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Well, I've said it before. All these are not what a girl really needs, a serious girl. All what your guy was doing. Not that it shouldn't be done, but only to a moderate extent. The Koko is the meeting of the family, all those serious moves that lead to marriage. All those other niceties just bound you guys to each other without any true gain at the end of the day.

The other guy was making serious moves. He was probably doing less spending and more moves. The girl should have been honest about what she wanted, not eating from two places. And your guy should have minimized time wasting and focused all that money on the serious moves towards marriage. Or opt out after two years of you don't see money to marry, women really want to marry than to be doing bf and gf up and down.

Sorry to your friend, hope he heals. However, I just hope he doesn't pick someone who had nothing to do with it and start punishing her for what he's been through. He should go for therapy and get emotional healing before entering another relationship.

Maeve7:
Lunch
Turkey and potatoes
We didn’t do the grocery shopping yesterday so no salad or veggies to see here.

Ma food...

TheSnowLeopard:
Yummy moin moin I made yesterday. I normally make the containers myself using aluminum foil but I found these containers at the grocery store and knew I had to try them out.

Nice packaging.

blackgold2018:
you see why is important for a woman to remain a virgin.

A reasonable wise man wouldn't want sex from a virgin but waits after the wedding night.

But I can never agree to a no sex relationship because I wouldn't know what I'll be trapped on. What if on the wedding night you find out that your no sex relationship wife is too wide.

Well, the fact that many girls are not virgins means that there are many unreasonable men. 😊

What extent men can go to, just to make sure they are not cheated.

Ebenezer2021:
on an inactive thread please. It's something confidential

Say it here, if anyone attacks you, report their post and it will be removed.

Ebenezer2021:
please can I send a pm?
I want to talk to you descreetly

No, talk to me on NL.

I like some responses I am seeing here.

advanceDNA:
Oh sorry....i ddnt know u wanted someone that will roll over and agree with all you say in a dialogue.....essentially u want a captain save a skirt that will boost your victim hormones

Naaahh...go dialogue with you boyfriend ....that's his job... Uve been saying same thing since yesterday but come here saying I stuck to to my opinion.....well done...

Roll over and agree is not the same as actually debating things with a heart to not just reply, but reason, and honestly admit when a point has been made.

I thank God that I am not in the realm of any boyfriend. Take care.

You've married, no more sex with past lovers for you.

advanceDNA:
u sound like you are trying to give an excuse for something I dont get...so what if u say more and go deeper?? Are u saying I won't be able to debunk ur lies, half truth and fallacy..??

madam..all ur comments carried the same message ..so if u go deeper than that...you'll still be saying the same thing...that "u are victims" ... "Men are luring you"...and "you women want to keep body".

madam u are now trying to accuse me knowing what u ddnt present in order to play saint......madam, u went as far as presenting sinister scenarios about ur gender being victims so much that at some point, u were making it look like men wickedly target your gender in long game of molestation and psychological damage

Yeah,...You even accuse me of pretending not to know the game, technically accusing me of doing it.... ....that we lure women into the life of sex against their will....u even claimed we do it to intentionally make women totally lose any sense of decency becos we want continuous free fucking?, thereby blaming men for your first decision to have sex and also your continuous decision to fvck around
Yet u ddnt go deep......

for starter....go read ur own comment u are the one speaking with the general context that you all are victims...because u also spoke with the same general context about men painting the way we date as evil with an agenda to fvck yall and keep fvcking you for free.


...listen to ur hypocrisy....so u want to limit this conversation under the context that only men are evil by painting ur black and white relationship scenarios that women want love and marriage but men deceive them and have sex with them right..?? That's fine u are woman I never expected accountability from you in any universe time and space....

However, in debunking your claims u still don't except me to play the role of a devils advocate by creating an argument for the men u are accusing with ur black and white scenarios of lies or half truth targeted at making ur gender look like saints who only want love and marriage but was given penis instead...... Like seriously madam...is that how opposing sides dialogues work??

I have a million things to say but why waste them on somebody who's bent on sticking to the same lines. If you think your gender is good and innocent, right in their ways, keep believing that.

advanceDNA:
Playing blind?? To what end??
All u have are half truth, fallacies and total lies aimed at not being accountable for any of ur actions and presenting ur gender as victims after using men for orgasm....

Wait ....so u were hoping i'd admit your lies and half truth even after debunking each claim ..??

So deep down, you believe all ur gender are victims in consensual sex and you all want to remain virgins but are manipulated into fvcking around like we have in these modern times..??

Sigh ..u are actually more delusional than I thought....your a rare specimen

To you, you debunked things. I didn't go deep with you because I value my time. If I were to really go deep in this argument, I would say more.

I didn't address what you want me to address, women's guilt and what not - because you already know I'm not talking about all women. The aim of bringing up the fact that all women are not innocent is just a ploy to focus on women's bad side and forget about anything concerning dudes as we are discussing here.

I mustn't bring up the bad aspects of my gender when addressing the ills of yours. If we are talking about guys and what they do, let's do so without using women as a deflector or a shield.

Luckysbab:
How many men have you come across with the outline of their bulges down there showing to the world?

Men walk around with their chest showing and in short boxers and shorts, and if they want to move about with their bulges showing, they wouldn't be suffering the same harassment that women do.

advanceDNA:
I mentioned earlier ...relationship is symbiotic.. i cannot call it manipulation when both gender use each for sexual pleasure....

It becomes exploitation when ur gender wants something else out of it and claim u were deceived and lured because u ddnt get marriage out of it....


I am tired of going back and forth with you claiming u were deceived
Supporting who.??...u women always think u are doing a man a favour by dating him when he's not yet rich...like i said earlier..... yall are selfish always thinking you are doing a man a favour with your vagina in a relationship... Remain a virgin and stay in ur father's house..


i have talked on this before...lets be real...no single meets a woman today and instantly knows he wants to marry her or deceive her.......u are being delusion if u think that's how it works...
Every relationships starts with a physical attraction driven by flesh and hormones, that's basic...it only graduates to more over time leading to marriage or otherwise....I mean look around you...tour gender is married to millions of men......so why you making it look like the ones that dont work out is because the man used the woman for sex.....
There are men who marry próstitutes...u think they met and he knew he was the love of his life instantly....?? U dialogue like u don't understand human nature, psychology, and existing realites

....here u go again with this ur fallacy driven and agenda to fvck mindset..
...I don't know what u mean by holding for years unless the man is secretly married and lying to the woman
...u like viewing things in black and white....two single pple are dating for years and u assume one person is just deceiving the other person because it ddnt work out...its fallacy

that's not how men are wired....when a man wants u for sex only he gets tired of you like after a few weeks after sleeping with you...

Some times pple manage their partner until they see they realize redflags they cant put up with....a lot of times relationship dont becme serious until after a year or more....dont u see pple's thread here in nairaland how they put up with bad behavior from their partner asking if they should go ahead with marriage after a couple of dating years??

Like I said earlier...u and ur gender are selfish u always think once u are in a relationship, u have done everything right and the man should marry you other wise he's deceiving you.....

lol.... Bigger person?? How??...you have only tagged u and ur gender as victims since yesterday....pretend like yall want to keep ur virginity but only have sex because u were deceived with marriage.... I have debunked all ur claims with facts, existing realities in relationships, which u never admit to but only raise another point if being victims...but some how u want to form the bigger person... Madaaaaam....don't do this....

so now Emmanuel is a teen.. but u praised Regina daniel for hopping on a 70 year old man's penis at age 16..

Why am I not surprised....?? Like I said before u women are shameless when it's convenient and have something to gain....but quickly form victims call men the same thing u are when u don't have anything to gain

You will never accept the evils of your gender. Keep playing blind.

Luckysbab:
No problem. I hope you don't secure your belongings. We will join you in blaming the thieves each time. That works 🤝

How many men are covering up because of women, staying safe because of women, but women cannot be themselves because of men. Yet you will argue that we have the same desire.

Luckysbab:
You understand what you choose to.

If a bank leaves their safe unguarded and they get robbed as a result, you will condemn the thieves and the bank's carelessness.

No matter what, a thief and a pervert are the major ones to blame.

Blame their unruly dick, let them learn to control their dicks.

How many men are covering up because of women, staying safe because of women, but women cannot be themselves because of men. Yet you will argue that we have the same desire.

advanceDNA:
What u said is largely untrue because all u are doing is making u women victims in the same sexual activity u equally desire like men and consent to having,....how does this make sense to you?

The only victims are women and men that are raped....

.. U cannot enter a room with a man, spread ur legs, use him for orgasm, collect money from him, and come out saying u are a victim.......it's preposterous !!!!

U have total control over ur body, don't spread it before marriage and come here to pretend you were deceived....come on!!! ...which man promises marriage a few days after meeting your gender because that the longest u modern women last before spreading ur legs to get the díck

Deception and manipulation is real. I noticed you mentioned manipulation in relation to women, but you don't want to admit that men are also very manipulative.

Accountable for what?? Please explain....let me guess ...For engaging in the same sex u desire and consented to...?? For buying u gifts and phones, wigs u demanded for??

Many of you don't give gifts, many of you are broke with Barbara the builder girlfriends supporting you, waiting for you to come up. The sex... You mean the sex that many girls desire but want to keep themselves and then you seduce and decieve them into? Yeah now tell me seduction isn't real in men's world 😂

The truth is , u women are selfish...Once u say yes to dating a man, unless you initate the breakup, the man shouldn't have reasons to break up because u have spread ur legs, which is like the greatest favour u have done for him..... ..it's absurd!!

... Do u women ever think the relationship doesn't sometimes go well from the guy's angle going well to make him break up.... u guys just think u are perfect in every relationship so, if he's not deceiving you then he must marry you because y'all do everything right??

The problem lies not in break ups, but in deception when you knew you were never in it for marriage. Also, holding someone within a relationship for years, letting things go on as usual when you are done, that's a crime. I don't care how dumb the supposed partner might be. What's wrong is wrong.

See ....you women overestimate your worth in relationships.... .u dont ever think sex and relationship is a symbiotic arrangement....
..its always one sided to you women...the man is using ur vagina which is the greatest gift so he must pay u back with everything and marriage unless u dont want to marry him....

Yeah... y'all should continue with this mentality and see how well it works for you in these modern time....the joke is on you..

I'll be the bigger person here. You don't want to admit even when I made a valid point, but I'll admit you have a small point here. Though YOU are only here to prove yourself right and not admit it if what I am saying is true.

Plotting on how to sleep with her?? Yeah right!!
The way Ned Nwoko plotted to fvck Regina Daniels ....but because money is involved u and your gender all wished to be preyed upon like she was......
at least men are open about their desire for sex and don't claim to be victims when u use and leave...
U guys have no shame just like men but you come here pretending to be victims.....ur body is available to the highest bidder but and cry foul when things don't go ur manipulative way

Emmanuella is still a teen. No man should be ogling on her openly and shamelessly, like your guys are doing. No matter what you think about women. You guys are the shameless ones.[/quote]

advanceDNA:
Hahahahahahaha...u never get tired of playing the victim card ...u are even doing it on behalf of ur entire gender.....ur gender that is the new predator in these modern times, hunting men down for financial gain .....welldone

I'm not surprised because u gender has one usual signature behaviour common to yall, u never want to be accountable for actions u take...

U fvck around ..u claim u were lured
U kill...u claim a man made u do it
Paternity fraud...u still claim the man got u pregnant without ur consent and made u pin it on ur husband....

u can keep playing ur victim games...doesnt change the outcomes for your gender...

What I said is not untrue. There sre victims in this, and tagging us negatively with the name will not shame us from acknowledging it.

Men do not want to be held accountable for anything. It's evident from your posts. Trying to act as if the guy didn't do shit.

Your people are on emanuella's thread, openly plotting how to sleep with her. Pussy hunters.

AlabiKILLER2021:
Forget plenty talk



Both of em don get (Toto hair)
Which means they're already riped for harvesting

Oh, didn't know that any child that sprouts hair is automatically ready for sex and other sexual uses.

Luckysbab:
Minors are not supposed to be taught responsible dressing and comportment? Pray tell me what exactly was the purpose of flaunting this unnecessary pictures online.

Okay, since they were not taught, the next thing is to sexualize them and go after them and sleep with them? Is that what justifies all these lewd comments?

advanceDNA:
U are in denial and only thing to present ur gender as generally decent which is not true...u actually go around having sex anyhow ...this is 2024....women dont hold themselves ....you guys have many sexual partners and enjoy it..... even ur married gender that's supposed to stay with her husband fvcks around...so what are u talking about

There's a game and you pretend not to know it. Girls are drawn into the life of sex by sex hungry guys using different strategies, and a popular one is under the guide of love. After losing their virginity to these guys, they are dumped and then many other guys come in using many methods of deception as well. Guys know that some of these girls will totally lose any sense of decency after multiple heartbreaks and they want it that way. After all, if some girls don't lose their way, who will be free for fucking?

It starts from secondary school even, guys that young would be passing their mate around and though the girl is not wise to it yet, all the guys are aware.

Men run an organized system of how to handle their women knowing fully what they are doing. Most are complicit to the use and passing round of women, and the saving of a lucky few for noble purposes. They Co operate very well and generally benefit and also suffer from the same wicked conniving once the time of reckoning comes.

No act of ignorance to this organized system which I know exists amongst guys, will fool me.

advanceDNA:
.what u will never admit is that u women like fvck just like men .... seriously u should quit presenting these hypothetical scenario where ur gender doesn't want sex and only do it because men force and deceive them because those scenario doesn't exist in real life

We want sex, doesn't mean that we want to be going around having it anyhow without regards for the consequences it brings to us and not you guys. A woman would try to hold herself, una go talk say she be hypocrite.

advanceDNA:
yeah...like I said...wateva version of planning that doesn't sound like gold digging is totally fine by me..

Good.

first u admit y'all consider money and finance is important..now u want to demonize some of ur gender..well done..

I'm not demonizing them. They are a type with a specific standard, so if you choose them, stop complaining.

shebi u see u cant list the reasons?? Money is 99% of the reason...a woman in her prime gets more than a hundred toasters which always include serious men that want to marry her...but y'all look down on them because u have seen Ned Nwoko's virgin Regina Daniels and Chioma's davido forgetting the number of billionaire in the world are 1000: 1,000,000,000 and some will become rich later

I can list reasons but I feel we are in the same world so you should know what is happening.

the fact that you even tag it as "for free" shows ur gender's usual mentality of "money for exchange" . two people are dating each other yet somehow u are saying the man is getting it free......please do explain, what did give him that he got for free or ddnt pay for??

You are the one mentioning money, I simply pointed out that many girls are in relationships where there is no money. People have girlfriends everywhere despite most of Nigeria's population being poor.

Madam....we are already sitting back as you women now desperately bring it to us, see that man from equatorial Guinea??

It's good, please make sure you continue.

Madam...we all want to fvck...yall can't date without sex too so it's not a man thing....it's a biological thing....

Try a sex free relationship with a serious woman that says she doesn't want premarital sex, and see the result.

Men here be talking like it's the girls fault if perverts get to them. And they really believe what they are saying. They believe they have the right to pursue and sleep with any girl that dresses provocatively.

Well, now we know why some guys get arrested for following minors abroad. They feel it's their right. They think it's still Nigeria. They go outside and feel they can do it like in Nigeria and get shocked!

By these comments I now understand that harassment is an accepted culture in Nigeria.

advanceDNA:
this is funny Regina Daniel too will claim she planned her life..? Hahahahahaha
.. it is gold digging and exploitation if he's not ur type and will never consider him without the money...

Regina Daniels planned her life. Her offspring will never suffer or lack.

u are just exaggerating... Asking about his job is getting to know him....asking if can afford you and how much he makes after 2 minutes of meeting a guy is gold digging....

Na una dey prefer 'can you afford me' types of girls. So enjoy your pick.

no one said u should marry a homeless beggar on the street....but your gender is too driven by money making y'all single at old age because u have looked down on all guys because they are not significantly rich.......u can twist it all u want to make it sound like financial management class

Many reasons other than that abound for women being single and men's unruliness plays a big part.

indeed !!!!. I can see the seriousness is why many of y'all have body counts long like tape rule....I can see the seriousness, which makes yall look for money first instead of redflags of unseriousness .... Yeah right....most of you are not serious... U come for sex just like men and focus immediate financial and material gain

Coming from guys who cannot have relationships without sex, yeah right.

vlol....this is funny..like said earlier...everybody wants to fvck...u are just pretending it's a man thing...

[quote]Hahahahah!!! where did u see free dating?? Ur gender literally puts a price tag on everything ..from.the first date, to ordinary transport fare to visit, ans everything that follows........ .in the days of our parents men have to buy you..men actually married early.....

exactly my point above...but ur gender will never do that because y'all ask for 500k wigs, 1million naira phones, before y'all remember you want marriage....you would have started exploiting the guy before u realize u want marriage after many sexual excapades..

Don't generalize anything. Many girls are out here letting you guys in for free. Many of you guys don't have money and girls are dating them like that yet getting shit in return.

Sex has to be initiated by one person......and since your gender pretends a lot like they don't want it ...the men has to do it for you... Or do u want to pretend it's the deception that makes y'all spread legs 24-48hrs after meeting a guy....madaaaamm...let's stop this deception excuse.....

Since you believe it's sex women want, stay back and let them give it to you. Since we are pretending sit back and wait, don't demand for it for both of us, don't convince us.

advanceDNA:
Oh so that's the excuse u use to justify the fact that y'all consider money first before anything...lol......you can justify ur gender's gold digging and financial exploitative behavior with wateva makes u sleep well at night .......its not new to us...


Madaaaamm..let's not pretend here ...the truth is everyone wants to fvck,....it's a biological fact and need nature put on all of us..
.......pretending like only men want and deceived u into doing it is just another one of ur victim cards.....

...you women love and want to fvck just like men otherwise u won't spread ur legs 5min minutes after you start dating a guy...........

..so coming here to pretend like someone deceived you to open your legs is just pathetic and another one of ur gender's signature move of not being responsible for your actions

......let's even be real...which intensions are u talking about ......do you women say your own intensions?? because the truth is no one knows their intension from day one...it's all just physical attraction from the start...and if it grows it can become something more which can get to the altar ..but you women just think once a man approach u...he must marry you otherwise he came to deceive... madam this things are not black and white and u know it....

So .... that victim card that a man deceived you to open your legs expired in 1989....

Planning your life with a man you plan to spend your future with is not gold digging. If a woman so much as asks about your job, you call it gold digging. It is not. Everything should be known before jumping into a union and making babies with a partner. Finances are important no matter how you demonize that. Especially for the man who is expected to take the lead.

No woman that is serious about her life doesn't know her own intention for entering a relationship. It is guys that are on adventure, sex adventures, that will be deceiving themselves, and I don't blame you guys, it is free dating that caused it. When we go back to meeting parents and have parent supervised dates with no private time until marriage, una go dey all right.

Since women love it so much, you guys should stop asking them into sex or relationships. Let the pretence be exposed. If they are as Hot as you and want to have sex up and down, they'll come and see you. Just sit down and don't seduce anybody, let's see the situation reverse.

advanceDNA:
Hahahahahahah!! This is pathetic coming from the gender that date/marry for financial gain

Financial gain in marriage is essential and not just a feature sought after for the well being and fun of the woman. If a woman looks ahead, her children gain from her insight, and her husband will not struggle to do his duties since he was picked when capable.

Please, on the other hand, what is the gain of men who date for sexual gain? Convince someone who would otherwise close her legs if she understood the real intention from the start, please what is the positive side to this?

advanceDNA:
Deception and coercion?? Like wtf??
You are dating a man....if u feel it's getting too long for you to get what u want..then walk away and date somebody else.... Saying you are were deceived and coerced is just trying to play victim and not be accountable for your decision....

Then all men should have easily withdrawn their support when women said no and that also means that gold digger should not be a term to be used amongst men.

Since all those don't exist.

isacolukay:
Thank you for agreeing that the woman is desperate and that "it doesn't justify her actions".
Now you have agreed that you're being emotional about it and her actions are not logical.

But after "being used by various men in the past" is she not aware of the consequences of opening her legs too fast? She open am finish, come dey put up desperate actions of a deranged person.

Who told you that the disadvantages off leaving is on her? Studies have shown that women move on quite easily but men don't. I lost a girl 11 years ago and I still sulk when I remember the loss. Meanwhile, auntie don marry another man, born two children...

Since you agreed her actions are not right, please don't support it because you're a woman, correct her and let her come to her senses.

I said that before in other posts concerning the issue. My point is that I don't blame her because I understand where she's coming from. I will also not feel any pity for the man because he's very wrong.

advanceDNA:
Yeah right!! You haven't said anything indeed..

Btw ...Body count has always been a subjective issue...some men care while some.men dont .. i mean there are guys who marry próstitutes knowing who they are....
If u women actually worry about body count why don't y'all just make a person decision to celebrate till marriage?? ..but no...... know y'all can't resist playing victim...so y'all fvck around as u like and come and blame men for fvcking you... hahahahahahahaha!!!

Deception and coercion doesn't only exist for men. Being a victim is not for men only. You are aware of the shenanigans that go down before sex happens.

advanceDNA:
so the man lost nothing... how can two pple fvck each, spent time together ...but some how, its always your gender that lost because it ddnt go exactly how u want

But when a woman dumps the man to marry someone else better which happens all the time, even in cases where the man sent your genser to school for many years...y'all don't see anything wrong with it......
yall want to use men for orgasm, collect money, be treated like queens, and get to walk away whenever you like but the man shouldn't do so ....

the truth is you women just like to selfishly view things from your angle alone so that you can play victims... it's not nice joor

I personally haven't said there was nothing wrong with women using men, so you can take that up with the women who support it?

In this case, you do know that body count is something you use to distinguish women in men's world, and it's not like she can reverse having sex. So, they both had sex, but women are not going to use that against the man. Men however...

Her disadvantage, not his.

isacolukay:
Lol...
If he changed his mind on the proposal and still told her, why didn't she end it then? Abi them forbid her to end the relationship? Women no de end relationship for her village?
That woman is a desperado.... She is also delusional and needs her head checked.

It's not easy or nice to leave after there's been sexual history and years spent, wasted for the woman. The disadvantages of leaving are on her. So she might be a desperado but I understand her pain and all, even if that doesn't justify her actions.