Do you feel a sense of security with him? Do you trust in his ability to navigate the chaos of life reasonably? Would you want your son to be like him? Does he have potential and is he working on something that compounds? Within the months/years you've known him, which tangible and intangible positive changes have you noticed? Do other people respect him, especially those that know him closely? How does he treat his first family, especially his mother? Does he have a good relationship with his father? How does he relate with his siblings? How does he deal with anger?
Do you respect and adore him deeply as an expression of your love? Has he done anything to prove beyond doubt that you are his first lady? How does he treat you in public even if you didn't act right? Is your fight his fight? Do you feel protected and safe with him? If he is gone from your life right now, what will you miss? How has your life improved since you’ve been with him? Does he integrate your affairs in his future plans? Does he introduce you to people that are important to him? Does he give you stuff?
Can you be real with him? Is he a doer and does he take on his masculine duty honourably? Does he armor/upgrade himself to be stronger to overcome problems and seeks solutions instead of chickening out? Does he have a sense of responsibility to your affair? Are you deeply convinced that if for some reason, you cannot work (e.g. pregnancy), that he is capable of reasonably being the pillar of your sustenance? Does he have a hustler mentality of conquering the world and bringing home the bacon, and more importantly, does he understand this as his primary responsibility with grace?
Just as he gives you the carrot, does he also give you the stick? Does he correct you when you're veering off behaviourally? Does he let you fall into the belly of the dragon because he doesn't want to offend you, instead of correcting you to get back on track? Does he hold you accountable? In order words, does he have the balls to call you out when you're straying afar? If you're adding weight for example, does he constructively bring that to your attention with the assurance that he still loves you nevertheless but encourage you to be better?
Does he have deadly vices such as porn addiction, gambling, alcoholism, philandering and more? If you show him the mirror, does he admit faults or deflect it? Is he actively working to be better and conscious of the society you live in, making sure he makes the best decision to make your family life better? (Eg moving to a new city/state/country due to security, economical viability etc), does he chooses what happens in his life or lets life happen to him? Is he masculine? Can you trust him?
Is he your resting place? Do you feel feminine and beautiful in his arms? Does he reassure that your fears, vulnerability and hope in the future are in control? Does he deserve your faithfulness? Will you without hesitation, gladly tie the rope of your existence with his, and become stronger together? Does he do masculine things like changing the car tires and repair stuff? Does he have an outlet where he releases his negative energy such as sports? Is he metacognitive? Are your future plans harmonious with his?
Is he a true leader (to be understood as being competent, not tyranny)? Is he progressive in the sense that he fully supports your growth and a landing place for you to refuel and relaunch into your pursuit of success and fulfillment? Does he let you give opinions and also take charges of areas you are competent in? Is it a big deal for him to prepare your favourite dish and give you a nice treat? Do you find yourself naturally submitting to him, because he deserves it? Does he use your vulnerability against you instead of making you feel secure in it? Does he understand what it means to be a man, and his responsibilities towards you and your future kids?
A man that truly loves and sees a future with you will naturally do all these things, and even more to keep you. Do not ever try to convert a manchild to do all these, it will be a disaster. Women are usually clouded by emotions, but this is a time in life you have to use your head. I wish you good luck in your pursuit of happiness.
Pansophist.
As much as this thread is for them ladies, as I guy, I've picked more than enough knowledge here.
skales67: Someone said same to me last year and threaten that "God will kill me before this year"... i am still alive. Judge not that you mat not be judged!
Thank you. Some people are quick to issue God's wrath out as if it's there wrath... Judge not that ye may not be judged.
Shortyy: In other words a 26 year old lady shouldn't marry because a hymen has cut.
I'm sorry to say this, but this is a very useless post.
Honestly, you don't need to be sorry. It's your opinion. You should be bold and courageous to loud your opinion. After all like every other opinion that doesn't make sense, will trashed.
This is the kind of stupi.dity I hate so much. How is this related with the thread? Is there a price to be won for being the most st.upid person ever? Isn't there a thread called Politics for such discussion?
Come to think of it, we are the one who put a dumb man as a president and in three years time we would still not get it right so why the alarm? Aren't Nigerians the dumbest people on earth to have elected a man who would kill them and is crying foul because such man is doing what he knows best? Look man, this isn't funny and you should respect yourself!
Furthermore, babies could be popped impulsively by a man naively assuming the goodness of a woman, but the consequences are usually irreconcilable, leaving the innocent child being transferred back and forth like a soccer player between parents. Would you wish that for a child? And why so against expecting standards from women, no matter how reasonable? especially that women usually are more unforgiven in mate selection, and for good reason?
Which standards exactly are you against, can you name it?
Free palema.. Sometimes her head go correct, other times na hua she go be. Right now she's hua.
crackhaus: People like you will never get the point...
Who's talking about rights here?
Of course they have rights, they can even marry, they can have families, and so on and so forth... What they cannot do however is force people to like them, because this would be trampling on those people's rights as well.
Get it now?
When it comes to movies, few people are comfortable watching two men cozying up or even fücking themselves on TV, and I bet that even you with all your progressive views would feel some kind of discomfort too – it doesn't mean you hate them, it just means your natural stimulus against an unnatural thing is working in spite of how you think.
As for Miller, he is not a smart actor. If he was, then he would have known that he does not have the leverage to be making such statements. Apart from Prison Break, no one can attach his name to anything of importance in Hollywood. No producer is going to break bank to star him in their movie because he does not have the star power to sell a movie, he's not on a Brad Pitt level... so he's actually shot himself and his career to shreds.
But like I noted earlier, he was never serious about acting... so maybe he doesn't mind.
In addition to producers not wanting him, a statement like that also proves what an unprofessional actor he is, because what is the point of acting? It's to be someone you normally are NOT, it's all pretence, it's make-believe. In Prison Break, the man was an engineer with an exceptional IQ who can plan escapes from high security prisons – he is not and cannot do any of these things for real.
If every actor only acts what they are in real life, then there's no point in acting.
You are very much right. I know two gay actors who actually act straight and I've never seen them act gay in any movie at all. Matt Bomer (Neal Caffery of White Collar) and Neil Patrick Harris(Barney Stinson of How I Met Your Mother) are both gay but act straight in their movies.
But never forget this is 21st century. Everything works hand in hand right now, how many men have enough money to live this kind of lifestyle, that is paying their wife allowances to just stay at home and be pretty and feminine for them. How many men? Without disrespecting the woman
The problem is not women losing their femininity but men losing their masculinity because a high number of men do not have enough money or are not rich enough to have a "kept woman". Men you have in mind have money, I mean real money which most young men these days don't have but you won't blame them; life is hard. And you know being a feminine woman is expensive and the said men are supposed to fund it, which is unfortunate because most men these days don't have that kind of money.
And that's why most men these days want a supportive wife, a.k.a wife that works so she can help out.
Trust me I get you, being feminine as a woman is beautiful but all these things work hand in hand. You can't be a "kept woman" without a very rich man. Unfortunately, we don't have a lot of them these days that can comfortably finance a feminine woman without turning her a liability.
So the problem is not women.
P.s I'm not talking about feminists.
Boy if you do not have issues with the words BROKE, CANNOT FINANCE. Any who, when a woman is being feminine, she's just being selfish in a subtle, cute way that instead of reprimanding her, you just wanna cuddle her and fuvk her brains out. From the examples ubunja gave, nothing really stops a woman from calling a plumber to fix the pipe before her husband comes back. But she decided to wait for her husband to be back and make the call. She just achieved a lot with one stone. This is how it goes. Pipe spoils, she waits, pauses everything for husby to be back, husby comes back, either fixes it or calls the plumber, she looks so grateful like that pipe was her life and husby just saved her from drowning. She rewards husby with sex, doesn't have to be mind blowing, but it just have to be special for you know, fixing the pipe (mind you, kitchen is still messy), tell me after the sex, what request will she make and her husband will not fulfill? The husband will do her request, not because of the sex(heck it's like every other day sex) but because she recognized he's the man of the house. She got all she wanted with one stone!
And as for those too broke to manage a home (men), like I pointed out earlier, being selfish in a subtle and cute way yet so ruthless. There are families where the man hasn't got much going for him financially, but the wife ain't working, yet the man isn't complaining. Check such homes, you'd notice that, the house isn't kept at all the time. It's all a game. And it's best played by women who know what they truly are. Forget about finances on the man... A woman who wants to get married to an average man and not work herself will do it.
Femi Fani Kayode and Righteousness89 are needed to come spit some of their delusional conspiracy theories and other nonsense about this progressive technology.
Make una dey there dey watch progressive technology till the world leave una, for una 13th century thinking.
I just started using 4g just 3 months ago. I have not even felt the 5g something and now it's 6g. These people should slow down ni... Nigeria just stopped importing tooth pick and cotton buds.
Since America deh drag 5g with the original boss, China don leave 5g for them, launch 6g. Make I see how America go drag this one. Nansense!
GLYCOLYSISS: Why would people think he's trolling ?
These just a perfect scenario of an average relationship between single mothers and unsuspecting men out there.
*They sadden the naive men with the responsibility of taking care of their child(ren) .
*They are always meeting with the baby daddy to settle one issue or the other, most cases, rounding off the section with crazy sex, while the other naive man is at home babysitting her child(ren) ,as well as calling to know how the "meeting" with her baby daddy is playing out.
*They ALWAYS sell the "now repented and more wiser " gimmick to gullible men, who can't see through there BS.
* Sell the wife material nonsense to them, that will get many of them to start considering the prospect of marriage with them.
* They ALWAYS ratio sex to the gullible man, overwhelm him with faked " wife material charcters" ,which will confuse,and get him reasoning that she might unleash her sex drive once he does the one very thing all baby mama seek : commitment and security .
Do you now see why most men are acting stupid when dealing with baby mamas ?
They sell men the dream,because they know how to. They are very good in manipulations, because they have to, knowing deep down them they are playing on hard mode . Games and manipulations gullible men can't see through,and they got to be ruthless about that, in order to secure their interest.
That's exactly why when men are willing to take all the BS that comes with dealing with a baby mama and even offering them commitment sounds like craze to you or those expose to truths about women Nature and mating game but not to them, it's because you know what they don't know.
Skepticus: He is not. Even if he was, I can assure you that there are hundreds of thousands (if not millions) of Nigerian guys who reason like this. The thirst is real.
Put your ears out more and you'll find out that the "sharp guy" on your street is a hopeless simp.
When they call simping a pandemic (SIMPandemic), it wasn't a joke. COVID-19 still dey learn.
With the way the guy is replying, I doubt if he is trolling. He is serious with what he's saying, but then again, a man in love is the worst person to advice. Like someone pointed out.
GLYCOLYSISS: Now, I want to ask everyone that have being following these thread, what have redpill teachings taught you since the very first time you came across it.
It could be 5 years ago, 10 years ago, 2 years ago, and maybe recently, what impact have redpill knowledge had in your life and relation with others in general . We all want to know, so don't hold back, others could actually learn from your experience so far in these journey.
Self Development. TRP made me to understand there's no better person to show all the love I can give than me. And there's no better way to show that than developing myself in any way I can whilst enjoying of moments of it.
First, I realized I had time to actually develop myself. I mean, time is man's valuable, and believe it or not, women devour time. It's not their fault, it's just nature. I have had more than enough time to learn skills I never knew I could even fathom. I started this journey more than a year ago, and I can tell you I achieved two things. I learned not to be moved by women (I killed the thirst for women just as skepticus and others will advice newbies) and the second one is, I'm a programmer in the making. A web developer to be precise.
YouAreFinished: America is a secular democracy,and not a theocracy...it's people decides what it wants...your "christain values" is not by force. Anyways,you mean christain values like this:
Honestly I feel ashamed of some of my fellow Christians. Their gullibility no be here.
thebosstrevor1: Christian values will be destroyed if biden wins.
They are coming with an agenda and that agenda is to destroy anything Christian
Why all these fake news? Trump has been on the seat for 4yrs now and he hasn't done anything yet for the CHRISTIANS (whatever he does he did it and is doing it for the people of America religion regardless). His win or loss will not in any way interfere with any religion at all. Hold your peace. He is not your God.
Ramon92: yeah they do, glaring but just collectively and deliberately ignored..
My experience... An ex used the female version shiit pill on me while still at school. This was a girl I thought I had her love, all of a sudden changed her behaviour, got me and I discovered I started contemplating doing some things for her I wouldn't normally do. So one day I checked on her unannounced and saw a book hidden under her pillow - a title I can never forget - Why Men marry Biitches by one Sherry Argov. I pretended I saw nothing. I downloaded that book out of curiosity and the fact that I love to read, and what I read ehn, the complete guide and recipe to making a platinum level simp.. Even my simphood then couldn't bear those quotes, as I was raging inside as I read on.. The rage burnt my simping...
I never liked reading. You discovered yours by yourself. My then girlfriend now ex sent me those copies. She told me, it will help me. I never cared to read it then as I was very lazy. I deleted all of it. I would have been long emancipated from simphood before June 2019. I was foolish. But now, I'm good!
CaveAdullam: Me too. I want to learn the skills you listed, it is good I add advanced computer skills to my repertoire. I have saved your number, and a DM notification is about popping on your phone.
Pasima: Hi guys good morning. Yesterday night I was discussing with my girlfriend and I decided to ask her about her past life and she openly did she answered everything I ask her both private ones and how she got disvirgin. I want to ask as she open up does it mean she truely loves me?
Nope. That's not a guarantee. You should use that as it speaks of the future but not in its entirety. It's a glimpse of what she can and can not do.
obehi247: Seriously, have any one noticed Boko Haram is more intelligent, strategic, organized, brave, well structured, foreign supported and purposes drive more than IPOB...
Nnamadi Kalu is just deceiving and killing innocent young youth. This is a very clear understanding that, majority of the Eastern youth fighting añd supporting IPOB under Ñnamdi kalu are uneducated illiterates...
By now you suppose done know say now month the guy dey...
The same person make talk say e get nuclear weapons and the very beginning of the so called struggle...
I am an ibo man. As hard as it is to believe even for me for a certain period of time, when it comes to movements like this that when not handled with [honesty and integrity could become a source of money to those heading and those heading is an ibo man, I don't subscribe to it. Call me scum for thinking this way about my tribe, idc. When money is involved, we lack the bolded. Not just my tribe, but every other tribe.
travelwaka: I love anything adventure this is why Kayak is one of the things I added to the list of adventurous things to do in Lagos. Kayaking is a form of watersport where you can row the kayak across a water body. I have done the Kayak across multiple locations in Lagos and my most interesting experience was from Ikoyi toward Victoria Island/Lekki.
Just in case you are looking for something adventurous to do in Lagos. Welcome to the adventure club.
I will be sharing safety tips, where you can rent a kayak in Lagos, how to kayak etc
But First I would like to get you to know what a kayak is. See pictures below
Romance › Re: (part Two) Traits A WOMAN Should Observe In A MAN When Considering Commitment by Regex: 3:07pm On Nov 15, 2020
