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Kingsleyinfo: Thanks for putting your words across like a civilized being.
that dundee wasn't getting my drift, and he obviously didn't read my post properly before typing his trash.
Like I said in my first post, Popularity doesn't equate quality or being the best and that's what I was really attacking.
The sample conversation on the other hand was meant to point out a certain attitude I have noticed in my time out here.
Where I grew up no one made a fuss if u could speak the local dialect or not.. Its totally up to you to learn or not. If you think it would boost your chances then by all means learn if not its totally ur choice.
But out here I have practically been asked why I am yet to learn yoruba, they go on as if its the alpha and omega of languages. I remember when we got to abeokuta, a friend of mine initially got rejected because she didn't greet the woman in yoruba, in a govt office where English was meant to be the official language.
learning another mans language is no doubt a survival skill, especially when u live there, but when people start taking it personal, u begin to ask yourself if these people actually went to school. Education is meant to broaden our mind and ways of thinking,
Honestly I wouldn't even be perturbed if I had been posted to a village and noticed, this, but in a state capital, it just makes me laugh.
If I get into an environment, and I discover that I need to learn their language for survival, I would damn well do it.
But as for now its not neccessary to me and that's how its gonna be.
My point all day has been, people should not look at others as stoopid because they refuse to learn a particular language. Neither should another claim to be the best on the ground that his language is more spoken than others.
and I still maintain some of these yoruba guys especially the one above, need to change their mentality.
there is absolutely nothing wrong if someone at a given point and place refuses to learn a particular language.

and imagine him calling yoruba a nation, the guy stinks of tribalism, so am not suprised at his school of thought. People dey go school u self carry book run go, come here they reason with I'm yansh.
Bigot.

Am still waiting to here what u people have achieved that others are yet to achieve, that made your brother to say they are the best.

Freeopod:
Peeps av bn scaring me abt Sokoto! Pls contact me o! 30b44967 or 08067590893

Theblessed:
[b][size=20pt]What kind of a man is this that came here to disrespect his mother, his grandmother, his sisters, aunties, nieces and cousins by showing their 'Butts' on here to the world?? And, I ask, who would ever find happiness, marrying this kind?

What a sad man, you are?? Pity!!

What a sad and confused man you really, are! And not only are you sad but also, greedy and wicked.

Imagine how low you stooped to disgrace all the females in your family, just to make a point - shame on you!!!

It goes to show how low you'd stoop to prevent a woman you loved and married - the mother of your own children from getting her divorce settlement if it happens to you - you could even murder or kill her cold blooded for asking for divorce let alone - settlement.

You are, a disgusting and evil man - a messenger of satan sent here on Nairaland to capture some weak souls for his  kingdom of darkness - And you all, who like this sort of a thing will rot in hell, soon!!

Sure already, some weak minds on N/L have started placing an order for their mothers plastic, shame on you all!

Since Miss Plastic is the only way out and solution to the marital hell, most marriages experience and also, an avoidance strategy for paying out divorce settlements perhaps, Miss Plastic would would also, cook your meals, run the home and resolve your need for an "HEIR" for that your silly dirty kingdom? I mean, someone to takeover that your silly kpako when you finally depart to hell! 

Or, are you going to look for a "LIVE" Barbie to perform that role, Mr clever?  You dare not contact any living being of a woman for that role else, the day you dare, would be your last - hypocrite. 

Keep riding your plastic horse, evil wankerpervert!! [/size][/b]

okosodo:
. Dont say that MKO was equally great but not to the calibre of OJUKWU who even the weather dreads his presence

pro01:
^^

Yuk my broda. That's just grisly. The thought of it freaks me out. I'd prefer an actual human, nubile female - thank you very much. [s]Actually, human (young and voluptuous) females aren't that bad. . .as long as one needs them only for physical intimacy and not for (long term) emotional, intellectual or spiritual purposes [*chuckles*].[/s] Silicone mannequins can never be a viable option.

2sign:
u'l get a strate bus frm lag to sokoto and from onitsha 2 sokoto.if u go thru abj,it.l be longa and xpensive.from abj 2 sokoto is at least 8hrs and #3050,but a luxurious frm onitsha wil not be more than 4k

mkmyers45:
You can check Onitsha motor parks but i am not sure of that, From Onitsha-Abuja-Sokoto = Hold like 8,000+ for TP only

Cheers

mkmyers45:
You have to take a Bus to Abuja then from Jabi Park you get a bus going to Sokoto

Cheers

larablog:
Does anybody know just how bad the weather is in Sokoto
I'm more afraid of the weather there than anything else.
Also does anybody know how to get to the camp from lagos and how long the journey will last.
I still can't wrap my head around the fact that I'm going to sokoto.

TV01:
Marriage as a proposition has changed significantly in recent times. One of the downsides for the “wealthier party” – typically men – can be serious financial loss, possibly leading to severe hardship for all but the quite well off.

With the introduction of “no-fault” divorce and laws designed to “ensure the best interest of any children” – which invariably benefits the “primary carer”, a role for the most part presumptuously awarded to the mother – men are also in danger of losing out on a significant role in raising their children.

Many on this thread are looking at “Nups” as the solution, be that pre or post. And doubtless, with  a little creativity, I’m sure we could well see nups evolve into a fully-fledged (and tradable?) financial instrument. The primary driver behind this approach being to limit the financial downside of divorce.

I beg to differ. And for a whole host of reasons;

1. Even if nups were perfectly legal and enforceable, they’d still have to be agreed by the parties. What woman in this day and age would not insist on minimum and potentially scaled (if Daddy hits pay dirt at any point) financial payments for “her kids”. Is anyone left in doubt as to the position the “law” will take on this?
2. It doesn’t speak to a potentially more costly issue – emotionally and financially – of access to the children
3. It doesn’t address or challenge the true motivation behind some of the weird political and legal maneuvering. In fact, it plays right into it’s hands per 1. above
4. An even greater reason – and without touching on 4. above - it doesn’t address root issues, such as the nature, benefits and understanding of marriage. Rebalancing and reclaiming it for the key, most basic and ultimately most important societal building block it is. The family.
5.  Marriage is not a business transaction

Let me start form point 5. First. Many of the discussions here typically focus on rich (celeb) type situations, which to be honest are far from the typical “garden variety” divorce.

As has been rightly pointed out, how many – if any – of the discussants here are any better than comfortably well off? And even if you are, a messy and acrimonious divorce can make road-kill of even the most comfortable lifestyle. Not to mention the physical and emotional costs. Anyone reading will have heard of the “broken men” and the “estranged and wayward children”. Very  real possibilities for your ordinary Joe in the event of divorce.

To treat marriage or any part of it “transactionally” is to divorce - excuse the pun - it from its true worth and meaning and strip it of much of it’s value.

In fact, it would be more honest to treat it as a “transaction” end-to-end, which to be honest is what a lot of people do anyway. Merely adding some spiritual and social content at the front-end, then using the courts to reap the profit at close.

Honest end-game here would be a situation (and if I recall there has been one, involving a rich celeb no less) where having kids and providing for their upkeep were based on a pre-agreed legal contract. Is that really what we want?


More later if time permits, but I welcome comment on the little I’ve posted.

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