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pansophist:
How about just clap for them when they are done fcking? Ask your wife how many time he made her cum, ask the man how he enjoyed your wife? Then wish them a happy married life there even. Blessed their marriage and move on.

I'll even offer a free transportation of all her property to her new husbands house. And hope they live happily, ever after. Life no hard.

Youngzedd:
Damaged women are for short term.

NEVER forget that.

It is what it is.

MyMilkshake:
Yes what is it?

Vecto:
Hey bro, what language do you code in?

pansophist:
1. Make sure she chooses you. Arranged marriage works well when the lady in particular finds the man attractive and naturally wants to be with him. Men generally can be with a woman that they do not love, especially if she is a good person, I can not say the same for women. So I repeat, make sure that she chooses you and truly want to be with you. By choosing you, I do not necessarily mean meeting you herself and not through arrangement (that is just a vehicle to meet each other), but that she finds you attractive, adorable, and respectable.

2. Do not go have a relationship with her because of the prospect of green card. You NEED to find her as a good partner genuinely. and the prospect of living in the US will just be an addition, to make your marital life prosperous.

3. Be conscious of the power dynamic in your relationship. Traditionally, it is the woman that integrates into the lifestyle of a man, not otherwise. She is the one adopting your surname, moving to you, being impregnated by you, and submitting (not to be understood as tyranny/subordination) to you. Make sure you have something going for yourself, and green-card is not something that will be that attractive, or at least have self-respect to not make it influence such a lifelong decision. Moving to live with her in the US, getting your papers through her, being economically handicapped while she simultaneously assume the role of the torch bearer is not a recipe for a good start. Only truly good women will take that role and not look down on you. You know her better, so don't take this as an express advice.

4. Most importantly, make sure she is not settling for, but chooses you out of all her options. A question I would ask myself would be why she can not find a man in the US, a country with a population of about x2 of Nigeria. Why go through the stress of long distance relationship with you and considering marriage when she haven't even met you? It is important you know that in every deregulated relationship (meaning a lady freely making romantic decisions without social/cultural pressure), it is the woman that chooses the man, not otherwise. You may argue that you asked her out firstly, but her acceptance is mere confirmation of having choosing you out of all her suitors. Your words/toasting skills didn't do the job, but the kind of man you have made yourself to be.

Tell her to consider the prospect of visiting you in Nigeria, and explore the possibility of living in Nigeria and lead your family life there, then in the nearest future, you may both move abroad when you are convinced about the kind of woman she is. Don't just uproot your life and move to her to the US, leaving you vulnerable and dependent on her, in a feminized society. personally I would never do that. After all, Nigeria is her country as well. I am advising you as someone that lives abroad, and have seen how lots of relationship crashed because of not having proper planning and jumping to marry anyone because of the chance to move abroad.

Be honest with yourself. If you want to marry her genuinely, pay attention to the above advice. But if you want to marry her to move abroad, I can guarantee you that she probably will be that smart to see your intention and rain hell on you, and it would be better you just remain in Nigeria and live your life peacefully, than be at the mercy of an estranged wife in a foreign, feminized society. Good luck.

Dpsychologist:
Whatever you do. Never tell your gf that you cheated.

ubunja:
software. You're one smart dude. That shiit looks complicated as hell.

ubunja:
lol these guys are hilarious.

Man you good?

ubunja:
SMH..

ubunja:
Hilarious threads these...

BossDante:
Rape may be defined as an unlawful sexual intercourse or any other sexual penetration of the virgina, anus or mouth of another person, with or without force, by a sexual organ, other body part or a foreign object, without the consent of the victim. It's worthy of mention to note that under Nigerian law, it can be inferred that only a woman or a child can be raped (exclusion of Abuja law, which includes men in their definition). A child here is anyone below the age of 18 years. So in a nutshell, Rape is having NON CONSENSUAL sex with a lady or having sex, whether consensual or not with a child. We would be discussing about the former.

Frome the above, it can be deduced that the concept of rape as regards to women narrow down to CONSENT. Now this is were it gets tricky,

WHAT IS CONSENT?
We can't deny the fact that most times when sex happen, there might not be an express agreement preceding the act, (well except in cases of prostitution and very few other cases). From this, we might deduce that consent might be either EXPRESS or IMPLIED as regards the surrounding circumstances. We will be discussing IMPLIED CONSENT, which of course is what has always been contentious.

I would discuss IMPLIED CONSENT using the following questions below.

DOES NO REALLY MEAN NO?
Many a time, when the issue of rape comes up, we see a lot of people coming up with various hatch tags and clichés, one of them is the above. Some even go to the length of saying, no matter the point of intimacy, whenever she says stop, even if you have already started intercourse, then you have to stop as continuation is equal to rape. Well that's an issue for some other day. Today, we are discussing if in practical, NO always means NO.
In this part of the world, where women tends to be passive and timid in sexual matters, we can't deny the fact that most women are not straight forward concerning what they want as regards to sexual related matters. This is why a lady would visit her boyfriend and when she wants 'IT', instead of asking directly, she would tell him that she would be leaving very soon. This to her is a subtle way of telling him that he should be fast with whatever he wants to do. Now, how do we expect a lady that can't directly request for sex from her boyfriend not to first say NO and tease him, telling him how he loves sex too much, how she don't like sex and asking him if that's the reason he wants her around, before finally letting him have his way into the promise land lol. We have heard cases where the lady would be saying ''stop, don't stop, stop, don't stop'', or where she would be saying stop but holding him tight to her body. What do we do in such circumstances?
We have also heard of cases where a lady would complain about how she would never visit a guy again because he wasted her time and doesn't understand women language, simply because when he made his move and she told him to stop, he stopped instead of trying more.
Even some ladies say it's normal for them to play hard to get at first so the guy won't see them as an easy lay.
From the above we may say that NO DOESN'T ALWAYS MEAN NO. This moves on to our next discussion..

WHEN DOES NO MEAN NO?
First, I advise every guy to stop whenever a lady says NO, relax and then calmly ask her if that's really what she wants, If she answers in affirmative, then you have to stop, even if you are sure she wants it. This would save you from guilt tripping or image tarnishing she might want to embark on if you continue. If she wanted it but told you she didn't, she played herself, next time she would be honest with the next person she meets and just maybe, they would stop saying NO when they mean YES. And the world would be a better place LOL. Other examples when NO means NO can be inferred from surrounding circumstances, like - if she leaves the room to sleep somewhere else, if she moves to the door and tell you she's leaving, if she reacts violently, bites or hit you etc. My brother, respect your old age and let her be.

DOES SILENCE MEAN CONSENT?
This also may be known from the surrounding circumstances. When you make a move she's quiet while you continue ''moving your motion'', this might be regarded as consent, however, this rule does not cover the whole field, like for instance, she is silent but crying or struggling with you, in such cases you have to please STOP.

DOES GOING TO SLEEP OVER IN A MAN WHO IS HITTING ON YOU HOUSE MEAN CONSENT?
First, It's risky to sleep over in a man's house, let alone a man that you know has the hot for you, like what do you expect (or not expect) to happen before. When someone is attracted to another sexually, you don't expect such a person to behave rationally, so for your own good, it's best you avoid situations in which only both of you would be alone in private.

DOES SLEEPING ON THE SAME BED MEAN CONSENT?
Okay, I won't want to sound like a hypocrite and continue to hit on why a lady would sleep on the same bed with a man if she doesn't want sex. The truth is that we trust certain people to some extent to sleep with them on the same bed and expect nothing. So sleeping on the same bed with a friend of the opposite sex is NOT consent. Though, this should be avoided as you can't tell the mind of another. If you ever find yourself in such position, you should take the following safety precautions- don't wear a revealing outfit, don't sleep naked, in fact wear double jeans trousers,one buttoned in front, the other buttoned behind. I repeat, DON'T SLEEP NAKED and start arguing about how it's your body and you can do whatever you like with it, if you can't, please respect yourself and sleep in your house.

DOES CUDDLING MEAN CONSENT?
Well, even though it's not advisable, sometimes you might only want cuddles and nothing more. If this is the case, please tell him before hand, so he won't start and be having high expectations. You are dealing with a human with feelings. Not telling him might make him program other things on his mind then it would become hard to stop after he gets started. You also have to always put him in check whenever he wants to cross the line, don't allow it get to the point where it becomes too late to stop like allowing him finger sex you or give you head, madam, when it gets to this stage don't come and tell us story oh, you should better be ready to help him cum in another way cos you are on your own now.

DOES DRESSING SEDUCTIVELY TO VISIT MEAN CONSENT?
There are certain stuffs that's not advisable to wear when going to see a man if you don't want anything to happen. We know it's your body, we respect that and that's the more reason you should keep it to yourself. Don't show us what's not ours, thank you very much. You hear it everytime that men are susceptible to what they see and then you go visiting with mini skirt/ gown and be pulling it down when you want to sit, as if you grew taller or the dress got shorter on your way coming, or the ones that go visiting a man without wearing bra or panties.. continue... we will be expecting your rape allegations video soon.

DOES DEMANDING GIFTS AND MONEY MEAN CONSENT?
We can't deny that in this part of the world, the financial burden of a relationship and friendship between opposite sex most time fall on the men. This sometimes result to a problem when eventually the lady denies the guy sex. Some guys might feel cheated and used after meeting the HIGH demands and requests from the lady but don't get anything in return, some of these guys feel entitled to sex as a reward for their assistance and might result to forcing themselves on the lady. So, I would advise guys first not to give in expectations of a return in investment and also advice ladies not to turn any guy to their father. You are not entitled to his money same way he is not entitled to your body

In conclusion, I would be listing some possible solutions that might help to avoid rape, However, there are certain instances that are beyond ones control like in the case of being robbed or kidnapped and rape happens, may that never be our portion.
So the following are practical measures you can use to avoid rape:
1. Stop demanding for gifts, money and assistance from a man.
2. Avoid being alone with a man in private.
3. Don't go visiting a guy.
4. Don't dress seductively or forget to wear your bra and panties when you go to visit.
5. Be mindful of foods and drinks you eat when you visit anyone.
6. Don't pass the night.
7. Don't sleep on the same bed.
8. Don't allow cuddles.
9. Don't dress lightly or sleep naked.
10. Don't allow giving of head or finger sex.
11. If you allow the above but still don't want to allow sex, be ready to make him cum with other means. He is not a light switch that can just turn his emotions on and off. He is a human with blood in his veins.
Do not be ashamed to report to the authorities if anyone violates your body, and don't lie to punish anyone or lie cause you feel guilty or cheap after the act.

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franchasng:
Reading through the comments on this thread shows how poor many Nigerian youths of today have become due to bad APC government that now make it seem impossible for a young youth in Nigeria to become financially successful without committing crime, that's poverty mentality, and its heartbreaking to see that our youths have been subdued mentally to think poverty and failure is the right way of life


I cannot see any affluence in the pictures posted about the guy.


Guys you can be rich without doing money ritual or drug or robbery or yahoo scam, its not that hard, you guys need to change your ideology about money oh.


Money is not that hard.

Many Igbo guys start early to hustle; doing petty business, traveling to different parts of the world taking risk to explore new business opportunities in far away lands and bringing solutions to problems of local communities which fetch them money.


With internet technology today, any enterprising and smart youth can become rich easily trading things online, building product brands and solving problems.


Nigerian youths please stop thinking poor like Buhari and his criminal gangs who deceive Nigerians that they are poor but they are worth billions all thanks to Nigerian government free money they have been stealing since the 80s


I have watched some friends rose from ashes of poverty and financial lack to the crest of financial success to the dismay of people that knew them years back, and these people feel these guys did money ritual but I know them personally and I know what they are into.


I have mentored some ladies too into becoming financial success and an envy of their fellow ladies, all these things are possible.

Let's stop attributing every successful person's death to spiritual stuff, its not always so.


Anybody can die anytime.

Sometimes what kill young successful people is not spirits or spiritual attack or village people but recklessness on their part due to sudden financial success they never knew would come their way.

Some overspeed because they bought a brand new luxury car.

Some drink and drive like they are acting movie.


Some consume a lot of alcohol and substance abuse due to over excitedness of being successful.


If you have ever bought a brand new car with your own money as a young Nigerian man in Nigeria, you will know how it feels, you will feel like nothing can kill you once you are in the car, so you speed like tomorrow no de.


Anyway, may his soul rest in peace, and may the good Lord grant his loved ones, his immediate family members and his dependents the heart to bear the loss and may God send them a replacement soonest.

lilmonarch:
How about you f**k all of em and pick the one with the most sexual prowess

CAPSLOCKED:
SMP 101.

NEVER PASSED THE COURSE OF SIMPING TILL DATE.

SegFault:
ehn, bros I've written a lexical analyser without regex, I can even show you the source code on github, lexical analysers are not too hard (parsers are harder) , but I don't think you've gone deep into OS Dev, do you know hard it is too manipulate pages of memory, to create a good algorithm that can swap pages when page faults occur, do you know hard it is to program all those chips and all, do you know how hard it is to build a GUI from scratch, do you know how hard it is to handle and allocate memory appropriately. No just call compiler development for here, game engine development and some others are far harder, by the way interpreters/compilers cannot interact with hardware they must go through the OS through the kernel because compilers are user applications therefore they operate in a higher ring level than the kernel which operates on the lowest, there is a library you have to create and even at that you can't completely interact with hardware straight up, you must use system calls for example read, write, fork, exec, open, close, socket (these are system calls on POSIX compliant systems) .
And lastly I forgot to mention, when writing an OS you don't have access to system calls, libraries and frameworks, you are on your own, and worst of all you have to code I a lot of assembly.

stanliwise:
See this baby, because you read some books of women I read as kid back then, you think you deserve to be paid.
Even if I am mad, I will tutor you women psychology. Mtcheww

stanliwise:
[s]If I get you rightly you are trying to down play the intense gratification and konji a typical male would have for any attractive female right?
Then you must be a liar, even the wisest man known to the Christians; King Solomon confess how we are naturally tied to our pleasure and one of them is sexual pleasure.[/s]
Every man need that pleasure but the Real men are men that would never loss themselves nor their dreams because of pleasure.
So stop the pretense, except you are biologically asexual then fine. Meanwhile what should one be doing with their next door neighbor abi you want make them see person finish?

TheGenius001:
The truth of the matter is that I can get the nudes for free. If I ask her to send me, she will do it Asap. She knows I'm doing well so she takes the opportunity to beg for money. Believe me there is a difference between the nude video of a girl u know and the one you don't.

The reason why I want to face this one is that she is really Hot! and I just wanted to whirl away time the other day. I will still f*** her no doubt.

TheGenius001:
Brother Enough of this Simp of a thing. That I'm doing fine and a girl uses the opportunity in begging me money after sending a nude video doesn't make me a SIMP.

TheGenius001:
What if I eventually use it against her and demand for the sex??

TheGenius001:
What if I eventually use it against her and demand for the sex??

TheGenius001:
Good evening Guys.
Pls I need someone clarification, Thank you.

Also, why does she not feel I might use the videos against her wish someday in the future to eventually get the sex from her?

Modified: Pls I never forced or begged her to send me her Videos for money. She just sends and beg me to send her money. Honestly I have no problem with it cos I like what I use to see.

TheGenius001:
Good evening Guys.

I'm really confused at the moment. There is this girl I have known for quite a while now and I'm not ready to go into any relationship with her. She is 20yrs old and a student. She always sends me Videos of her being Stark naked in return for money. I have no problem with that and she doesn't too. She said she trusts me to keep it as a secret between us both and that I'm the only guy.......bla bla bla.

Just the other day I asked to sleep with her since there could be more to just sending me her naked body videos and asking for money, that maybe she needs SEX from me but she said she is a Virgin and that she doesn't see herself sleeping with me in her life except I later turn out to become her future Husband. Just imagine! I'm a very handsome guy, ladies flock around most of the time and I usually don't have their time.

Please how true is that
You always send me your Stark nude videos but you said you're a virgin. Mind you this girl tells me all her secrets. But in the aspect of being a Virgin is what I don't understand o.

Pls I need someone clarification, Thank you.

Also, why does she not feel I might use the videos against her wish someday in the future to eventually get the sex from her?

Modified: Pls I never forced or begged her to send me her Videos for money. She just sends and beg me to send her money. Honestly I have no problem with it cos I like what I use to see.

stanliwise:
And how many pussy have you gotten next door?
Op toaster is stupid but don’t come here and be giving us sobo o

Zzor:
So this is what is bothering you now?redpill chairman Weldone,dont go and make money,later you will be dragging front sit for TB joshua synagogue.

Dpsychologist:
We will keep riding till all the red pill in the world is exhausted.

KenModi:
On such a thread that should be breaking the hearts of Nigerians both home and in the diaspora, your only problem is FTC

First to comment kee you dia!! Idiiot!

No wonder Indians are discriminating against you in your own country

CaveAdullam:
Hypergamy! Hypergamy!! Hypergamy!!!

They want to eat their cake and have it back using the "sex or body counts" double standard. They fail to know that the value of a woman depletes as her notch counts increases.

Hahahahahaha.