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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Nobody: 5:38pm On May 31, 2020 |
God bless you for this balanced post. It think it is a little misleading that things are better abroad. One, there are different kinds of abroad. Two, individual experiences in the abroad are different. We have those who are schooling abroad sponsored by family and having to do menial jobs to make ends meet. Then we have those who are working but literally scrubbing the streets and doing jobs that those in Nigeria would never want to do. We have those who have gone through different faces of hussling and have been established... We also have those (many actually) who are illegally in foreign countries and so cannot get decent minimum wage-paying jobs and who are living worse than when they were in Nigeria. The problem is, once people in Nigeria hear that you are abroad, they assume you have money literally rolling into your bags without any effort. So they start making demands. I have been there years ago when I was schooling/working abroad and I experienced all manner of ridiculous requests from acquaintances in Nigeria. But fortunately I had investment plans that were gulping almost the last cent I was making then, so it was impossible for me to dance to the fancies of those people. Some would ask me to send them laptops, HTC Wildfire (had just been released then), even to ridiculous things like arranging their relocation abroad... My church's pastor then asked me for N1million naira donation even though I was just a student supporting my monthly stipend with menial jobs like cleaning offices and all. Interestingly, that my pastor then happened to be a multi-millionaire in Nigeria, even at that time. bukatyne: 11 Likes |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by ibkayee(f): 5:38pm On May 31, 2020 |
foleskay:Don't you think this is an entitled attitude to have? You weren't there with him/her when they were working for the money 11 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by FGonline: 5:38pm On May 31, 2020 |
rentAcock:u said it all |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Millenniumlady(f): 5:40pm On May 31, 2020 |
frankson1:Please don't mind the signature biko i put that to scare this Nigerian home base toasters away you can slide into my dm if you don't mind |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Dex4(m): 5:40pm On May 31, 2020 |
I can relate with this one right here. Bottom line is; LOVE YOURSELF more. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by salford1: 5:41pm On May 31, 2020 |
Klass99:I see nothing wrong with taxes. Cut your costs to your size too. It's just that Nigerians are used to making sudden wealth. The system in developed countries levels people and tries to ensure no one is left behind by providing safety nets. Hence the graduated tax system. In addition, the bolded part can't be true. You will leave a super comfortable life. That's the whole point of traveling abroad, and not to jam money except you have some special rate talent. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by foleskay(m): 5:43pm On May 31, 2020 |
ibkayee:Anything that's worth doing atal is worth doing well. Not a matter of entitlement. If he decides not to send money atal, nobody would force him. But if he must do, let him do something worthy of appreciation |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by onegig(m): 5:43pm On May 31, 2020 |
You can't shy away from helping. I just have a mental monthly limit that's budgeted for giving out. Once that is exceeded you would need to wait till the next month. And i don't shy away when i need to state the fact that I don't have or can't afford. I guess people should be able to say no if they can't really afford to help. Your family or friends should be able to understand when you can and cannot help out. I guess I am also helped by the fact that i don't really keep liquid cash. I doubt any money/salary lasts up to 24hours in my account before it is used for a running biz. Shey na wetin dey account i go transfer? 6 Likes |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by ibkayee(f): 5:44pm On May 31, 2020 |
foleskay:Tell these people who think it's too small to stop asking then 10 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by foleskay(m): 5:44pm On May 31, 2020 |
Millenniumlady:Long throat |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Hathor5(f): 5:44pm On May 31, 2020 |
ibkayee: This comment pissed me off and I usually do not have any emotional reactions to comments on NL. If I ever hear such a comment from anyone I know, they will never again get anything from me, not even on their birthday or for Christmas. And should they ever need help, I will remind them of the comment. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by cococandy(f): 5:44pm On May 31, 2020 |
Whether they earn 100k or not, they don’t pay 60% taxes. That’s the point. Focusingmore: 7 Likes |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by omonnakoda: 5:45pm On May 31, 2020 |
Ebere044:When you grow up marry and have children you have to be "stingy" Nigerians throw that word around with a strong sense of entitlement. Get your own and stop calling people stingy. I would rather give money to beggars or random people than any of these entitled Nigerians. Main problems They feel it is their right They are not grateful It is never enough 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Hathor5(f): 5:45pm On May 31, 2020 |
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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by foleskay(m): 5:45pm On May 31, 2020 |
ibkayee:Lol |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by ibkayee(f): 5:46pm On May 31, 2020 |
Hathor5:The level of entitlement is beyond me He even said that people abroad should give more because 'what's worth doing at all is worth doing well' lmao I think this is one of the funniest things I've ever seen 13 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by ibkayee(f): 5:47pm On May 31, 2020 |
Hathor5: As innnn 2 Likes |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by SweetCunt97(f): 5:47pm On May 31, 2020 |
foleskay:You should know she was only kidding. |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by salford1: 5:48pm On May 31, 2020 |
Sleyanya1:This is what I do. I have an amount I set aside for family back home. Except, the occasional laptop or money for laptop request that I get and I politely declined with reasons. |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Hathor5(f): 5:48pm On May 31, 2020 |
ibkayee: People like him are the reason this good man made the video posted here. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by kunkcraze(m): 5:49pm On May 31, 2020 |
5. General realization : One day i was going through my bank statement and i noticed i gave out about $500 monthly to family and friends. The same me who will walk into H & M, see a shirt of $40 and think it's too costly. I either buy it grudgingly or wait till it's on sale to buy. I realized i wasn't taking care of myself enough. Most people will come to this realization at a point in their lives. This thread isn't limited to just people abroad, it include people who work and earn who are home based too. How do you cope with demands?Diasporans what made you rethink your generousity? Feel free to add yours. [/quote] I can relate to this, it's like the OP is talking about me, last year I had to wait for the sales at H&M to buy a shirt at $35 but sent home like $300. But most people home failed to realize you have a life of your own some wont even talk to you after you give then reason for not been able to send money to them after the previous ones. It's all good. I always tell them God will help us all,when I notice they wont listen to me. 9 Likes |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by omonnakoda: 5:50pm On May 31, 2020 |
Focusingmore:You can save 20k of that in a 401 K pension and pay ZERO tax on that. |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Nobody: 5:50pm On May 31, 2020 |
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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by SweetCunt97(f): 5:51pm On May 31, 2020 |
Millenniumlady:Hhhaaaahhaahhaaa. You are funny. There are good obodo oyibo guys here though. If Coco can meet one, I'm sure you can. Just change ur moniker |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Angelfrost(m): 5:51pm On May 31, 2020 |
bukatyne: Dear sis, you have no idea how entitled the average Nigerian feels... Some go beyond begging to demanding, like it's their right. This is why even the high earners still struggle to reach their full financial potentials. How can they when able bodied individuals feel they are entitled to a chunk of the monthly take home, and need not bother to hustle hard. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Millenniumlady(f): 5:51pm On May 31, 2020 |
foleskay:I never done this before you're the only guy i want to give this easy access don't loose this opportunity biko |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by SEGLIZ: 5:51pm On May 31, 2020 |
Amanee: truth is bitter. won kii pa owun mo agogo lénu. 1 Like |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by xrayj(m): 5:52pm On May 31, 2020 |
ODJ123:Where do u get all those old pics from? Those days when life was easy 1 Like |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Angelacruz: 5:53pm On May 31, 2020 |
Informative rentAcock: |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by foleskay(m): 5:53pm On May 31, 2020 |
SweetCunt97:She's not. Damn serious. She's bn quoting guys even telling them to dm her. |
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