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Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by bukatyne(f): 11:54am On Apr 05, 2020 |
KevinDein: Thank you. 1 Like |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Nobody: 11:57am On Apr 05, 2020 |
In as much as I acknowledge the importance Compromise in relationships i.e giving/letting go of some things to make the relationship more enjoyable for your partner, I would never subscribe to changing your being ( who you are) to please anyone (Man or Woman) . If you are a traditional Man, find a traditional Woman (vise versa) If you are a Modern Man go for a Modern Woman (vice versa). Picking a partner who has contrary views of life with the hope of changing him or her is not only foolishness but selfishness as well. The truth is, there comes a time/stage in a relationship or marriage where the will to impress, endure and satisfy the other partner is strained, and the only thing that keeps the relationship is Compatibility. There comes a time when that spontaneous partner becomes predictable and all you can fall back on to keep the relationship going are the things you share and enjoy doing together until that phase is passed. Never make the mistake of getting involved with someone whose ethical leanings isn't aligned with yours.Thats a disaster waiting to happen. On Male bestie, lol It's a No for me. Your partner should be your bestie. If you find someone else apart from your partner occupying the space of someone who you share your important moments with, talk to about everything, listen to you and give you shoulders to cry on, protect you , advise you and makes you laugh then you should question the essence of your relationship with that partner. Besties take important places in our lives, they are the ones we share our joy, sorrow, happy times, downs and ups with. Now who is more worthy of this position than our Partners whom we claim to love? If a guy has a female as his bestie, he needs no girlfriend. If a lady has a guy as her bestie she needs no boyfriend because they have their partners in their besties already. That said, I believe the point op is trying to make is Patience. Don't be too haste to judge a person Since humans are dynamic in nature, it is important to try to understand a person's perspective however it isn't compulsory to always act accordingly to that perspective. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Nobody: 11:59am On Apr 05, 2020 |
Designerdollars:You don't have to be toxic to pass an opposing opinion you know? So if Men and Women have nothing in common to be just 'friends' how come they have everything in common to be business partners, siblings, helpmate etc? Is it the 'Sex' you fear so much? Lol. Friends don't have sex. Woman and Man can be friends. Just Friends. 3 Likes |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Designerdollars: 11:59am On Apr 05, 2020 |
Women are inferior to men ofcourse they should subjugate themselves. Even the Bible said so. Wives respect your husband Paxie55: 1 Like |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by bukatyne(f): 12:00pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
adexpa: Thank you. |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Paxie55: 12:00pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Designerdollars:This human actually wants me to argue with him 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Romanoff(f): 12:04pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
xrayj: Birds of a feather obviously flock together. The fact that you're unable to contribute without insults shows you lack the ability to communicate in a civil manner. 3 Likes |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by xrayj(m): 12:09pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Romanoff:Till male bestie show u something...be shouting male bestie up & down! What happens to female bestie?? I pity u! 11 Likes
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Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by COVIK19: 12:11pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle:So as you dey like this so, you like Owambe? |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Bayokun(m): 12:12pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Making opposite sex as your bestie is wrong, unless you do not value your relationship.. Same thing applies to the school father ish..... 3 Likes |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Nobody: 12:14pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Romanoff:we know people like you... cheats 8 Likes |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by COVIK19: 12:15pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Paxie55:If you completely read that Post and you think it’s balderdash then, you either have comprehension issues, having a bad day, or you just decide to be ignorant 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Nobody: 12:16pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
So basically the only thing that worries the Nigerian guys on Male bestie is the " Sex" that may likely happen not the emotional detachment, psychological replacement or being subjected to second place in the hearts of their Partners. It's just the "Sex" Interesting. 3 Likes |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by xrayj(m): 12:17pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Paxie55:@bold because the op doesn't preach the things u want to hear, it is baldersdash? This thread is for young ladies like u, looking for that "happening guy". After your lives has been shattered & ruined by that happening guy & that male bestie has dumped one baby inside of u, u come back looking for the boring guy with one baby. U people never learn! 15 Likes |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by xrayj(m): 12:18pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Ariza:
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Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by COVIK19: 12:19pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Ariza:The OP clearly pointed out the difference b/w ‘a male friend’ and ‘a male bestie’. We both know these are different 1 Like |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by COVIK19: 12:20pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Ariza:Why go through all that in the first place if you’re in a serious relationship? That’s what the OP is trying to point out |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by bukatyne(f): 12:20pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
cococandy: There is no perfect person and while we like the template, there would be one or two things either party doesn't like. As you both grow, there would also be things that person develops that you prune or tweak as they surface. There are things the person starts liking. E.g.: You meet a 20yr old guy in 200L he wears Jeans and top always. When you both grow more and he gets a job, you might not like the work dresscode he develops and you tweak his dressing. He might develop the habit of wearing a pair of socks for a week and you tweak him to wearing a fresh pair everyday. A guy meets an 18yr old who just started putting on trousers or making up. The guys says this style of trousers doesn't suit you, this one, I don't like it. This red lipstick is too loud or the shade doesn't fit you. This crazy jeans is too crazy bla bla bla. I have seen it play over and over again hence the 'men change in marriage.' Anybody who doesn't complain or tell you what they want is either pretending or not planning long term with you. I will say it anywhere. Now, a guy who is wealthy enough to change this girl wardrobe one week at a time is doing same as the guy who says 'I prefer dresses on you.' 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Romanoff(f): 12:21pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
xrayj: Pity yourself first sir with this thinking that all men, yourself inclusive, can't be trusted. |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by bukatyne(f): 12:21pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Odunharry: Spill it out. |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by bukatyne(f): 12:22pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
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Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Nobody: 12:22pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
COVIK19:Sir, the post I quoted and laid emphasis on says.. 'Men and Women have nothing in common to be just "friends". Designer stated that. Please read with understanding. 2 Likes |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by xrayj(m): 12:22pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Bayokun:Only cheats engage in such! Your bestie should be restricted to your gender! 2 Likes |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Romanoff(f): 12:23pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Kingjebba: We also know people like you, always showing their machismo. 1 Like |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Nobody: 12:24pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
This op and toks should have married. They think they are wise and have manual for relationships and marriage. Crap 3 Likes |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by bukatyne(f): 12:25pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Afriifa: Thank you. I hope your lady assimilates it. 1 Like |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by xrayj(m): 12:26pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Romanoff:We men don't need your fvcking trust Only your partner deserves your trust! Why the fvck would u wanna keep male bestie when u have a partner?? Is female bestie not enough? Like op clearly stated, male friend is different from male bestie, don't mix it up! 8 Likes |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Nobody: 12:26pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
COVIK19:Sigh..... In my post, I wondered why the major concern for a Nigerian guy is about the "sex" that may likely happen with Male bestie. And not other things that may happen like detachment etc as mentioned in the post you quoted. |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Designerdollars: 12:27pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
I'm telling you bro The guys they really want end up using them as cum rags. I have one in my house now, in her mind she thinks she has found husband. Me wey no even dey reason marriage now. I'm just enjoying the sex she provides. I'm sure if I no propose in the next two years, She will get the hint and quit the relationship. Girl's can be so dumb. Chasing men that don't really want them because he is "exciting" They think it's every guy with money that will sacrifice bachelorhood to be with them. I love my current lifestyle and I'm not ready to sacrifice it for any woman. Make we dey dey Bleep ourselves dey go. Shebi nah 'excitement' you want xrayj: 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by xrayj(m): 12:29pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Kekereekun123:Unless u are not being honest Their threads are logical & unbiased to a very large extent! 3 Likes |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by xrayj(m): 12:34pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
Designerdollars:Hahahaha @bold 7 Likes |
Re: Sisi Mi, Before You Say That Bobo Is Boring by Paxie55: 12:36pm On Apr 05, 2020 |
xrayj:Please, shut up. You don't just see someone on the net and draw out a baseless conclusion. I'm even into boring guys more. I have my man well reserved. All I'm saying is that she's on this habit of always telling women how to live their lives for nitwits and dumb idiots as if her life is perfect. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
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