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chairman010:
bros did you watch the video?
looks like you already know what to say about every Igbo thread no matter the topic

Bro,
I watched the video that's why I asked those questions.

So what's stop you ppl from building your own roads, and your own cars.
Why are you guys waiting for the federal govt, you guys boast you can make Biafra great when you cut off from Nigeria. Why don't you guys start now or you guys need a flag before you start?

thesuave10:
If you thought putting up that crappy statement in bold Is gonna impress me, you're highly mistaken. Again I ask is that still your definition of a "made man"

Don't step out of your league next time, boy.

Go find some slay queen to impress.

RaggedyAnn:
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My dear, that saying deserves to be mocked (every once in a while). Now, women are their own people, going after their personal successes, and responsible for themselves. They're no longer limited to being talismans for men, or cheerleaders, or sounding boards, or the queen on a chess board. This saying has caused some men to blame the woman they're with for their own personal failings; taking that thing called Lady Luck a bit too seriously.

The first person to say those words probably meant to acknowledge the influence of women in the lives of their husbands at a time when women didn't have much of a life for themselves. It's a very patronizing statement (as per: don't feel bad, your relevance is seen through your husband's success) and it unequivocally states the position of a woman. These days, however, both men and women pursue their dreams and get support from each other; so, that saying should be updated to reflect the progressed zeitgeist.


It's not a woman's work to stand behind a successful man. I think we stand beside them now. Because we also need to be motivated and encouraged to reach our goals.

i guess the Op will learn a thing or two from this write up

thesuave10:
So that's your definition of a "made man"

THE LEAST YOU PAY FOR A 3 BEDROOM FLAT IN MY AREAR IS A MIILION NAIRA PER YEAR.
so tell me how much is a person suppose to earn monthly to afford to pay such amount for a 3 bedroom flat?

thesuave10:
So a 3 bedroom flat and an old model Camry is "made" in your perspective Damn!! And we complain when guys are called broke. This my friend is broke ass mentally version 2.01

i cant argue with you, maybe you live in the village where a 3 bedroom flat goes for 190k.

Amarabae:
being Rich has many levels.
Many ladies are not looking for a Dangote kind of guy but a Hardworking Financially Stable Guy.
and I see nothing wrong in that.
He may not have his own house, atleast let him afford a 3-bedroom flat.
He may not have a murano or quest, atleast let him afford a camry even if it is old model.
Women want to be comfortable. Simple

I understand what you are saying, it's doesn't change the fact that you want a man that is already made.

Based on your requirements....

lilmax:
what would be your advice? suffering all in the name of love?

we should always put ourselves, families,relatives in our shoes before we reply here on nairaland

Just because the Op lodge a complaint doesn't mean, all ladies have the same complaint. I don't use words on Nairaland cos they are at my disposal from my keyboard.
I say things from first hand experience.

2 days ago a friend of mine sent me a text that they just welcomed a baby boy. This a guy that got married to a lady that is a Princess. She got married to my friend that stays in one of the rooms in his dad's house - and they are both living there as we speak. This is the girl's decision, you won't tell me her dad does not love her for approving the marriage.

Some ppl are willing to pay a big price for their happiness.
Some parents are willing to do the same.
As a parent that's what you owe your kids - their happiness.

enshi:
With my research from different agents, a room in AJAH goes for 200k agent and agreement 25k each.. While in CMS and beyond AJAH you could get a room for 180/150 then agent and agreement would be 15k each...

I spend 800 to and 750 fro making a total of 1550 on a less traffic day. Ofcourse this is exclusive of feeeding.. But then if i am able to get closer to these areas i mentioned tfare becomes 500 or less for a day thereby saving a thousand + or -

OK you have to channel your energy on how to get a loan. You should start checking out the media (TV stations, radio stations, news papers, word of mouth) on how you can get loan. Am saying loan cos I doubt ppl will be willing to help you with money. Besides you don't ppl to start seeing you like a pest.

Now let's do the math why you should take out a loan.

Now you spend 1550 a day
Let's assume you work 5 days in a week.
That's 1550 x 5 = 7750 / wk

Not 4 wks makes one month
That's 7750 x 4 = 31,000 / month

Now 12 months make one yr
That's 31,000 x 12 = 372,000 / yr

Total what leaves your pocket in yr will be 372,000

Now let's say you take out a loan of 250,000 for 1 yr, most banks charge 24-26% interest rate.

For estimation sake we will use 26%

Now 26% of 250,000 = 65,000
Now 250,000 + 65,000 = 315,000.

That's means you will be paying the bank a total of 315,000 at the end of the year (plus the 26% interest all included)

Now...

If you look at the 372,000 (that leaves your purse/yr)
- 315,000 (loan/yr)
= 57,000

That means you will be saving yourself {57,000} every yr.

lilmax:
so what you saying is you will watch your daughter suffer, all in the name of staying with a broke guy......as in she go dey beg pampers money?

When my daughter come of age, she will be responsible for her decisions. I as a Dad will only counsel her and be there for her.

Amarabae:
Thank you for responding maturely.
A girl sticking with a guy in poverty does not guaranty her a wedding ring when the guy blow.
Ok?
My point is that a guy should be financial stable first before a serious relationship or marriage.

There was a pic that MissRaine69 shared with me sometime ago, it was about a guy chasing money. He chased money for a long time when he eventfully got the money he was old. This pic got me thinking hard.

If all the guys were to follow your advise most of them will be rich, old, and alone.

Sometimes a woman might just be that break thru a man needs to reach the heights.

Now all these am saying is only applies for ideal men. I understand you have doubts about men cos the society is now infested with fvck boys.

gentlekeny:
Its in my family blood

Serious? A lady that likes football? Are you sure you are not one of those fans that when your team foul person give penalty you will be saying "nothing him do am. Na goal kick"

gentlekeny:
Its in my family blood

Serious a lady that loves football?
It will be nice to argue football with a lady. But you guys are too emotional, Una go see clear penalty you will say it's a goal kick.

enshi:
Yet another wonderful idea... Have equally thought of this too but then, ours doesnt have a scheme for that... Atleast not yet...

Let's get some facts.
First answer this questions.

How much do you spend in a day for transport?

How much is the price for renting a room/apartment close to your place of work? (For a yr)

Michelle55:
lolsss .i wish him well in finding the reserved experienced virgin

Lol, virgins give me the creeps

Amarabae:
A LETTER TO THE BROKE GUYS.
.
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Greetings all!
I will like to briefly to thank all who wished me a Happy Birthday yesterday.
Thank you my Darlings. *kisses*
-
Back to my main subject, THE BROKE GUYS.
I have noticed that one of the most frustrating moments in a man's life is when he is broke!
This era of financial scarcity always leave many men with feeling of emptiness,
No wonder the sighting of that word "BROKE" always touches the nerve in many guys, no wonder the insults, bullying and aggressiveness they exhibit as a response to any thread that is dedicated to such a dreaded word.
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NOW Broke Guys listen, let me give you a bit of advice..
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Every woman dream of a comfortable future, a future where even if she is not been treated like a queen, atleast she will not be a slave.
Most ladies grew up and saw the financial difficuly and suffering their mothers went through in the name of marriage and thereby took a resolution not to be part of that fate.
So before you blame them for rejecting you as a broke guy, remember this.
1. Being broken is NOT a permanent situation, work hard to change the status.
2. Even if you are an unemployed graduate, you can raise a capital and move into business.
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FINANCIAL STABILITY AND SECURITY is an Important Requirement many women look at including me.
How can you expect a girl to reject a rich guy for you that live in a public yard and earn below #30,000 monthly?
The girl may really love you but she need a partner who is Financially stable, So Mr Broke guy,
Why not focus on improving your financial status instead?
From #30,000, aim to be getting atleast up to #70,000 and above, monthly.
From Public yard, aim at living in a comfortable apartment.
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No woman want to suffer, YES the woman may have a good job or business, but she need an equal or higher earner than her as a partner.
You get the drift?.
ALSO.
Some Broke Guys are LAZY in nature!
Women do appreciate hardworking guys, we do.
But the lazy type! Hush.
There are many unemployed graduate who love staying indoors, sleeping and always online looking for a girl to bully.
Why are such guys suprised at being broke?
They are proud and lazy to humble themselves and earning an income earning skill.
Tomorrow, these are guys who will be calling girls "GOLD DIGGERS" for rejecting their lazy azz.
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Dear broke guy, Wake up,
Work hard to improve your financial status,
Go and learn an income earning Skill,they are many out there to learn from.
OK. Broke is not permanent to a hard working guy.
LOVE YOU ALL.
Thank you.

Most times when the broke guy gets made he losses respect for women. Cos he will never get over that emotional state that he was dumped for being broke.

The best thing in life is moving from grass to grace with the same person.

It's only a lady that sticks with her man, and motivates him, encourage him, believe in him, that are the real heroes.
Ladies like this are like the Queen on a cheese board. They are invaluable, they are indispensable.

They are the reason for that saying:

"Behind every successful man there is a woman"

But your write up mocks that saying.

enshi:
Exactly the Idea.. But then how do i save when i spend half and quarter on Tfare...

Take out a loan, be servicing it monthly.

SaintXto:
HOW TO AVOID HEART BREAK IN
RELATIONSHIPS.
1. Not all relationships must lead
to marriage. Some relationships
are for a reason, others are for a
season only few are for a life
time. If it doesn't work out don't
kill yourself because it was for
something. Discover the purpose
and move on.
2. Don't give a man or a woman
the totality of your heart before
giving the totality of your heart
to God. Love that person but put
God first.
3. Don't get carried away with
beauty or money, if that person's
inner person cannot keep you,
his money or her beauty cannot
either.
4. Love is never enough,
understanding, compatibility,
wisdom, patience and tolerance
are equally important.
Do you agree ??

No.I doubt you know what it means to be heartbroken.

Even when teams lose a particular match the fans hearts are broken.
How much more losing someone you have gotten used to.

All what you listed above can't stop your heart from being broken as long as love exist.

But...

Most times it exist without knowing it, until its late

Op, are you a gay? I thought men do the work while women sit still and look pretty

Op you are asking for too much.
Why not save up and rent a room close to your place of work.

When beauty fades, it's the personality that keeps the man.

Michelle55:
hehehehehe... I laugh op in Hawaii.. so you expect a woman to be a log of wood during the drilling bah? weldone .if she ain't good, Its you guys that will complain.. now she learnt new styles on how to please you guys, it's still an issue... nawa o

Lol, the hypocrites want an experienced virgin

gentlekeny:
its true sha.

Just that we pretend in public alot.

Seems you know a lot about Football.
Which is your club

MIGOS feat TI & Kevin Hart

Baller Alert.

With the Passing of Chester (Linking Park Front man), And Chris (Audio Slave front man) recently I think Nairaland needs a rock thread so that these great artists genres will be known.

Pls feel free to drop the name of your favorite rock band and why you like them.

Cheers.

Dreamwaker:
Add DMX, Dre, xhibit, Nas, Fat Joe....

Add bizzy Bone and Flesh n Bone from Bone Thugs and Harmony

As I drag the devil down
I will stand alone
No longer Defeated.

totowater:
Please go....who you epp?

Hey, take your shiit to those substandard species you roll with. Insignificant ppl like you open insignificant threads, just to find attention.

It's a shame your beauty comes without brains.

Now if you don't mind, go quote fake ppl like you, leave me out of your conplexe problems.

Artist - Grieves
Track - RX

I doubt anybody on Nairaland has heard this track before.

So much melancholy coming from a hip hop artist.


#teamobscuretracks#

LeSudAfricaine:
Rage Against The Machine_ Wake Up

I will check this one out

ModusOperandi:
believer -imagine dragons.

Seriously? Imagine Dragons?
You listen to rock?

I think am done with Romance section on this forum cos rētards are gradually taking over this section.


Off to music section.