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geosegun:
HOOPS MY GOSH!!!!.
MOST WOMEN ARE NATURALLY SELFISH. GOD HELP US OOOOOOO

Exactly my broda, very bad!

jennykadry:
How many men wants feminists as wives?

What have I to do with the above question?

You didn't even come close to WRONG accordin to all what you said above. You did the RIGHT thing brov!

brb

Question mark.

unbelievable !!!

jay bee:
No she hasn't cos if she has then surely she won't be rasing her concerns.
It's OK to help but not when you aren't comfortable with it.

True talk broda!

jennykadry:
And how many of you men have criticized feminists? you only support some actions if it favours you, that's when alot of you remember your usual "It's a man's world"

And yes it is a man's world, I can only support a wife helping her husband out when his finances are down but will never support a Gf doing that for her BF, especially when desperation sets in.

Even as a woman God forbids my hubby goes down financially(I reject it in jesus name) but in such a case instead of me giving him fish to eat all the time, I'd rather set him up in some form of business as it gives a woman security when some sort of income is coming in from the man's pocket.

Poverty have made men forget their roles and responsibilities, A friend of my cousin who got married in Nigeria in December ended up buying if not more than half of what was used for the wedding/trad marriage, like seriously what are you men doing? you lot are beginning to change the hands of time, our fathers paid for everything they used in marrying our mothers,my hubby paid for almost everything we used for the wedding and trad marriage, my dad had to tell him off at some point when he refused to allow my dad do sthg ,all the cartons of drink, malt ooo, gulder, star,bags of rice ooo et.al came from his pocket, no shaking , who proposed to who? desperation makes alot of women forget their brains in a man's Dicckk.

Until a woman gets married and moves into the house, she is not obliged to pay the  bills for any man, it is not a necessity in times of difficulty.

A friend of your cousin ended up buyin, lets say EVERYTHING that the weddin needs to be held, and you'r here screamin. One out of how many (if at all)?

And I ask again, how many wives in Nigeria today are down with th 50/50 thingy?

All these "do this, do that, so she can give you the phone to see the content inside", is it when she has finished deletin all the love messages in her phone, and change her new catch's name to Funmi, is that when she'll decide to bring the phone for her bf to see?

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Thank God for creatin me a man.

It's borin in here.

jennykadry:
IF they choose to be, then so be it.

But someone has choose to be generous, and she's being criticized for it, why?

Why must women be wise when it's surpose to be 50/50?

How many wives in Nigeria today are down with the 50/50 thingy?

listentome:
Thank you so much everyone for your replies.

I should point it out that my boyfriend works. . . .he is not lazy. . .  just that he does not get regular hours from the company he works for. His job is far from decent. Also, all the time he was studying, he could not work more than 20hours weekly.

I must also say here that my boyfriend is sleek, goodlooking, very humble and you will never imagine for a second imagine that he has little or nothing in his bank account. As a matter of fact, my female friends actually think that he actually takes me shopping on his tab to get some of the nice things in my wardrobe.

I am quite sure that he has little or nothing because a few times we have checked his bank balance together at the cash machine and online and he has little or nothing there. So i am quite sure that he is not lying about his cashless state.

He has never asked me for money. It took a lot of smart probing for him to relax and feel free to open up to me on his financial state. The two occasions i have learnt him money, i was the one that offered to help because i felt the man  i love cannot be in such difficulty while i sit and do nothing. If i had not loaned him the money to sort out his visa issue, he would be preparing to pack his bags to go back to  Nigeria by now. I actually scolded him for not telling me about the problem until very late.

That said, despite the fact that he didnt have much, he got me an expensive and classy gift for christmas that left me dazzled and very impressed. I know he must have really saved for it. However, this is the first and only time that he has gotten me any gift although we do go out to cinemas, pizzas a few times and he picks the tab and at other times i pay for part or the entire bill.

I just felt rather sad yesterday when i saw my account balance in red but i get paid tomorrow and i am back in the green again. Besides, i have never dated any man before that had to rely on me so much and this is a new experience for me and i just wanted to seek people's opinion to what i am doing is okay or wrong or if i should adopt a different approach.

Just like someone said before, thanx for makin some posters fool of themselves (thinkin it's wrong to help somone you love when both of you are not yet married)!

I understand your fustration with @aktunde, but, somehow, I also understood why he sounded that way b'cos, had it been your first post was as clear as the later, some posters wouldn't have made the ill comments they made about your bf (maybe some would, out of feminist, and some also out of ignorance).

To ease your troubled tension, sista, my gf is in your shoes and I believe she spends on me far more than you do to your bf. When we first met, I was stil on cheddar and bouncin hard. But, as time goes by, my biz quaked, and I was nomore financialy fit. Even before I had financial probs, she was far, when I said far, Im not just sayin FAR, but, FAAAR more richer than me, but I don't count on her to do the billins whenever we go out for shopin or, eatry, I take care of the bills. But, all those while that I was broke, she does the billins. But thank God Im back on track now (but not like before, but atleast, right now, I can handle whatever situation that comes to me), and she was stil the same person that assisted me. But, can you believe that she never allows me to pay, or contribute to the house rent (of $300 monthly, minus light, water and other home appliances fee)? And she has been doin all that goin to 2yrs now. She said she's addicted in doin that for a longtime now, and she's cool with it. And that all she wants me to do is focus on my biz seriously, and make sure I don't have financial probs anymore. Meanwhile, with my financial state now, Im capable of payin 6months rent 'even' without touchin my bank account (mind you, we'r stil not married, and we don't even know what eachothers parents look like). God knows how much I love her, and the future plans I have for her. And now the question is, how in my right senses will I leave such a generous, kind & tender hearted, lovin and carin gal that has been there for me thru my rough times, and marry another gal? What does she possess that my gf does not? Or, has she 3 holes beneath? Might be the same taught he has in his mind for you, that was why I said Seyibrown's advice is the best!

delimit:
I see nothing wrong with you supporting him just because of the love you have for him.Be optimistic that the relationship will work out for good one day.

But let me ask NL if it was a guy doing this to a lady what will be your suggestion to the guy.
men are in trouble coming to the world as a slave to women.

I was with my girlfriend that I knew less than one month ago, she told me that she can't give any man her hard earn money,that she have brothers and sisters that are in need,i asked her that do u know that I am the first born of my family too and have a lot of things to take care, she said that is my business.
yesterday she just text me that she is not interested in the relationship because am not a giver.
I laughed because who is at loss after she had slept in house and I too in her house.I did not bother replying her text

. . .Funny that!

jennykadry:
Women be wise

Ya, exactly!. . .And men, BE THE FOOLS !!!

seyibrown:
Shebi you love him? All you need to do is APPLY WISDOM IN ALL YOUR DEALINGS WITH HIM and BE SURE THAT HE REALLY LOVES YOU TOO!   It's not a bad idea to help those we can afford to help especially someone we love!

My sista, I don't just know what to say to you, but, may all YOUR wish in this 2011 com to pass, IJN, I say a BIG AMEN to that. And to crown it all (to me), your advice is the BEST amongst ALL. Big ups !!!

greenish05:
Does the money worth the  love you  have for himwhat of if he is just a friend to you cant you help when your friend need your help?
God will continue to bless you if you can help him till he is ok financially, Dont be panic of anything do it for love and you will never regret it.
He need you now more than ever and pls stay with him to the last and you will both laugh at last.The reason why he told you he want to be ok before you both get married might be because he doesnt want much on you when you both married.He is a man and a man should always be a man.Pls dont let anyone confuse you.I see you both have a bright future

Bless you broda, well said!

colly227:
It hurts me a lot when ladies complain of assisting their BF financially. @poster i have a question to ask you, i know this is not your first relationship right? , in your former relationship i guess your BF must have supported you greatly and i begin to wonder why you did not come here to report to us if it was wrong him helping you financially or not.

The next time you will bring up silly topic then the spirit of the financial help you had from any man will hurt you greatly.

Hisses

I feel you brov. If only God can show you how much compliment I have for you, bless you broda!

Op, Im not in support of you smokin up your bank account just to help someone (b'cos, it's not good to please someone, and dis-please yourself). But, Im stil tryin to figure out WHY is it that when a gal is on the givin side, she feels cheated and duped, why, why, why?

Carolece:
Your husband, bf, wife or gf. Some things just will never or cant come out of my mouth to a partner.

My ex, I thought I couldnt live without him, and many times it came on the tip of my tongue to letting him know how I really feel about him at the time. But nope, I held it back.

I will never tell a man that I cant live without him.

I will never tell a man how much he means to me (never).

In my most recent encounter (dont know if I should even call this a relationship), I almost told the man I love him. LOL

Don't also expect him to tell you all what he feels about you!

At 94, Palee stil dey on piankin level sha

I wonder his reaction when he was about to release/cum durin s3x.

Blame it on the Govt.

I stil don't know

Just passin by and stopped to say hi.

buzugee:
you have said it all. nigerian women as a whole are a mirror image of nigerian men. materialistic, egotistic, hustlers, rude, sociopaths and did i mention materialistic ?
yall are better of getting somalian wives https://img441.imageshack.us/img441/3346/somali.jpg

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that somalian woman shoo is purdy

Iwu nno BooZoo !!!

Forever good with you, man, always!

^^ Easy dude, are we quarellin? . . .Don't even think of being onto me b'cos, it won't affect my pc screen takless of affectin me in person. You should have known that I was refferin to the Op, and NOT you! Read the quote again below.

Ranoscky:
And, I bet he's holidayin on 'dsame' punny he's complainin about!

So, chil out boy, we ain't surpose to go mad on eachother over this lil issue, k? Im cool with you!

Double N:
Ogiri can smell!!!!

. . . .Guy, you gat me laffin real hard, mehn!

[quote author=George_D link=topic=577283.msg7466072#msg7466072 date=1294230321]because i'm miffed, that's why! [/quote]Then, try and find something to keep you 'maffed'.

Re:  Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up?

I don't know!

Atreides:
hehe. . Minor? Love knows no age. . Tehehe. . If i do kiss,i promise,my lips are. .

Well, it's true sha, love knows no age but, just make sure your lips is   when you   k?

[quote author=George_D link=topic=577002.msg7466065#msg7466065 date=1294230239]ranoscky,
it's not so fair putting ideas into atreides' head like this. besides only a kid would kiss and tell.
and you can see she's not one anymore.

atreides,
don't be afraid ok? its not what your thinking. i'm a nice guy i promise.[/quote]Guy easy na, ah-ah?. . . .Na so Atreides dey sweet you reach? . . .Abi you want make we contess for her?

George, she's stil a minor, so you can rather hold her hands, but don't touch. . . .

Atriedes, you know you'r stil a -18 so, if you kiss, don't tell.

Combination of bread and yam with Ogogoro to wash it down!

^^

Exactly brov, let's do away with this lame as$ thread.

[quote author=George_D link=topic=577283.msg7462230#msg7462230 date=1294173175]humh! [/quote]Ehen. . .Why the 3 question mark on your head?

Man shall not live by bread alone!

[quote author=George_D link=topic=577283.msg7459359#msg7459359 date=1294147333]looks like poter is still on holidays. he hasn't replied for a while now. [/quote]And, I bet he's holidayin on 'dsame' punny he's complainin about!

^^^
Guy, u dey go Apapa wharf, but dis moto dey go Ojota O! U beta com down now b4 u go jam yourself 4 Ikorodu!

Atreides:
SO WHILE I STILL DON'T AGREE WITH WHAT HE DID,i get that he's just looking out for me even if he's not doing it in the way i'd like,and i appreciate that.

Lolz. . .This gal stubborn no be small.