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What kind of crazy law is that? Anyone can arrest anyone? Nigeria ooo, God!!!

Don't know about you guys but I'll definitely have my own room in my home when I get married. Won't be sleeping there when my husband is around but will always go there to "chill". Nothing like my privacy. I know myself very well and I know I need my own room designed the way I want. It's part of the things I'll discuss with "him" before marriage.

@Topic

OK! _{meanwhile the root destroyer is not being tackled. Even if one deceives a whole nation, he can't deceive his own self.}

Eyaaa. . . you'll get used to it

LOL Le Chacal, the flag is up

Ima, I don't think she really likes the guy. I think she's under the influence of her pastor. U 're a woman. You know how stubborn women can be when they like/love a guy. Ain't no pastor telling us jack

J, fly the white flag

Hotfunmi, I'm not sure why you started this topic You over heard a bunch of women talking about how aggressive and what not Nigerian men are? So? You never knew most Nigerians including men and women are terribly aggressive and ill mannered? We bash ourselves everyday and you think people don't see?

I see this topic as just seeking attention. Absolutely unnecessary.

Which Pastor?? As if there was a Pastor when our parents got married!

Why would you want to marry someone you can't stand next to just because "a Pastor confirmed" he's your husband? Why do people do these kind of things to themselves?

Better leave that Pastor, the guy and find yourself a man you're proud of. Tell your parents you haven't found a man you love. If they won't understand that then they're not worth being parents, sorry to say that.

Wokeyim:
That ain't the best for him. Tell him there's so much HIV in the air, seeking for whom to steal, kill and destroy! Besides, one of his kokolettes may soon hook him up with a pregnancy!!!

He knows and I believe he's careful. If he impregnates a girl, that's his own cheese cake. No one is a baby anymore

I know. He broke up with his ex that he was terribly serious with and since then he's "been in the wild"

LOL Different strokes for different folks.

LOL he finished skul 2 years ago. He's working now.

You're right though, he's a play boy And yea, I have only one brother

jay bee:
Do you actually listen to your wife when she is angry?

Didn't you read the story? He leaves home when she gets mad.

wifepalava:
the older man i mentioned is the man i went to speak to yesterday

Ohh okay.

Umm won't ask your age but my bro is 26-27

I think I've said all I can think of that could be of help. However, something tells me you're not doing enough just because you're way older

If you insist she's a living hell, then let her go if you can't solve the matter!

Loose that your cave mentality and I'll hook you guys up.

wifepalava:
I have been trying and I hope whe will stop it soon.

please help me radiant

Dude, you need to understand or rather let's just say that it's her nature to shout. Why does she shout? There must be things that irritate her and the only way she can fight it or let you know is by raising her voice. Fine!

Number one thing you need to do is never leave the house when "she starts shouting" cause you only come back when she must have calmed down but still the underlying problem hasn't been solved. It will always spring up. You both need to get to the root of the matter. There's no need to take flight in such situations. You can't tell me that she shouts for no good reason. Otherwise, you take her to see a psychiatrist 'cause it's not normal.

You need to face the situation. She's your wife, educated or not. You knew her status before you married her. May be she's mad at the fact that you don't have as much money as she expected or may be there are things you do that she doesn't like??
Being a calm person is not enough. Quiet people could be annoying sometimes but that's by the way though.

You need to let go of pride. Take her out for dinner or wherever and TALK! Both of you need to open up to each other. Tell what you hate in the other and learn to adjust to the likes and dislikes of you two. It's not easy to live with someone you don't really know. Problems must arise but there has to be a solution and running away from home or getting strangers to talk to her isn't one of them.

All the best.

wifepalava:
is it better for me to be shouting with her as well?

You mean I didn't make sense in my previous post? Dude, wake up or I'll help you

kufreabasi:
it very possible to trap a man through pregnancy.

Definitely but only if the supposed man is a TOY and not a REAL MAN that knows what he wants.

Wokey dearie, ur own na toy abi na man?

wifepalava:
he said he will call my wife to speak with her. but its not the first time somebody has talked to her about this

Stop sending people to talk to your wife!!! You guys need to swallow your pride and come down to each other's level and reason together. That's how it's meant to be and not some folks trying to make her feel guilty all the time.

Dude, you need to buckle up. Ain't no man solving your damn problem but you!

Wokeyim:
@ Radiant
"Wasn't necessary, babe. You such a shame bag"
Why didn't u answer the simple question. Can u or can't u fall pregannant. Easy way to escape the truth. That's typical of Nigerians.

Sorry to disappoint you but "I can't fall pregnant". Only loosers without self value do such.

Wokeyim:
@ proo212
My dear, you'll be deceiving yourself to think there's a perfect marriage. Every marriage, forced or not forced, has its ups and downs. You think marriage is all about love? Ask your mother!!

Ups and downs is not synonymous with misery. Check the new Oxford dic and stop reading writings on stones

Wokeyim:
@ Radiant
Rady baby, you want to do a research on "Family Planning in the primordial era?" You've got a good topic now. I can help you with real life references if u care!

It's only on Nairaland that you find small boys and girls rambling anyhow. No respect for elders because any one can come say what he wants and disappear. You guys can keep rambling on and on and on. I already said am out of this place.

Umm. . . thanks for the offer but I live in the 21st century. Keep your facts and experiences to yourself

Where did you see an elder on Nairaland?? I hope you not talking about yourself 'cause I'll pull that wig off your head now

Seriously, the last thing I'll argue about is "skin color". Don't make sense neither does it change zilch!!

Gud nyt y'all

Hannibal:
@ Radiant,

Safe period
Sexual Abstinence
Withdrawal method

Yea right! Sexual abstinence for how long??Do more research 'cause this ain't it. Safe period my July 12!

Hannibal:
Are u sure there were no condomz then?? I am sure men used bubble wraps to shield their weapons in em days.
Trust me, if every intercourse led to pregnancy in em days, there would be more people.

On a serious note now. What was the mode of contraception then? Do the research please

To be honest, I think the world has gone beyond "saving our culture". The main target now should be seeing every human being as one.

I really can't be bothered about that chick's video. She's the reason why racism will continue to whisk the world into different bullshits.

What does a black man have that a white man don't have?? Abeg, we should peep beyond some irrational "wool" haired babe who just probably read about slavery the night before.

Hannibal:
Letz go back to the caveman era. . . . . . .
Women were less stubborn then and there's no fronting!!!

And no threats of trapping with pregnancy. It was only normal the men had their way anytime and the babies flowing out like a river Ain't no trapping whatsoever. In fact, who born you to insist on having less than 10 children??

Miss Trap, is lucky though.She would have fled for her life after 10 children and having to deal with 7 other wives before her

Your wife makes noise, huh? That's not a nice thing to say about one's wife

What can I say? You married whom you didn't know.

proo212:
Maybe the society where you are expect women to be married but the same society will not help you live in your "miserable marriage" They will ask you, didn't you know before you married him? At the end of the day they will say "fasting and prayer" will fix it

She's clueless jare. Na for mouth??