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femi4:
It's strange to you cos you ve been thought the wrong thing growing up. You need to unlearn n relearn as a typical naija wired home sapiens.

What happened to different protection methods and after sex pills. Have you heard safe sex before

So you prefer your child filling herself up with pills and using protection - which cannot protect the rate at which her heart will be broken by the way... To total abstinence which will keep her mental health intact.

Na so different guys dey enjoy on top say protection and pills dey. And they still gon turn around and call your daughter names. Don't know if you're miraculously ignorant of your fellow men's tendency to use and dump.

By the way, pills have side effects.

femi4:
Yes, she will give it when asked especially if it's coming from her lover, that's not pretending

Pretending is making sex transactional e.g "After giving you my body, is this all I get? Stop that! Only naija girls reason that way. Both parties had sex, both bodies were given

Oga in Naija are men and women risking the same things by giving their bodies? Why would a woman give her body for free minus commitment, when there are so many negatives waiting for her if nothing comes of the union after the sex? Is it not here on nairaland that men are insulting women left right and centre based on the same sex in which both gave their bodies? A woman cannot be giving her body carelessly because there are consequences for her.

So your daughter will give it when asked for it by her lover, I sincerely hope you don't truly want that portion for your child. Because you are opening so many bad doors. High body count, single mom, underage mom, etc. You may say it to win argument, but in your house if you care for her future, you'll teach her better. So you want your daughter to give if her lover asks for it, hmm. Will definitely have history then.

Nehyooh:
You're been rude!

Oh sorry about that.

femi4:
Naija girls mentality, my daughter understood that sex isn't transactional, and won't use it as a tool or acting as if it's a privilege act

Yes shey she will give it when asked so as not to be a pretender. Advice her same na, since any woman that even tries to close her legs is a pretender.

raphy:
The last word
Life can happen correct

That's why testing shouldn't be normalized.

And I am not using it as an excuse for other men o. Life is not happening kan kan, they are deliberately sleeping with and ending relationships with these girls.

raphy:
Not all are like that joor
The one I met was a virgin na me open her she no gree leave me until her dad say he no support our relationship I Waka jeje.she de even try to check if I have another girl but I let her stay her lane

Not all but many. If it's not so, there won't be women with plenty body counts roaming about. There won't be many men in this very thread fighting for testing which they know may not end in marriage or advantage for the girls.

You see that as you tested first, it so happened that the girls father rejected you. These are the disadvantages. Even if its not your fault, something can go wrong, life can happen.

raphy:
Nothing like that is up to her family to accept the guy or say we. Don't like him.

That's what my ex parents told. Her after u go see her dad.
She said let's end it
I don't break up. With a girl it's her parents to see if am good or looking for rich guy for her.

That's you man. A girl will get tested in the name of relationship by 6 guys before she even smells a guy like you. Testing na scam for ladies, and most guys are getting free sex in the name of testing.

starpower:
from my personal experiences and those shared with me. My wife libido reduced while my was same, only for me to form new habits like reading as distraction, now she is looking for twice a day. I matched up he tempo for 2 weeks madam stopped for like 4 months and she is young o. My lesson once in a while avoid the needy attitude and intentionally be dramatic too.

Does that invalidate all I typed?

mariobalotelli09:
Not everyone though. But yes alot do. Halle berry isn't light skinned but was once the most.....

She's an exceptionally beautiful black woman. She had to be exceptionally beautiful to be noticed while dark skinned.

femi4:
It doesn't change the fact that they enjoy it, hesitation doesn't remove the pleasure

Therefore hesitation is useless and it is pretence, there is no reason for hesitation since they get pleasured by the act.

You see that road you are going down, don't ever stop, especially when you have a daughter. Advice her the same way.

femi4:
It's not about feeling guilty, It's about telling them the truth

Yes, the truth that they should agree to sex without hesitation to prove to you that they're not pretenders.

femi4:
Pretender is prefer

Anyone, as long as it will make girls feel guilty.

femi4:
yimu...Is it not for the pleasure of both parties. Pretenders

Why not say hypocrites. That's the more common and effective term.

Guys also get tired of sex early in marriage. They get tired of that woman very quickly and want another one. They are also tired because of work. Small things also make guys not want sex with their wives again. Guys also form pride and deny sex.

trium:
Unfortunately, as much as I understand what you are trying to say, I disagree with you. These ones are classless and tasteless. You know what they call ojuorolari? person never see wealth before? That's what you call these wannabes.

Elites have their excesses but where class comes in is they know the place and time for certain bad behaviours they participate in. That is class, even if at all, at all, na still bad class but they have a sense of carriage and poise which unless you learn it or are among them, you will keep pretending to be someone with class. dis one na crass

Yes new money does this more. Old money are rumored to be very very humble and discreet.

mariobalotelli09:
I have a feeling ur not light skin, however you are wrong in your presumption

Yes I'm not light skinned

Most men have their heads up the asses of light skinned women.

mariobalotelli09:
From the colour and texture of the hand, this banny looks pretty. On a serious note she is obviously giving you green light, don't know why your freaking out like a baby.

Light skin lover.

Nehyooh:
Ok! Apparently, morals doesn't exist in some people's dictionary anymore. Pretty cool!
But dey no born my wife well to dare such!

Very understandable.

Nehyooh:
Must the whole world know she's pregnant?

This is a lifestyle of the upper class. Most average middle class and poor lower class wouldn't understand it. Worries about one's body, modesty and what people think take a big turn when you either live like the upper class or actually are them.

You really need to understand that there's a different world than you know, very different, where those set of people are mostly well to do and do not care for morals on the most part.

If you choose you can be ignorant of them though. They don't also care about you. Some of them remain religious and modest, but most don't.

This one that's killing you is just a peek into the way they live and the things they do.

chipet67:
You mean whoever can give you the money will touch you.

Nope, I said it's fine, keep the money, BUT don't break the rules about the sex.

This is all a pipe dream anyway. Real life that I know, many girls go through one year, three year relationships without any spending on them, because they want to prove they are not golddiggers. They also give sex for free, to prove they are not prostitutes. After which it doesn't work out between them and the guys that keep entering relationships and breaking up with them.

So all this talk about spending money... Especially for the average homebody girl that wants to prove she's good, those girls don't see the money. The guys may even be borrowing from them. It's common.

There's no money, just sex most times. So what's all this talk. The girl go gain with no sex self.

Well, no need to be ashamed of my body now 😁

This is the normal body type of a pregnant woman.

This is very good. I just hope the things there will not be reduced and sold by greedy individuals once nobody is looking. And that they will be well maintained. And it will not eventually become inaccessible to those very poor disabled children, turned into an expensive money making venture through some useless cover up excuses.

raphy:
So a guy won't taste the car engine before he buys. If she really love him she will allow him taste the engine after 6month in the relationship. My own point I no De force sex from a girl

So... Some guys go taste... Realize say they no wan buy... Giving the girl high body count, which another guy after tasting... Go also decide say him no want because of that high body count... Who lose in this arrangement.

Taste girls like suya... Dump half eaten food, say you no full, e no sweet ... You no want again... Of cus after that, nobody wan chop your left over...

Until God grace you with the girl wey you go taste and dey okay with...How does this arrangement favor women?

There will be many tested and abandoned food be dat.

nasbiafra:
but you should not bash the guy he was just being sarcasticthat post he made was an opposite of what lady posted,the lady posted she ghosted a date because the date could not afford her nails

I know. I'm just giving my opinion. Doesn't affect the guy. He doesn't know me.

nasbiafra:
speaking english does not make you more intelligent than me toomaybe i did not see when you explained to others but i only quoted you because of this{Ever seen a king collect or expect gifts from his concubines or queen?}

it then now seem to me that you mean queens are not supposed to gift kings

The queens can gift, but it does not really hold any value to the king except sentimental value. He can cherish their gifts and receive them, but he doesn't need them. He doesn't even ask for those gifts. The queens will rather rush to give because of the benefit of creating a relationship with him. He is forever bigger than their gifts.

So this social media king wey dey para sake of say him no collect one fund or the other, him no follow for kings at all. Fake king.

King? King no go ever notice woman and her money. He will spend and grace you with what you never imagined in your life. The lady will rush to bring out her small something as a token of appreciation and he will laugh in appreciation and choose whether to even like and accept the gift or not.

chipet67:
Quite shameful for you as a lady

Explain.

illicit:
Not like that...

They receive than they give

I know u understand princess

They receive, they don't DEMAND. Plus they are also as rich as what they receive.

illicit:
King no dey give shishi

They just collect
Will Ooni of ife have so many wives if he wasn't a king?

They collect anything, money, Salary, cars, women...

I'm from a royal family. Ordinary men give, how much more kings.

nasbiafra:
the one way dey pain me pass be say una go talk as if una dey make sense but chichi sense una nor dey makeso queens do not gift their husbands gift,they taught you you in history that kings do not receive gift from their queens.

for your information 1 Kings 10:10 The Queen of Sheba gave King Solomon 120 talents of gold, large quantities of spices, and precious stones. to establish a relationship but history taught you that solomon rejected the gift,make una dey open una mouth dey yarn dusts

You are the one who misinterpreted my post, you can see my response to others who asked about gifts from queens. You are simply quick to call others stupid. Speaking pidgin doesn't make you wiser than me.

A queen giving is not a core expectation of the king. I think I already explained how to others. Go figure it out.

stanvesco:
Just the same way ladies see *"no money"* relationship as no relationship

Exactly, then nobody should ask anybody for anything again. Let's just get to know each other. Keep your hands off my body, I too will keep off your money.