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Xenry:
Always run from those girls that use to act as if you guys are dating even though you haven't asked her out, they usually crave for attention and are always distractive (talking from experience).

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Never be taken away by a girl's loyalty at first because most girls are actresses and they retire when they get married. (I've seen it happen.)

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You can't leave most girls without making them feel bad. You can't be an ex and still be friends with her (it rarely happens). Just tell her the real deal and avoid her, at first she's gonna make it look like you are hurting her, but don't give a fvck because toxic women have been scattering men's future from the beginning of ages. Na so Eve take scatter Adam's future. So you better RUN!!

bros love dey scarce o. na wetin i fit tell you be dt. dey find spec up and down.

GuyWise101:
Nna mehnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

The truth is Yorubas don't have any intention in seperating and staying apart they just want to make noise and give a fake impression.

Na wetin dey pain for una matter be that. una no won get sense. na crowd una dey find.

izito:
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In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

This is massive.

While I am not advocating for you to divorce her.
If I were the one. I would definitely divorce her. Because :

1. Trust has broken.
2. She was planning a life outside you. I would give her the opportunity to live in that life.
3. I am 80% sure that if you have had major problem with your source of income, she would have shown you hell.
4. She putting the family ahead of the one you guys have.
5. She is using you to achieve her goals and her family is aware of it.
6. Your real influence in the family (in her life) is negligible.

But ypu knew your wife more than anyone. At least you thought so. Moving forward, I would advise you to make sure that the damage was not more than what you now know. It might sound extreme, but start with DNA test. Check if there any third party in the equation. Check if there is plan to relocate outside the country alone or with someone else. Check those she listens to. What is the degree of their influence in her life.

In all, Yorùbá people would say, "tóbá kojú sí e kó tá. tóbá kèyìn sí e kó tá. tóbá kùn ìwo nìkan kó tún èrò ara e pa."

Loose translation : if it backs you, shoot it. If it faces you, shoot it. If you are left alone, reconsider your stance".

Meaning the decision is yours in the end. May God help you heal.

I wasn't expecting anything new from the destroyers of the country.

idiots.

If this is true, it's time to stop tgis nonsense. How many herders have police arrested?

Andy004:
I submitted my loan application successfully on the 19th of March. Could that be the reason I have not be sent training mail?

I just gpt ny verification mail yesterday. Only for me to verify and I got verification failed. What is wrong with this Nigeria ?.

Does thst mean registration has closed?

Otuegbe:
these guys have wives, boats and even live in a house ,yet Nigerian soldiers can't locate them.
There is more to this thing.

I wouldn't be surprised if their weapon supplier is from Nigerian Army.

Draslo:
This is not true at all

Well I had 3 experiences. It msy not be universal. But giving thst I can't sample tge whole short female population, 3 is ample!

They can't take phallus .

Jamestown123:
Nairaland have one of the most useless and low self esteem individuals in this country. Most of the comments i see from some people here is just so discouraging and full of ignorance. Most broke individuals here believe you really can't make money in this country, or doing business here is just a waste. Someone asked what business he can invest his 500k in to make a profit of 2m per annum, and some broke individuals who doesn't even have money for any business start up starts saying it's impossible. They are many people who are looking for that money to set them self up for life, and some beer parlour guys are saying it's not possible to make 2m per annum with a capital of 500k. Business is risk, everyone knows that, but saying someone can't make 2m profit from a capital of 500k just shows how far we still have to go in this country. Because some people can not even look for opportunities and grab them. Give them 500k them go chop am in 1 week, with the excuse that the money can not run anything in this country.

I am into business. let me know tge kind of business you are doing first before I can begin to take you seriously.

this is an insult to university education.

kaffy4tope:
Hi bro, how did you go about it ? I’m having same symptoms. Pls gimme your no.

It stopped by itself.

The work has being given out.

Hello!

I want to redesign some product labels. If you can do something modern and foreign-looking for an affordable price pls quote me with your whatsapp number.

Budget is my concern. So this job may not be for the big boys in the industry.

EdasGlobal:
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3.Iron ammonium diethylene triamine pentaacetate
4. Carboxyl phenyl polymer
5. Diisopropanaolamine
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kokaneprodigy:
Hi guys, I currently have a little above 5M in naira idle and I would want to put it into a business/trade. Something with good yield and room for expansion. Basically something I can grow. I don't want to invest it in bit coin/crypto or mutual funds ( i already have investment in those for easy liquidation).
every idea is welcome, thanks.

Please don't DM me.

I have cosmetic production business that needs investment. If you are interested, I coud send you details. We have two products already launched

Bvlgari:
bro i think the best thing for u to say is, this is what and what i can do as my handwork or this is my CV or this is the business i am looking forward to start...this way i can help u better...instead of just gifting you money that i dont know whether u wanna use it to carry olosho or drink beer and isiewu or play bet9ja

Bro you can help me by investing in my cosmetic production business. We launch out last month. The company is a registered one. You can contact me at greatmaxon@gmail.com fpr detailes.

Ahmed0336:
All these show up is to frustrate tonto.

I stand with tonto, we will not be distracted by this act.

Wetin be your problem? Wetin concern you with another person's show off?

For your mind that drug addict na saint. because she be woman. And she came online to make emotional noise.

She had her fun. She did her own show off. All these girls are just looking for baby daddy. Dem no fit stay with one dick. Even this Meurer or whatever her name is.

I stand with Toto ko I stand with puna ni!

How do I get to contact these investors?

ASUNDER:
My friend is currently going through a divorce in the UK and having a hell of a time. His wife mounted as many allegations on him as possible during separation - domestic violence, marital rape, child abuse, drugs and alcohol use, adultery, forgery just to name a few. He had to leave the house. He has moved to a room in a shared house and now even struggling to pay the rent. He does not see his kids anymore (not by choice). He is very broke and in debt because of all that is going on. He can no longer afford a lawyer. He feels so powerless, helpless and hopeless that he cannot fight most of what his wife is putting him through in court. He represents himself these days.

He has stopped looking after himself and is always looking sad . He also lost his job due to his arrest and all the drama. He was arrested because he tried to go see his kids at his former home and his wife called the police that she was afraid of him and that he had come to harass her. Police arrested him even without any traces of any harassment. Note that he moved out of the family house voluntarily thinking that the period of separation would ease tension between him and his wife.

I always feel sad seeing him in this state and just wish that he could recover and bounce back. He is considering moving back to Nigeria.

Have you gone through divorce in the UK or do you know anyone who has? What was the experience and what advice would you give someone going through this?

Thank you.

It seems to me that the sense of communism is not in force among Nigerians abroad. Everybody dsy claim oga. Is there no Nigerian group that could help a fellow Nigerian in distress over there to the extent that he is considering moving back and has lost almost everything he ever worked for?

By d way na white or black hin marry?

Kaya Mata ko Ihiru Kenyatta ni. Nonsense.

Mille:
All these yeye northerners busy writing rubbish to make it seem anyone cares about their embargo.....

The truth is, we don't care. All these noise about it is only online talk. People don't care about it offline. How many people dey chop cow sef.

Idiot even said "According to a report by the BBC, a ram was on Tuesday sold at N1millon and another at N800,000 at Alaba Rago Market in Lagos State.".



Where is the link to the BBC report? Rubbish and Nonsense.

It didn't even trend o Twitter. Hunger go soon kil them there by the time their produce don rotten finish.

This people and puna e!

Sirjamo:
If you ask PDP Dundees what was their achievement in all their COVID 16 years, they will tell you GSM

They took tge country from $59b to $510b.


It's not $440b no thanks to the vegetable in Aso Rock.

JOHNSONSOLAFUNMI:
2 of Dem should have custody of their children, don’t use mental health b/S to restrict him from his wards

Cash out? Nigga was broke to the "e" when married. So if it was about cash out, he wasn't qualified in the first place.

PrinceOfLagos:
So this guy is living comfortably like these

Why he behaving like a miscreant ?

Your father

Pyhonist:
Combination of the tooth and tongue make a mouth.

Bro Housas and Fulanis cannot be separated.

Hausa-Fulani is an anomaly. They are two distinct ethnic groups. They are not one and can never be one.

OBJ took Nigeria from $59b to $270+. Yaradua/GEJ took it from 270 to $510b.


Bubu took it from 510 to 440.

This must stop. I find it distasteful that ethnic violence is still happening in 2021.

Hausas are averagely peaceful. Don't mix Hausa and Fulani criminals together.

Okoroawusa:
I Love this

That man is a millionaire. Yet his fighting for a just system.

D day police go brutalize u or kill your loved one, I hope you will love it too.

If not that an average black man is a monkey, you are loving police police dehumanizing a human being for carrying out a right thsat wsas granted him by law. Yet you lots negotiate with kidnappers, herders and terrorists. Your time is coming. And when it comes you shall cry and people Will love it. Mofo!

blamingthedevil:
Plead with who ,. Miscreants, they no born their Papa well....they are only on Twitter

You are a useless breed. Idiot.