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Hey guys, I have a friend from Trinidad and Tobago, his name is Kayode and his son's name is Babatunde and he doesnt even know that these names originates from the Yoruba tribe in Nigeria.
I guess his ancestors retained the name during and after the slave trade some 200 years ago.
Most likely they would have also retained some African traditions in the Caribbeans.

@ OP learn to forgive or else you will be bitter all your life.
There is need flogging a dead meat.

Shoolar:
There is nothing u can do about dat coz two of u did not show each other your 'birth certificate' n dats d evidence. So u'll accept your faith. èni jin si kòtò, o kó ará yókù lógbón!

Birth certificate can be forged or altered. They will obtain affidavit from court to cover their lies.
I know a girl that changed her date of birth using an affidavit. She also forged her dad's signature to get the affidavit. This was 10years ago and the dad still does not know that the daughter has removed 2 years from her age.

I wonder why ladies lie about their age.
What happenend to "HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY"

Divake:
A friend of mine has a 36yrs old sister that has lots of qualification to her credit(BSC,ACA,ACCA,ACIS,MBA) and writing exams to add a CFA, Over the years, she has dated a few guys who thinks she is over ambitious and left her, a down to earth lady i would say but the big issue is guys take to their heels once they found out about her qualification. is it a crime for women to be highly educated.

Are those degrees in what discipline, Nuclear physics?

my ex-boss was full of shyt

In Jan 2010, friend of mine was shot dead along Aba/ PHC Express road  by this murderer and his gangs.
In June 2010, along the same road, my uncle was kidnapped but later released after some ransom was paid to this same guy and his gangs.

May the likes of him meet there doom in the pits of hell.

Arlington:
Hello everyone,
I wanted to start this for women who are still waiting for a child, who have tried for a long time, have suffered miscarriages, still births  and  are trying to find alternative ways of having a child.
In our culture it is really difficult to talk about this as people are ashamed or don't know who to trust  and are just generally confused. I have suffered 2 miscarriages and i am still on this journey i believe that i will  be a mother some day.
We believe in Nigeria after 2 years  and no child you have major issues especially from your village but i know that is not always true.
So please come in let us support one another we can pray together, share ideas  seek advice and get advice  and travel this road together dont suffer in silence don't cry alone anymore  let us  help each other,until the day we carry our bundle of joy.

ARLINGTON, CONGRATS AS YOU CARRY YOUR BUNDLE OF JOY.
I AM HAPPY FOR YOU.
TO GOD BE THE GLORY

Specify what you mean by siblings?
Younger ones (brothers/sisters)
Older ones (brothers/sisters)
Parents
Uncles and Aunties
Cousins.

Whatever the case he has his life to live,

He should try and be in control of his Life and his wealth.

akunta:
George,
Thanks Sweerie
Phate,
George has spoken

Akunta, be careful with this your "oha soup romance" with George . Like play, like play, butterfly dey enter bush.
Just because he was the first to eat from the oha pot of soup does not mean others wont even see the pot.
Haba. Wetin sef. Na Gold?.
Me thinks the soup no sweet at all, thats why you both are hoarding it.

Phate, You can keep salivating, As for me, I have lost appetite, the yeye soup no dey hungry me again sef.

LOL

George_D:
hmmmm! is this a gimmick for a free lunch? 

I am ready to share my egusi soup.
Please share your akunta's soup.

George_D:
when you taste my akunta's oha soup you will know why i'm addicted.
the thing sweet pass coke ooooooo! 

I would love to taste this "your akunta's oha soup" so that I will understand what you are talking about.

Please dhl me a freshly cooked takeaway pack, garnished with stockfish along with poundo yam.

I will surely confess and testify to the glory of akunta as soon as I digest the "almighty oha soup".

You are the lord that healeth me.
Thank you LORD, for your divine healing.

George_D:
akunta,
abeg i no go talk bad for missy b again! no deny me my sweet oha even for 1 day oooo!

Same "oha soup" everyday? na wa o.
Talk about cocaine addiction.

If God be for me, who can be against me?
Thank you Jesus.

sd-6:
Thank you radical. I knw dat I offended my husband but d fault is not entirely mine. My husband also have his blame too. He was not catering 4 me nd my unborn child. I saw hell durin my pregnancy nd d memory ll remain evergreen nd if not for God nd my lover,I wud hav died durin my son's delivery. I ve 4given my husband 4 his nonchalant attitudes but can neva 4get it. So d option of goin back 2 him can neva b considerd. My lover saw me throughout my pregnancy nd aftawards so fallin in luv wit him completely was natural. Rmber,he was there b4 d marriage nd cud even b d father of my son. But he startd being dis hot nd cold when he learnt of my cancellatn of my marriage afta his pleads 2 me nt 2 do so. Wat I need to knw is wheda I shud 4get abt my lover nd move ahead with my life or I shud stil b patient wit his hot nd cold nature. Aftall,evrybody makes mistakes. I ve come in terms with my mistakes. Pls,dont crucify me much,I'm only human. I need your brotherly advice on wat 2 do next. Thank u.

1. Please, find out who is the father of your son. The poor boy deserves to know his father, even if you dont.
2. Point of correction: Its not everybody that makes this KIND OF MISTAKES.

Ivynwa:
@Question
Abeg no allow me fall from the chair while laughing (thanks for giving me a good evening laughter). You really mean that she is feeling like a star that is having a baby for Eddie Murphy or MJ. Abeg make una leave that girl Ojare, people wey dey travel abroad to go born na MJ and Eddie Murphy wives? O putara uwa afufu I don't see the sense in covering things up and don't think it is a good idea because some day every member of their family will get to know about the baby.
If they insist on covering it up, Ogun state will not be the best as she will just be a few miles away from her sister and everybody else and it will only be a matter of months and the cat will be out of the bag. Canada may be the best for her in that case, she will heal better psychologically and otherwise in such an openminded environment that will not judge and be too harsh on her unlike our Naija environment where she may be ostracized, judged, sized, heartbroken and weighed up a million times by people and perhaps suitors. The judgement and castigation already going on in this thread is an inkling into what hell Life is about to become for her in Nigeria. I can't help pitying her.
Arun please is it Mr. Randy that you are referring to as her uncle, abeg na the -in-law now which kind uncle be that one, dey use better word so that we can understand better joo. You can call him Randy for short  abeg make I laugh small wetin man pikin fit do to this kind difficult situation. If only she avoided this temptation her life would have been simpler and not this complicated.

LOL, Onwero onye putara uwa afufu o. Mana o buro site na ikwa iko ka eji abu ogalanya.

Seriously, if the randy guy was poor would she be dreaming of Canada.

What an easy ticket to Canada in less than 6 months -Guaranteed, all expenses paid :
1. Allow a rich randy bro-in-law to despoil you more than 4 times.
2. Enjoy it while it lasts
3. Ensure you get pregnant
4. Ask for your one-way ticket and residient visa to Canada.

If this OP's story is true, well, goodluck to our 33yr old lady in all her escapades,

oladelove:
@Oladelove. . .it just occurred to me to ask and I will appreciate your answer. If you cannot write here, please email me. I have very good reasons why I ask:

1. What is the relationship with your wife and parents like, especially her MOTHER?

*They are not close at all,imagine a lady would hide things from her mother.She went through a trauma she could not even discuss her mother.

2. Do you have any idea of the relationship between her father and mother?
*Father:Proud, a bully ,sadist,highly temperamental and unappreciative.Mother :Down to earth,caring,xtian-an example a Virturous woman .

3. Do you have a good idea of her relationship between her and her siblings?
*Though they all grew up together,they’re not so close cos she had serious issue with her sister when she was living with her to the extent that she had to pack out.Of the 8 children,5(very temperamental and proud),3 down to earth.

4. How about her closest friends?
They’ve been at logger heads for some time now.She is domineering,doesn’t trust anyone and believes in just herself alone.

Don’t know why you’re asking but I will be happy if you can provide your email address s I didn’t see it on your profile.

MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION: WHAT IS HER RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD?

She also told me she did not really liked sex.All these while we were making love.it was either during day time or before bedtime,I noticed that my wife would resist every attempt to make love to her at night claiming she would not be able to sleep again.

My people let me go straight to the point ,as it is now,I have a wife I cannot kiss,my wife complains anytime I ask her for sex,she would rather give a date than to yield and i will have to beg and beg before she would allow me.she would be motionless on bed whenever we are making love and she would rather treat me like I am visiting a love-peddler whom you cannot kiss or do some pre-intimacy with.Since we got married (even before we became legally married) I have never slept with my wife in the middle of the night before,she will fight it to a standstill.

@ OP, from the bolded part of your story, it seems you are suspecting your wife's problem is spiritual or demonic. Or it has something to do with midnight.
Well, whatever it is you have to stand up and be the man in the house. You have been a weakling right from the beginning of the relationship.
Pray for God's wisdom and guidiance on how to deal with this condition.
From now on take concrete decisions and stand by it. Do not succumb to her wimps and schemes.
As for s.ex, which seems to be your major problem, forget s.ex for a while and deal with the main issue which is her personality.

That 33yr old lady is fraudlent and dubious.

Canada ko canada ni?? Easier said than done.

@ OP, She is not telling you all the truth (maybe half-truths). Pls your office should do a test on her to confirm her pregnancy, cos she is not a honest person from what I can see.
She may have someone else behind the scene whom she is also consulting for advice on how to deal with the randy brother-in-law.

If the pregnancy test is positive. Then proceed to tell her what you have decided to do and not what she want you to do
That she is pregnant does not mean she has all the right to call the shots. I guess she must be feeling like a star, like she is pregnant for eddie murphy or micheal jackson.

This looks like a good Nollywood story line.

"However the moment Kelvin ( that would be the husband's brother) travelled out to Liverpool for his study i notice a new character in uncle. he began very very playful.  so oneday after i had taken the kids to school came back home and was to get ready for my job hunting, i was soaking my self in the bathtub in my room ( the bedroom i presume is an en-suite) i heard my bedroom door squeak open, on that moment i hastily got out from the tub to lock the bathroom door but uncle jumped at me. "

"i resisted and even wrestled him but because i was unclothed and my body still had foams on it and was slippery i couldn't stand firm on the ground uncle ,  sobbing,   then overwhelmed me."

[ after the above encounter i found out from her that her "uncle" further took advantage of her on four other occasions]

Me thinks they did it much more than 4 times and over a period of weeks if not months (with her consent).
This indicates lack of self control and moral judgment on both she and the randy brother-in-law. No contraceptives/condoms.
Who knows, if she did not get pregnant, the show would have continued when randy comes back from US.

These things happen everyday, even as I am typing this on a monday morning. it is happening.

Well, its too late to point blaming fingers. I am not blaming anyone.
My advice is for the girl 33yr old lady to choose one, abortion or no abortion.
If abortion, then the story dies. And her family and friends may never know about it and she should have learnt some lessons.
If no abortion then she has to inform all concerned parties, her sister, the husband and her family ASAP. Then be strong, bold and ready to take whatever the future holds for her and the baby.
Meanwhile, her chances of getting her own husband may reduce greatly. Because, most men would not want to marry such a lady after knowing about her past.

funkysamy:
Hello

i honestly can feel you and i empathise with you, even though i am a woman, but i am going through the same trends in my marriage; mine is worse because i never slept with anyman in my life till i was 26 years old and that was a year to my marriage and it was this my same husband that disvirgined me, so i was never a sex - sex person and just like your case; one year or less into our marriage the issues started my hubby started sleeping with girls; in my own case i quickly noticed because we were very close and i saw those signs and i also discovered majorly from his phone and calls, so i started asking him; but note that before this times he always called me to tell me about the fact that he wasnt getting it as much as he would have loved to and something sex related issues(i am ok with once a week, i could try and adjust to two or maybe three, but he insists on everynight; no matter how tired he is after work not minding the fact that he comes home late everyday; or if he cant have it everynight; every other night will do)

anyway not to bore you; he confessed to me once or twice and initially it shocked me becos i knew he truly loved me, but let me tell you that i have not trusted him again since then, but his confession jottled me and made me to sit up and i made up my mind to give it to him however he wants it and whenever even if he doesnt ask for it; i know i have to make the move (i am doing this just to keep my marriage and to give him little or no excuse to cheat) and i think recently things are better much better and one funny thing is that i am beggining to see it as part of me and not just getting used to it but also enjoying it more than before; we also have two kids


i gave u my own background for you to be able to decide whether to tell your wife or not; ask yourself whether she has the liver to bear it and from what u know about her would telling her make her decide to change? my hubbys confession disspointed me and reduced my trust but i never allowed it to show in my relations with him; i only used it to teach my self to always give an allowance in relating with ppl; it is the ppl that u love the most that hurt u the most

another thing is that cheating on her will not solve the problem; u will be creating another problem or many other problems by doing that; in short i would tell you that busybody's advice is worth millions simulate the crying situation and do say what she advised u to say and do; watch your wife after that and if after a while she still does not change

you can decide to bring in people she respects to talk to her and i mean people you can trust; let them help you to talk to her and counsel her; for her to know the danger she is exposing her marriage to


i believe all this will work with prayers and much show of love from your angle, pamper her and let her fall in love with you again, realise that you dont have any choice other than to make your marriage work i mean no alternative, if you realise that u will do all u can to make the only solution work which is your marriage

i commend you greatly because i can see your passion and desire to change and make things work, judging from your consistency and all your post; i should also tell you that you have got to work on your urges; life is not all about sex, you have the responsibility to control your actions and passion; that is the hall mark of maturity control your urges and they will not control you. the problem you refuse to deal with today will deal with you tomorrow; i know u dont want to catch HIV or have illegal children do u? they are not worth the satisfaction that comes from having illegal sex


i sincerely wish u the best; get closer to God and divert your attention to things u like doing maybe singing, playing musical instruments, sports and athletics or web design or something new that will keep u occupied and will serve as a stress reliever to you.take kia

I HOPE U READ THIS PLS DO LET ME KNOW IF U FIND IT HELPFUL! PLS THANKS

@ Funky, I find your post helpful. Thanks.

A Repeat of Wimbledon 2008 finals.
Another clash for the MASTERS of the game.
Nadal knows Federer's weak points and he will use them to his advantage.
I go for Nadal.

THE LORD REIGNS
MY REDEEMER LIVETH
HE IS AN AWESOME GOD.
LETH EVERYTHING THAT HAS BREATH PRAISE THE LORD

Lord, You have been so good to me, You have been so faithful and caring.
O lord, I worship you with my whole been. May your name be exalted above all other names.
PRAISE THE LORD.

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Cause of fight: how to share N20 into 3 equal parts.
Option 1: N6/N7/N7 and one of mopol no gree,  Hence fight start.

what a beautiful way of rebranding 9ija. Bt y nt.wen even retired highway robbers n agbero re also bn recruited in the force witout screening or any level of aducation at all.what u guys expect.

@ OP, I have a feeling her temperament is more or a spiritiual and psychological problem.
I have a family member that behaves just like her. I understand what you are going through.
Sometimes, these things run in the family and is hereditary.
My advice is:
1. To be very patient with her because you understand her shortcomings, but she does not understand.
2. To use wisdom when dealing with her in all situations and circumstances.
3. Be strong and just to keep praying about the situation.
Do not allow her to ruin or run your life, DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO WITH YOURSELF.
Get a life, have fun with friends. Engage your mind and spend your time on other fulifilling things.

For sure she should not expect you to be stuck with her for ever.
Very soon you will get married and move on with your life.

ibori and ibru. birds of the same feather.