₦airaland Forum

jay bee: No matter what you teach them usually gets thrown outta the window once they start to taste freedom.

How do you stop a teenager from wearing mini skirts that attract the you know what dudes when the current dynamics/trends dictates that's probably what's needed to get accepted in the world?

Kids of today are well informed and the least we can do is to move with time as well as develop new ways to damage control for the if and when they do fall.

The idea of sex education for secondary school kids was started to encourage intimacy between children. It was more of an awareness campaign so they are well informed when making big decisions at early stages of there respective life.

next we will be hearing 'spaghetti tops lead to rape'. A national cleansing is needed. . . . . national cleansing.

Am I the only one seeing this? I can't be the only one. . . . .it just can't. . . . .

I'm jussayin, you already believe women are 'somehow somehow' that mentality will be passed down onto your children. No matter how many 'magazine phrases' you ban in the house, or how much you tip toe around her 'fragile' mind (and i know you don't believe the same for your boys'. She's already going to think she is somehow somehow, paranoid reactions to raising girls aren't going to solve it.

'most girls can't cook'?

you people make me sick. I just vomited all over my laptop. eurgh!

it depends on how you define prosperity, owning a car isn't a major deal. You can buy any odd banger and drive it about. If fashola really said that he might have meant it in commercial terms. The presence of soo many cars reflect a healthy amount of economic activity.

chaircover: I guess you didnt read the first and last sentence in the post you quoted 3 times.

And yes I believe that boys and girls are different no matter what we like to say/believe; I never used the word retarded; you did.

Am I amused? Yes I am too. It amuses me when people just have to write something just to be on the opposite side of someone else.

good luck with all that.

eurgh no, they were all bush rats. . .eurgh i cannot even imagine. . . . . .eeew

lol- bhet why?

looool!

well guessin the op is just one of those looking for all the fame and glory from the male them.

'why are all these females materialistic and only having sex for money? I am not materialistic and will feed you the coochie for free. everybody look at me i'm not your average woman'

well




done!

chaircover: After yet another few days of heartbreaking threads where our ahhh's and e-hugs are too late for some people, I have decided that we should have a chat about catching this serious problem from the root.

After I lost my dad, I lost all self confidence and I used to be very shy and it wasn't until a change of environment, that the real me suddenly blossomed and things changed. I was only lucky I know and I could have easily ended up lamenting like many women on here.

i will like us a mums and dads to share tips on how we prepare our daughters for the dating game/marriage.

When we had our daughter we made it a point to ensure that she is a very confident girl and can speak her mind. its never too early to start praying some things into your kids life. We have prayed for her from when she was a baby that when the time comes, she will pick the right man, We pray for her husband to be and the kind of marriage that she will have and even the type of inlaws & children that she will have.

Her nickname is princess. We tell her at least once a day that she is very beautiful and clever and we let her express herself. If she doesnt want a particular outfit we dont force it on her. So long as she is dressed decently and for the occasion then thats OK; so leggings under a mini shirt is fine by me and during the school holidays if she wants her hair down rather than in plats again that is fine by me.

She is baby fat cute chubby, but no one is allowed to call her fat, unless the person wants to see her dads red eye. we also try to make her feel important by involving her in descsins, so for example when we go shopping, we will ask her which brand of an item to buy and she picks her own meals of a menu when we eat out. We also try to ensure that we create time to actually listen to her even though My God she can talk ooooooooooo. she and her dad are like 5 and 6 and they have been to hundreds of places together; they play these silly games and I have heard her tell people that she will report them to her dad . . like her dad is her own personal superman LOL.

We praise her as often as we can, even when she makes small improvements, using a lot of positive words such as clever, gorgeous, beautiful, exceptional, great and so on and we never ever use any body part as an abuse even in jest like "see your eyes" or "that your big mouth"

One person I admire on this forun is sagamite. I have actually heard that he is like that in real life....superconfident. His only problem is that he has a caustic tongue to go with it Only God knows how many cretins he has met in his life time

Seriously, More tips will be welcome please. We need to teach our daughters to believe in themselves. They are princesses in their fathers house and they should be queens in their husbands house. Nothing less.

Will be back to open a thread about how we teach our sons to be good partners.

I sure do hope you do all this for your sons, abi what message are you sending? Women are retarded so we must treat them special. well done. Meanwhile there really is no self esteem and self respect when one believes women are 'somehow somehow' you know when they get hormones and all that. . . . . .

I am amused.

This is all very fishy, no1 a man is dead, unless he randomly fell over from a heart attack somebody must have killed him? Who is that person?

The fact Bella Naija reported it is also dodgy, bella naija ? This all sounds like damage control.

Nigeria is that type of country- people get away with murder. but this photograph as evidence? all na wash, this is nonsense for all we know it isnt even the victim in the photo and the photo was taken this morning.

i hope the family of the victim continues to pursue justice and see the the right people are punished

Just forget the guy abeg, the whole matter is unfair on him. Leave him for him to meet someone better suited for him and you also move on to someone better suited.
Stop trying to force relationships that are never going to work, it will only end up making you unhappy. Women who do this end up complaining about stupid things that don't count. You have even started early using the salon example- you don't love him, end of. Marrying him will be a mistake and you will regret it, you will also drag the poor man along into the misery.

Ignore the trolls chatting nonsense about marriage after 30, you will find someone else. just focus on being happy and forget this guy.

Ad hominem when they run out of points to make. It shows you have whooped them very well. It just means the person is trolling.

oboi i smoked that shit last weekend and never again! I had a bad trip, It was the worst experience of my life! why do people do that shit!

Still i don't mind if my man smokes it. . . I will make him do outrageous things when he does. . . .

Rocktation: What I don't understand is why it is okay for married men, when it isn't for the women. Hmmmph, una matter taya me.

I definitely have to be more grateful, females earning 70p for every pound is really no comparison to what women are going through in Nigeria. What I experienced at a church in lagos will be classified as assault and harassment in this country.

Meanwhile- men still think they are in a position to dictate to women how they should conduct themselves in the 21st century. They still assume superiority and treat their women like inferior beings, while the women just sit and take it. Well. . . it is a step forward from slavery.

^^ omg omg!! i actually cannot get off the floor!

Oleros: Why is it so hard for people to stick their necks out and help a fellow Nigerian in need except if there is a direct benefit being derived from such people. When the needies are pushed to the wall, they take to social ills, and when the arm of the law catches up with them for commiting such offences, the people that could have made a difference in such lives by giving N1,000.00 or so begin to blame the needy.

it's this sense of entitlement people have that bothers me. I have no problem helping out when i'm in the capacity to do so. I just don't want anyone demanding for it.

Ujujoan: I bet you are not even married and yet you want to teach women here (mostly married) about marriage!

and the fact they are not married is obviously through no fault of their own. Only everyone else has a problem. . . there are no more marriageable women left in the world. . . .the girls in this country are too ugly. . . . seriously they all need to stop it.

maclatunji: It's a manner of speaking. It applies to every woman that does what I described. It's a question to understand why women do that, I seriously think a married woman should not initiate any activity that draws the attention of other men to her in terms of sexual attraction. It's a process, after the pictures come the compliments, after the compliments come the "toasts", with the toasts come temptation and with temptation anything can happen.

Some of the responses here prove to me that some women don't even know what marriage is about.

just stop. please, just stop it.

O i love batman

manding-o?

Even with a 1st Class degree in Physics from Oxford University and parents that own a clothing factory in tottenham hale. 76k starting salary is far fetched.

and no just because I haven't seen this job before doesn't mean it's non existent. . . .it just means there is a high probability that this is all gassss and aiiiir

and yes, IB does put a hole in my argument, as does doctors and those working at clifford chance (and alot of Nigerians do!) it's still pretty far fetched. I believe someone in that pay bracket (for an entry level role) will at least hold an MBA or a PHD.

Lady Dee: Not sure Ive seen anyone talk sense here...
People are throwing large fictional salaries regarding pay in the UK..
Why do Nigerians enjoy deceiving themselves?

When the average Englishman is on an average of £30K per annum,

Nigerians are just something else...

well we obviously don't have the right 'friends' something certainly went wrong somewhere I didn't collect 'friends' on 70k graduate schemes.. . .

These are people are gassing its hilarious!

My mother was asking me what exactly my problem with Nigerian men is, I responded with 'even if he is the nicest guy, he seems perfect, handles all his issues right, is open, is honest blah blah- there isn't a day he won't come out with bulshit that will make me divorce him in a split second'

This topic is a prime example- the op may be the most innocent, polite nicest man or whatever, but his mentality and his views are 1st world sickening. Does marriage=bondage?

is putting your photos on a website simply a means to attract attention? You never heard of sharing? I guess you also believe your wife shouldnt have male or unmarried friends and if they are they should be ugly and or crippled.

Nigerian men are inherently insecure, the insecurity is translated into all sorts of nonsense standards to be upheld. Its nothing but hogwash and bulsh*t