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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Jefferic(m): 2:29pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Grace456: Grace I'm here wooh. I can give you true undiluted love with no string attached. |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Teaveapoet(f): 2:33pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Psoul: I never said she doesn't need a man i only said. Not now. Please don't quote me 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Malawian(m): 2:33pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
It's quite amazing women will not want their husbands to live in her own house, but will expect to move into her husband's house. Men dey suffer! |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by MrMacinterchi1: 2:46pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Be careful o . That's it. That's all. Just be careful. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by HajiaNotu: 2:56pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Op Expect more Dms from guys here You have already made one mistake that led you to being a Baby mama.Please avoid another. Slow down on settling down for now... Focus on yourself(Heal first) and baby. Make sure you are emotionally and psycholically fit befor thinking of marriage. Please.in your next relationship,dont reveal your worth..Get to know the person in and out to the best of your ability before doing that... My one cent. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Rrchrd(m): 2:56pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Grace456:Sister pls be careful if at all the Guy is doing well over there he won't have agreed to come back naija, he just see you as an opportunity or a macca (iwang).dont lets him lure you bc he's living in Yankee pray to God for a better man |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by zakkxx: 3:20pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Run for your life na gold digger!! God done safe u; he failed the test!! |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Genea(f): 3:29pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Grace456:you have a very sharp mouth, nawa, why must you let them know you have a duplex? Must you give them all the information? Aaahn aaah no wonder you are a single mom, you sound so naive... Stop making it look like you are independent, if not them go run you street big time. You don’t want to end up like the naive women I know, the men ended up having the properties in their name, these women also took loans for them, yet they left them and went after slay queens. Except you want to be lonely and broken in finance and emotional, mind the info you give out. Jeeeez... 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Jimmy231: 3:29pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Grace456:I swear you have tried and you need to be more careful then he's not showing anything to proof he's identity despite planing marriage. He doesn't even own a house and want to comfortably occupy yours have a rethink husband no be by force. It could have been worse 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by princewarri1985: 3:31pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Aunty run for your life he is a scam......some guys really have no shame atall, tueh. They go about giving every hard working responsible guy out there bad name......you dont call yourself a man just because of what you have dangling between your legs, go out there hustle hard make money to proove your worth as a man, not by living of the means of women as a shameless gigolo.....Aunty when the right man comes he will marry you and take you to his own house while you put your duplex for rent.... Use your head..he is not real. Next time tell intending suitor that the house belong to your parents so that you can nip their real intention in the bud. Cheers 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Wittyglam(f): 3:33pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
My dear be careful, you have seen all the red flag please don't ignore it. Don't be desperate for companionship, wait before your relationship got to the point of marriage these are the things you should have asked for. Let him be if he wants you he will provide all those stuffs you asked for. If he doesn't please japa 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 3:44pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Run and don't look back. Block him and move on. That guys has nothing to offer. He will only bring you pains and tears. He wants to take advantage of you. I say run ooo 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by 001spice: 4:06pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
What other prove do u wat to see b4 u knw that the guy is who he is and his plan is to rib u off. 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Richieniit: 4:09pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
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Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by tiswell(m): 4:51pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
squash47:and you are a man 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Onyi90(m): 5:10pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Grace456: The early signs are bare before your eyes. True relationship is built on truth, transparency, love and understanding just to mention a few. Everything isn't right with the brother. Don't let ur emotions or desperation cloud ur sound judgement. Wish u all the best and hope u act wisely. |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Psoul(m): 5:26pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Teaveapoet: She needs it now. Wt a child im her life, she needs a man seriously. It will save her many things. She want to protect that little child. She want that little child grow answering a man's name to help save the child from bn seen as bastard. If she didn't do it now, it might be difficult for her. She needs a man to savegaurd her social status. She needs a man for emotional and physical support. So when u have never worn a shoe, you will never know where it pains or pinches. |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by manigold: 5:47pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Its very difficult to advise you on this issue as we don't know enough about this guy. Requesting to stay in your duplex in the mean time appears harmless, unless he's suggesting to love there perpetually. Getting a sincere husband isn't as easy for the single mums in Africa, this is because of our current perceptions. Be kind to him and stay vigilant and observant. Just letting him go doesn't mean u can easily replace him with someone better. It's easy to hear people say let him go, because they don't know how much u need a companion. If u find someone you can work with, give it a try albeit cautiously. To answer your question, there's nothing inherently wrong in allowing him stay in your duplex for a short while. Refusing him this can easily make him feel unappreciated. Single men consider dating a single mum a huge sacrifice and men who try should be encouraged. A man who is very comfortable to own his own house will probably be gunning for the multitude of beautiful single ladies out there(in the African context). Alternatively, u could elect u stay out of the idea of marriage completely, if u can. These insecurities will always be a problem for you. FACT: A single comfortable guy in the US will have too many options to be sincerely. Infact he is most likely to be the scam. The father of your child must be comfortable so he left to chase options. The more likely options you will face are men with kids, who yearn for marriage. The other option is the struggling man who will stay because of his circumstances with varying degrees of temperance. BUT THERE IS NO WAY OF KNOWING WHO WILL BE THERE FOR THE LONG TERM and be devoted. At this point, it's all a gamble. You get your surety if u stay out of marriage and dating completely. I understand the latter option is too difficult to consider, hence the turbulence. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Richthekid: 5:56pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Hmmmm Love is not blind again. Women love men for what they can offer while men love women for who they are 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Grace456: 6:27pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
FryMosquito: Can you track it |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Restructure9ja(m): 6:36pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
[color=#006600][/color]m Grace456: He's shown you the red flags already. You can't marry some one you don't know. There's nothing wrong with him living with you. But it seems you don't know him enough. Most importantly, it seems you don't really put God first in your matter, this is not being religious. But think of it, have we ever gone wrong or lack peace when we follow God's way? Your peace is far better than satisfying your ego/flesh. Don't marry him yet until you know him enough. 07042020423 |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by WoundedLamb: 6:52pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
squash47: Are you a man? If so, you're probably the 8th wonder of the world cause it's extremely rare if not impossible to see a man in Nigeria who is not beclouded by the prevalent sexism in the society. And if you're lady, I'd say "bon courage" (sorry, I don't know how anglophones say that). Men are hardly ever held accountable for anything regardless of how obvious thier flaws are. Even when the woman is clearly the victim, people will still find a way to blame her while treating the man with kid gloves. It could get as low and ridiculous as using her age/physique to judge her or outrightly imagining what she could have done that no one knows about. Lol... funny but no funny. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by squash47(m): 7:06pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
WoundedLamb: I'm a man and also reasonable. I have conscience and good Sense of moral judgement. I know what's right and what's wrong. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Nobody: 7:43pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Why this kind women no dey locate me, na always hood rats |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by FryMosquito: 8:06pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Grace456:bring it on, you can dm the no. |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Grace456: 8:34pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
[quote author=INTEGRITYA1 post=101133936][/quote] He told me he lodged in a hotel since he got back from USA but I went there unannounced and he later directed me to his friends house living in a ghetto and he said he just checked out from the hotel 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by esiri4jesu(m): 8:43pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Grace456:You know what to do but because you are in love.Think with your brain and not with your heart. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Grace456: 9:22pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
jantman: Not that I can't stay alone but it's a bit difficult for me. There r things I will want to do at home but no man to help. Like switch over from light to generator, carry something heavy maybe in the night that the staff would have gone home, maybe start the generator it makes me feel bad honestly 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Grace456: 9:28pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
MansoryMX: How many men will I sleep with to acquire all that at my age? You think everyone is you...frustration must be killing you. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Grace456: 9:34pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
GentlePEACE: I got the loan with a company account with first bank. Though its TOD I pay back all loans everymonth and get another one immediately then I use access bank alongside and lendigo.ng For now, no more loan with first bank and a token with access bank. 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by JesseThunder(m): 9:38pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Ma'am make your findings, My sister fell for this same shit, collect ID, infact collect old bills paid if possible. Make findings oh! Hence them go cashout from your body. |
Re: I Told My Fiancé That He Can't Stay In My Duplex, He Changed by Insectkiller: 9:42pm On Apr 26, 2021 |
Are you that cheap?? A man sleeping in ur house..are u married to him?? Answer those questions then we know wey forward.. Anuofia |
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