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YourCoffin:
So you are saying 90% of women don't enjoy sex as soon as they get married because 90% of married men complain about the same issue?

Hahahaha

Your response didn't tally with my answer at alll

eagleeye259:
I thought so too. Thanks. That's true. An interim solution is to minimize contact with folks.

Lol, surely it's not that bad.

johnkey:
Nobody can pressure me into getting married I repeat nobody.

My friend go and marry

RisenPhoenix:
To punish him. Either for being beta (nice, agreeable and servile) or for not giving her what she wants materially. If he has her respect and is fulfilling her material dreams, she will have sex with him whether she's sick, in pain or in the middle of the latest episode of her best Telemundo soap or a phone call with her mother.

I like the way u said "material dreams"

YourCoffin:
You don't necessarily need your wife to achieve sexual gratification so why get bothered when she denies you sex?

Well, if you're the faithful kind of husband, part of the enjoyment of sex is seeing that she's enjoying it as well. Its a very very important aspect for some of us, her enjoyment of the act.

Godmother:
Lemme give you reasons why a woman might deny her husband sex:

1. 2.3...

4. If she's not really into you sexually. She'll just be managing to be intimate sometimes.

There....can't think of any other reason why a woman WL deny her husband, but I stand corrected.

Why would a woman marry a man if she isn't into him sexually?

For such women, aren't they worried that eventually the man will start going outside since he isn't receiving intimacy at home?

Mindfulness:
Are you Dr Google? You sound like one.
In case you aren't Dr Google I thank God I have doctors in my family because some of you can't be trusted.

@bold
You must be joking.

Ok.

Mindfulness:
I can't believe what I am reading here. First people encouraged Caesarean section, now others encourage the so called husband stitch. Can you people do some research before you open your mouth to recommend and encourage harmful practices? Ignorance is a choice.

No responsible doctor will perform CS if it is not absolutely necessary and the husband stitch causes women pain but does not increase sexual satisfaction by tightening the opening of the vagina. It is the underlying muscle of the pelvis that does.

If your husband has a problem ask him to enlarge his penis. Simple.

Caveat: in case you're a google child. The "husband stitch" we're talking about is not the one that involves the levator ani muscles. And we definitely do NOT do it without the knowledge of the mother. Such articles that describe it like that are biased and innacurate in the generality of cases.

Mindfulness:
I can't believe what I am reading here. First people encouraged Caesarean section, now others encourage the so called husband stitch. Can you people do some research before you open your mouth to recommend and encourage harmful practices? Ignorance is a choice.

No responsible doctor will perform CS if it is not absolutely necessary and the husband stitch causes women pain but does not increase sexual satisfaction by tightening the opening of the vagina. It is the underlying muscle of the pelvis that does.

If your husband has a problem ask him to enlarge his penis. Simple.

Some ceseareans are performed on request. It doesn't have to be absolutely necessary.

Why will the "husband stitch" cause pain? Are u talking about during the stitching or after it? We are not going to suture a woman without any anlagesia madam.

bukatyne:
So you guys only do it on request? You don't suggest it for your clients?

Lol, no. It's not a requirement for post-delivery . A loose vagina is not an illness. If there's a tear we repair it. Sometimes we repair generously. If there isn't a tear you go your way.

Kegel exercises are also good. Vaginal trainers. A knowledgeable and understanding husband.
All these are alternate solutions.

bukatyne:
From experience?

Yes.

I've done quite a few.

All you have to do as a lady is ask.

12 bottles small coke
2 bottles sweet red wine
1 small bottle of Bailey's
1 disc fermented cheese
1 set party favors
1 box sweets
1 box of chocolates
1 packet of biscuits
1 packet sausages


Those were my last minute Christmas shopping list.

bukatyne:
Who?

The poster.
After saying "everything will remain the same," he now hopes she has a Christian home. In between the lines he knows the vagina won't remain the same and is hoping the husband will be faithful/religious enough not to go outside

bukatyne:
There is something called husband's stitch back in the days for women to retain a bit of semblance.

Don't know if it still exists.

You can ask your obstetrician/gynecologist.

It does.

Greatdre:
I am a married man with kid and a medical practitioner. This is my observation; the vagina never remain the same again after a spontaneous vagina delivery because of the over-stretching of the vagina muscle wall(rugae), irrespective of episiotomy during delivery or not. The introtus becomes more wider. Kegel exercises will only strengthen the pelvic floor muscle, thereby helping the vagina muscle but it doesnt return it completely to its pre-labour state. My experience: I adapted to the change in my wife’s vagina wall and I still feel the tightness. My wife usually feel pains during sex before pregnancy(because of my big dick) and sex was limited to a particular sex style to limit the pain but after childbirth, the vagina wall became balanced with my dick size, so, no more pain and limitation of sex styles.
Be rest assured that your hubby will definitely adapt to the change in your vagina after labour and still feel the same to him, provided he is fucking your vagina only. If he is cheating, he will definitely compare it to the other woman’s own and thats what causes problem. Peace

Jadeobee, inasmuch as the above post is filled with vulgarities, it is the absolute truth. I'm a medic and the above has also been my experience as a guy

bukatyne:
Why does the Christianity of the home matter?

Because he lied

MichealKin50:
Reread my post. I said I never cheated.

I read it right the fist time. As far as your lady is concerned you cheated. That's the picture u wanted to paint for her so she would open up to you! I'm sure you were expecting her to forgive you afterwards. But now the tables have turned, you can't forgive her? How do you know she wasn't lying as well to hurt you?

I repeat oooo, you don't love that girl else this topic wouldn't even matter to you as you would have been ready to forgive her after all it was "confession" time. Leave her abeg. Let someone else that will love her genuinely have a chance.

MichealKin50:
I doubt she was.

Even if she wasn't it was you that asked for confession. You cheated on her with someone and expect her to forgive u but you're not willing to forgive her?

You don't love her pls. Move on.

MichealKin50:
We musn't joke about everything. If you don't have advice just read and leave. Thanks.

Are you serious?!?!
Can't u see that she was obviously lying?
You hurt her by saying you slept with someone so she wanted to hurt you back. Na normal thing na. Guy are u sure you're ready for a serious relationship?

Obviously she was lying as well.

Op na wa for you o. You can dish it but you can't take it

jakandeola:
i dont nid to read anyting. it seem u dont know cococandy as u defend her hows shes popular in d room for hating men. if it was d man who act wicked she wont answer like DAT but will jump happily as a parrot to condem and talk evil against d man but see how shes afraid to do DAT against d wife. no need to talk rubbish as she did why not say d truth d woman is evil? she attack d man for having a maid.even wen d man said shes 16 years and a family member is 16 years too young.wat is age of marriage in naija aint it 16! in America were she is aint it 16. we have argue here before were she said she cant do house work for her family washing and all DAT DAT she has a maid.Is it hippocrasy DAT shes now condeming dis man for having a maid.is she blind to see d girl is a family member. can she see d wickedness of d woman who care for only her baby

Lol, I know coc0candy quite well. I understand your annoyance.

But in this issue she gave a balanced judgement.

jakandeola:
I know u will still find a way to live d woman and attack d man.u Neva dissapoint

How did she attack the man? Read what she wrote again.

It's a lose-lose situation for u op

This stuff is common among ladies and female house helps.

You better remove any emotional attachment you have to the house-help. Her days are already numbered in that house. If you support her too much, more people will feel your catching feelings from the girl. Na your wife people, send her home jejerly.

Now I've read the thread I've had a rethink.

Bros you didn't do well. Dubale for baba. It won't last forever.

@anifaza

I read somewhere where someone said u should put your phone on record, call all the sisters and sincerely apologise , then play the apologies to your husband. I go with that advice.

I'm not fooled into thinking your sisters in law are the only.villains here, I'm sure you've caused trouble for them as well even if u don't want to admit it. The truth of the matter is, if u want a healthy marriage, you have to learn to accommodate thier excesses. You too find a way to draw up boundaries where you will not tolerate nonsense if they cross it. Whatever you do, don't make your husband choose sides, it will always backfire on you. Have a heart to heart with him and hope for the best.

sassysure:
Some are very friendly.
The worst is brothers in law.
Don't argue with me on this today.

Lol, sis this is a blatant LIE we all know sisters and mothers in law are the real trouble makers.

Don't start making up stories to prove your point pls.

I dunno o, I initially thought this was a relatively simple matter but you guys have dissected it and turned it upside down so tey una dey fight each other. This thread is hilarious

TonyeBarcanista:
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Lol

IyaTola:
180K for himself and the kids

Did he mean paternity test?

Tosinayoko:
What is the cost of fertility test?

Fertility test for who? Male or female?