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I post for fun and also for validation.

I stopped because I don't get the validation and it makes me feel bad. My former mates from university, secondary school still get hundreds of thousands of likes, but I get very few. Maybe six, maybe ten. I got tired of the disappointment, so that's one reason I got discouraged from posting.

Number two, the fear of spiritual attacks. I have a picture of my little boy on Facebook but I'm going to remove it soon.

Number three, the stupid competition and endless jealousy of other women. My son was born with hair, but I decided to post a picture of him when we cut all his hair, tagging it 'memories'. Immediately, a former friend that has over millions of likes on every of her posts went to post her own son, tagging it 'memories' as well, with his full hair. I immediately got annoyed, like you have it all, must you kill my moment. I posted my son with hair but she must have known how I would feel and mischievously didn't view my own. She just wanted to kill my moment of joy. I decided to leave social media for them that are always having five million likes while people view mine and I have so little likes.

Another fair skinned pretty girl on my WhatsApp took it as a personal fight when I started posting my naming ceremony pictures and baby pictures. She never had before in the long time that I had her contact, posted pictures, but once I did my own, she started posting pictures of her relatives baby living abroad. Like... How am I fighting you, I don't even know you. To the extent that I posted on Whatsapp and immediately she posted something that triggered me. Once I put up another post that made her know it pained me, she put up a cryptic post immediately saying 'you do me, I do you' 'you do me, I do you'. Actually it was a meme of a politician saying that aggressively. As I was posting my baby she was posting that her relatives baby like say na fight. Honestly, I think light skinned women get mad when they see less beautiful or black women get married and have babies before they do. Same for extremely beautiful women. Some of them have a very black heart. They think a less beautiful woman shouldn't have anything. The can also be insanely jealous.

If I'm not going to get those likes, it's personally painful and embarrassing to me, especially when my mates are posting their babies and receiving tons of likes. Millions. Then I'd rather avoid the disappointment and not post. Like, my baby is very cute, so what the hell.

Let me add, my mates post pictures that are far out than mine. They post pictures of themselves abroad, finishing books, winning awards, big restaurants abroad, flight tickets and experiences, themselves I'm different countries, themselves with expensive hair and clothes with clean skin and people like them. My personal former friend dey post her trips to Japan, her constant visits to big restaurants to eat... I know it's genuine because I know their wealthy families or successes and skills from way back.

With all this ... I should still be posting myself in my modest settings and life? Sitting by the wall, or at a small restaurant, or by my window in my house? They just remind me of luxury that I'm not living, successes that I haven't achieved, worst of all little to no likes or attention for my own. Is it not better to not post than to be buying myself depression with each post? I don't even branch Instagram much again, for my personal sanity.

She for meet you for your house make una kpansh straight.

You see that without sex you don't see the need for a relationship.

Kilishi. Not a fan.

nasbiafra:
Have you lived in a palace as a palace maid once to know if kings get gifts from his concubine or wives

Do you have to work in a palace to know the history and ways of kings? They teach us history in school, books and Internet information are also available.

The essence of history and education is to show us the way people lived even if we were not there.

illicit:
Actually, that's what kings do

Receive free gifts...

U ever heard of a king giving anyone anything?

I don't think a king would have his kingdom if he didn't give anyone anything. What draws many people to the king is the power of his wealth. They see that he gives to those loyal and close to him. Or those dear to him. He owns several riches with which he rewards and makes allies with others. The queen and favorites are made for life because his wealth carries them through. He doesn't really need any woman's wealth. He is amused with gifts, they are entertaining to him, and he rewards those greatly, as long as he is pleased. But he certainly doesn't expect women, noble or common, to give him anything. Most are dying to be with him so as to eat of his wealth.

I think you know all this but you're just catching cruise.

DeeScan:
yes they do cause they'd do anything to please him so he'd keep them as the queen, princess, snd concubines since they know they can gwt replaced with the flick of a finger ..





Seriously we guys don't know our worth ..



we're the fvcking price here ...

He doesn't expect it from them, but is pleased to receive. They give having been gifted far more at first, and knowing that what they will receive in return makes their own gift nothing. Whatever the king is gifted is far less than what he has and what he will give those women. They bring a gift, he makes them rich for the rest of their lives or gives them a high juicy position that also means endless riches.

Most men expecting these days cannot live up to this expectation or rank mentioned above.

fortunez1:
was thinking his probably a gay and his just playing with ladies to rib them

Maybe he is o. In that case I am sorry that Diddy parties are over. He could've gone there and received in the ass, after that, those guys will gift him so much money and favors.

He should just go and date a man, so the man will spend on him.

The guy is in princess mode. Just that his heels and tiara are invincible. He wants to be a princess and receive.

Ever seen a king collect or expect gifts from his concubines or queen?

luminouz:
You must be really jobless and lazy if you think I'd start my Monday with such trivial shiiit. You have Google and NL to help you out. I have pointed you in the right directions.

Resorts to insults when there are no more answers. I understand your position. Case closed then.

luminouz:
Because my version has been corroborated more than 10 times by different people close to the family while yours came from beer parlors and hair salons.

Mention the different people and prove their closeness to the family. Since you're working with facts.

Bombs.

luminouz:
How did you know how she was treated pre-fame? You dey live in their house abi? At least we all saw she ditched him upon fame...went offline and now she is seeking for relevance. You are the one who needs to learn the simple lesson she talked of...'never ever turn your back on family and people who loved you, without them, life ain't shiit'

You think the husband is not with another woman now abi and talking care of their child? What exactly does she now have, a broadcast job, given to her by a MAN! if we are so bad as you claim, no man go touch her after her bullshit

My own is not true but your own version is sure. See bias. You too are sure she ditched him and not her own account of the story.

luminouz:
Go.and sit down jor

So you didn't hear when she left him as soon as she became rich? Or is it today we hear of women behaving abnormally just because of little fame and power?

And how did the man treat her when she had nothing?

Lesson, that woman you think you can trash around today because she is helpless under you, can have more than you ever dreamed of tomorrow. Never take her for granted because she is helpless today.

luminouz:
Go.and sit down jor

So you didn't hear when she left him as soon as she became rich? Or is it today we hear of women behaving abnormally just because of little fame and power?

That's the version whose ass you would like to kiss. That fairytale version that makes the man always look like an angel.

He didn't marry her properly. He was beating her. His mom was abusive towards her. So when she made it she should kill her star and stay under him so that heartless misogynists outside can say she is a good wife.

Financial abuse was going on. Because she no get money, he rubbished her anyhow. God saved her, gave her money, yet you want her to sit under his heel where he steps on her face.

Why are people mentioning a husband that allegedly never married her properly, beat and mistreated her? So if she made it in life despite all he did, she should throw away the success and go and sit under him, and wait until he makes it. And sit under his shadow until he makes it more than her, or continues to put her under him if he doesn't make it. And endure more abuse from the mother in law who will definitely be more jealous now.

Some of these men sef, your star mustn't shine more than theirs, else.

idahme:
Free sex? I guess they should all turn osho so as to please you. You have sex with the man , just as you offered your body he also offered his body too so what is the fuse? After all pleasure the man will still carry all liabilities on his head? If you like you all should not learn how to be responsible. Join your men and help him carry the liabilities you all bring.

You didn't get me, as opposed to sex, paid or free, there shouldn't be sex before marriage again, so that there would be no corner to hide or no insult to give when time to pay bride price comes.

Shebi it's the sex that's making guys to have mouth to insult and complain.

sweetjohn:
Waiting Dey pain me pass na say That simp of a guy they shine teeth for this ugly thing

He's mocking her.

I think she's trying to be that daring, showstopping, I don't care pretty girl with the pretty privilege. I think if she was immensely pretty or if she was of another nationality, they would turn a blind eye.

After all, these don't seem to be core moral establishments or people. They just berated her because she doesn't have the level of beauty needed, in their opinion, to pull through with that stunt.

If a Regina Daniel type tried it, they will look away.

All I wish is that young girls can see the connives of men on them through these comments on this thread.

They are sleeping with you, deflowering you. You both would call it love, you will give it free to prove you love him and you're not a gold digger. To him, it's the food he gave you, which you probably forgot about before being deflowered, that made you to open your legs.

The same men are here on this thread after working together to cheapen you all, saying you're not worth bride price because they deflowered you with indomie and eggs. That was their plan, to cheapen you, so that when you all are ready to marry, they can join together and say you're not worth it, and keep their money in their pockets.

There's no love on the dating scene. The men are on a mission to cheapen their women until they are nothing, so that they can escape proper process. They start by catching the girls young, cheapen them, then turn back to say that our girls are too worthless for the honorable treatment.

Young girls, how I wish you can see that you can't please these people. Free sex in the name of love, look at where it still ended.

Food is too costly now, noodles and eggs cost 1500. Even the bukas are serving rubbish, now if I want vegetable I receive vegetables packed with Maggi, very little pepper, as if I'm eating Maggi and vegetables, and it's because they probably are low on pepper which is more expensive now. The best thing is to cook at home, outside food is now too expensive and on top of the expenses it's low quality and low quantity.

I feel weak because of health issues but I'd rather gather my strength these days and try to cook at home. At least, with my need for authenticity, I can't pack Maggi and reduce ingredients and tell myself I'm eating food. The oversalted outside food is making me repulsed towards food.

Kennitrust:
thank you so much.

I have learned the greatest lesson of my life.

Your comment has built something in me.

I was just too desperate to prove a point that I'm ready for her.

I almost wanted to give 500k

Lol I'm stupi.d

You are not stupid Sir. Just stick to small dates and gifts that aren't expensive. Focus more on knowing the person and making intentional moves.

Sorry, you have been used.

You deserve a genuine apology for a woman doing this to you. It didn't happen because you are stupid. You were unlucky that deep inside, the woman is an ingrate. So sorry about everything. You could have picked another lady, and she would respond with gratitude, or refuse the position because she's not interested in you.

Please don't allow her dishonesty and greed to cloud your mind. But next time don't make these sorts of large investments before any engagement of any sort. Even with a good girl, you would just be binding her to yourself with gratitude.

To show seriousness and trust, the main engagement, introduction and other mingling that involve both your families is the way to go. Don't rely on your feelings, do investigations using your family, before making a marriage move. After the woman becomes your wife, you can invest in her as you please.

Large investments cannot make someone you love to return the same true affection. Rather than expect favors from you which will blackmail her into staying, someone decent will prefer you use the direct route and start your investigation on her, get to know her without overspending, and get to her family to know how ready she is to be with you, if you too are serious.

All this love play is a dangerous game that doesn't often end well.

If it's so bad why not involve oneself with sex workers or porn? It's not the best, it's not moral, but it's better than destroying someone's life.

If you have a life threatening desire, and you love people, turn it on yourself, destroy yourself only. Get addicted to your sex workers or porn, or whatever, that will never let you pick an innocent person and force their own life to be ruined because of your desire.

At least by the time you get out of your addiction, you'll know you went hard on yourself and punished yourself alone, and no one else.

So sorry. I think you should call both of them and address the issue.

Eight people and not one could turn around and say he's not interested again. Even that smallest one. Cowardice, apart from other vices, is a really horrible thing to have. If not, one of them at least should have gotten up and said no, I won't continue this.

Glad they got caught, and I hope the girl gets justice. Really a nightmare.

You have a forbidden fetish, use all the energy you will use to ruin an innocent person's life to plan how you will satisfy yourself responsibly.

There is roleplay. If it's so bad you cannot control your desire, use the effort you'll put into cornering someone or raping them into discreetly paying for your fantasy to be played out exactly as you want it, by someone who is mature and consenting. It's better than rape. If your fantasy is that bad. There's people ready to do that, even if it is damn expensive, it's less expensive than destroying someone's life.

I don't care for the ugly woman discrimination, my opinion is that it isn't needed, but honestly if you get a woman who isn't beautiful and worthy in your own eyes, you'll treat her so badly. Why waste someone's time, go for a woman you feel is worth it, that you're ready to truly respect and value.

codedgalaxy:
and who says women don't sleep around after their husband dies?
Real life story, there was this woman I knew who got pregnant after her husband died. When questioned about it, she lied That has husband came and made love to her in a dream .
The truth is while the male folks may be direct and have the decency of getting another woman, women on the other hand go about it , in shadows and secrecy.

It's not just about having the decency, but the right and support that society gives men to do that. Any day a man openly goes for another woman at any time, he will most likely not be condemned. A woman who does that in the circumstance you described could easily be condemned, castigated and seen as loose. That is why they operate from the shadows. And men want it that way too.

adams123:
He wants to date you.. you can tell him if you are interested or not.. No long story

Date? I'm married.

Why.

Ebenezer2021:
hello please can I talk to you via an inactive thread?
There's something I intend discussing with you

Please discuss it here, there's no problem.

iLegendd:
Most do, but you're allowed to prove me wrong.

You're asking me to produce a life recording of a baby mama then, which is not possible.
I just don't think you can put the entire world of baby Mama's into one category. Somehow, it doesn't make sense.