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sistawoman:
I have not read through all of the posts yet but i wanted to share this:

One of my closest friends is married to a Nigerian but the marriage was set up.   So she was not to have any relations as he still lives with his orginal wife at home who he divorced a year ago to marry this girl for you know what.

Well they started sleeping together and when she asked him why is it that he is cheating on his wife his response to her was that he was legally married to her and divorced to his wife therefore he was sleeping with his jr wife and not cheating on his sr wife.

My question is, is this how men really justify cheating?  What if the first wife finds out will my girlfriend be in serious trouble or do Nigerian women expect this when their husbands divorce them and re-marry for paper?  Also are they still married in Nigeria still?  Does a divorce done in the states make them divorced in Nigeria?

I feel really bad for his first wife and really think that my girlfriend should not be sleeping with him.  But it is her life and she thinks he likes her, but I keep telling her he can't.  he is still sleeping and living with his first wife and he just comes to her to mess and leave but she wont listen to me maybe she will listen if i send her some of the messages recieved from yall.  

How do i get through to this girl and let her know that what she is doing is really really wrong?  He will never love her like he does his Nigerian wife no matter what she does.

A divorce in America is valid in Nigeria.
The man is a fool.
First off divorcing his real wife for the sake of green card already places him in a lower rung of the ladder in my books.
I don't expect much from such an individual.
Your friend on the other hand knows the marriage is not a loving one but  an illegal temp arrangement.
Most likely she's being paid for her services as a provider (from stories I've heard) so her sleeping with the man makes her a cheap LovePeddler.
What woman with good self worth will knowingly be sleeping with a married man who breezes in when he needs to change diet.
She is just being used as a mere private part and sadly she doesn't even know it.

Gamine:
My Dad did not become a monster

My Husband will not become a monster

AMEN SOMEBODY!!!!

Amen!

ifyalways:
Kadiri lol
o[b] gini ga unu na emedu enweta ban?a chorom di thing badly [/b]
nno oooh.try to be ezigbo nwanyi ugbua and di gi has been misbehaving na azu gi

Just  bakasia ndi nmadu ahu
ko the person ezigbo onu

ah jenny.
have they done it again?
onye obuna si na baby O n'eme metarmorphosis.
meanwhile i za go aha ise
jisike i ga e beat my record soon or morenike's record the title holder

smooooooth:
come u all tell that stupid slowpoke to swallow he statement that my post is asinine and i'm a jester,before i spoil this thread for una o. wetin dey bring that nonsense, small pikin go just use the first grammer them teach for me. rubbish.

Lady J, na planet earth i dey, where u dey?

ah ah
scatter the thread na
see this one
na today people begin scatter thread ?
kpata kpata they lock the thread _{ban a few}
names change
haba!
na today we begin see awusa with dagger abi bow and arrow?

I'm surprised Hannibal is not on this thread
watch him zoom in as soon he hears his name.
that boy is a man winch

smooooooth:
good to know the truth sounds like a joke to you, laugh all u can now, because when u married, the tears starts coming down, because when the truth was being said, u didnt prepare for it, because it was jesting to you.

and i personally take your post as an insult, draw the jester thing back, because u people try to get someone angry all the time, we are suppose to share our views, abi?

abeg go sidon for dorty

kedu ndi ji my name aku asiri hia?

davidylan:
Not more special than yours bro.
If you take your vows seriously and you love your wife then it shldnt be too difficult to stay faithful to her. Most men who stray are not victims of their wives failures but are themselves moral failures.

You are a man indeed!

Pataki:
Now you are beginning to talk.

But this topic is not even about Nigerian Men, but Men in general

see the posters first statements

I

know this sounds like a sweeping generalisation but I have found it to be true in almost all cases I have seen or experienced first hand. Why is it such a horrible, horrible thing to be married to a Nigerian man? Like there is a certain type of handbook the men read before becoming husbands.

Fine, a lot of newer generation men usually swear on their lives that they will never hurt their women but the moment they are settled into marraige, cheating begins. . . .as if this isnt the most painful kind of thing to do to your wife. And the people around them treat it like it is the norm.
I have hardly seen a Nigerian family (from my experience, especially yoruba people) who don't have one story or the other attached to their family name. The men always mess up! And in the most painful and ridiculous ways, I wonder how their women manage to have the patience and peseverance to stay eventhough most of them claim to still be there for their children.

I'm getting sick of all these Nigerian male bashing threads and I'm not even a man _{thank God} 
Haba!
My dad is a good man and my mom is still his best friend till date.
I'm  married  to a man that I have no regrets marrying and yes he is Nigerian

Being a dog is not a trait unique to Nigerians
There are dogs in every race,religion and ethnicity
Don't the other women bear any responsibility in these affairs?
As long as she was not raped, the mistress is just as guilty as the man

but honestly if my man told me a woman was bearing a kid for him,that's it,I'm gone
I could forgve the fact that he cheated[b] if it's a one time thing[/b], he's human but cheating unprotected is unforgivable.

Tufiakwa!!
I won't be with someone who may also be attempting to muder me with his private part

@ poster,your aunt ought to get herself tested for STD's right away.
this is not just a crying case

Ibobabe i maka.
abu m nwanyi
I wish na m nwere nwanne Nwoke n'acho nwanyi
but in case i cho recommendation.

Uche2nna bu ezigbo mmadu

Toshmann anugo nwanyi

Romeo is a grandfather

agaba ji umunwanyi ato

Ikomi n'eme 419

Presido di manageable

echelon,I'm still watching

otele choro i ga na bed

Ozioma nwere nwunye bekee

_joking

Chukwu gozie ndiIgbo dum Amen

ibobabe biko di kwa careful with these my brothers.
ha nachu kwa umunwanyi
O nwere nke a n'akpo ozioma
anyi n'achozi the boy acho

Arnold1:
Thanks jare Mr Hannibal.




Now, this was the first post on this thread by Queenisha

[b]Why is she just focusing on the yorubas when other tribes in Nigeria, like the Mallams, have tribal marks ?[/b]

How many mallams have you seen on nairaland.
Just name 5 3
olodo
Is this place not mainly Igbos and Yorubas?

HCH3COO:
Arnold, I suggest you create your own thread and title it "the effects of the OSU Caste System" before these people descend on you.

leave him.
Nairaland is open to all peoples.
The sane and the loonies
It may actually be the therapy he needs

let me go draw some tribal marks on his back i.e Mr Queenisha
today na today.
goodnight y'all.

Hannibal:
Ya network leaked again on Friday. It's becoming a habit.

@ Arnold1,

Sunny Ade's tribal marks are not the kind of marks i am talking about.
Have u seen those Mallams in the North??
[b]I was once stopped by a mobile police officer in Lagos. . . . .He begged for 50 Naira. . . .
When i saw his marks, i gave him 500 bucks. . . . . .I felt pity for him[/b]His parents or guardian should be jailed.

ROFL.
I was scared by those marks as a child
I remember a youth corper that lived in our house downstairs.
I used to run away whenever I saw him.

doyin13:
@Arnold1

Seems like you need a big teddy hug

I wish I could reach out and hold him in a warm embrace
and never let go
the boy is just in a world of his own
I love you arnold1
You can lean on me

doyin13:
A woman's face is way down on my list of requirements when it comes to how I like my women.

So she can have all the OGBOMOSHO marks but as long as she get good body(IKEBE) and a sense of humor,
all is a go go.

I mean, a few years back I couldn't get MAMA SUWE off my mind.

LOL
let me see you dissing women again in another thread

Hannibal:
Come on. . . . .I was just yanking yer chain the other day.
Black women forever but they need to slow down.
Wait o. . . . .are u Black??

You can't do without us
I dare you
There's no one out there like us

Hannibal:
Of course, it's a huge task.

Physcial attraction plays a huge role for me. . . . . .
Tribal marks are not something that a chic can hide. . . .It's right there pasted on her face.
Chatting her up is a nah-nah(never mind taking her out on a date or marriage).

You won't even date black girls.
whites don't have tribal marks so you won't even be in that dilemma

Pataki:
Na that one I go see when she sleeps beside me on the bed? Or what is the point sleeping with her and I am facing the wall every night?

If na for fling settings, sure no wahala. But marriage for life, I will be seeing an Owala babe, not my preference at all.

unlike you if the man was a good person,handsome and tall,well educated with money ,I may consider him with hopes of having him see a plasic surgeon subsequently.

Arnold1:
This is the thread, over 16 pages long, where this tribal mark issue was discussed in length.

You were an active participant as babyosisi were you not ?


https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-59913.0.html

was that thread about tribal marks and dating?
olodo

Chat2MeBac:
Queenisha,
What are tribal marks?

I have seen some people with scars( some more hedious than others  on their faces). Are those what are refer to as tribal marks?
Also what is the significance of such, Honestly, it looks barbaric to me, Just my two cents, No insults intended,

Yes they look like scars and differ in types.

HCH3COO:
I couldn't forgive myself for stereotyping someone over something beyond her control. It's analogous to racism. I would much rather join Hitler's extremist party.

good girl.
shows you have a heart.
I could marry a man as dark as a Ghanaian as long as he's a good man.

Pataki:
@ Topic,

I cannot marry a lady with tribal marks no matter the qualities she may have.

How shallow
Even she had an  ample pair of "mercedes" and a well rounded bakassi and posessed all the qualities of a good woman?

KarmaMod:
Why would an Ekiti man have Ogbomosho tribal marks?

Trying to be smart eh?
what if he was ogbomosho

Oh I forgot,Osun people are too dark for you

_{is Ogbomosho in Osun sef?}

Arnold1:
My man,

All this tribal mark issue has been discussed a long time ago and Queenisha was an active participant
on that thread.

There is nothing she is inquring about now that wasn't addressed then. She and I know this.

Show me a thread regarding tribal marks and dating or not dating where I participated ?

KarmaMod:
They wouldnt be large because Ekiti tribal marks arent big

Anyway if he was still attractive with the marks and had all those other qualities, I'll be fine.

how about the ogbomosho type.
I'm talking of large visible ones

KarmaMod:
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-106262.0.html

That's recent too

Why is a simple thread about dating or not dating a tribally marked individual such a sensitive topic to you.
I'm disappointed in you
Have you been hanging with arnold

Why can't you answer the topic and leave osu threads for osu discussion?

KarmaMod:
Lmao wtf? I was just making sure she didnt get your comment wrong

TOH, you have on several threads said you'll never marry an Igbo man.
Does that make you a tribalist?

see this thread the act is still alive and well in some quarters

Please whatever you do, don't laugh about this. My friend (a lawyer) got married to this doctor from Oyo town in Oyo State. A year after they had their first son, they decided to visit their old folks in Oyo. On the second day after their arrival, the mother-in-law offered to take the toddler out. My friend naturally agreed.

In the evening when they came back, the young boy was screaming his head off. Guess what? the poor little boy had been given eight ( pieces tribal mark! My friend nearly died. She refused to accept the branded baby and fled to Lagos. She is contemplating legal action against the mother in law and a divorce against her husband for not condemning the brutal attack. Can surgery help? Please advise her.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-5071.0.html#msg169315