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lmao mrs chima you'll be suprised, i was talking to an old school mate who was complaining to me that his (private) university doesnt have any pretty girls 'like the ones in britain or america, the ones on tv'
I was disgusted!

what is akata?

lmao are these people children?

FACE YOUR BOOKS!

again, DID IT TAKE YOU 8 YEARS TO REALISE ALL THAT??

lol mrs chima, b4 i finish all yoruba men i have to add its the ones of low calibre that do behave so,

same as you wont catch an upper class nigerian pulling 419, upper class nigerians dont tend to dabble in nonsense

so surname is very very important when messin with a nigerian guy!

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=585869.msg7538807#msg7538807 date=1295106263]Queensmith,

I thought yall were just kidding when yall said they were dangerous and whorish.  Let me add this before bullets start flying.  I know ALL MEN can be cheaters and dangerous.  I am talking about specifically what a gang of people saying about Yoruba men.   I have seen a few Yoruba men (non gay) were able to sweet talked themselves out of the obvious!  I was like damn they are skilled!

I never assumed that were the norm for Yoruba men.  I guess I wasn't in the right crowd.

They are skilled in sweet talking and getting themselves out of poo.[/quote]no. . . . . . . unfortunately its tru  

@fstranger se mo wa paro ni? you know its true!

heeey see how we've turned this poor ladies thread into a tribal war! lol

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=585869.msg7538742#msg7538742 date=1295105484]Girl!  I was in tears!  I was doing the "Fierce" walk imaging how Fstranger would be strutting to Mr. Bigg to meet "Uncle Peaches". 

Queensmith, you are right when comparing the tribes.  Igbo men are on top when it come to handling business both outside and inside the home.  (looking away from the men as they dropped their mouths in shock because they do not get their ego boosted much from Mrs. Chima)[/quote]lol!my first love was igbo and hes the most amazing person inside and out! too bad he was arrogant as fck! lol But thats pretty much the problem with igbo men, they can be very proud and very arrogant. They lie and cheat too, but its not soo much as a game to them, they still take care of thier women (if you dont get one of those tight stingy ones!) and they stay at home! thier families are more tight knit. Yorubas tend to lack family values, probably cos of all the  polygamy!

@fstranger- im yoruba ooooo yoruba ponbele! My old username is ayettymama check it if your in doubt!

Actually i take that back-ibo men are not the best men they are good looking but they can be very dodgy as well. They are still much better than yorubas, they lie and cheat but they arent as dangerous at it. anymore than your average white dude.

Its the middle belters im talking about, they are very decent men and absolutely gorgeous!

annawhite:
but if your guy is a *yoruba* guy,hmmmmmmmmmm u need to think twice o(let the attack begin)

GBA!

in fact if the dude was yoruba i wouldnt even listen to the story!!!!
tell a sister to take to her heels and run as far as she can!!!!
yoruba men are not to be played with!!!!

@fstranger no im yoruba!  

fstranger1:
Is your husband Ibo? he sounds like an Ibo person and they are bad people. Any Nigerian tribe is good to marry, except Ibos; they practice cannibalism and he may try to use you for money making rituals. Also, it is customary in Iboland to have their first child killed. So be careful if he is Ibo.

OMG I actually just read fstrangers posts and DIED!!!!! LWKMD!

buahahahahahaha!

@oyibo dont listen to tht fool, thats just chronic tribalism talking! Ibo brothers are the best type of Nigerians to date,  . . . . . . . but i dont wanna cause comparisons 

yea, because the men in arab countries are sick! they like having sex with men and children!

and they only do the tightenin before they get married so they dont get stoned!

a vjay will only lose tone if the woman gives birth, has a REALLY LARGE partner (in which case her partner wont even feel it) or has a disorder.
Vjajays dont losen up like the way u dudes like to describe it! its the cocks that are too small!

taken!

but the rest still stands!!!

oyinbo85:
@queensmith
Well, u r right with it, he keeps on boasting about african, Nigerian, Christian values and so on but he doesnt seem to follow them. He keeps on telling me how Nigerian women are good how they don’t cheat and never get divorced. Im not saying they are bad but even in his family I know some marriages with such problems. He is not Yoruba. And we are not staying together. He s got more money with me so its even him who helps me in financial issues sometimes. Im listening to this rubbish although I know its just poo cause I m silly and I believe he is the only one who is different from all the other bad men. well I don’t think he thinks im a LovePeddler cause then why would he be going out with me? Anyway that’s what he thought cause of his experience with English people and im not English.

ok I was just making sure, because he sounds yoruba!
I will like to know the part of Nigeria he comes from where all the women are good, dont cheat and never get divorced? maybe in the 1700s!
lol, your not silly, at least your taking notice of these things rather than turning a blind eye- which is what most women will do!
Im sure you will solve things eventually

justwise:
If a man started this thread and complain about how inelastic his wife/gf kitty is, the ladies here will jump to eat him raw, but apparently having a bigger 'mojo' is now a requirement for a successful rela/ship.

No, we will know the person is chatting sh*t! unless the woman has a medical condition! The vjayjay is made of muscle and isnt subject to becoming 'loose' most of you men just have tiny joysticks or a history of fckin children!

He's a Dikhead. . . . i will never understand why women want to remain friends with dickheads like the poster describes!

You do realise he's only trying to score right?? He doesnt really like you but he does want to bang you! And hes not going to stop!!

so why are you soo concerned about his feelings or his friendship? hes obviously not concerned about yours! tell him to back the fck off or youll set ur man on him and report him for sexual harassment!

women respect yourselves! letting a man tell you all sorts of rubbish is not the one!

chika98:
LOL amazing how the men are sympathetic towards this Guy and someone is quick to imply that you maybe loose?  No amount of tightness will help a 10 year old sized man. If you like be with virgin Mary herself.

Seriously! they are soo quick to blame things on the woman! every single little problem is 'the womans fault'!!! every time! Let a guy come and air his complaint about how his woman looks, love her regardless never applies.

but when its a dudes issue I start hearing 'he has been made that way by God'

*rolls eyes* these *insert nationality here* men are sooo full of it!

justwise:
You have demoralised him already, you should have known better, he can't grow a bigger one 2moro, he was created like that by God, his confident will be at the lowest level and who knows how he will get over it. Since you have the memory of a big one and probably used to a big one, could it be that your kitty has lost its grip?

Is that what you guys tell yourselves to make yourselves feel better??

@ poster- we all love a huuge cock! If anything because its genuinly attractive! lol

but most *insert nationality here* men with big cocks still cant beat it! so it totally defeats the purpose!
Theres soo many other things the both of you can get into so you can both enjoy sex. He can wear a ring, I daresay i saw one of those penis elongating thingies that he can strap onto the head of his cock, and you guys can still fool around orally- which is much more enjoyable.
So you should research different things you can do to both enjoy sex more, Im sure plenty of women are married to small cocks and still manage to have fun!
gd luck!

It makes sense doesnt it?? When most of them dont have papers!

zionmmv:
@QUEENSMITH, 'A man that i can pick up anywhere, why will i now base my life on him! mshew! i have important things to worry about jare!

Hun,any man you can pick up anywhere is not worth his onions.Raise your bar babes, The fact remains that I want to be size 2, that's my desire and if it hurts you,enjoy your fufu.If you are size 14 or 40,it's your cup of tea and you sure will pick your 'any kind of man', Nne biko, quit whining,and spare me all these 'security and insecurity sermons'.Join me and LETS loose weight.Maybe you don't know,the subconscious reason why you dress well or look well everyday is to attract the opposite gender (even if it's not your intention), and to create envy/ disharmony/competition among your mates.All your 'I look good for myself' are just defense mechanism, Wake up and smell the coffee babes,ladies dress their best to attract the best mate.Janet doesn't look her best for Ngozi to admire her or be attracted to her, She looks her best in order to attract the best mate around her.

Men are dispensible- get widdit

I know your a DUDE- Its obvious by the way you sound, You know absolutely nothing about women. If you really think all women dress good to attract men then youve missed some evolutionary steps. You belong in the jungle with the rest of the monkeys. Thats the last place I heard they change feathers as a mating ritual!
Just come out with ur real username and air your views, I will still tear them down nonetheless! But posing as a woman with insecurities to try and make yourself heard- its pathetic. You guys need to stop with the rubbish!

roymary:
@queensmith

Whats your own with Yoruba guys Were you Oshofreed by a Yoruba guy Stay on your IBO lane abeg.

your a big fool!
[quote author=tpia* link=topic=585869.msg7536152#msg7536152 date=1295059959]i think some black nigerian men are on this site masquerading as white women.


and so on and so forth.


vice versa, etc etc.



[img]http://www.tribute.ca/tribute_objects/images/movies/white_chicks/whitechicks1.jpg[/img][/quote]you might be right, the english im hearing from some 'oyibo's' is questionable!

oyinbo85:
I guess some of you didnt really understand me. Im not wondering if he loves me or if he is using me. I know him better than u of course and I know for sure he does love me and I know he s not using me cause all I have to offer is just my company – not more than any other woman can give. But the advice im asking for is connected with the culture hes been brought up, which I do not know and which you do know. So my question is wether taking into account the way hes been behaving and the way Nigerian people think and act is there any chance for him adapting to my European vision of family and marriage

ok,with this explanation im going to have to come a bit harsh.It seems to me that you dont know men can be very evil, talkless of Nigerian men.
Forget everything youve heard about Nigerian men and cheating, most nigerian women are insecure and tell themselves all men cheat so they can deal with the problems in their relationships THATS NOT TRUE.
DONT ASSUME because hes Nigerian he doesnt understand the average vision of a family, he does, hes a christian, christians in Nigeria are even more devout than those abroad. They know everything they need to, they pride themselves on having morals its just they never follow them!

oyinbo85:
Well, it seems true that im defending him Lol it might be that ive been brainwashed already by him But the thing is I see some bad signals but still I don’t want to believe that I should finish it and am still hoping to find a solution, but if such doesn’t exist then I will have to finish the relationship. all im gonna do for now is just talk to him about how we are different and see how he is gonna react if I tell him what marrying a white woman means and ask if hes fine with it. Im not sure he wants his life to be hell neither. And he wasn’t trying to fool me with his tears. I know they were coming from his heart as he was trying to hide them . I wish I could be mature enough to make decisions based on facts not emotions.

The worst thing you have ever heard any man do to a woman in your life,multiply that by 5 and you have your average Nigerian mans potential. They are lethal, they are poison, they are wicked. For all you know,he has wives and kids in Nigeria, they live double lives its all a game to them, and one you definitely dont want to play!
DONT EVER FORGET THAT!
So next time you watch a Nigerian man cry, or sweettalk in your ear or whisper sweet nothings, dont assume its coming from his heart.
If he really loves you and respects you, he wont be 2timing wit his ex, taking condoms to work (who does that?) or feeding you with stereotypical nonsense! since when was that an excuse for anything! (the things we will not hear!)

oyinbo85:
Im really happy for you to have found such a man! I think im not putting too much focus on oyinbo /Nigerian . before he met me he thought all white girls are whores, his friends probably think we are just playing with each other. Ive already said before that his friend advised him not to be bothered cause whites don’t have feelings. So it is a serious issue.
That’s definitely not the life I want to have so I wont marry him before im sure he wont misbehave. But I cant wait too long! Im not getting any younger so I cant be testing him for 5 years more!

Again, he probably does think your just a LovePeddler- and its highly likely he's using you. I wont be surprised if you were the one footing all the bills in the house you both live in.
Because men dont go out to get serious with women who they think are whores, and when one does there's a high likelyhood hes getting something from it!
Again I hate to say it but your bf is hella ignorant, wtf! why will he say those kind of things to you? How do you even listen to all that gibberish? You should send him here so I can slap him! bloody idiot! what gives him the right to spew nonsense! fool!
(forgive me there, I just hate it when Nigerians chat such rubbish! it boils my blood)


where is your bf from btw?? Is he yoruba?

yewwy:
I tink so far,d guys re more complaind abt dan d ladies nd d prob dey ve are farting nd snoring.am nt married but ve a boyfrnd who tels me often hw he farts nd tels his newphew 2 say sori nd se idi o ro yin(se your yanch no pain u)is dt wat i'l b sayin 2.OMG pls hlp

LWKMD!!!!!!

my stomach hurts!

I dont think anybody should be paying anybodies school fees unless you are responsible for them!

are you a millionaire? into philantropy? are u trying to support her because you want to eventually marry her?

marry her first, send her to school later!

oyinbo85:
@queensmith
u r right but the truth is he has got a great respect for his mother unlike for his father. when i asked why he said because his dad didnt care about his mum. so u see even though hes been raised seeing such, still he doesnt approve of it. but thats probably the only type of behaviour he saw when he was a child so now he s acting the same way cause even if he wanted he doesnt know how to act otherwise

exactly, and i doubt he hates his father because of the cheating aspect, maybe the father maltreated the mom, its not uncommon. Chris brown witnessed his mother getting abused by his dad, but that didnt stop him. There are alot of factors when a man cheats. imo i dont really care- all I care about is that a man keeps his cock to himself when he's with me! if he cant good riddance!

oyinbo85:
dont undesrtand why nigerians act like that. i wish i had a clue to his heart and could give him everything he needs so he doesnt look for it somewhere else,

Lol trust me, if anyone found the answer to that the person will win a nobel prize!

A cheat is always a cheat, it doesnt matter what you do, its the way alot of them were raised, what theyve seen, a reflection on the respect he has for women
dont over bother yourself over him, since he cant do the same for you. There are plenty of wonderful men out there

No dont tell him you got it from nl,

sit down and think about the whole situation yourself

get a pen and paper and write pros and cons

mark down your insecurities and at the end of the list ask yourself

CAN YOU LIVE WITH THIS

if the answer is no, then you dont need hard evidence, long explanations so on so on

once youve convinced yourself, you can just tell him the relationship doesnt sit right with you and you want to move on so you can be happy

trust not all african men are like this, Nigerian men are not the best in the world, they dont even treat their own kind right, so dont feel bad and try not to develop a racial stereotype. there are still plenty of good men out there

zionmmv:
@Queensmith, Spare me those sermon sweetie.If you are single,I dare you to not ever bother abt your weight /size as you prepare to wear that wedding dress. , And if you are married with kids,I also dare you to not bother how you look when you look at yourself each morning in the mirror. ;DIt may not be for your man hun,but for your own good.I am sure you do know what am talking about me.Deep inside your heart,with all those important things that you claim you think about,you still want to be a size 4 or 2.

AS long as when i look in the mirror, i like what i see- thats all that counts baybay!

i dont need approval from anyone to feel good, in fact deep inside me is soo bright its impossible to kill the light in there!

Im soo full of myself im almost unbearable! if i ever wanted to be a size 4 or size 2 or size 0 or size 40, it will be to play with my looks and not because of any man!
A man that i can pick up anywhere, why will i now base my life on him! mshew! i have important things to worry about jare!

alisigwe:
Well said! but since when did being conscious of your appearance become a physchological tin?everyone has the right to choose how one wants to look,i dnt tink it's a bad idea if one decides to slim down a bit.everyman for himself.

of course there's nothing wrong with it! its a good thing when you decide to so things to improve yourself.
And every woman should take pride in the way she looks! so if there's something that worries her, she should fix it! Even if you want to change yourself for your partner, theres nothing wrong with it, but obsession is a big problem.

In this case her worries are dependant on whether her man will leave her, that shows shes insecure. Her insecurities need to be dealt with before anything else. Being obsessive leads to depression and unhealthy habits. its nothing to be played with

Leave him!

dump his sceiving ass

dont look back!

Its nothing to do with you being white, he would cheat on you if u were white purple or yellow, its just that I think a Nigerian girl may have read the signs sooner. Or he will have acted a little different. He already has that common stereotype in his head and trust me you dont want to mix with a guy like that, he probably does think your a airhead and that all white women are whores. Of course that isnt true but try explaining that to the african man that jumped fresh off the boat!
He will always compare you to every nigerian girl he meets, and trust me when i tell you, a nigerian man has no reservations of promising marriage to ANY GIRL!!
He's infidelity has nothing to do with his background, if that was the case I dont think any nigerian woman will be bothered when her boyfriend cheats on her. Infidelity is never acceptable!
Dont invent excuses for him, just because hes black doesnt mean he cant understand the simple unwritten rules of relationships, He's probably using all his culture crap to twist your mind! DONT BELIEVE IT!!!!!
Treat him like you will treat any guy your dating, if your head is telling you something listen to it, 'being black' is never an excuse for anything. Your better with someone you can trust!

Gurl i know its gonna be tough because youve been with him for 2 years and its been a great experience for you, but when doubts like this arise i dont think its right for a woman to ignore.

good luck!

zionmmv:
@Queensmith, Trust me sweetheart,over confidence dey worry me!I don't want to deceive myself thinking that My man loves me the way I am,nevertheless,will be conscious just like every other single lady out there,of loosing weight so as to fit perfectly into that wedding dress.

Ponder this,Why do we bother to be size 4 or 2 so as to fit into that wedding dress?It's all visual baby and that is the world we live in.Besides,don't you think it's time for sisters to be health conscious and burn the calories?

Thanks for your kind suggestions anyways.Much appreciated and I guess we are all having fun!

Your not the only woman in the world with insecurities, but dont go about thinking we are all the same. Some women are worth alot more than how they look. But not all can have that power
Not every woman is obsessed with her image and will starve herself to be a size 4, not all women that diet or go to the gym do so because they are looking for a man or because they want to be deemed more attractive to men.
Not all women walk around pondering the next step to take to attract more men, some women have important things to worry about and appearing visually attractive to every man she comes across is not one of them.
If your man doesn't love you the way you are, it shouldnt be your problem, its not deceit, its reality he knew how you looked before he approached you. Beauty fades, even if you remain the same for the rest of your life- its no guarantee any man will stick around. Dont believe me? Go and have a look at all the size 2 women out there and see for yourself they dont have it all!
If you want to live your life as an object of your mans desire then go ahead, you probably have nothing else to live for, but please understand that you are a very disturbed individual, and you probably need to get yourself some psychological help.

poster you have multiple issues, low self worth, low esteem and think little of yourself

regardless this is sure to work

starve yourself throughout the day and drink only water

then in the evening take a little bit of custard and drink sugerless tea

do this for 2 weeks and your boyfriend should take you back

good luck

*disclaimer* ayettymama does not endorse foolishness or encourage stupidity
but the poster is delusional and helping her out doesnt seem soo bad!

Mr Rambo:
Sense of humour and sense of humour.You yoursef how funny are you? You dey find free show. If sense of humour was really that significant, then Dave Chappelle would be the sexiest man on earth.

you people are gonna drive me away! seriously

do i now have to explain the definition of sense of humour to you? *rolls eyes*

Having a soh doesnt mean your mr funny man!!! it describes someone ability to find something funny about situations.

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