find out how long Nigerian-foreigner marriages last, green card and non-green card!

But they were all prophesying he won't win!

Bvlgari:
But wetin concern politics with this story now ni tori Olorun

E consign am small. Na small small e dey take start, b4 you know wetin dey happen, e don run for president steal election

Olurondo:
Tinubu is a very matured and elderly figure who is not given to bitterness and hatred.Bukola Saraki stole the Senate President Office and then decamped from APC to PDP. Saraki childishly snubbed Tinubu in this event but Tinubu called him back and hugged him.Tinubu has the required emotional stability to be the President of Nigeria. Not like Peter Obi who will be crying like a baby on TV because they lost the election!!

Wrong!
Saraki behaved towards him the right way.
That's the way to behave towards an unsavory character, otherwise he'll think he's ok like everyone else..
That's the way you treat someone you KNOW to be a thief and druggie!

Biodun556:


When we say Tinubu doesn't play politics of bitterness people don't believe.

Oh no, not at all. He only plays politics of MC Oluomo and thurggery and ballot snatching, and burning people's shops

DeLaRue:
All of this disgraceful and uncivil behaviour of Mr Saraki is because of what...politics
cial media currently.

You are saying this because you don't know what Saraki knew.

How would YOU behave if you KNOW for a fact someone is a thief and former drug lord??

Or do you think we call him THIEFnubú by accident?

Bluezy13:
Did he "mistakenly" pay a lesser amount as you put it

He who comes to equity must come with clean hands.

Doesn't matter what happened, what matters is what the woman believes happened, thereby knowing she does not owe him anything

Bluezy13:
Don't go explaining to the woman. You'll never earn her trust again.
Be sure to give an equivalent amount to cover-up the cheating with sincerity.
If you were to balance her #400, go to her shop with #500, buy stuff worth #100 and tell her to keep the balance. If she insists on returning it to you, tell her you remember you were owing her #400 a long time ago and although she must have forgotten but it feels right to pay her back. Walk away as soon as you finish talking.
Be at peace with your mind.


That's if and only if this story is true

This is NOT restitution because in her mind she'll be owing you a favor. Restitution is tell her you mistakenly paid a less amount and will balance her later. Then balance her

Najdorf:
You've mentioned one thing so far which I completely agree with, and that's the fact that getting into the US alone doesn't equal wealth.

With that said, this doesn't mean opportunities do not exist. Sadly, these opportunities are not open to everyone. It's for those that are ambitious, smart and ready to work hard. If you're an average person there are just some levels you may never reach in life. It's just the sad truth. Mind you, even with the 60% having almost 0 savings and living paycheck to paycheck, there is still a sizeable population, the remaining 40% that you forgot, of about 120 million+ people that are not living in that condition and are leading more buoyant lives.

It's up to everyone to make their decision whether it's the 60% or the 40% they want to be.

The remaining 40% cannot achieve what we are talking about (see it below) with a regular 9 to 5 job, living a normal life. The way the society is structured, it is simply impossible!

Iamicekid:
I will repeat their is no law that said a Nigerian must get married to a Nigerian, that’s where most of some guys downfall start from, u dey there find girl for there marry white girls plenty as long as u sabi hold conversation you go see them, they ain’t power drunk like this girls wey unna go come bring and they just taste Small power like this, e go dey shark dem any how and even if you ain’t attracted to white girls there are other African nationalists there go for them and avoid all this nonsense ✌️

Genius, you think it's that simple and they won't all be married to "a nice white girl". People go for the BEST option they can find. Don't think he had better options before he went to Nigeria to marry this girl. That was his BEST option!

SenatePresdo:
I'm not diabolical, but if you try this with me,

I will call one of my uncles in the village and narrate the story to him.

And ask him to fight my battle, then send him money for mobilisation.
Na you go use your leg dey go your papa house.

Na mumu dey go court

But if the guy beats her, then he deserves it.

Typical gullible Nigerian with juju in his fish brain

etrange:
Sad to watch.

I wish them peace!

Very reasonable, insightful comment

Najdorf:
My brother open your eyes. There are opportunities out there

You are the only one with eyes. All these vast majority of Americans below don't have eyes!

Alba3:
Emefiele really suffer people. These people in CBN should not escape punishment. They ruined lots of people, businesses and torment lots of Nigerians, young and old.

Yeah but POS operators made a lot of money, plus we now know their true colour!

Tranquill:
So how does the video answer my questions? Did he mention the time he was watching them on tv? Did he say that it was in the morning?

Did you watch? He said DURRING the protest. Did the protest happen at midnight??

Benbellamor:
I thought that you are wise, wike did not say that he drinks wine EVERY morning, but (only) that on that day of their protest
there is difference between making a habit of drinking in the morning and drinking off-days in the morning but not often.

Stylishly mocking Wike. I thought he was your man, knowing fully well he never said it was a one-time thing

Obaaderemi2:
Of course, many Nigerians would think this was all unless you post the extras such as drinks along.
In Nigeria some restaurants would still expect you to pay for bottle of water.

Exactly. It's almost as if he set out to confuse. He didn't have to post a photo to convey his point. Most people are visual. The photo is what they'll see. That and $70!

Tranquill:
But where did Wike say that he was drinking in the morning? Was the Aluta continua televised live? Did Wike watch it live on tv? He said he saw them on tv marching and that could have been at anytime.

You may have a serious problem with comprehension.
See the video here:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5Wq80pwmMc

Obaaderemi2:
Nigerians!
The guy said 'side dish'. That means it was part of a full meal.

You don't understand. What he posted was a main course in Nigeria, and he posted it alone, resulting in real confusion!

Ok let's replicate what he posted with Nigerian food:
Amala side dish and all for less than 7000 naira

Benbellamor:
his off days relaxing...hungry man like you can't afford off days to relax because your salary will suffer it, The higher you go the cooler it becomes...wike level don pass that one

As you can see from below, responsible people DON'T drink in the morning