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hernandson:
ika no e sir, when I was thinking he should add his testes to it too

Jlarry:
I read through all your comments, thanks to you all. I will be very concise with every details, we are here to learn from every predicaments.

First of all, it is very absurd for you to come online and share my health issues but I will handle this maturely.

We met through this medium, and all was going so good and perfect. We made each other promises in which I kept, we even had plans to tour the United States and Paris, which I have kept the promises as well (atleast visas as been issued to you).

Your EX keeps disturbing you at first I didn't even say anything, I believe you will handle until all became a mess. I told you to do anyway with his contact if you truly want us to start this beautiful journey of life together in which you promised and even vow not to ever to to him or see him anymore. Unfortunately you didn't keep to those promises, you lied to me on several occasions and you even delete the chat you had with him.

Love is one stupid thing, I have NEVER falling in love with anyone that I was in love with you. You swept me off my feet, and always told you that if we continue the way it is at this beginning there won't be an end to this love we share.

Yes, your mum knew about my health issue but I was so confident the story will change in no time only if there is no God! And it actually Changed!!!
At first when the test was done, it was azoospermia (maybe it happened possibly by the way we moved the semen from my house to the lab or vice versa). But wit the help of God the most high, I got genuine herbs which I started using immediately under the space of 2 weeks the story had changed!! I went in for another test, by that time you are already having serious doubt, you are confused and engrossed wit you ex. When you saw the result you were so shocked that the story had Changed for good!

The day you blocked me, you ever came to my place we had good talk and I was thinking we are so good but I didn't know you had something else in mind. You called me twice that day after I dropped you at home in the morning but when I closed from work I called you around 6pm you already blocked my lines, deleted yourself off my BBM and also blocked me on whatsapp I just laughed.

I felt so down when I got home, I called you from my cousin line you blocked it. I left the house drove down to my friend place, he called you from his line you already blocked him too. I'm not a kid that one plays around with.

My friend and I drive down to you house in the late hour of that very night cos of the genuine love I have for you. On getting to your house the gate was already locked, I called your mum from my line she knows it was blocked and I dial the number from another line it went thru.

I said 'Hello Ma, she asked who is speaking I told her am the one she sound shocked. I told her that am at the gate, she said she is coming outside. Within 30 seconds, she called me back on my line was blocked earlier and she said I should go and wait for her 5 street away from your house which has never happened before. I was just laughing inside of me.

I waited by the gate for another 2/3mins to see what will happen, l just told my friend to drive so that we can go and wait for her in the street she said.

On driving out of your street, low and behold I just saw you and your EX driving towards us I tried hiding in his ride while he was checking inside of my ride by the we drive pass each other. You are so deceitful, confused and you don't know how to make decision of your own.

I told my friend, it's over! Your mum had to discharged us from your street knowing fully well that you both are on your way back to your house. Not to be disrespectful to your mum, I called her back that I didn't get the street that she want me to wait for her that it's quite dark everywhere. And she said I should come and see her the next day but she didn't know I have seen all already.

Well, after you got to your house you unblocked me on whatsapp and you sent me a disgusting message I read it but I didn't respond. You called me later that evening, I purposely not pick up your calls. I later sent other message on whatsapp and text messages I didn't respond..

The next day I could even do anything I was so down, I didn't go to the office. My friend drove me away from lagos that day just to forget everything and move on. You kept calling and sending me text/whatsapp message that you came to my house, went to my office, went to my friends house, that you were searching for me driving round lagos in your EX car.
In my mind I keep asking myself, what else do she want from me you don't owe me any explanation move on with your EX and let me be!

On Wednesday night, when I got home my friend insist he should not sleep in my house all alone so he came later in the night to pick me up with his car and we went to his house. Funny enough, my car was in my garage you thought I was at home with my own EX whom we already part ways you think I am filthy person as you are? My said you came banging at my door @ 6am in morning. What do you actually want again!

You called me later on Sunday, I picked and I agreed to meet you to hear what you have to say. We met somewhere, you were pleading and that you don't mean to blocked me that you are pressured to do it bla bla bla. That am the one you want to be with and I ask you, so you can't make a decision of your own and stand by it?

You said your father and your EX picked a date on Tuesday night for your wedding already bla bla bla, that is it out of your wish. Imagine a grown up lady in her early 30's that can't make a concrete decision! So pathetic!!

Now, that I have heard your explanation what else? You came online to broadcast everything and to play innocent shey?

Thank you all for reading through this absurd epistle. I think we should try and always read from both side before passing any Judgement.

I think we can learn something out of this!


Screenshot of the first message she sent me after she unblocked me, followed by her plead.

vetisrael:
Same question I askd my colleague tday at work. This lady is dating a married man and I just wonder why its so difficult for some married men not to cheat on their wives, tho I askd her why d man is cheating and she told me that the man told her d wife caused it.
Makes me scared the more if I am also not going to cheat on my woman because I will marry soon.
I have come to a conclusion dt 3things combined won't make a man cheat on his woman cos d 3things are very important. If a man has 1 or 2 out of those things, there is 45% possibility that he may still cheat.
The 3things are:
1. True love for ur woman
2. Fear of God plus Holy Spirit
3. 100% self discipline.

SlimHan:
and what do you want her to do? kill herself for a guy who is having a nice time with his ex? i cant imagine myself been annoyed with somebody i love for 30minutes. infact i wont be able to avoid his calls. my dear just move on already. there is no perfect guy. they will only be loving at the initial gra gra stage after that comes their true colour. i hope you find love again.

377:
Good Day all.
I got married ealier This year and till now m'y wife is yet to get pregnant. She keep on seeing her period every month. I went for sperm text doctors said m'y sperm is ok here is the result below.
Volume: 1.1ml
Mortility 38 motile 62 imotile. Then on the 38 motile 20,active 18 inactive.
Sperm count:26*10
Morphology: 45 normal
. 55 abnormal
Microscopic : Pause Pus not seen
Generally he said i have no problem but i should take vitamin E to improve on mortility.
Pls doctors what do i do i want m'y wife to get pregnant i need a baby pls.

Got to his house by 6.10am this morning. I knocked so hard, called his name, called his phone. He didn't answer. I called his friends, none of them picked up. He was inside cos his car was parked outside. I suffered yesterday and I suffered today as well just looking for him. how do you get angry with someone you haven't seen? At least hear me out.
I got tired of making a fool of myself and left. His ex was certainly at home with him. I'm not asking him not to move on, I'm just surprised that he can be like this. He was the sweetest man in my eyes.
When his family called and was insulting me, asking him why he wants to leave her for me, I cried so much that day and he came to my mum to beg her to beg me. How would he have felt if I and my mum shut him out of our house. My mum that was his best friend suddenly turned to who calls and texts him without response.
Guess this is the closure I need.
I wish him well.
Thanks everyone.

Viking007:
I knew he was just seeking for attention from desperate nairaland females. I'm very sure some gullible members already sent him pm.

dingbang:
lol make he go wankkk for toilet na.. Shuuoooo

SexyNairalander:
this kind question sha

adviserseeker:
Three months later now, nothing as changed. Only thing that has changed is she is less, far less ( I must say ) disrespectful but I am still a celibate married man. She ensures she doesn't go to bed until maybe 12am ( by when I would have slept ) and fill her time with different things to ensure we do not have any sexual contact. Last month, by fire by force I had sex with my wife 4 times in total. I even at a time suggested the child should stay with her parents for 1 week so we can spend quality time together as it is what she keeps using as excuse which she rejected. My daughter became 1 year old on April 18 and considering it was 2 weeks ( at the time ) we last had anything sexual together ( not even kissing, I stopped trying to strike as I kept getting rejected ) I kissed her and tried to turn her on after the whole picture snapping thing ( we didn't celebrate the birthday as we both feel she doesn't know what's being done hence no point to waste money so it was not as if she was tired from working or anything ). After kissing her ( had to hold her head to avoid her stopping me ) she gave the excuse of that their is heat ( our gen needed service that afternoon and we couldn't reach the guy ), I immediately told my driver and her brother to take the gen to wherever they can service it. Night came, I was watching a football match and immediately I finished I went into the room to meet her ( around 9pm ) immediately I came and probably she sensing something will happen, she took the laptop with which she was watching a movie on youth and went straight to the parlour.

So people what do you reckon I do after this whole thing.

adviserseeker:
Note this is an aftershot of these threads - https://www.nairaland.com/3750699/problem-wife-could-problem-here/1 and https://www.nairaland.com/3371723/solved

adam500hr:
Prognose, u dey pokenose, it can happen to you too, nobody badder dan, nobody holy pass when it comes to woman matter. Without all these yeye thing with my woman, aswear my family too sweet. He dey pain me sha, u nor go understand though.

adam500hr:
Was not blind, met within 3 wks, got pregnant, told my parents i cant marry her cos i dont know her well, sbut they said in order to avoid shame for her family cos her pops was a pastor and that i woudnt want the same fate to become of my own daughter, that i'll just have to marry her. Thats where the story of my life began.

tripplephi:
SOLUTIONS FOR A NAGGING WIFE
1. Give her more attention

2. Gentle answers quench anger... so be calm. two wrongs cant make a right

3. Give her cash... money answers all things... women nag when they lack something and expect you to be a genie and know it

4. Good sex... satisfy your wife in bed and she will be less naggy... nagging is usually due to eratic emotions... very good sex calms it down

5. Find what makes her laugh... be her favorite comedian and know what tickles her fancy.. do it when ever the nag is about to rise

6. TOUCH.. there is power in TOUCH... babies that are not TOUCHED often grow up irritable and insecure... your wife is your first baby.

7. Pray with her often.... GOD CALMS STORMS even within us

8. REPEAT 1-7 daily and in 21 days you will see changes.
happy married life

ruthedawson:
I really heart broken as I type this msg. There's been an issue at home for a while now. I've been married for 2years now without kids. That was the agreement me n hubby had. We agreed to start trying after two years. I brought up the issue recently and he started giving flimsy excuses saying he's not ready to have kids, that he's different from the people who believe the main purpose of marriage is for having kids. Says he married for companionship. Times are hard. Etc. We had this discussion last night when it really tore me up inside. He should have told me this before we got married then I would have decided if I wanted to be with him or not. Now he's depriving me of happiness and joy. I don't know what to do. He's always away from home cause of his kind of job. So sex is like once in a month. I'm a housewife though looking for a job presently to keep me busy. I just want to her kids of my own even if it's just 1. Is that too much to ask? Please need advice from matured persons. I usually be don't air my problems online but I'm being pushed to the wall right now. I just need advice.

ifyalways:
Lol.

Was it that serious though?

NoToPile:


I read this thread then and had a good laugh but this recent update had me laughing out so loud.

An0nimus:
This one don turn to Nairaland series

OP, one thing you need to ask yourself when dealing with someone like this is ''can I live this way for the rest of life?''. Forget all the begging and tears that may come. If your answer to that question is no, bros cut off from that relationship ASAP. Do not take her back. I repeat, do not take her back. You're not quarreling with her but you guys are not compatible. It's as simple as ABC.

I can't imagine a level-headed introvert living with the person you described. Please for your sanity, consider how you proceed with this woman.

1234onyekwe:
how can tell ur fellow guy to try masturbating, does it mean that there are no more ladies out there.

thorpido:
You didn't lay your foundation properly.Even if it was a no-sex relationship,you should have tried meeting people he worked or did business with.It's marriage we're talking so you had to do some investigative work!

needforanswers:
he didnt fund it.

My parents covered up to ninety percent of wedding expenses. They wanted to help so that he can use his money for our new family after marriage instead of blowing it on wedding party.

B4bestbrain:
Better for you because at that age you were not meant to play with any balloon since it adds no positive value to you and you weren't ripped enough for such balloon lessons hence the washing; afterall washing goes with water and water is life, which is what you really needed at that time. Thank me.

RicoBee:
This question has been on my mind for sometime. I've been a member of this forum for close to a decade. I remember in those days, I mean those halcyon days, Nairaland used to be a haven of comfort where members who were disconsolate found solace...

cc. Lalasticlala