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George22016:
Some ladies don't deserve a marriage partner so many of them are on this forum commenting n insulting people who they don't know.

Well I really want to see where you will be headed

It is not true, every lady deserves a husband unless you are referring to a particular type of husband. For instance, a way word lady will deserve a wayward husband. A dirty lady will deserve a dirty husband etc

My sister, thank God people are eager to help by so many pieces of advice. However, as a marriage counselor, I wish to say that there are some of the advice that if you implement, it could crash your marriage. Equally, there are some of the advice that if you implement you will surely end up regretting in future, like the advice that said that you should divorce him.

As a woman, your problem is a mindset, if you change your mindset about him, many things will equally change about him. Moreover, you have a great role to play regarding the way he appears to the public as you are his mirror. So those who said that you should buy him clothes are right.

My wife does it a lot as she does remove clothes she doesn't like me to be wearing from my wardrobe. Most time, I may like to appear casual but my wife will refuse and will herself select the clothes she wants me to wear. So form the habit of helping to select the clothes you want him to wear. Clothes that make him look somehow when he wears them, try and remove them from his wardrobe. Learn to be proud of him.

I doubt if you sincerely want to be free. If freedom is your desire, the easiest way out is to submit yourself for deliverance. You think you can be free by your will power. It is not possible because the spiritual controls the physical, so what is influencing you is a spirit being but a deliverance minister of God will cast that spirit from you via deliverance ministrations. You need therefore to submit yourself for deliverance.

Sorry and my his soul rests in peace. However. it is a high time we wake up and realize that there is a spiritual force or the spirit world controls the physical world. The incident is nothing but the hand work of a jealous SPIRIT HUSBAND. The spirit husband was jealous and don't want to share his woman with a physical man and may not be the fault of the driver or the brand of vehicle. I posted a number of articles on the website www.destinymoulders.com. I keep advising young ladies to do want I call a spiritual x-ray to confirm whether they have a spirit husband or not before it causes havocs in their lives.

Every eligible bachelor looking for a lady to marry, there are certain signs he is sure to be looking for in a lady that will signal to him that such lady is worthy and suitable for marriage. Obviously, some ladies will surely remain single all their lives because men did not find them worthy and suitable for marriage.

So, if it is your heart desire to marry, you must prove to men that you are worthy and suitable for marriage. In this post, we shall be looking at signs that prove to men that a lady is worthy and suitable for marriage.
Before we start, I need to correct this misconception about single ladies who at times tell you that they are still searching for men to marry them. I wish to point out that as a lady; it is never your role or responsibility to search for a man to marry you but that of a man.

The responsibility of a lady is to position and package herself and makes herself available and easy for men to find her. To get a man to marry her, what a lady need to do is package herself and position herself. You read to read the articles I have written about packaging as I don’t need to talk much about it here.

As I said, you need to read the articles I have written on packaging for a better understanding. After packaging yourself very well, you may ask “what do I do to make myself available and suitable for men to find me for marriage”?

The first sign that a lady is worthy and suitable for marriage is submissiveness. You will know a lady who will be submissive by her character. So as a lady, you need to fine tune your character because your character says much about you:

Your beauty notwithstanding, if your character is questionable or is nothing to write home about, then it will be hard for men to accept you for a wife unless men who want to use you as a $ex symbol.

Of a truth, serious and responsible men rank the character of ladies above their beauty. As a lady, one sign that men are looking to see in you is whether you will be submissive which is shown by your character.

Secondly, there are ladies, because they are possessed by spirit husbands, as a result, men will never see them for who they are, that is will never know their true value or their true image. Such ladies because of the problems of spirit husbands, the spirit husbands will never allow men to see them as being worthy and suitable for marriage.

As a lady you should ensure that you are free from spirit husband because this issue of spirit husband is responsible or is what is preventing many ladies from getting married. That is to say, you must deal with the issue of spirit husband if you wish that men find you worthy and suitable for marriage.

Spirit husband is the reason why you see some ladies, beautiful to behold, highly responsible with a nice family background. Some are working in a reputable organization with nice pay package yet no man is interested in marrying them. If spirit husband is in your life, your true image or identity may never be revealed.

For instance, a lady recently wrote me with her picture with the following question, “Princevinco am I not beautiful enough, why are men not interested in marrying me?” I was blunt in my answer as I asked her whether she is sure that she is marriageable. To cut the long story short, after chatting with her on Face book, I referred her for deliverance. I wish to testify that after her deliverance, two men showed up and she got married to one of them within six months.

Thirdly, responsible men are looking for responsible ladies for wives. So one way you can prove to men that you are worthy and suitable for marriage is by proving that you are a responsible Lady: You do that by the way you dress and act. You can’t be dressing like a prostitute and expect responsible men and serious single men to take you seriously.

You need to be responsible in all you do, acting responsibly, dressing responsibly, and talking responsibly. For instance, recently, a lady in her thirties had a serious physical fight with a bus conductor over ten naira balance.

The lady in question came down from a bus and demanded her ten naira balance, but the bus conductor argued that he has no 10 naira balance to give her. Before the conductor could finish speaking, the lady held and tore his shirt, the conductor responded by tearing her own gown including her bra.

It was a passerby, another woman who rushed and removed one of the wrappers she was trying and covered the lady after the boy was held. It was a big scene that day. Now assuming that you are a man that is searching for a wife, will you approach such lady for a wife? To fight because of ten Nigeria naira was an act of irresponsibility on the part of that lady.

Another irresponsible action I saw recently was a lady walking and eating corn along a major road with one other corn in her hand. I could not help it but had to stop my car and confronted the lady telling her that her action was a bad manner that she should go and sit somewhere, finish the corn before continuing her journey.

What about dressing, the type of wear you put on speaks much about your person. So dress responsibly and not like a prostitute which you are not. Remember responsible men are looking for responsible ladies to marry. You can’t be dressing like a prostitute and expect responsible men to come for you for marriage. It is said, the way you dress is the way you are dressed.

These days, some ladies buy and wear designer’s wear that exposes their breasts. Such ladies think that by showing men their breasts or cleavages that they could attract men for marriage. No, responsible men see such ladies as irresponsible ladies. So, as a lady, you should not allow your dressing to betray you.

Fourthly, another sign that proves a lady worthy and suitable for marriage is her disposition or her first date with a man. Some ladies by their actions fail their test on the first date. There is this argument on whether it is right or wrong to go to bed with a man on the first date.

I am not here to tell you whether it is right or wrong, Let your conscience be your guide. GOD condemns any sexual relationship that is not with husband and wife. However, I keep saying it, you are nothing but a cheap article to a man who conquers you on bed easily, how much more on the first date.

In other words, a man accesses your true worth on your first date with him. Unless you pass his assessment, he may never ask for your hands in marriage. You would only be good for friendship but not for marriage.

Fifthly, ladies don’t prove to men that they are worthy and suitable for marriage by throwing themselves on men. Of a truth, most ladies are fond of throwing themselves on men. Most a time, some men, after asking some ladies out for dates one or two times,

The next thing is that some ladies carry their bags to spend a weekend in the man’s house. To do that, such men will never make up their mind about marrying you easily.

I wish to point out this bitter truth, it is totally wrong for a lady to carry her bag and go and live with a man who has not proposed marriage to her, even if he has proposed marriage to her.

But that is what most ladies do. A man who has not married or proposed marriage to you, for you to go and live with him, cooking for him and satisfying his $sexual desire. To do such a thing, such men will never make up their mind about marrying you easily.

Moreover, it is said that the gateway to a man’s heart is through his stomach. So a lady who knows how to prepare delicacies and as well as keep home is a sure sign that she is worthy and suitable for marriage.

As a lady who wishes that men find her worthy and suitable for marriage, what does it take you from using your spare time or some weekends to go to catering school to learn on how to cook? You will surely be glad you did.

Finally, a lady proves to men that she is worthy and suitable for marriage by being true to herself by maintaining her identity: In other words, be original and not copy, carbon copy. Of a truth, most ladies are not proud of who they are.

In other words, you should be original and not copy-carbon. Of a truth, most ladies are not proud of who they are as such, they try to be or look like someone else. By so doing, they end up destroying their own personal identity or personality while trying to be like somebody else.

Remember that you are a unique person so try to maintain that uniqueness and let men know you for who you are and to find you worthy and suitable for marriage. Remember I am praying for you, that a man will find you worthy and suitable for marriage. It is not over until it is over. You can still marry this year.

SOURCE: http://www.destinymoulders.com/7-signsthat-a-lady-is-worthy-and-suitable-for-marriage/

OP
The point is that you failed to specify who he is to have sex with?

You should differentiate between physical fathers and spiritual fathers. Any man or woman who is feeding you spiritual food like pastors are your spiritual father irrespective of his or her age even if you are older.

Thank GOD there are many Christian blog sites. However, you can check www.destinymoulders.com for interesting materials that can help mould your destiny if you are to fulfil your destiny

I was in a shopping mall recently and one woman there created an unforgettable scene in that mall when she busted in tears. What was the cause of her tears? It was another woman, a friend of hers that met her in that mall and asked her of her husband, how her husband was doing? The woman busted in tears saying, “I am no longer living with him, my marriage to him was a mistake.”

I picked interest in what woman said and came outside the mall and waited for the woman. When that woman came outside, I called her aside and showed her my articles in evergreen marriage website, convincing her that I am a marriage counselor.

After looking at me for a while, I got the woman’s trust and conviction and then she opened up and told me her story. According to her, she still repeated that her marrying Jonny was a mistake. I asked her why she said so and to my shock, I found out that it was the woman who abandoned her husband, she had a very high expectation about marriage before she got married to Jonny.

The woman said that her ex-husband had totally changed in some areas but refused to change in other areas she wanted him to change. I personally took note of four things or areas she felt her husband had changed and two areas she felt that her husband refused to change.

After listening to her, I was blunt to tell her that even though I don’t know her husband, that the problem with her marriage with Jonny was selfishness – that the two of them, that is she and her ex – husband were selfish.

On the part of the woman, I told her that she had a very high expectation from her husband while as she offered so a little. Before they married and as well as close to a year after they got married, her husband was doing many things to keep their marriage going which kept her happy.

The woman on her part was not reciprocating on what Jonny was doing for her and even took Jonny for granted, in fact, would say that she took advantage of Jonny her husband.

Incidentally after a while, her husband got fed up and frustrated and he stopped doing most of the things he was doing for her before. That was why the woman said that her husband had totally changed. Due to her selfishness, she was expecting that her husband to keep doing for her those good things he was doing for her before.

Again, because of the attitude of the woman, her husband was adamant and continued do those things the woman had complained about. That was why the woman complained that her husband had refused to change.

What did you get from the above incident? Of a truth, the case of many couples is like that of the woman above, they were expecting so much from their spouses while as they were offering so a little. Many spouses got frustrated by the negative attitude of their spouses.

So I ask, you have a very high expectation from your spouse or there are things that you expected from your spouse that will make you happy and fulfilled. Those expectations are not wrong. But the question is, “to what extent are you meeting up with the expectations of your spouse from you”?

Have you asked yourself whether your spouse is happy and fulfilled about his or her marriage relationship with you. As he or she had done things that are making you happy and fulfilled are you doing things that make him/her happy and fulfilled? That is, whether you are fulfilling the expectation of your spouse?.

As said earlier, many spouses are expecting much from their spouse but they are not ready or willing to offer as much as they were expecting. The solution lies in striving to do those things that bring happiness and fulfillment to your spouses.

The truth of the matter is that “if you succeed in making your spouse happy and fulfilled, you will end up being happy and fulfilled yourself”. It is selfishness on your part for you to expect much while you are offering so a little. So I will boldly tell you that your marrying that man or woman is not a mistake, you are the mistake. Stop pointing accusing fingers on your spouse accusing him or her as the cause of the problems in your marriage. You are the mistake and the cause of problems in your marriage.

Stop grieving and expecting your spouse to change, you are the one that need to change. Of a truth, if you succeed in changing, you will observe that your marriage will move forward for the better.
SOURCE: www.evergreenmarriage.com

One man with gloom on his face made this exclamation, “if I knew she was like that, I won’t have married her”. From the look on his face, you don’t need a prophet to tell you that the man was not happy in his marriage; he was full of regret of the woman he married as a wife. The man wasn’t alone; there are many men in a similar situation who are not happy because of the women they married.

The truth of the matter is that when a man is not happy in his marriage, it literally shows in his mood and face. That man, even though he had not divorced or sent his wife away, but they are not relating well as husband and wife. He complained that his wife was not appealing to him any longer.

In some of my earlier posts, I had warned women to be conscious and do everything possible to avoid losing their appeal before their husbands. Once a woman loses her appeal before her husband, other negative consequences in her marriage will soon follow.

But what on earth can make a woman lose her appeal before her husband and what should be done to remedy the situation? For one thing, as a woman, you don’t lose your appeal before your husband in one day; it is a gradual process and takes time before it happens.

I wish to say that most a time, it starts by ignoring a particular area or issue in your life which your husband does complain about time without number. If you are a woman and notice an issue or area your husband is complaining about you, don’t treat that issue with a wave of hands. You should know that he is not happy with you in that area.

So instead of ignoring him or his complaint, you should rather work on yourself to remove or improve on that area. If you ignore his complaint, time will come when he will choose to ignore you as well which in the long run, result in not finding you appealing.

An area some women easily lose their appeal before their husband is by allowing themselves to be an overweight. A man with regret in his eyes was quoted, complaining that the woman he has in his house as a wife is a shapeless woman that even look older than his mother rather than an elegant woman he saw years ago and married as a wife.

As a married woman, you should be conscious not to allow yourself to get overweight if you don’t want your husband to lose interest in you. However, you should as well not allow yourself to be too slim as not to appear as if your husband is not taking good care of you. Maintaining your weight and your body structure is necessary which should be one of the prizes you pay to sustain your marriage.

Another area that women easily lose their appeal is their cleanness or otherwise. As a woman, never be so lazy as to neglect to clean yourself and be clean all the time. It is noted that most of the women with body odor are those that don’t clean themselves very well and often. Never go to bed at night without taking a good bath especially if you are sharing a bed with your husband. Don’t allow your husband see or judge as being dirty.

Some women have discharge and it is noted that some discharge goes with an offensive odor. If you have such a problem, don’t allow your husband to have an affair with you especially at night without first of all going to clean your private with clean water.

A man once complained that he has made a stop to making love to his wife because any time he makes love to her, the odor that result was so offensive that he used to run away from the bedroom to the sitting room. So don’t be lazy, ensure you clean your body all the time or else your husband will not find you appealing.

Again, be conscious of your wears (dressing). Make sure you wear clothes that fit your body structure. Don’t because you want to wear the latest designer’s clothes that are reigning that will make you wear clothes that did not fit your body structure. Your watchword is that you should dress to please your husband and not to please the public. Your husband should be your mirror, so any cloth he didn’t like, don’t wear it.

Moreover, mind the clothes you wear to bed at night and don’t be fond of dressing like an old grandma. Those who designed nightgown, what do you think was at the back of their mind? Ensure that often you wear good nightgown aimed at fuelling your appeal before your husband.

Above all, ensure that you treat your husband with respect. If you treat your husband with respect, you will see that he will ever adore you. Remember all these are to ensure that you don’t lose your sex appeal before your husband. Ensure that your husband is happy all the time and you are the master key that will unlock that happiness in him.

Of a truth, if your husband is happy with you all the time, you will see that you will enjoy him and your marriage to the fullness all the time.
SOURCE: WWW.EVERGREENMARRIAGE.COM

This mail was sent to me by someone requesting a counsel of what to do. As this can happen to anybody, your counsel can help him take an action Read on "I am 33 years of age, businessman and doing very well in business but never married though I had planned to get married October last year if not for what happened that I called off the marriage. I am a committed Christian together with the lady I was planning to marry.

To get the background clearer, I am residing and doing business in Lagos while the lady is living in one of the states in eastern part of Nigeria (we had never slept together for once) and she had never visited me in Lagos. It happened late last year, the lady started showing signs of pregnancy but keep denying that she was not pregnant until after three months.

After three months, she was forced and taken to the hospital where pregnancy test was carried out which confirmed that she was pregnant. The lady was devastated and nearly committed suicide if not a timely intervention of her mother.

The reason she wanted to kill herself was not that she was pregnant but that she did know the man who had affairs with her. So the villagers were mocking her that she was another Mary as in the Bible who never knew a man yet become pregnant.

After it was confirmed that she was pregnant, the lady locked herself for two days without eating or drinking, the mother fearing that she could kill herself when nobody was in the house went and told her pastor who accompanied her to see the lady. When the pastor arrived, GOD revealed to the pastor what happened.

God revealed to the pastor that the lady’s pregnancy was from the family she was planning to marry into. The pastor followed her mother to my family in the village where they met my parents. The pastor told my parents that the lady got pregnant by a member of the family and that GOD said the person will die in 3 days time unless he confesses.

It happens that our last born 17 years of age who had just finished his secondary education was around when the pastor delivered the message and left. After the pastor had left, the boy fearing that he could be responsible for that pregnancy and he don’t want to die started weeping that he had s*x with the lady that he might be responsible for her pregnancy.

The boy confessed to what happened, it was one evening that the lady came to our house to collect a package I sent for her, and unknown to her, the boy served her a soft drink which he put an overdose of sleeping tablets. After her drink, she was so weak that she slept off.

The boy guided her to my room to sleep and pass the night. The boy’s room was next to mine and the connecting door was bolted inside the boy’s room. Late that night, the boy sneaked and entered my room from his own room(where the lady slept), undressed the lady and had s*x with her two times before day break.

In the morning the following day, the lady was still dizzy but managed to go home, and did not know what transpired between her and my younger brother. That incident with my brother brought about the pregnancy.

Please, I am confused whether to go ahead and marry the lady or not, knowing that I am not responsible for the first child to be born by her. So I need your counsel of what to do I still love the lady and she had not betrayed me willingly sleeping with another man.

Yes it is a little bit long though it is less than 1,000 word count. Those who desire marital breakthrough will take time to read it.

There are ladies, by looking at them, they are beautiful to behold, they may come from nice family back ground and have a lucrative jobs or sources of income, yet no man had ever said to them “I want to marry you” in other words, they are still single.

But there are ladies, they may look like chimpanzee per se, in fact there are nothing appealing about them physically, yet men are struggling and fighting over whom to get their hands in marriage.

You may be wondering why this is so? Yes beauty is not edible and may never fetch you husband alone. Authoritatively, I wish to point out that the favor of GOD is what makes the difference in our life, your beauty and up bringing notwithstanding. If you lack this favor of GOD in your life, things may never work the way you think or desire..

Let look at the story of Esther in Esther 2 from verse 8 to 18 “So it was, when the king's command and decree were heard, and when many young women were gathered at Shushan the citadel, under the custody of Hegai, that Esther also was taken to the king's palace, into the care of Hegai the custodian of the women.

Now the young woman (Esther) pleased him, and she obtained his favor; so he readily gave beauty preparations to her, besides her allowance. Then seven choice maidservants were provided for her from the king's palace, and he moved her and her maidservants to the best place in the house of the women.

Esther had not revealed her people or family, for Mordecai had charged her not to reveal it. And every day Mordecai paced in front of the court of the women's quarters, to learn of Esther's welfare and what was happening to her.

Each young woman's turn came to go in to King Ahasuerus after she had completed twelve months' preparation, according to the regulations for the women, for thus were the days of their preparation apportioned: six months with oil of myrrh, and six months with perfumes and preparations for beautifying women.

Thus prepared, each young woman went to the king, and she was given whatever she desired to take with her from the women's quarters to the king's palace. In the evening she went, and in the morning she returned to the second house of the women, to the custody of Shaashgaz, the king's eunuch who kept the concubines. She would not go in to the king again unless the king delighted in her and called for her by name.


Now when the turn came for Esther the daughter of Abihail the uncle of Mordecai, who had taken her as his daughter, to go in to the king, she requested nothing but what Hegai the king's eunuch, the custodian of the women, advised. And Esther obtained favor in the sight of all who saw her. So Esther was taken to King Ahasuerus, into his royal palace, in the tenth month, which is the month of Tebeth, in the seventh year of his reign.


The king loved Esther more than all the other women, and she obtained grace and favor in his sight more than all the virgins; so he set the royal crown upon her head and made her queen instead of Vashti. Then the king made a great feast, the Feast of Esther, for all his officials and servants; and he proclaimed a holiday in the provinces and gave gifts according to the generosity of a king.

From the story of Esther above, it was purely the grace and favor of GOD that spoke for her. Esther was an orphan and a slave girl for that matter but because the grace and favor of GOD was upon her, all the issues that would have disqualified her were never taking into accounts. She was not chosen because she was the most beautiful but because she was highly favored.

Look also at the story of Mary in Luke chapter 1 verse 25 to "Now in the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent by God to a city of Galilee named Nazareth, to a virgin betrothed to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David. The virgin's name was Mary. And having come in, the angel said to her, "Rejoice, highly favored one, the Lord is with you; blessed are you among women!"

But when she saw him, she was troubled at his saying, and considered what manner of greeting this was. Then the angel said to her, "Do not be afraid, Mary, for you have found favor with God.” And behold, you will conceive in your womb and bring forth a Son, and shall call His name JESUS. He will be great, and will be called the Son of the Highest; and the Lord God will give Him the throne of His father David. And He will reign over the house of Jacob forever, and of His kingdom there will be no end."

In other words, if the grace and favor of GOD comes upon you, men and women will begin to see you in a new light. All we ever need in our life for martial breakthrough is nothing more than the grace and favor of GOD, therefore we should seek that the grace and favor of GOD to rest upon our lives.

I pray for you that this grace and favor of GOD be released upon you speedily and when this happens, the problem you will encounter will be how to make a choice of who to marry because men will be rushing at you for marriage.

If you look the world over, you will see many overgrown bachelors, men who are over 40 years of age but are still single. Many of these men are handsome, well to do or even wealthy, yet they are still single and refuse to marry.

I met one such men sometimes ago that was over 40 years of age, when I probed on why he was still single, initially he answered that there was nothing wrong with him, but when I showered him my website and many articles I have written on marriage and relationships, he opened up and told me “MAN I AM SCARED, AM AFRAID TO GET MARRIED”.

Of a truth, he was not alone as there are many like him who are overgrown bachelors who are still single, they are scared and afraid of the responsibilities of getting married. The man has the boldness to declare that the reason why he refused to marry was because he wanted to live long, according to him, women are generally bad and had caused some men to die before their time.

My further probing, I learn t that the young man has had failed relationships more than three times, that was the reason why he had the impression that all women are bad, coupled with the fact that when he was growing up, he had seen his father and mother quarrel many times. In fact, his father died at the age of 62 of heart failure and he suspected that the constant quarrel with his mother was responsible for that.

Yes, when you see young men that came from a broken home, or a home where there were constant quarrel between husband and wife, such men are scared of marriage. That is why you see some scream that “if that is how marriage is like, I rather stay single”. If they should tell you the truth, you will observe that their main reason was FEAR, they were afraid or scared of the huddles associated with marriage.

From my discussion with that man, he told me that more than three times he got serious with ladies, but had to call it a quit with each of the ladies once there was any disagreement with the ladies.

I had to tell him categorically that who he was looking for a slave or a lady who will be a rubber stamp and not a wife. I told him that any lady that he will marry who will accept 100% of his decisions and opinions will never be a good wife.

I am glad to say that after my time with the man, his orientation and opinion about marriage changed and he got married three months latter.
You see, one of the ways to knockout marital fear from any man is to help him see marriage in its true and proper perspectives, to see marriage the way GOD the originator of marriage sees it.

We will look at what the originator of marriage says in Genesis 2 verse 8, And the LORD God said, “it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.”

In verses 21 – 24 of the same chapter, “And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;

vs 22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

vs 23 And Adam said, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man”.

vs 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

The true perspective and understanding about marriage is what is seen in verse 24 of Genesis “therefore shall a man LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER, AND SHALL CLEAVE UNTO HIS WIFE: AND THEY SHALL BE ONE FLESH.”

Man, you will never run a successful home until you leave your father and mother and cleave to your wife. Men who divorce their wives had never cleaved to their wives. Couples who cleave to each other will never think of divorce because they cleaved to each other, therefore are inseparable.

After leaving your father and mother and cleaving to each other, the next thing is to becoming one flesh. Couples who became one flesh indeed, will never think of divorce because the two are inseparable.

I have never seen a man who is normal that started hitting or beating himself, so when you became one flesh with your wife, you will never raise your hand to hit or beat her.

Equally I have never seen a woman who woke up one day and started abusing herself, in other words, a woman who sees her husband as been one flesh with her, will never open her mouth to abuse him.

What in your own opinion are other things making men afraid to get married?

Don't blame the woman, she did the right thing. As long as the marriage had not been dissolved, she is free to make love with the man if the man demand for s*x, unless the woman want divorce herself. Those who are blaming the woman are those who don't know what it means to fix a troubled marriage.
I wrote in one of my article that one of the way to fix a troubled marriage is by PAYING A PRIZE, the woman is sort of paying the prize. The man has a problem, and i pray that in cause of the court proceedings he will come to himself and call of the case.
as long as they are living together, there is still hope for their marriage.

The lady is older, so it is she who supposed to have been charged to court for seducing her younger brother to be having affairs with her.

My dear, don,t make case out of nothing. That your wife don't have feeling from blue film has nothing to do with her sex life because there are many who don't watch blue film. In fact I have counseled a man whose wife is annoyed anytime his husband puts on blue film. Look for other things that your wife enjoy rather than blue film.

Your case is touching and I advice that you get a good lawyer to handle it. It is better done in UK than in Nigeria.

@ POSTER,
My dear, you need help because your case is a clear case of been possessed by a spirit wife. You are married to her and as long as that spirit wife is in you, you can never love a woman but your love will be directed toward other men. To prove my point, visit Champion Royal Assembly Abuja and let Bro Joshua lay hand on you and let see after deliverance whether you will still hate ladies.

Out there, there are many ladies, they are beautiful to behold, some of them are highly celebrated in the society but they are not marriageable and they knew it. Such ladies, they may be desirous of getting married, but no man may accept to marry them and those who manage to get married, their marriage never last as the man abandon them soon after marriage. Reason has been that such ladies are not marriageable type.

My lady, beauty is not edible as one musician puts it, that you are beautiful is not a guarantee that men will rush to marry you. You must possess other qualities for you to ever get a man to marry you, that is you must possess other qualities that prove to men that you are marriageable.
When you say a lady is not marriageable, the following are the attributes of such ladies not marriageable:

PRIDE AND ARROGANT: Some ladies, by reason of their beauty or achievements, this may have entered their head that they become proud and arrogant that they threw respect for men to the wind. They can talk and abuse men anyhow. Some of these men are potential husbands, and as such men get scared that they will never want to have such lady for a wife.
It is a fact, men whether rich or poor generally want to protect and preserve their ego, they will never accept a woman that try to puncture their ego. So my lady, if you are abusive in nature especially against men, it is evidence you are not marriageable as men may relate with you for other things but not for marriage.

NOT BEEN SUBMISSIVE: There are ladies, they are so domineering in nature that they don’t accept what other people say, not even men. Such ladies, they always insist on having their way always even if they are wrong, by the way, they never accept that they are wrong. In fact, they always insist and ensure that their own opinion must prevail.

Marriage thrives by a woman been submissive to the husband as there are always crises in marriage where wife are not submissive. So my lady, when men sees and proves that you are domineering and will never accept to be under a man, in other words that you would never be submissive to a man, they will run away and will never raise the issue of marriage with you. In other words, you are not marriageable. Reason has been that two captains never man a ship.

LADY WHO CAN’T KEEP A HOME: One major attribute of a woman that is marriageable is been able to keep a home. Sorry to say that there are countless numbers of ladies who cannot keep home. Such ladies, they don’t know how to cook, and if you happen to visit where they are living, it always disorganized. It is said that the gate way to a man’s heart is his stomach, but when a lady don’t know how to prepare food or do other basic house chores, and is not willing to learn, it is evidence such lady is not marriageable.

PROMISCUOUS LIFE STYLE: There are ladies, by their life style; they are so promiscuous that they jump to bed with any man with reckless abandon. I was waiting for a friend of mine who flew from abroad and requested to see me in the hotel where he was lodging. That day, I was sitting near a group of five men, suddenly; a lady in her late twenties came in with a man, one of the men when he saw her commented that the lady was so sweet in bed. Others chorused the same thing as they all claimed to have slept with the lady. If you are a man looking for a lady to marry, will you accept that lady for a wife?

Ladies that possesses that spirit of promiscuity, men tend to run away from them for marriage. They can’t stay with one man, they are not marriageable because even if a man marries them by mistake, the marriage may not last and will surely break because she will going out with other men.
My lady, it is my prayer and desire to see you marry, bear children and be happy in your husband home. To make it happen, work on yourself and ensure that all the issues raised above are taken care of.

If you ask some ladies, they will tell you that their utmost desire is to marry soonest and settle down with the husband of theirs. For some in their late twenties, worry upon worry has started to set in their life as they are afraid if they will ever get marry in life?
Firstly, I want to point out to you that reasons you are yet to marry or gotten a man to marry you is because you don’t know what it takes to get a man say I want to marry you. You will agree with me that before a man will look at you and genuinely say I will like to marry you and meant it, you may have made a deep impression in his life that he desires to marry you. To get a man to say I want to marry you, you need first and foremost carry out a critical analysis of your life and situation by asking and answering to yourself the following QUESTIONS:
(1 Am I marriageable? Why are men not coming to me for marriage?
(2) Do I have what it takes to get a man desire to marry me?
(3) If a man should marry me today, will the man feel proud and happy that he married me?
(4) If a man marries me today, will I be an asset or a liability to the man?
(5) Finally is there issues in my life that are repelling men away from me?.
Your sincere answers to the above questions are necessary if you wish to marry soonest especially this year.
QUESTION ONE: Some ladies, even though they are desirous to get married, they are not marriageable type; men see them that way; that is why men are not coming to marry them. A man need to be convinced beyond all reasonable doubt that you are marriageable before he genuinely approaches you for marriage.

QUESTION TWO: Do I have what it takes to get a man desire to marry me? I talked so much about packaging in some of my other posts “my lady so is your desire to marry part 2”. Some ladies, the way they package themselves, you wonder if they will ever get a man to marry them. My lady, you need to pay extreme attention to the way you package yourself if you want men to struggle to marry you. I know a lady, after schooling her on packaging, three men appeared and started to pester her about marriage.
QUESTION THREE: If a man should marry me today, will the man feel proud and happy that he married me? Problem with some ladies is that they focus much attention on the quality of a man they want to marry while failing to ask themselves whether that quality of a man will find them appealing as to want to marry them.This goes hand in hand with packaging, focus attention on yourself, work on yourself, make and prove to yourself that you are a quality material. Believe me, when men see that you are of quality in character and other things, they will strive to be the one to marry you.
QUESTION FOUR: [/b]Those who went to school and are working class ladies have passed partially this question. But some, they are so lazy that if they should marry, men who marries them are marring bundles of liabilities. So if you wish to marry soonest, you need to prove to men that you are and will continue to be an asset to the man who ends up marring you. Believe me, when a man is convinced that you are an asset and will continued to be an asset, he will come for you for marriage[b].
QUESTION FIVE: Some ladies, their character and posture are so repulsive that they scare men and potential husband who comes their way. You need to make a man feel comfortable around you before the man will desire to marry you.
My lady, tackle these five questions and I will be happy to receive your mail that you got married after applying information got from this post. I pray for you and see you soonest in your befitting husband’s home. I pray for you and desire that you get married soonest.
source:www.marriageevergreen.com

Of a truth, divorce is nothing but an easy way out of a troubled marriage even though it is not the best option. Some who divorced later regretted their action when they realize that what caused their divorce would have been fixed. It pains me whenever I read about failed marriages and minor issues that caused their marriage to fail.

One major cause of marriage breakdown is infidelity. It is pertinent to note that love among couple get soured when either or both parties start seen another man or woman. As a result of infidelity, their love gets divided and before long the love for their spouse gets soured. Couples should realize that there are no better men or women out there. When any of the couple begin to get involved in extra marital affairs, he or she may begin to compare his husband with that man or his wife with that lady. But when their marriage eventually collapses, it is then that they realize that the man/woman they divorced was far better than their present man/woman.

CURE FOR INFIDELITY: As infidelity is the major cause of marriage breakdown, solution is to ensure that you never get involved at all. If you have gotten involved, repent whole heartedly and seek the forgiveness of your spouse. And if your spouse seeks your forgiveness, ensure that you forgive him or her wholeheartedly. Moreover, remember your marriage vow and vow never to allow another man/woman to see your pant except your doctor.

Other ways to fix your marriage

Rekindle the love for each other: Love is the bed rock of every marriage, so you will agree with me, when love is blossoming among couple, they will never contemplate divorcing. The main reason for contemplating divorcing is because love for each other had soured.

When love gets soured among couple, other negative issues will begin to follow. So if the couples concerned will agree to sit down and examine what actually happened to their first love? One or both couple doesn’t get up one day and saw that his or her love got soured because it took time before it got soured. Anything that is alive keeps growing, so if your love for each other is not growing, you should do something about it before it gets soured.

Secondly, couple should sit together and critically look at the issues that are causing or bringing conflicts between them. The conflict may be as a result of things any of the couple are doing that is hurting the other party, once the person concerned stop doing those things, the conflicts will stop. Or it may be the good things any of the couple are doing before which the person has stopped doing now. You will see that the conflicts started when you stopped doing those things.

Thirdly, the couple should sit down together and take a sheet of paper and analyze what is causing them conflict: problem with some couple is that they are not open to one another, and such they are not intimate. Couple should take time to build intimacy for each other. I advice couple having trouble with their marriage to sit down and itemize things they like about their husband/wife and then things their husband/wife is doing that are hurting them or things they don’t like. Believe me, if couple are sincere with themselves, i.e. with each other, each start working on those things their partner wrote down which you are doing that are hurting him/her, things will surely improve.

Above all, practice forgiveness. Believe me, one of the reasons why some marriages end in divorce is because one or both couple has something against each other which they refuse to forgive. What is that thing that your partner did to you that is hurting you deeply? If you should sincerely forgive him/her from your heart, things will positively change. The problem is that in most cases, some partners keep repeating those things they found out that are hurting their partner. Most often some couple gets tired and frustrated of having to forgive their partner all the time.

Couples should Change the way they react to issues: If your partner refuses to change in doing things that are hurting you, you could change yourself in the way you react to those things? That way, you will no longer feel hurt if he/she do that thing, and with time you will found out that he/she did not know when he stopped doing those things.

Finally get committed to your marriage: problem with couples is that they are not committed to their marriage. If they are committed, many things they take offense will not be as they will ready to pay any prize to sustain their marriage.

@OP,
PLs in addition to all the advice, you need to consult your doctor who will advice you and treat your case once and for all.

It is unfutunate that people are listening to propanda from the pit of hell. Sis Linda is possed, let her visit SCOAN to share her story and let see if that demon spirit in her will survive.

Many things have been said of Mayra Rosales or half ton killer as people may call her and many things may still be said about her. But of all the comments, I am yet to hear full comments about her husband Mr. Rosales, yet the story of Mayra Rosales would never be complete without any thing said about her husband. I said this because her husband is an epitome of a real husband who had stood beside her despite all odd even when she looked like a monster.

The story surrounding Mayra Rosales or half ton killer as been referred to, please watch the video in youtube, I watched it myself there. In that video, you will see that the person who was attending to her and showing her love was her husband Mr. Rosales. That is to say the husband really stood solidly by her not minding all odds quiet unlike some couples who would have abandoned their spouses for a slightest challenge. Of a truth only few men would do what Mr. Rosales had done.

Believe you me; Mrs. Mayra is alive today because of her will power to live and the love shown her by her husband which gave her hope. How many men will do that, standing solidly beside her? Please be sincere to yourself if you are a man: WILL YOU HAVE STOOD SOLIDLY BESIDE HER?

Of a truth, many men would have abandoned her since, but not so with Mr. Rosales, and if an award should be given to someone who had demonstrated real love in action, the award should go to Mr. Rosales. I wish men and women should borrow a leaf from him to stand beside our spouse no matter the situation instead of abandoning our partner at the slightest challenge.

SOURCE: http://www.marriageevergreen.com

Getting the man say “I do” is the utmost desire of most ladies. Many had tried all they knew, yet men seem not to be interested in marrying them and some get frustrated in the process. I will boldly tell you that the reason why you have not gotten a man say I do is because you may have failed the test and may not have known what it really take to get a man of your choice.

Ladies desirous of getting married may rush this article thinking that I may have sort of magic words to tell them that will enable them get a man marry them. But sorry to disappoint you, it doesn’t work that way. To get a man of your choice marry you, you must pay a prize for it because it is said that nothing good on earth comes free even in Freetown.

Before you benefit maximally from this article, I believe you may have read my earlier articles especially articles on “my lady, so it is your desire to marry? 1&2, “you and spirit husband” as well as”top reasons why some ladies may never >marry”. If you have read the articles and cleared all the obstacles preventing ladies from marrying mentioned in the articles, then this article is for you. And here, we will be exploring some tips on how to get a man of your choice say I do.

First of all, what kinds of man do you want for a husband? Some may ask me what sort of question is that. Yet I will tell you boldly that you need to answer the question sincerely and analytically because that is the starting point. If you ask some ladies, the above question, they will tell you “any man”. To say any man means that you don’t know what you really want and what you are looking for, and that is why you may not know when you find it. You must have a choice of the kind of a man you really want as a husband at the back of your mind. That is, you must have an expectation of the kind of man you are expecting as a husband.

Having the kind of man you desire at the back of your mind, then you must ask and answer yourself this second question, “Will this kind of man I desire, equally desire and be willing to accept me the way I am now”? I must equivocally let you realize that the reason why some ladies are yet to marry is because they expect much from the kind of person they desire to marry, yet they themselves are providing so little. The result has been that, that kind of men see these ladies as not fit for or befitting them for marriage.

Tips number one therefore is “prove to the man that you are the best for him”. Strive to make yourself fit and befitting for the kind of men you are desiring as husband to locate and stay with you until ” I do” is the final word. As said earlier, some ladies behave awkward, they desire the best and finest of a man to marry them yet they behave, dress like a foolish old village girl.

To be the best means that you need to pay a prize of working on yourself. You need to locate areas of your life that need improvement and work on them. It may be your structure, facial look, character or your dressing. Believe you me, there are areas of your life that need total overhaul, others need a facelift while others may need just a minor touch and will make you fit and befitting.

What I am saying therefore is, before a man will look at you and leave thousand and one other ladies to say he want to marry you genuinely, you may have made a strong impression on the man and he feel convinced that you are marriageable and best for him. For instance, I will tell you without missing word that I have the best of a lady as my wife and if I should make the choice of who to marry ten times, I will still choose her.

I tell you the truth, once you cross the huddle of working on yourself and be fit for men to find you, the resultant effect will be that men will be struggling to get you for a wife. You will see that you will be the one to make choice. Don’t try to push yourself on a man but rather do things and behave yourself to prove to him that you are the best for him among other ladies he may know.

Tips number two “realize that marriage proposal is not yet marriage”: The costly mistake some ladies make is that they make little impression on a man and the man proposes marriage. Instead of continuous working and improving themselves, they relax and start misbehaving by trying to push themselves on the man. Some go to the extent of parking to the man’s house. Along the line, another lady makes a greater impression on the man, proving to him without all reasonable doubt that she is better than you. As a result, the man makes a u turn about you and may eventually abandon you.

Quiet often, the lady who eventually takes over may be the lady’s best friend who she may have taken to the man’s house. So as you start working on yourself and men start showing interest on you, this is not a time to relax or stop but a time to do more in improving yourself. Remember the target is to prove to the man that you are the best for him among thousand and one other ladies.

Tips number three “prove to the man that you are an asset and not a liability”: Some ladies when you see them, no prophet will tell you that they are but a total liability. Such ladies, the only thing they can boast of is the fact that they are wonderful in bed and nothing else. For such ladies, men may continue to use and dump them as rag because men may like to befriend and sleep with them but may not like to keep a liability in his house for a wife.

Tips number four “prove to the man that you are marriageable”:
I am sorry to say this even though I will authoritatively tell you that some ladies are not marriageable material though they may crave and desire a man marry them. Who do you call a lady who doesn’t know how to cook or do some basic things in the house? So as a lady and may have gotten a marriage proposal from a man, prove to him that he is making the right choice, that you are a marriageable material.
During the time of courtship, he wish to pay you a visit in the house, prove to him that you know how to cook by preparing for him a delicacies that he will be remembering the first time he visited your house.

If I were you, I will prepare a local delicacy that that he is not normally used to eating in a restaurant and garnish it very well to make it appetizing. Remember your target is to prove to him that you are the best for him for marriage.
Note: the first time he is visiting your house, he will form an opinion or first impression about how organized or not organized you are and will note it the first day. The second times to prove how organized you are, he may pay you a surprise visit unannounced, so don’t let him be disappointed in you. If a man who wish to marry you but confirms that you don’t know how to cook, he may change his mind especially if he is such that don’t patronize restaurant.

Tips number five ”don’t fail the man’s test”: Realize that during courtship, the man may say or do certain things to you not that he necessarily meant them but some of the things are but to test you.
For instance, you may visit the man one day and he may take you to his kitchen and show you soup ingredients and request you to help cook soup for him. Realize that he may be trying to test you to confirm whether you truly know how to cook, whether the foods you used to serve him in your house, if you are the one that prepared them.

Or the man may visit your house and you serve him food, he may test the food and throw the food back at you that the food is not good. Please don’t lose your cool over it but realize, he may not mean it but may be trying to test your reaction. Simply apologize and promise to make it up and if possible appeal to him that if he will have some patience that you want to prepare him something else. You will see that he may start laughing and ask you to bring back the other food you took away.

I am sorry to say that many ladies fail this test. My friend once tested the lady he wants to marry with the same issue, my friend tasted the food the lady served him and complained that the food is tasteless that it seems that she don’t know how to cook. The lady got annoyed and replied to the man that it was his mother who doesn’t know how to cook.
The lady’s savior was that she called me to complain what my friend did or said to her over the food she took pain and effort to prepare for him. Lucky for the lady, I quickly reminded her that the man may not mean it but may be testing her reaction. The lady quickly ran back to the man and knelt down before him to apologize for her reply. She pleaded with the man to give her time to prepare another thing for him to eat.

It was then that the man requested her to bring back that food he earlier rejected and while the lady was watching he finished the food with the compliment that the food was delicious. He told the lady that his action earlier was to test her reaction.
On this issue of testing you, the man may try to prove how you react when you are angry. He may do things or step on your toe like making an unreasonable and false accusation or using abusive word on you. Do realize that he may not mean it but may be trying to see your reaction, how you react when you are angry. Don’t fail the test.

Tips number six “try to pass the test that you are an asset not a liability”: Assuming that you are a working class lady or doing thing that earns you money. When the man start asking you about your bank account, realize that it may not be to collect the money but to prove if you do maintain a savings account. Please use wisdom and don’t reveal the amount in your account now or disclose your ATM pin. Also the man may take you out for shopping, during shopping, never make the mistake of pointing to expensive things and expect the man to buy it for you. Use wisdom and moderation. For instance, before I married my wife, I took her for shopping, after selecting few items, she refused to select more items but requested that I should use the remaining money I would have spent on her to change certain things she noticed in my kitchen that need changing.

The man may try to impress you by wanting to buy certain items but remember, your target is to prove to him that you are an asset and not a liability. There are expenses the man may incur on you before marriage that may scare him that you may end up a liability and not an asset.

Tips number sevee “don’t fail that interview”: Realize the man may be secretly interviewing you when he is asking you certain question. Don’t fail that secret interview. Have you ever attended an interview and came out sorrowful because you were convinced that your answers to the questions posed to you were off point. That is exactly what happened to some ladies, because they weren’t serious due to the fact that they failed to realize that the man may be interviewing them unknowing.

For instance a man who is interested in you and want to be sure of your real age may ask you your birth day, he may ask you how many birth days have you celebrated and how many did you not celebrate since birth? You may answer that you celebrated twenty but did not celebrate ten. But when he asked you directly how old you are you said twenty four. By your answers he will be convinced that you are not truthful about your age because twenty plus ten is thirty yet you equally claimed that you are twenty four. So the secret I am trying to reveal to you is the need to realize that the man may be interviewing you secretly and know the answer you are giving him.

SOURCE: http://www.marriageevergreen.com.

TOP SECRETES FOR SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP
It is said that knowledge is power and right application of knowledge is wisdom. It is equally said that what you don’t know is your senior and you are intimidated by what you don’t know. I am saying all these because many marriages are having crises, some are failing apart while others are ending in divorce, all because some couples are doing what they ought not to do while failing to do what they ought to do with their marriage relationships. As a result, there is a big crack in their marriage relationship and quiet often the cracks keep expanding until the entire structure is pulled down.

For instance, if you ask any divorcee, he or she will tell you that if he/she had the knowledge before that he/she had now, they won’t have ended their marriage in divorce. Believe you me; there is no marriage on earth that is perfect that does not experience crises. The ONLY DIFFERENCE IS THE WAY THE CRISES or problem is managed or handled. The issue that is causing crises in one family; another family is seeing the same issue in different angle and using the issue to tease themselves and laugh over it. Many family crises gets out of hand because the couples failed to manage the crises very well.
Before I continue may I point out one thing that you should take note of, and that is “NO TWO FAMILIES ARE EXACTLY THE SAME” because what is working in one family may not work with another family in exact manner. I said this because some go and import what is happening in one family and expect to see the exact result seen in that family in their own family. Failing which the couple begin to accuse one another of been responsible. So what you see in your own marriage depends on you having correct working knowledge of certain marriage principles and equally APPLYING CORRECTLY THE PRINCIPLES.
That is, if you know and apply the secrets of successful marriage correctly your marriage will succeed and blossom. We will be exploring here few of these secretes that makes for a successful marriage.

Have an understanding of yourself and your partner: if you want to have a successful marriage relationship, you need to understand yourself in the first place. To understand yourself means to know your make up, that is your temperament. You act the way you do because of your temperament. For instance, if you bring an introvert and extrovert together, you will see that the two may react over an issue differently, that is in a different way. In addition to understanding your temperament, you need to understand the temperament of your spouse as well. To understand the make-up or temperament of your spouse goes a long way to avoid or prevent certain actions that bring crises between couple.

Learn to accept, acknowledge and apologize when you’re wrong: Many family crises results from our refusal to accept or acknowledge we are wrong even when we are. Well, refusing to accept responsibilities started from the beginning of time. Look at the BIBLE in Genesis 3 verses 11 to 13 And He said, "Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?"
Then the man said, "The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate."
And the LORD God said to the woman, "What is this you have done?" The woman said, "The serpent deceived me, and I ate."
You see, from the above, when GOD confronted ADAM for eating the forbidden fruit; ADAM blamed his action on the WOMAN. When GOD confronted the woman, she passed the blame on the serpent.
We are quick to transfer the blame for our action to somebody else instead of owning up to our wrong. The secret for a successful marriage is for couple to boldly accept or acknowledge when they are wrong. Accepting and apologizing to our partner when we are wrong go a long way to heal many wounds, and that is why “I AM SORRY” are three words that do wonders in relationships.

Strive to forgive and forget: Also many crises in marriage results from un-forgiveness. Un-forgiveness among couple causes great harm to their relationship as many couples are indeed harboring the spirit of un-forgiveness in them. I once settled a quarrel between a couple and it took the woman more than two minutes to recount all the wrong doing the husband did to her. The husband used almost the same minutes to recount his own. In fact I got tired listening to them. At the end I told them that I would like to have a look at their diary where they recorded all these they told me, but each claimed not having a diary. I told them that they are good historian, to have remembered all these wrongs done by their partner while they could not remember up to five good things their partner did for them.

I pointed out to them that they have no problem if they would forgive each other and forget. Their problems resulted from keeping malice and records of evil done to them. As the couple succeeded in forgiving and clearing their records of evil done to them, their marriage started blossoming. So learn to forgive each other assuming your spouse had stepped on your toe and never keep records of evil.

Pay attention to your spouse : Intimacy is one of the backbones that sustain marriage relationship between couples. But you can never build intimacy if you don’t create time and pay attention to your spouse. As a matter of principle, your spouse should be your best friend and best of friends do things together. Many couples had over grown eating food in a dinning together, bathing together or sleeping together.
Do you know that some men have no time for their wives? The only time they has for her is when it is time for love making. You can never sustain intimacy that way, so couples, learn to create time and pay attention to each other. Often go outing together if you are not used to, such as to amusement parks or other sightseeing, it goes a long way to build intimacy.

Learn how to communicate well: it is unfortunate and I am sorry to say it, some couples use foul language on themselves. Some call each other by their names, these doesn’t show maturity and good marriage relationship. It is not that calling your spouse by his/her name is wrong but at the same time it does not show intimacy, love and friendship.
Couples who are intimate and communicates well easily quickly and amicably more than those with poor communication.

Above all, Man love your wife, woman respect your husband: Viewing marriage relationship in the light of the BIBLE, this is the fundamental for successful marriage relationships. A man who loves his wife will pamper her and will never raise his hands to beat her. While a woman who respects her husband will never open her mouth to abuse him. A man who loves his wife and the wife respects him; the couple is on stepping stone to a successful marriage relation.

SOURCE:http://www.marriageevergreen.com

@poster,

My lady, fight for your marriage. It pays you more to stay married, so learn to cultivate love for him again. There is nothing the eyes has not seen and there is nothing the eye will see that would make it shade blood instead of tears. Your marriage need reconstruction so you may need a guide. You can visit http://www.marriageevergreen.com and use the contact information there to contact me . I believe your marriage could blossom and be ever green again.

A young man once wrote, requesting for advice of what to do. This was his story: We are 6 six in the family, 4 boys and 2 girls and girls were the first born and last born. I am 17 and my immediate younger sister was 15 then. She was doing her SS2 while I was in 2nd year in the university.

One faithful day, my sister was all alone in the house because they were on holiday while I attend school from home. That faithful day, I came back from where I went to in the morning around 11:00 am. I opened the door and went straight to my room not realizing that my younger sister was at home. After a while, I heard a noise in her room and I went to check, I opened the curtain of her room without knocking and lo and behold I met my sister in front of a mirror stark naked observing herself. She ignored what I saw since I was her blood brother, but continued what she was doing thinking that I just peeped and went back immediately not knowing that I stood by the curtain watching her.
The site of her nipples and her pubic hair triggered some sensation and urge inside of me that I could not control myself again as my stick became fully charged protruding through my trousers. I decided and removed my trousers and went back to her room stark naked, she was still naked herself. She shouted when she saw me and asked what I was doing in her room? She rushed and took towel and covered herself. I pleaded with her that I could not control myself by reason of seeing her naked by mistake. I pleaded with her to HELP ME to deflect the rod that was hanging in between my two ties. She asked me how and I told her that if she would use her hand to rub my stick that I will surely release and be okay. She agreed and we sat on the bed and she started rubbing her two hands on my rod that was fully charged while I was enjoying it.

After a while, she stopped rubbing me and I opened my eyes to see why and observed that the towel she was putting on had fallen off. She had bent down to pick it. At that moment, I pulled her to myself and started handling her Brest even though she was vehemently protesting that I am her blood brother that I should leave her alone. Before I knew what was happening I was on top of her and at that moment she relaxed even opened her legs wide for me as I entered her. She screamed as I made the first movement as her hymen got broken being her first sexual experience. I enjoyed it and I believe she enjoyed it as well even as blood was all over the bed. She removed and changed the bed sheet and I felt so ashamed of my action. Before the blood resulting from her broken hymen stopped, I was afraid that our parents could come home and meet her in that condition.

Later I went to her room to apologize for what I did but she told me that there was no need for my apology that she was going to tell our parent of what I did, claiming that I came to her room while she was dressing and raped her. I knelt down before her begging her not to. After a while, she told me that the only condition that would make her not to tell our parents was that I pay for what I did to her with my black berry phone. I gave her my blackberry phone though parting with that blackberry pained me so much.
Ever since then, I would tell you that she kept making series of demands from me of which if I refuse, she will threaten to inform our parents of the incident. I want to say that I am in bondage; the shame of what I did was over whelming that I don’t want our parents or anybody else to know of it. At the same time I don’t want to continue been her slave as I found it difficult to meet up with her demands. Please what should I do.?

COMMENT: This was a precarious situation, what they did was a shameful act as the young man rightly said. But these nothing the eye could see that could make it shade blood instead of tears. What has happened has happened so what I advised the young man was to confess his action to GOD and repent of what he did. After that, he should go and knee before his parents and confess to them and face the consequence once and for all rather than been in perpetual bondage to his sister.
However, I must sound a serious warning to our youths, not to toy with our emotion. Sexual urge is always over whelming that you may not control yourself. Once aroused you may throw caution to the wind like the young man above. Like we used to say in our University days, don’t provoke the bull because you may not be able to control it once it gets up. It may surely DESTROY something before it comes down.
I will only advice young men who find themselves in similar situation to do what Joseph in the BIBLE did with PORTIFER’S wife, “HE FLEE”. If the young man above had flown, he would not have ended having affairs with his blood sister. If the young man had peeped and left, he wouldn’t have been aroused to the extent of been overwhelmed.

Finally, the above situation is a shameful act, I would advise the young man to go to his parents and CONFESSED THE MATTER TO THEM and wait for the consequences rather than been in perpetual bondage to his sister. Moreover, the young man must make sure that HE HAS CONFESSED HIS ACTION BEFORE GOD AND REPENTED OF HIS ACTION. WHAT HE DID WAS A TERRIBLE SIN, AN ABOMINATION BEFORE GOD. What is your opinion if you think my advice was wrong? Your own opinion could be a better option .

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Many young men/women out of desperate desire to marry had married someone who they had no slightest knowledge of who the person really is. That is why you hear such comments as “I don’t know the man was like this or I don’t know the lady was like this”.

Moreover, I must point out that most breakages in marriages results in not knowing our partner before marriage. Also, most often, we choose to ignore certain characters in our partner wishing and hoping that he/she would change after marriage which is not normally the case.

For that reason, it is advised that you study your spouse to be, know his or her temperaments, his/her character, his/her likes and dislikes although during courtship, most individuals pretends a lot thereby hiding their true identity. Most often we pretend to be who we are not while at the same time pretending not to be who we really are.

During courtship as the case may be, any negative character we may have noticed in our wife/husband to be, we should confront our partner over that character traits so that the individual concerned work on those negative character traits.
Moreover, we need to ask ourselves whether we are ready to cope with those negative character traits in that man/woman after our marriage. If the answer is not affirmative, then we should retreat our steps before you say I do if we don’t want to live in misery or broken marriage.

However, I would authoritatively tell you that most broken relationships, we tend to accuse our partner of been the cause even though in the finally analyses we end up been the cause.

Believe you me, most broken relationships results from our refusal to be accommodative because if we realize that we are not perfect ourselves and strive to accommodate the inadequacies, weakness or fault in our partner we will live a sweet and ever green marriage relationship.

Finally, before you say I do, be persuaded that you are entering a marriage institution where no one graduates until life time. In this institution, you never stop learning. For that reason, you must be ready and willing to pay the prize to ensure the success of that relationship.
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From experience, some ladies are living a life of misery and frustration simply because they desire to marry but no man is asking for their hand in marriage. That is why you see times with number two ladies fighting over a man. As a lady, if your desire is to marry, I want to share with you basic things that must be in place that will get men struggling to get your hand in marriage.

First thing first, before you marry, a man must have seen you, desired you and then request for your hand in marriage. That is to say, you must be attracted to a man before he desires to marry you. So what do I do to get attracted to a man you may ask? Yes to get attracted to a man in the first place, the following must be in place.

PACKAGING: - Before you get attracted to a man, you must package yourself in such a way as to make man admire and desire your hand in marriage. So poor packaging is what makes some lady not to be noticed and attracted to men. You will agree with me that before you start prizing for certain items in the market, that thing must have been attracted to you. And the PRIZE you place on that item a time is influenced by the packaging of the item. There are things in the market, because of their poor packaging, anyone may come and prize them. But there are things you don’t prize any how because they are expensively packaged. There are things you will know are very cheap by the way they are packaged while other is expensive by reason of their packaging.

In packaging, there are items whose target are for Dick and Harry especially the market women. Others are targeted at middle class while some are targeted at the rich. So as a lady desiring to marry, you should know yourself and the class you belong to, that will help you to package yourself to attract men of that class. To do that, you must know the totality of your WORTH. There are some ladies whose only worth is been able to satisfy men in bed and as such they are wonderful in bed. For that reason they jump from one bed to the other thinking that they will get a man to marry them by doing so. But instead they get frustrated more and more because men use and dump them like rag.
So the easiest way to get a man to marry you is correct or right PACKAGING. You may ask, what do I mean by packaging? Before I continue, may I sound a word of CAUTION: As a woman, once a man conquers you in bed before taking final decision whether to marry you; your real value drops if not to zero point? It will take extra effort to build it up again as to get the man marry you.

In packaging, you should focus at improving yourself. You should ask yourself, what are the areas in my life that I am deficient that need a finishing torch? That is, ask yourself, “What is the “BUT” in my life? What are the things men don’t like about me? And what are the things men do like about me? You should work hard on yourself at removing the “BUT” while you try to improve on the good quality.

However, you must have evaluated yourself and know your worth the “class” you belong to which you are packaging yourself for. Once you achieve success in packaging yourself correctly, you will see men struggling to be the one to get your hand in marriage. Questions you need to ask yourself while packaging yourself are:

(1) The man I desiring to marry, will the man desire to marry me?
(2) If I will be happy to marry this man, will the man be happy that to marry me?
(3) If I will be happy to have this man as my husband, will he be happy to have me as his wife?
(4) If I will be happy to go occasion with the man and happy to introduce him as my husband, will he be happy to do the same?
(5) If I will be satisfied to live with the man the rest of my life, will the man be happy to live with me the rest of his life?
(6) If I will like this man to be the father of my children, will he be happy that I am the mother of his children?

You need to answer the above questions among others in packaging yourself, and that will help you work on yourself. Problem with most ladies is that they focus attention on the qualities of men they wish to marry while failing to ask themselves whether they meet up with the choice of the man.

SOURCE:http://marriageevergreenblog.com