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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by MAKABBEY(m): 8:20pm On Dec 06, 2016
the moment u started having side bf, both of dem will be fucking u, den my sister, wots different between u and slut? even slut is even better coz she is going money, wots ur gain? ladies are born to be loyal and faithful no matter wot...

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Yarduni: 8:21pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!

After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..

I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.

A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.

Then another of my friend met up with a guy and ohh she fell for his charm, this my friend has had a fair share in the heart break department, her heart has been broken not once, twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met a guy and he loves me with his all, babe he wants to marry me and babe thank God for me" I got to admit I was happy for her and in fact I thank God on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I tap into her good luck and believe someday I'd also meet a guy who would love me as much as her guy did, little did I know the guy was nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy who is a disgrace to other guys...this guy impregnated my friend and made her father chase her out of the house, with nowhere to go she moved in with him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls, cheats on my friend even in her condition, lodge in different hotels with different girls, and whenever she confronts him he denies it to her face, and in my friend's voice"babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that when he greets me good morning I go out to make sure its really morning", and I'm sure we all know its wrong for a pregnant lady to think, but oh my friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole and was loyal.

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.

I think you are someone of a very low value, low esteem. If you had a noble purpose in life, you wouldn't spend your emotional energy on a side guys or whatever.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 8:21pm On Dec 06, 2016
After spending ample amount of my time to understand lustful love and the trail of heart-breaks it wrecks on its flow; I have come to a conclusion that monogamy is not a norm. Monogamy is a construct of mankind to regulate and control a person or persons they cherish and keep them in constant dependence on them for everything. We work so damn hard to keep marriages, when it is effortless to have plural lives and mate as other Organisms. We call ourselves Organisms yet we are not compelled to live organically.

Organically, lusty love is too huge to be channeled to one person, it was meant to be utilized to cherish the whole world but we focus that love energy on one human being, creating frictions, pains, hatred and emptiness here and there. In order to fill the void in our love for our partners we buy him or her the world. Do every godamn undo-able things in and out of the bedroom to please and keep the person and fill the void. It can not completely be filled. Because monogamy is not natural norm. I want to see a sincere married person, who has been married for over 30yrs that hasnt slept with someone else. This is a challenge.

Yes, OP, I agree we must train our hearts to accept that a woman needs a sidy-boy and men also need a side-chic. Gradually, we will come to live organically and fucck who ever electrifies us with e/rection.

I salute!

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Maduawuchukwu(m): 8:21pm On Dec 06, 2016
ItzMePuffPuff:
Wrong.
Volume dating is very beneficial 2 a woman.

And later when a man does same you feminists won't allow us rest.
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 8:21pm On Dec 06, 2016
am sure am not the only smelling shhhiiittt around here?
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by enitey(f): 8:21pm On Dec 06, 2016
Lol



You can have a side boyfriend,and still love the main guy more.Moreso,some persons do not know how to double-date
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 8:21pm On Dec 06, 2016
unclezuma:


I'm sold

It wasn't free y'know. Where my money at? Pay up, good sir. tongue
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by lezz(m): 8:21pm On Dec 06, 2016
Laveda:


Well, you're right... Cheating doesn't change anything.

Tho I'm not trying to justify a man's cheating ways, we should be faithful to our partners.. smiley
The concept of cheating in a mate's perspective has been skewed by hypocritical convention.

Men's fidelity is in provision, sustainability, inheritance, etc. Our hormonal genetics is wired to worship those slim gentle curves yours in solemn devotion.
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by surreal15(m): 8:22pm On Dec 06, 2016
Please lets get married already. I love your positive energy.!
Benita27:
To think Toke wrote down all that transpired between her and her bf later husband on that book is to believe Buhari will make N1 equal $1 before he leaves office.

Poo happens and because some1 cheated on you isn't a guarantee that all the guys who'll come your way will be cheats.

"All men are not the same" cheating isn't an option for me.
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by doll912(f): 8:22pm On Dec 06, 2016
If you want to have side boyfriend, please do, if you want to be loyal to one man, please do. All have advantages and disadvantages...just take your weighing scale and measure the one that suits you and your emotions...


Then come back on nairaland and tell us another story that touch


But to be Frank, think and choose your method wisely.
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by marisdgreat(f): 8:22pm On Dec 06, 2016
"Real men stay faithful. They don't have time to look for another woman because they're too busy looking for new ways to love their own."

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Sexytemi(f): 8:23pm On Dec 06, 2016
Yarduni:


I think you are someone of a very low value, low esteem. If you had a noble purpose in life, you wouldn't spend your emotional energy on a side guys or whatever.


Hmmmm, can I ask you a question?
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by godson300040(m): 8:23pm On Dec 06, 2016
chronique:
You're so intelligent to the point that even if one had to use a microscope to view your brain cells,one won't find an ounce of gray matter in it. Just go over the nonsense you wrote and see if it makes any sense to you. When guys start calling ladies olosho,you'd start complaining. That some men decided to be irresponsible,doesn't mean every man is like that. Keep having side bf and keep shagging both;hiv hasn't stopped killing people. I really don't care what kind of advice you give to matured ladies,and if they'd take it or not. However,refrain from dishing stupid and senseless advice her. Your brain should ordinarily tell you,that there are underaged teenage girls also using this platform. Don't corrupt them/pass on wrong advices to them.

Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by jidxin(m): 8:24pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:



Love is like a drug that once you taste it you get addicted to it....I'm a sucker for love and I've had my own fair share of love palavas
I dont know y ppl re not of like time....mutual understanding ...love only me love only you. no side wateva....but its better to steer off love than to ve a side chic. I hate it wen I found my so called lover wit side bae.
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 8:24pm On Dec 06, 2016
Maduawuchukwu:


And later when a man does same you feminists won't allow us rest.
we learnt it from u ,uncle grin]
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by lilwheezy1(m): 8:24pm On Dec 06, 2016
What you girls don't know is that you created does monsters , you are asking how ? you remember that innocent boy that fell in love with you in sec scl or uni , you remember how he can do anything to please you, even kill and also you remember how you string him along , how you told your friends you cant date him because he is so immature , you want to date the mature and big boys , what do you think happened to him , he grew up to become the nemesis of the women folk, after you broke up with him he swore to break as many hearts as possible , take it or leave it ..

This is what I've always say to my female friends , guys don't really think like you do , if you see your man flirting with a less or more beautiful woman , he just want to chop and clean mouth , guys are curious they just want to eat once and go back to the love of their life which happens to be you , if you can live with that you will be happy (to guys that's not cheating ), but if the#chopping # as happened more than once then you should be alarmed , then maybe check urself that woman is doing something better than you

Note : Mind you no man wants to loose a good woman except the confused ones.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by adewumiopeyemi(m): 8:24pm On Dec 06, 2016
[b]in this recession period money is the main tin involve chikenu.. if there is no money no lady will want to date a poor man[/b]
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by lezz(m): 8:24pm On Dec 06, 2016
BurningBlade:
That's the difference. A woman is emotionally unstable. All it takes to spark that plug of emotional Tsunami is an act of un faithfulness.

Those who pretend they're emotional stable haven't yet met that guy who would rock their boat till it sinks like the Titantic, taking their virtue, pride and sense of moral and reason down to the pit of eternal darkness.

I tell you, any girl who keeps a side boyfriend, or a side guy is carefully orchestrating her path into being a prostitute.

It only takes a matter of time. Remember, every bad habit begins as a thought.
Yeah, bro, a girl double-dating is standing on the threshold of full prostitution.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by dezzyxv(m): 8:24pm On Dec 06, 2016
If 90%of men are cheats, then d remaining 10% are being cheated on by you ladies cool[color=#000000][/color]
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Precioussilas10: 8:24pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:



whether the problem is patched or not, it would save the girl from lots of heartache
olosho mode activated...in ur next relationship,when u see u a guy cheating,just quit.same goes for the guy....which sane man wants to marry an olosho?..becuz he will definately know someday
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by godoluwa(m): 8:25pm On Dec 06, 2016
Toke Makinwa na asshole infact shes a complete disgrace to ndi ofe mmanu because we always think twice before we act.
No sane man will spend the rest of his life with a gal of her type, the b1tch should take to Oba Akiolus advice.
Iranu

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by marisdgreat(f): 8:25pm On Dec 06, 2016
"A real man can't stand seeing his woman hurt. He's careful with his decisions and actions, so he never has to be responsible for her pain."
a real man will not cause his girlfriend pain.

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by ikp120(m): 8:25pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:



All men aren't cheats, but 90% are.

Babe I'm loyal to my babe, but life has denied me the privilege of having a loyal babe.embarassed

I guess that's how life works ***sobs*** embarassed

Baby let's chat privately. Check my signature and reply.
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 8:25pm On Dec 06, 2016
BabaRamota1980:
Ladies, let me give you 20 points to improve relationship

1 - all guys are flirts
2 - we dont see flirting as cheating, you shouldn't
3 - true, flirting can lead to betrayal and infidelity
4 - no guy is immune when seduced by another girl
5 - not all guys have the DISCRETION to say NO, Im happily with someone.
6 - it's a girls call to evaluate and choose guys with DISCRETIONARY JUDGEMENT
7 - girls want the SPONTANEOUS and WILD kinda guy
8 - what you seek is what you get!
9 - all guys want some space sometimes when theyvare not smothered
10 - your constant presence in your guy's face is not good for the health of the relationship, give a breather.
11 - if your guy flirts, dont discourage but reinforce the need for him to be stylish with it and allow him do it in your presence.
12 - if you don't he wil do it behind you and could be damaging when discoveries pop up
13 - if your guy is a womanizer, you have a choice....leave him or tolerate it.
14 - if you choose to stay then make sure you are the p1mp. No girl lay with him without your approval.
15 - you might find it pleasurable to join and have a menage a trois.
16 - set expectations before going in new relationship
17 - above all, you own no one, and no one owns you.
18 - keep ya gaddem dignity and feminity tight
19 - keep yourself veiled from him sometimes. Spend a weak not showing any part of your skin to him beside face and hands. Hide your cleavage, hide your arms, hide your legs and thighs, cover your hair.
20 - guys love variety, after going a week or two not seeing your na.ked.ness he will become curious and want to unveil you...but you are a pandora box, let him come in and satisfy his curiosity.
daddy of ramota have been counselling since the 80's ..

ladies yield to this man
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by ReubenE(m): 8:25pm On Dec 06, 2016
OP, you are trying to play double chance, which in my opinion may fail as well.
Keeping a side guy is like repeating the problem you are trying to solve. Don't count on the experiences of the few you mentioned to generalize.

Relationship is a complex thing which requires careful study to make the right steps. Men cheat but not all men cheat. I think same goes for the ladies as well.
We all meet the devil once in a life time, I guess your friend met hers in the body of her boy friend.

When a relationship goes south, people should learn to move on. We don't always get what we deserve and we cannot sulk for a lifetime as a result of this.

There are still good guys out there, so keep your mind open.
Thank u

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by humilitypays(m): 8:26pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!

After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..

I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.

A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.

Then another of my friend met up with a guy and ohh she fell for his charm, this my friend has had a fair share in the heart break department, her heart has been broken not once, twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met a guy and he loves me with his all, babe he wants to marry me and babe thank God for me" I got to admit I was happy for her and in fact I thank God on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I tap into her good luck and believe someday I'd also meet a guy who would love me as much as her guy did, little did I know the guy was nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy who is a disgrace to other guys...this guy impregnated my friend and made her father chase her out of the house, with nowhere to go she moved in with him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls, cheats on my friend even in her condition, lodge in different hotels with different girls, and whenever she confronts him he denies it to her face, and in my friend's voice"babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that when he greets me good morning I go out to make sure its really morning", and I'm sure we all know its wrong for a pregnant lady to think, but oh my friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole and was loyal.

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.
‎My sister, the problem is not guys, the problem lies with the ladies, how and why you may ask Let me tell you why you ladies are to blame for your relationship woes and heartbreaks:

Majority of ladies in this our side of the planet are greedy. Because of greed, you ladies have too high expectation from guys, and as a result, you ladies ignore the average guys and fall for the alpha male who see themselves as gift to all women!

While growing up, most ladies pick wrong fantasies about who their ideal man is based on romance movies and novels they read. Ladies want tall, dark/fair, rich, outgoing, fun-loving guys. These kind of guys are highly sort after and they know it,so they can keep to one lady, not possible. It's the same reason singer Flavour is busy sleeping and impregnating all girls he meets because most Nigerian ladies are dumb!

Imagine after seeing Flavour's promiscuous and wayward lifestyle, many ladies including Yemi Alade, Chidinma, and many other Nigerian ladies still want Flavour, which shows how gullible and greedy women are!

Do you know that few men are dating plenty women while many guys are completely single, why Because ladies keep running after those few men with super-alpha qualities while ignoring, snubbing and turning down the numerous genuinely good guys who would love and worship them.‎

Men are more realistic with who they go after to date or love but women aren't realistic!

An average Nigerian guy can't see Chidinma, Tiwa Savage, Genevieve Nnaji, Yemi Aladi, Oluchi Orlandi, Agbani Darego, etc and go after her or wish to date her and get her to love him, but you will see one Mgbeke girl with less than 200k in her bank account living in one room apartment with all her family fantasizing and wishing to date/marry Wizkid, Dbanj, Flavour, or some rich, handsome guy, and she doesn't expect the guy to cheat on her because she is who

Women of our time must learn to be realistic in life like their male counterparts, go for your level of guy and work and pray with him to grow together than accepting guys who see u as worthless woman that have only sex to offer to them!

Once a man knows u have other great values to offer to him other than sex, he won't play or joke with u, but if sex is all u have to offer to men, then expect plenty heartbreak even after he marries u!‎

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by surreal15(m): 8:26pm On Dec 06, 2016
Yarduni:


I think you are someone of a very low value, low esteem. If you had a noble purpose in life, you wouldn't spend your emotional energy on a side guys or whatever.


She is hurt and maybe the book made it worse since she could relate to some extent. People say stuffs when hurting...
But if all she wrote in the book is true, that guy has a real problem.
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Laveda(f): 8:27pm On Dec 06, 2016
BurningBlade:

Ah! the delicious diva,
You gimme shiver,
I quiver at thy wondrous charisma
I trippa, for thy mature sense-ah
I wanna discharge fluid with ah. wink
cheesy

Papi! Thanchu grin

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Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by BabaRamota1980: 8:27pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi, you have caused a tsunami with this thread. See how many people are viewing it.... grin
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Bimpe29: 8:27pm On Dec 06, 2016
Two wrong will never make a right. I disagree with you. There is unseemly no competition in wrongdoing.
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by Nobody: 8:28pm On Dec 06, 2016
ButterFrost212:

That's not even up for discussion, what if I don't, what if I do? That's my business.... Besides, do you know if I have a boyfriend Howmuch more a side Beau?

What side of malo are you from?
Re: Every Lady Should Have A Side Boyfriend! by kogs(m): 8:28pm On Dec 06, 2016
Sexytemi:
To All Ladies Out There, I Say Please Have A Side Boyfriend!

After reading toke makinwa's book "on becoming" I'm of the idea that if toke had had a back up plan, a guy she could count on if her boyfriend at that time maje(later ex husband) was in his usual act of cheating then maybe he would have taken her serious and respected her more..

I've been there where I gave my all into a relationship and was very loyal to my guy and yet after 5yrs of dating he decided I wasn't good enough for him, and left me stranded, it wasn't funny because I saw the signs but like every other girl in love, I ignored the signs and also ignored guys that would or might have made me more happier than he ever made me.

A friend of mine started dating a guy, and she got to realize he was cheating on her, and not only was he cheating but with a girl so young, when my friend confronted him, this guy practically lied and denied everything even he knew my friend saw all the evidences he still blamed her, and she asked me what she did wrong, all she ever did was love and give him all of her, she ignored all guys because of this guy yet he threw her love to the dogs.

Then another of my friend met up with a guy and ohh she fell for his charm, this my friend has had a fair share in the heart break department, her heart has been broken not once, twice and not even thrice. when she chatted me up and said"babe I've met a guy and he loves me with his all, babe he wants to marry me and babe thank God for me" I got to admit I was happy for her and in fact I thank God on her behalf and used her case as a testimony of good things to happen, I tap into her good luck and believe someday I'd also meet a guy who would love me as much as her guy did, little did I know the guy was nothing short of bastard, a guy who makes ladies curse other guys, a guy who is a disgrace to other guys...this guy impregnated my friend and made her father chase her out of the house, with nowhere to go she moved in with him and got to know who he really was, this guy still went after girls, cheats on my friend even in her condition, lodge in different hotels with different girls, and whenever she confronts him he denies it to her face, and in my friend's voice"babe, I'm so scared of him, he lies so much that when he greets me good morning I go out to make sure its really morning", and I'm sure we all know its wrong for a pregnant lady to think, but oh my friend is always thinking and sad all because she fell in love with an ahole and was loyal.

And this makes me wonder is it wrong for ladies to be loyal in their relationships?, is it a bad thing to fall in love and give you her all?, is it a crime for ladies to do all just to please their guys?, and why can't guys just be faithful to their ladies?. and my answers to these questions is just for ladies to have side boyfriends, with a side boyfriends you won't have the fear of the main guy waking up one day and leaving you for another girl, you won't have the heart attack of thinking of what your boyfriend is doing at the moment, and you won't be so involved in the life of your boyfriend for him to tell you you are choking him or think less of you.
point of correction d side babes are black market we use them as supplement. Is not easy to be a man ohhhhh. Haha haha am only joking. But d destiny of a relationship lie's in a lady's hand if u handle it well u see it grow so be wise babe

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