₦airaland Forum

hiawathia1981:
Yeah, good question. Did it take you long to adopt to the culture?

I've been visiting the country for several years, did a ton of research and deduced the culture is very Aspergery. I have Asperger's, so I'm a natural fit. But foreigners coming from big cities and vibrant cultures get bored and depressed.

Dremca:
How were you able to quickly learn their language because In belive you're an american.

I didn't, still learning. I learned more German with language apps than Finnish.

obiwigan21:
Ok, guys, my story is this..... I am based in Europe, so the last time i came into Naija in 2012, i met this pretty babe... We have known each other since beginning of 2011 via face-book, so we met for the first time in 2012 when i came in. This babe is very pretty and i really liked her a lot!, but the problem is that she has a very serious boyfriend then and because of that we couldn't date. I went back to my base and we still remain very good friends. She tells me everything in her relationship and all that. Finally she broke up with her boyfriend and it was a very bad breakup that hurt her so much and probably because that i guess she joined the bad girl click, called naija runz girls.... but i did not know about her change in behaviour.... Fast forward to June this year, i came back again to Nigeria and apart from the contract i came to seal, she was one of the main reasons i came back.... I really had very good intention towards her.... i brought with me a lot of gifts for her and i always call her on the phone and send almost every day nice romantic text messg. and i told her so many times on the phone how much i missed her and cant wait to be with her again.
She is based in Owerri, but i flew in into Lagos and i had to fix some little things in Lagos , before moving to Owerri to meet her. While i was in Lagos, i started noticing some things about her.... one day she called me and said a courier from Konga and Jumia will be bringing some stuffs for to my hotel and i should pay them 50k for the stuffs and she will take them from me when i come in.... Well, 50k, is not really big amount, i was like she should have discussed this with me 1st before sending some random courier guys to bring something to my hotel and i have to pay for them too. Well, to cut long story short, i paid for her stuffs and i brought them with me to meet her in Owerri. When i got into my hotel in Owerri, i called her to come and she came with 4 other girls and though i was very tired after my flight, she pushed me to take her and her friends out.... This babes ate like they have never eaten before.... they ordered everything they could lay their eyes on and even some take away too. Finally, after her friends have gone, we were alone in my hotel room, and we got talking... She told me that she is not interested to have a relationship with me... that all she wants is just fun. i was very disappointed to hear this from her, because, i really like her and i wanted something more than just fun with her.... I tried to explain to her about my good intentions towards her, and she keep saying, all men are same, i dont want to have any relationship with you.... Then she said, i know that you want to sleep with me, but before you touch me, you will take me to a shop where i want to buy cloths and i will pick whatever i want and then you can fuxk me after.... i got pissed up after i heard that from her and i said well, its already late now, so we will go tomorrow but meanwhile, i tried to play with her and touch her, and she pushed me away and said, you will touch me after i have bought what i want to buy tomorrow.... Then i lost it.... i left alone through out that night and when we woke up in the morning, i asked her to leave my room that i am going out.... and she asked me what about the stuffs i bought for her from Lagos... I told i have changed my mind and i will not give it to her, i even showed her other good stuffs i brought for her from Europe, but i refused to give her any of them.... She got so upset, she cursed me and abused me and then she defrined me from fb and blocked on whatzapp.... So guys, if you were in my shoes... will you do same??

She sounds like a gold digger olosho ooo. You should have kicked her out of the hotel room, blocked her on Facebook and whatsapp. You were being too nice to such a horrendous olosho.

If I was running a modeling agency, I'd come here for scouting models
But remember: External beauty is temporary and fades away with age. Knowledge is power. It is far more valuable than beauty, with knowledge and sought after skills you can make your own money and never depend on a man. Men who take you for your beauty cheat on you and kick you to the curb once you are old and no longer beautiful. Find a soulmate who values good character, personality and common interests over skin deep beauty.

I really don't understand the colorism nonsense here.
You guys belittle the dark skinned women, no matter how beautiful they are, then you complain about the bleachers. This ugly colorism bigotry is probably the reason for bleaching trend.

Stallion93:
Me too, I'm a super introvert now and all blames to my parents. My self esteem is zero, I can't get out of it so most times I just stay isolated, alcohol helps me tho, I feel much better after some booze. I guess they're lot's of youngsters like me out there too on some serious substance abuse or who just turned psychopaths. Such is Life

You sound like the Finns. The entire nation is super introvert and able to mingle only after drinking copious amounts of booze. I think this extreme introvert culture is the reason the population is a mere 5.5 million in such a huge land.

You are a doctor, why is your self esteem zero? Doctors usually have big egos!

hiawathia1981:
Hi Revontuli,

I wanted to ask you some questions about Finland if I may. Off all the choices of countries to go to, why Finland? What are the major difference s btwn US and Finland? What do you miss most about home? And how do the people relate to you. I know you are not black but have you noticed differences in how the people relate to blacks?
I know, alot of questions but Ive been curious. Been meaning to ask.

Healthcare system is way better in Finland. In the States there is no public healthcare, everyone depends om employer-provided health insurance and a lot of it is really bad with high monthly fees and out of pocket payments when you go to the hospital. If you are between jobs, and get sick, you are totally screwed. Healthcare and medicine costs are astronomical. That is one big reason I left, I have multiple chronic illnesses and couldn't live with the stress (I lost jobs and been unemployed for a few months after the companies went down and laid off many employees, also the 2008 recession.)
Finns have great public healthcare, it's good for people with chronic illness. You never have to worry about dying from treateble things like asthma if you lose your job. Non-emergency care is slow with long waiting times, it can take months to get an appointment for conditions that aren't life threatening, but if you have the money you can buy private health insurance and get fast service.

Culture is another big difference. Americans do the fake smiles and small talk, strangers smile at you and say how are you doing everywhere, they expect you to do the same and talk about stupid little things. If you don't keep it up at workplace everyday they brand you ass weird and marginalize you. Finns have introverted and quiet culture, you don't have to talk to anyone if you don't want to, no need to wear masks and fake smiles if you have a bad day.

Finns aren't materialistic, unlike most Americans, it's a shameful act to show off material wealth and expensive things. They don't have wasteful shopping culture. Even for outdoors and camping, Americans will buy a load of unnecessary items like gas cookers, expensive tents, comfort gear. Finns buy the simplest, cheapest stuff and make their own fire to cook. I went camping with Finns, they just gather branches and make cooking fire with it. They shapen thin branches with camping knife and use it to cook sausages over fire. Americans will bring a gas cooker, power inverter using car battery to plug the cell phone chargers, and use a set of steel bbq skewers to cook stuff. They will bring car fridges. What's the point of going camping if you bring all the comforts with you? That's just a small example to demonstrate the difference of mentality.

I like the minimalistic, non-materialist culture and harmony with nature so I'm quite happy in Finland. The downside is the limited business opportunity for entrepreneurs. America is paradise for those who start their own business, the system favors businesses and entrepreneurs get huge tax write-offs. It's living hell for wage slaves with bad health. Salaried workers get taxed to death. Finns tax salaried workers to death as well, but at least our taxes are used for things like free education and affordable public healthcare, not for bombing innocent civilians in other countries.

There is institutionalized racism and police brutality targeting blacks in America. Police shooting unarmed innocent blacks is a major problem. There is some racism in Finland but hell of a lot less. I noticed the racism here targets Muslim Somalis who wear Islamic dress, not so much West Africans. Especially after a large number of Somali immigrants went to Syria to join the IS and it was in the headline news.

There was an old friend of mine who was married to a Kenyan lady. One of their neighbors was a nasty racist woman and yelled horrible insults at her all the time. I saw it myself. But most everyone treated her well, it was only that one nasty woman who was being rude and racist. They lived in a small city with no African population. Then again I've seen middle aged racist men yell nasty things at white immigrants, too. Usually it's drunks who do that. There are xenophobes who hate Russians and non-western immigrants. But there's no obsession with race like America, and no police shootings.

kaffy4tope:
If you see Rwandans girls, you will curse yourself for wasting your precious past years with broke ass fugly Naija girls.

I'm not a lesbian, I wouldn't know.
How can you generalize all women of a country of 200 million and a score of different ethnicities? That's wrong sha.

Favor99:
It benefits you guys. You come to Africa pretending to like us and our culture, but then you turn around and start degrading our people to the world.

It might benefit politicians, but not the people. Developed Africa would be benefiting the whole world.

And yes your leaders do all those crazy things you just mentioned, like creating wars creating aids/Ebola etc9

Aids has been recorded since the 19th century and there is an actual blood sample of an aids patient from 1950's. Ebola is a hemorrhaging fever, those fevers have been around since the dawn of time, Ebola spread in Africa cause of the people eating bushmeat.
Saying ebola and aids are created by foreign powers is no different than the flat earth conspiracy theories, ridiculous and stupid.

Besides aids killed scores of white people too. You sound like the American conspiracy freaks who claim the government is poisoning the kids with vaccines and the ruling elite created vaccine-induced autism and cancers to cull the population.

tealaw:
Most Forbes billionaires are Short, fat, unattractive bald men.

Thunder fire being hot!

And I wouldn't touch any of them with a 10 yard pole and wearing gloves. Eww!

Favor99:
Keep deceiving us, your not our friends. You guys are like wolf in sheeps clothing.

It’s known fact that you whites divide and rule and put tension between blacks all over the world. Just like your portraying Africa to the world as a dark jungle filled with backwards naked people. And most people around the world believe it. People are killing and attacking Africans as a result.

It's stupid and makes no sense to create wars and division in Africa from a business perspective. Developed and prosperous Africa means new markets and hundreds of millions of customers to sell products.

War-torn, backward, undeveloped countries benefit no one.

Favor99:
White folks.... see them at work. This is how they started putted animosity and hate between the different Nigerian/African ethnic groups. They started it and now our people ran with it and are now doing it

Whites and their divide and ruling

They’ve been doing this for centuries, just as this white lady here just did. See them at work. Now they’ll step back and watch us tear each other apart. Naija wake up

You guys have been hating on each other here, it's not the white people who created your ethnic bigotries.
It's extremely low IQ conspiracy theory cop-out to slander me like that (I tell people not to make ethnic bigtry hate speech all the time) or blame the prejudices and hate on outsiders.

Are the IPOB separatists white? Is it white people not allowing the Igbos to get elected as president or depriving them of major infrastructure? Is it white people who unleash the Fulani herdsmen to kill Christian farmers?

You already have enough animosity and hate, muslim-christian hate included. You don't need anyone putting it there, you have to blame the tribalist bigots here who are screaming ethnic slurs all the time. They were always here.

Yorubas have some highly educated and successful people, nothing against Yorubas in general but they really need to fix that skull mining problem before comparing themselves with Igbos.

Igbos don't do skull mining and human sacrifice for money rituals, that is a huge plus on their side.

PAGAN9JA:
RIP Nigerian wildlife. this is sad af. Baroness Jane Goodall spent a lifetime living amongst these great apes and studying them and here we are roasting and eating them like savage pre colonial cannibals. the same creature that shares 98% of its dna with us. Gods guide us.

Rwandans are preserving theirs and make tons of cash selling gorilla watching safaris to tourists.

Last year's tourism income was 400 million dollars.

Throwback:
Why do Caucasians easily take their own lives with all the comfort, rights and privileges that the 3rd world envies?

The life of celebrities is a lonely life. 99% of their friends are fake and around them for their fame and money. The man was living in hotel rooms for the good part of the year to make the tv series. Imagine staying alone in hotel rooms half of the year? That is a crap life.

If you ever watched his show, you would have noticed melancholy was always there and he was not a happy man. Also he has battled with drug addiction for a long time, hard drugs can cause irreversible damage to brain chemistry, destroy the serotonin production and cause severe depression later in life.

Another thing is 3rd world people are too busy struggling and hustling to think too deep and get into an existential crisis. If you are poor and hustling, you always have hope for a better life, no time to question your place in the world. When you achieve everyhthing, life can feel quite empty and lonely.


Here is another example, a world famous chef with 3 Michelin stars who committed suicide at the top of his career: https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/switzerland/12133117/Benoit-Violier-worlds-best-chef-dies-at-age-44.html

carbonado:
...you know quite much about my country...sad about the menace of the fulani herds men and lack of basic infastructure, however,every country has it own issue.

I learned all of it here on Nairaland!

Mobilia:
Nice to meet you Revontuli!
Have seen you around.

Nice to meet you too! Are you from the States as well?

hiawathia1981:
Yes, i do like jolloff rice and the veggie soup I have had. Someday, I will learn to make it.

Jollof rice is so great! I gotta learn some okra recipes and the Nigerian pepper soup next.

Martin0:
Precisely that, you ladies don't want to relocate, you are addicted to USA but again ,let make a short plan for decwmber for few foreigners down here.

Shhh you gotta clean up the country first uf you want foreigners to relocate oo! Send Buhari home, elect a decent leader who will give you stable electricity and water, also clean up the skull mining, cultists, armed robbers and Fulani herdsmen wahala.

kaffy4tope:
Wow, I'm in Kigali now. I can't believe I'm in Africa.


This place is Dope.


Updates later

Cool! I have a Turkish friend who is doing humanitarian work in some village, she stayed in Kigali for a few days and wrote it's beautiful and serene. There are quite a number of American and European expats, she said there were Jamaican artists exhibiting their work at art galleries. People come from far away corners of the world to live and work there. Sounds like a great place to visit!

hiawathia1981:
What brings you to NL?

I stumbled upon here when searching something on Google, ended up staying cause Nigerians are awesome.
There's amazing food & recipes in the cooking section, great stories in the literature section (I highly recommend Number 225 Katakata Street), women have so much freedom to talk about anything without getting harassed, I made some amazing friends.

hiawathia1981:
Ah Texas, too hot for me. Finland is probably too cold for me too. What is one to do?

Yes, the Trump regime is very sad. What really saddens me is the amount of hope and trust that has been put in his administration. And the degradation of respect and civility to each other. Well, hopefully 3 more years.

The cold I can handle by dressing in layers like an onion. Texas heat kept me locked up indoors during the day, there is nothing you can do to ease the heat. Even in the shade it was awful cause of high humidity. At least Finland has summer and fall with really nice weather (not too hot or cold.)

I'm visiting Rome for a few days, including a whole day Vatican trip. I am taking tons of photos and going to post them here when I'm back.

There were some wealthy Nigerian tourists in Vatican, I told them to visit Nairaland

The hustlers selling stuff on the street seem to be mostly from South Sudan.

This is a bad season to visit, it's far too hot and insanely crowded.

Best time to see Rome is December, there will be no heat and all the popular places will be devoid of crowds.

Anyway I will post one photo I took with my phone to give you an idea what is to come.
This is an ancient Roman bridge on river Tiber. They added angel statues in the Renaissance era.

hiawathia1981:
Im in midwest US. How long have you been gone?

About 5 years. Now I'm watching the Trump regime with great sadness. I lived in the Bay Area and Austin, TX then San Antonio, TX, the heat was brutal in Texas.

hiawathia1981:
Nice to meet you. How is Finland treating you?

Nice to meet you too! Finland has been treating me eay better than America, but the winters are brutal.
Where are you located?

Cheap condom gets you a pikin, aids or both.

Is Buhari going to appear in BBNaija?

hiawathia1981:
Hi there,

Hailing from America, you?

Finland! But I moved here from the States a few years ago.

Money is great in Turkey, people aren't racist and the entire nation hero-worships African soccer players. They will get hell of a lot more attention and admiration than anywhere in Europe, Nigerian soccer stars are treated like demigods.

Nigerian prostitutes were stabbing each other and cutting each other's faces in Finland a while back. The established prostitutes didn't want to share their territory with the newcomers.

Vanilla cupcakes with buttercram icing decorations.

I colored the buttercream with blueberry and lingonberry powder dissolved in hot water, no artificial food colors. I don't like chemicals so I use only natural ingredients for coloring cake icing.