₦airaland Forum

this is too much

God will provide...
My own case is different; i have a job but currently on holidays and so bored sitting at home.
i have suddenly become a nairaland busybody.

hmm..

“Lagos State Government continues to fund Eyo Festival but leaves the Igbo day Festival or New Yam festival to South-East governors to fund. Should Ndigbo then pay their dues to South-East Sates governments?”

this is completely ridiculous. Eyo festival is an indigenous Lagos celebration. yorubas from other states don't even celebrate it.
should lagos now start funding osun festival too? this reeks of entitlement.

to be honest, a lot of those yoruba politicians probably bought their posts with money or influence. there are enough rich igbos in lagos to be able to socialize and buy influence with politicians with their cash too. posts aren't dashed to people in Nigeria.
they don't even understand what politics is all about.

this isn't bad.
https://www.nrc-ng.org/gallery/new_dmu6.jpg

interesting but biased.
any yoruba people living in igboland who wants to volunteer to give us their "observation"?

hmm the security lady at the airport patted the back of my head recently. it was very strange.

it's not compulsory for a woman to take her husband's name... many couples are now hyphenating their name, keeping their names separately or even blending their names. I met a kid the other day and his last name was a combination of his mom and dad's last names.

ReLearning:
What you will see glorified in America are women who
- don't take no mess from there husbands
-make 6 or 7 figures a year
-don't need no man to "do their thang"
-will tell you like it is if you say something out of line
-constantly says "YOU CANT TELLLLLLLLLL ME WHAT TO DO"

What you will no longer see glorified here are women who
- allow the men to lead their household
-decide to live on what he makes and cut back on the higher lifestyle
- stay home and raise her children so that she can teach them boundaries instead of being taught by the wicked world at a young age.
-learn humility and respect and know that it's about her and her family, not just her.
-learn how to use her femininity to change a situation instead if a nagging mouth and pride which would only make matters worst.

if you move among the upper middle or upper class, you will see that being a housewife to a rich, generous man is glorified.

ReLearning:
I read a post that someone put up about her husband slapping her after something she said and he was mad at her for 3 days. Oh boy, so I started reading the comments. What I thought I was going to read were the typical comments

Instead of those comments I was reading words of wisdom from women that were more forgiving, humble, focused on keeping a happy home, praying for her husband...

And when I look at my life, I know that I'm lost. If I was with an African guy, I would get worse than a slap. I probably wouldn't have any teeth.

Please give advice on

-how do you handle situation when you feel like your husband has disrespected you.
-when your husband or boyfriend has done wrong by you....and what to do instead of yelling, cursing, trying to get him back, or hitting
-how and what is being humble?? Give examples.
-how to respect your husband and make him feel great as a man.
-how to respect your husband even when he has disrespected you.


Signed,
Your Feminist sister.....that's SICK of this feminist mess!

Help.

so in your mind, successful relationship is being able to turn the other cheek when your husband is using you as a punching bag or knocks out all of your teeth?

coogar:
at 35?
i'm afraid, that ship has sailed. you should have joined this forum 7 years ago.

her problem is not feminism. her problem is desperation

what she said is the plain truth..let's be realistic. Oh the things we do for love.

such a guy should go and find a cheap girl

Etetejake:
It is got to compare. Healthy comparison help motivates u. every disappointment is a blxn. the fear of failure made many to be successful. It takes a successful man to make another. When I was in secondary school, it is only the fear to make a second position that helped me hold on to first till I was out of secondary school. I took extra measures to achieve that. So my friend, move on and never loose hope. we will all get there. Just blv in God, yourself and your dreams. Know this, that all this our successful men and women don't have two heads just that the height they attain wasn't by a sudden flight but by blv in what will make their dreams come true. in themselves and God. It is never easy to b somebady and anything that come easy is nothing bkx even a blind man can get it. much luv.

hmm...true words.
i remember we used to recite that saying every morning many years ago in primary school: "the height that great men reached and kept were not attained by sudden flight but they, while their companions slept, were toiling upwards in the night." i didn't even know what it really meant back then. so much inspiration and encouragement on this thread. i just feel rejuvinated.

Veralaw:
This time last year,I had this year scripted out.
But here I'm in a totally different situation.
Most of my thoughts and wishes blacked out.
But today,this hour,I am thankful for any condition.

Again this year,this day,I tried proposing how next year would be.
But I gave up because whatever I propose would not be if it is'nt meant to be.


My fingers are crossed.
The remaining of 2014 numbered.
Waiting for next year, so I can just sit and watch events unfold themselves.

THE LORD BE OUR STRENGTH.

Yes, my dear.. in fact, one of the reasons i made this topic is because i recently made a career/financial/academic goal plan for 2015-2017. in reflecting on this plan, i just suddenly became a bit depressed and anxious knowing that there is a chance that my plans will not come to fruition especially since where i am today is not where i had planned few yrs ago but i can't afford to just sit and watch. i have to try my best to follow through with my plans, stay prayerful and come up with a plan B just in case plan A doesn't work perfectly. i have received a lot of encouragement from you guys and i'm sure we are all encouraging each other.

powerblaze:
Female bosses overact a lot..
Also, offend or disappoint a male boss, and he'll get angry n all, but then that's where it ends(if you're not on the red line sha).. By the next day it's all forgotten.

A female boss will make ur life miserable for weeks just cos of a Lil error she could have just educated you on improving.

However, female bosses are usually reliable. Easy to confide in. They also don't forget a good deed, and would easily recommend you for promotion.

A male boss is not always ready to take you up the ladder with him.. He mostly want you to be at the level where he'd command absolute control.

Of course, all of these are variables. We all have our nature, personality and man management techniques

yup

I've had both and it's hard to choose. Male bosses from my experience are more likely to give you your space and let you do your thing. Female bosses tend to be more hands on and very involved. they can be too meddlesome.
I like male bosses for peace of mind since I am an introvert but prefer female bosses for professional growth because if they like you, they will really care for you and take you under their wings to mentor you and see to your success. If they don't like you on the other hand, they can easily become your worst nightmare.

hmm.. many great words of advice and encouragement on this thread.

This stage is not easy especially realizing you are now a true adult with a lot of responsibility, making life changing decisions on your own (or sometimes feeling like you have little control over these life decisions like career and relationships/marriage), experiencing setbacks, and facing a future of great uncertainty...I have definitely learned to be more humble and trust God more.

Hope 2015 will be a year of fulfillment for us all.

Coolboi05:
He impregnate girl when he was 14??damn

crazy things

memories

honeric01:
Nigerian educational sector needs overhauling..
So that statement indicates shock to you?
I can't help you with comprehension hehehehe

shock o, surprise o, confusion o...choose which one best fits your reaction. gbam

hmm...nothing wrong in it. I believe that it is easier when the couple is older than when they are younger though. ex a 24yr old girl with a 22 yr old guy is weird. but a 29yr old girl with a 27yr old guy to me is not so bad

@Chaircover,
I think the reason she broke up with him might be more the fact that he lied and didn't tell her his age for a very long time. such a lie like that is serious to some.