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firstEVA:
Hahahaha

Yes dear, then, before I say jack, you tell me how much trouble it is

This way, everyone can breath freely - fresh air.

That wasn't just saying 'jack'. That was going down in details.

But I assume a good evening in your company wold be nice.

True to your word, you wake early, firstEVA.

I slept off by past 9pm woke up shortly after. And can't seem to find sleep.

firstEVA:
ok, but you can answer a quick one 1. what genre?
2. Local or international?

I hardly do local. Though people like Lara George and Frank Edwards found their way into my library for their talent. But I mostly do international. Mostly rock and contemporary. R&B sparingly.

firstEVA:
hahahahaha, you read me again.

we'll just substitute jollof rice for fried rice, then juice for chilled coke. I am not a juice person, not like I forbid it though.



Lol
It's good you are no longer so uptight.


I am fine postmann.

That means our food preference are close enough

Was I ever so uptight?

firstEVA:
Postmann I didn't get to ask you what's your favourite gospel track and artiste.

They are many, my darling!
But we would leave that for later today.

Memejem:
You came here to fight. Quoting and twisting the words of the old testament that is only applicable to jews and not christians for your benefit.

There are divorced women who have remarried and are content in thier marriages. If a man like likes his women fresh and still cheats on his wife then he viewed his wife as an object for sex just as a divorced women as per your logic.

Why are you spewing your opinions as facts? How do you know that most divorced men are not faithful? Have you done a quantitative research on a large sample of divorced men that can aid your misguided theory? I would argue that divorced men are probably more faithful that fist time married men as they are more likely to know what they are looking for in the institution of marriage. If they willingly left a marriage why enter another one if thier goal is promiscuity. But that's just my OPINION. As your epistle was your opinion that I obviously disagree with

I would also argue that the 21st century woman does not view herself as similar to man. they view themselves as different but equal and entitled to the same opportunities available to men. But again that's my humble opinion. Just because you don't agree with the opinions of the women on this thread doesn't mean you should come here and spew your hatred for the female gender as fact.

Quoting Bible verses from the old testament that no longer apply to christians and interpreting them in a way that you beleive make your point. Giving no context to the verses that come before or after it even.

You are a bigot. And don't like accepting the opinions of other people. Which is fine. Nobody is begging you to marry a woman from this century. You acknowledge that cheating is abhorrent but then state give excuses for the reason men cheat as wanting fresh women. Then viciously attack women who cheat as well as divorcees. But in your opinion a cheating woman is worse than a cheating husband. But not in the eyes of God. If you are going to quote the Bible then I suggest you quote from the new testament, that is what christians refer to in this day and age. Which also permits divorce on the grounds of adultery

FYI not all women divorce men do so due to infidelity, some do so due to spousal abuse. And any woman that is repeatedly getting hammered by her husband and beaten day in and day out should divorce that man. He won't change.

Don't let my submission trouble you as is obvious from your reaction. You sounded as if I called you out as I let drop my hot oil.

You're not even a good Christian to begin with, since you claimed that my quoted scriptures are for jews only.

And you claimed I twisted the scripture. Why would I do that?

No, I didn't. I said it like it is and I knew it will infuriate "liberated" women like you.

And you came at me poorly researched. Otherwise there are some things you wouldn't dare say.

You claimed divorced men are more likely to stay in marriage than 1st timers. Well, according to US statistics 50% of 1st marriage survives. While 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end. I think that relegates your claim of divorcees being more faithful to the trash can.

Oh, I never gave reason for men cheating as wanting his woman fresh. You read wrong. I meant men like their women fresh, so don't always see a divorcee as one.

Look, I put things mildly here. CHRIST came to abolish polygamy and divorce for any other reason other than unfaithfulness.

Now take another bomb: women don't have the power of divorce! They can only be separated from their husbands. And if they do, they are to remain single!!!

CHRIST was speaking to MEN (not women) in Matthew 5:32 and Luke 16:18 when HE was talking about adultery. No woman has the right to divorce her husband and marries another over infidelity.
1 corinthians 7:11 has something also to say.

Now, I guess you'd look for something worse than a bigot to qualify me.

But I tell you the truth. Take back your arrogance. I see much hardship and unfulfilment ahead for feminists.

@ firstEVA, but you don't sound like they are your favourite.

And of course there's nothing wrong spending a good quiet evening with you.
How are you?

firstEVA:
I have nothing against the food dear.

Wonderful to catch you awake at this time.

Reading all the response from the contributing women makes me laugh.

Obviously the 21st century woman has taken her world in one giant stride with illusions and arrogance.

But one thing remains: IT IS A MAN'S WORLD! Pure and simple!

Hate me if you must. Call me a sexist if it makes you happy, but I'll say it like it is.

Men like their women fresh! Untainted most times, or after they've known her. A woman who leaves her husband over infidelity and marries another will soon regret it.
Most men who marry divorced women are not faithful themselves. And the chances of a man finding sexual fulfilment from a divorced woman ONLY is very slim.

The 21st century woman believes she is similar to a man, that there is no difference save for the hairs on his face and body.

But in her arrogance, the bitter truth of life sweeps in from behind.

Even never-married single ladies are having challenges getting married, and we are talking about the married and divorced.

Quit the pride and arrogance ladies! The best slot a divorced woman can get in this era, is a glorified sex partner. Or a P.A to an aged man. Hardly any young man will pitch his sexual tent forever with a divorced woman, even in marriage.

Your best shot most of the time is with the husband of your youth.

And one more thing: It's not the same thing when a man cheats and when a woman cheats.

But the shocking thing is, I've even seen men argue this in the negative. The sexual organs of both sex says it all.
Even deities reacts to a cheating wife.


God says, "If a husband divorces his wife And she goes from him And belongs to another man, Will he still return to her? Will not that land be completely polluted? But you are a harlot with many lovers; Yet you turn to Me," declares the LORD

(Jer 3:1)



If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD. Do not bring sin upon the land the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance.

(Duet 24:1-4)

Now we know polygamy is WRONG. And a cheating husband errs grievously. It's infact a mortal sin. But the above scriptures are HIGHLIGHTS of how abominable is the act of a cheating wife. Even when she was divorced and another man has "touched" her she cannot come back to her husband.

If your pride won't let you stay with your cheating husband, then honorably prepare for celibacy. Or you can choose to end up in a far more shameful union with another man who will eventually seek another woman when he is done exploring what is left of you.

A married woman who spreads her legs for another is a pack of shame before man and spirits.

This is no call for men to cheat or opt for polygamy or even divorce. It is simply a response to a lost breed of women.

firstEVA:


You've made me picture you in the scenario, nice one.

What about the food?

firstEVA:
hmm, nice one, if I male company, preferable a "sweet" being, it would have been more fun

Most definitely. No one likes to be alone for long. Chatting the day away. Same shared taste in music, your favourite food? Troasted chicken? What part? The wings, leg, gizzard? Nothing beats spiced and roasted chicken gizzard. Over warm jollof rice and salad with some cold juice.

I bet the hectic day will be completely forgotten.

menxer:
Hahahahahahahaha
Are you saying "the scripture is given for those it is meant for" that ask no question?

Be not afraid... is it not written "iron sharpens iron", can that happen without a little friction and/or iron fillings falling off?

...come let us reason together.

Afraid? Don't make me laugh.
There are principles:

One, I don't argue scripture
Two, there are basic requirements; that the scripture is without error, the authentic Word of GOD.

It's obvious you don't meet the requirement in #2. And so, we can only argue. I don't argue scripture.

When you asked "who is the author of the text you quote", I'm sorry, but that implies you cannot be considered a Christian in a true, practical sense of the word, and as a result you don't stand on the privileged grace to say "iron sharpens iron"

From your second quote, I could perceive your stance.
You are full of arguments.
But there is no common platform where we could both stand and kick it off.

I'm sorry.

firstEVA:
you should have quoted me.

My day was hectic

How are you cupcake?

Sorry for not quoting you, but I knew you'd find it. That no one else is called by that name; you would know it was for you.

Sorry about your hectic day. You'd definitely need your rest. A nice movie in a dim lit room, while you relax on your couch, a cold juice in hand, with dinner ordered would be wonderful.

I'm fine. My day was alright.

menxer:
How did I dismiss marriage or God in my comment?

Even the scripture you quoted, it was wisdom, free will and discernment at work.

If I may ask who is the author of the test you quoted? God?

How many people did he put to that test?

How would God guide and direct your path without wisdom and discernment?

You seem full of arguments and I won't indulge you.


"Who is the author of the test you wrote"?


What are you trying to imply By that question? You want to question the bible too?

Never mind, the scripture is given for those it is meant for.

How's your day been, Favourite one?

menxer:
If a child is properly trained (not just attending school) by the parents, the issue of the parent choosing a spouse for the child won't arise.

Why because a race horse won't act like a circus horse in a race.

The issue of putting God first, how?
God has given us wisdom, discernment and free will (and is all these) to make choices and gain experiences there from.

It would be a violation of divine principles for God to make choices for us in mundane issues.

If you can't decide and choose a spouse here, how then can you decide in more subtle dimensions.

I found your first 2 sentences as accurate as can be. But then there was a serious dent when you delved into marriage and GOD, dismissing the all importance of GOD- the founder of marriage- as inconsequential when man has to make a spousal choice.

Hmmm! How wrong can you be!
Apart from salvation, what else is more important than marriage? And if marriage is ultra-important, how dare you trust your own judgement?

Who is wise enough to understand the human heart, which is desperately wicked, by the way?

GOD chose Eve for Adam, and it was meant to us future generations as a guide and standard.
Abraham's chief servant was wise enough to make this prayer when he got to the well in search of a wife for his master's son;

"O LORD, GOD of my master, Abraham, he prayed. 'Please give me success today, and show unfailing love to my master, Abraham. See, I am standing here beside this spring, and the young women of the town are coming out to draw water'. This is my request. I will ask of one of them, 'please give me a drink from your jug'. If she says, ' yes, have a drink, and I will water your camels, too!- Let her be the one YOU have selected as Issac's wife. This is how I will know that YOU have shown unfailing love to my master". (Gen 24:12-14)

What a test! Choosing a life partner is worth such a test.
But most importantly , he didn't trust his own judgement or wisdom, and neither should we.


Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
(Prov 3:5-6)

Who are those who fear the LORD? HE will show them the path they should choose.
(Psalm 25:12)

[quote author=firstEVA post=42986880][/quote]Goodnight my dearest. Have a lovely night rest.

firstEVA:


What do you gain from reading me?

Nothing actually.

Or maybe predestination has things ordered up
For good purposes unknown.
In her tide let's tarry

Deep in the twilight of the woods
There seems no marked route
But yet it beckons gently;
Come!

firstEVA:
I don't understand

Why don't you understand?
The emboldened was what I thought exactly.
And I believe it was what you probably had in mind when you threw the question to me.

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firstEVA:
. I like two extreme kind of guys, the bad and very good. It always happens that the bad gets more love cos they need it more in my opinion.

firstEVA:
what part of my post is exactly what you thought?

The emboldened. And if I should ask, it was ome of your chief suspects.

Why did you ask?

firstEVA:
hahahahahaha
You are correct, almost too correct.
The emboldened depends on the person involved anway. I like two extreme kind of guys, the bad and very good. It always happens that the bad get more love cos they need it more in my opinion.

Exactly what I thought.

firstEVA:
nice. She's a goddess, beautiful rendition, I hope you like it.

Ok. My network is poor. But I've heard the few starting lines. Her voice is very rich accompanied by a solo piano.

Hmmmm! Being your favourite, it says a lot about you, than you might be willing to accept here on NL.

You're a very sensitive type of person,
You are very emotional too
You can love more than your partner in your relationship.
You can be self-sacrificing
And lastly very romantic and sensual.

Tell me where I'm wrong in the above qualifications.

Pls tell me to edit if you aren't comfortable with here.

FIRSTEVA it's playing finally. Though the network is poor. It's a staged performance. I think it's pure gospel genre.


I had to switch to chrome browser to be able to play it.

firstEVA:
but i'm using mobile too, lemme look for another, pls don't cry my dear

It's like the Alexandra girl also did a performance in X factor. It's on the YouTube list.

What genre is it? R&B gospel or contemporary gospel?

I like to know your music taste.

firstEVA:
You like the music?

The video isn't available on mobile.

firstEVA:
I like the feeling most times, it's sweet, controlling it may bore life out of me.

You like the music?

One step at a time, my darling. You start from somewhere. You've been used to this indulgence for a long time, and it's in your nature, like everyone healthy human.

With time, something else will replace that feeling it gives you. It won't happen overnight and neither can you fight it by your strength.
As you abide in HIS Word, such cravings will begin to wear away gradually.

firstEVA:
hahaha, "take captive" lol. I agree
Flirting isn't a sin right?

Flirting in itself may not the sinful. It all depends on the manner of flirting, it is sexual in nature, to initiate sex or an invitation to sex? If it is, then it is sinful. And so is obscene or filthy talk.

firstEVA:
in other words we need to be on the same page always.

Yes, most of the time. We are here to help each other.
Weren't you the sweet councilor who taught me more about being The Rope? Of course you are. I know I have things to learn from you.

Look, there is no young, able-bodied and healthy individual, with healthy hormones who dosent experience sexual pressure once in a while.

Experiencing it isn't not a sin or problem.
We only have to take captive of such feelings, controlling it, and not it controlling us.

firstEVA:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qSgsW9GLerA

Mmmuuuaah!
Thanks!

Being naughty is a normal human feeling. We only need HIS grace to control it.

firstEVA:
of course I know what you meant. Forgive me, I'm just been naughty
That's the mood i'm in now.


Btw, we can't be on different pages, it's not healthy.

Don't understand your last sentence, dearest.

firstEVA:
hahahahahahahahahaha, ok we can change topic quite alright.

Haleluyah by alexandra Burke, beautiful song.

It's not just changing of subject. It's been on my mind to ask you.

I've never heard that track. Maybe if it's on your phone, you can perhaps share?