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Morale!!!! All na STORY..........

dayokanu: I am the way to triplets. Do me once and you would be popping triplets every year till you reach menopause

what do you want to use? baby carrot or plastic?

I am using this calendar ooooooo, ewoooooo.........this is nice, abeg i want the one that has twins or triplets on it, any idea....

chaircover: In the car so excuse my "disjointed" post

My take is somewhat different. I dont believe in resentful wives and I dont believe in one sided decisions.

This girl has explained how long it took her to find this job. We all know what that means; the disappointments, the frustrations, the questioning herself if she is good enough and so on. She was probably offered sex in exchange for jobs severally, she would have watched people not as qualified as her stroll in and get the job simply because their dads were friends with the managing director. This is Nigeria.

She finally gets the job and now hubby to be has told her to resign. My question is what was he looking at all the while his finance was looking for a job in Lagos, when he knew that she will be settling down in Abuja with him. Question number two what is he doing/strings he is pulling to get his wife a job in Abuja? Its not just good enough saying resign.

LOVE!!! works both ways. If she loves him, yes to give up a career and marry him, but if he loves her he wouldn't want to put her in an unhappy situation either.

without any information to hand such as the length of the relationship, the guys financial status, his age, and if the wife has any dependents etc. I can only advise blindly and that is to say that they meet halfway; they start looking for a job in Abuja and postpone the marriage for a few months which will give the wife enough time to save up some money, satisfy her need to work and time for them to both find a job or start a business in Abuja.

1. Poster where are you? see people asking you questions and you are not here to reply, this attitude iritates me.

2. CC, infact it is as if you were using my mind and fingers to type out exactly what i was thinking, i was already frowning at some posts till i saw yours, then i smiled, at least i am not alone..in my thoughts*****

3. Poster look for a job in Abuja, or try to work out a transfer if you could, it will be unwise for you to cancel your wedding because of a job and also crazy to leave your job for a life you don't know how it is going to be. So think very well before you act.

^^^^^fOR your mind Tunji!!!! you be ladies man ooooo, see yah mouth!!!....lol,..

Hey guys, how are we doing?
Am back...but kicking it off with pilates....

Log for yesterday: 30 minutes pilates, i needed the stretch...will be doing some yoga today....take care everyone

had a cup of tea for breakfast

A bowl of just vegetable soup with chicken for lunch ( it was filling)

Boiled plantain and fried egg for dinner.

After reading; this is my thought
1. The man is not your soul mate
2. IT was your fault, who toasts a lady for 2 years?, na beans!!!! it was obvious you never wanted the relationship in the first place.
3. The guy did not really love you.
4. The best friend, is not a friend at all, she really did betray you, you should not have gone to the wedding, you shouldn't have agreed to be friends with her again, only because, what if you were really in the relationship with this guy, both of them would have still cheated on you, what if you were married to him? both, would have still slept with each other.
4. the guy did not deserve you in the first place, he was not even worth the wait.
5. Stop eating people's money, when you know you will not be in a serious relationship with them. there is nothing wrong in going out on dates as a young girl, but taking advantage of the guys, is a very bad thing, majority of ladies cannot tell us how they have suffered for things like this.
6. Don't worry, your own hubby will come.

I just hope, the guy will not regret his decision 2 years from now!!!

There are women like that ooooooo, she meant it when she said she had forgiven him, but "it should not happen again". I like that attitude ooooo, wish i could have it, in the face of wahala.....

Afdman, because you called me a lazy reader, i will prove to you that i am not lazy, this will be an exception though... , will be back to give my thoughts on the whole thingy..whingy!!!!!

davidylan: Each time i read this i just have to wonder:
1. Nowhere is it written that you MUST comment on the thread. If the story is too long then move on and find a shorter one to read.
2. How did you folks pass exams? Did you just read summaries?

The story is very well written and interesting... you should give it a shot.

Really David? and you had to comment on my post, abi? so i have to read a whole Ababio to pass exams abi? the same question that you will answer with an epistle, i will answer with the "koko"5 lines max... and still have my perfect 'A'. I believe in "going straight to the point" no need for extra analysis.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]WHAT??!!

That was b@ng out of order! Where was the husband whilst all this was happening? Is he a weakling or what?

If to say dem dey over here, that MIL would be done for serious assault charges!! What if the DIL lost the pregnancy or if mother and baby died in the process? Na only for Naija pessin fit do and undo. Mtcheew!

I'm sorry to say but I think that husband is really stoopid! I'm so angry reading this! Is that MIL educated sef or na from village she come? I blame the husband for all that because it's when you open the door of your marriage to outsiders, then you have no one but yourself to blame when they meddle with your matrimonial home.

I hope that woman won't mind too much if her daughter's MIL does the same to her...[/quote]Hmm they are here ooooo, that was the question i asked her, if her hubby was there and what his reaction was? but she said he did not do anything and that was when she made up her mind that this battle is for her to fight. The MIL hates her, because the DIL is not giving her any opportunity to control her life and her home.

[quote author=Efemena_xy]^^ I think that's disgraceful!!

The MIL should know better being the older one and respect herself, whilst the DIL should also do the same.

Recipe for High BP for both of them if they carry on doing what their doing...[/quote]My dear, i don talk tire, i think the MIL should just back-off, and let them live their lives, i know she only has two kids and she is watching out for her sons, and my friend na one proper speree, meanwhile, her hubby is very calm and cool ( and that is what we see)on a normal day she should not have any probs with her hubby, but the woman (mil) just wants to set the tone in her son's home and the DIL is not going for it. It got to a point that the MIL was hitting the lady when she was really heavy, ( that right there) just put the DIL off and she is dealing with the situation now herself, she said she will not leave her hubby oooo, but she will deal with the woman.

I have a friend who is just like her MIL, although the MIl has decided to live on her case literally, she is not bulging at all, at first she decided to calm down for the woman, but when it seemed that her hubby did not know the right steps to take, she started with her MIL, infact they do not see eye to eye and both of them deal with each other without the hubby's knowledge.

This is just too long......kai....just give me the summary.

Names and their meanings are very important in one's life. If you don't like your name or the meaning, there is no reason why it cannot be changed.

taryour: yes o prof ronkus baby,dayo is actualy right you know, what goes round surely comes around. D funny part is a woman prayin for her to be mil to die befor she marries his son. Truely speakin all tru my years in life,i av never for once come across anyone i know having issues with mil,i only hear dem and watch in movies but never with someone i know personaly. At times when i hear such stories,its almost kinda difficult to believe cos in d first place i dont know y a wife can not love her husbands family like hers and treat them and also tolorate all thier attitudes as she does with her family.tnk God for my inlaws.

May b its becos of my kinda person,i for one person realy dont count tins,i av learnt to overlook alot of things in d years i av lived on earth,even with my own family so y cant i do d same with my inlaws. I did rather fight with my mum n my siblings dan fight with my inlaws cause without my mil i would never av meet my charming prince (hubby). It is even better to av issues with ones hubby dan d inlaws. Wot dayo said is true,if i am a bad dil to my mil,then my future dil will treat me as i av done to my mil in d past......

Kidding with you dear.....just looking for trouble. I don't have any MIL of Fil (they are both gone)...but i miss them, i would prefer they are alive and even go through whatever trouble they would have for me. But my SIL is helping with the trouble anyways, and i am enjoying the fun, my hubby does not care, it is a woman to waman thing, and i am more than upto the task.

dayokanu: My post is whats funny especially how what goes around comes around.

Dont you find it funny that the oppressed of today becomes the oppressor of tommorow?

Whatever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

^^^^^^ Taryour what is funny?

[quote author=Efemena_xy]^^ Doesn't explain why you've got sticky chocolate on your fingers though [/quote]Naaaa!!!! it is not me your are looking at, but Taryour......

stillwater: What exactly do these MILs do? Are they the Patience Ozokwor types? loll.

I love Patience with all her craziness.

izeek: did u say 14?
my dear bone all this talk about words sinking
the pikin need serious beating
too bad that i am no where near there
i go offer to flog the lion outa him.

Exactly my thoughts, that boy is spoilt....ne needs some thorough, dragging on the floor, beating. If the mum is from Naija, send him to stay with one of his no-nonsense uncles, they will show him some sense back home, if she is not, then i don't know what to tell the mother.

^^^^^ Make una dey pack on calories ooo, i nor follow join oooo....

moremi2008: OK. Yeah, the West has its own set of issues but I am increasingly thinking I'll take those instead of the madness that seems to reign in Naija.

I still prefer Naija madness, anyday, anytime. The crace here is nothing to write home about.

moremi2008: Please, stop talking like you don't live in this same America where even two incomes are not enough to give your kids the best. Private schools cost $30k a year (houses cost $750k+ in good public school districts), college tuition for good universities is almost $40k... you do the math and let me know whether it makes sense to hold on to the idea that men should be the "sole-providers". I guess as long as you're ready to continuing living in the ghettos of Philly, rocking your husband's $80k a year salary, then nothing shele! It all depends on your standards and how deep your husband's pocket is. Just stop spouting this "sole-provider" nonsense because modern society rarely works like that anymore.

Yeah, modern society rarely works like that and majority of them have gone crazy, there are so many mad people living with real human beings in the same advanced society just because of the unnecessary stress they have put themselves in. I love the western society but not everything they do is worth emulating, so many things have gone wrong.

I do not support a man being the sole-provider either, since he obviously does not have what it takes to be the sole-provider, my post was directed to the guy that said he left his fiancee because she did not want to quit her job, as if he was really ready to carry her cross. We still have men who are sole-providers and are not crying.

[quote author=al-ahamad]All these yeye Oyinbo mentality covering most of u in d brain.....

My ex Fiancee used to work in the bank...you knw how naija banks can drain you silly on a daily basis so whenever I land Naija, the little time I spend in Lag before going to Kano was always hurting for me cos I hardly see her....she closes late nd goes back to that cage very early.

For that I gave her a choice to quit the job nd run ma company for me since am not much arroun. Even though I'm to pay her far better, she refused my offer nd I simply cut her loose....broke up that relationship nd moved on with my life.....

Sink it into your brains that we are Africans nd we need the loving nd tender care of our wives in a maximum stretch then when kids show-up, they need u with them....how would u do that as a career woman.....?

Please spear me that crap....I also don't wanna think of going to jail cos if I can't see ma wife regularly, nd I find something fishy out.....I'm sure ya'll knw d rest.....gbam.....[/quote]And hope as an african man you know your responsibilities, "to be the sole- provider" of the home. If the men knew what they are supposed to do in this time and age, there would be no issues on relocation at all. But they don't.

[quote author=Hour_Glass]Well, I have really gained mine, lol

Howdy @all?[/quote

My dear am not happy about it at all, only because i will need more enerfy when i start to workout and eating enough will help me, we shall see shaa, maybe it is just for now. imagine what i had to day, a cup of coffee and half a donut for breakfast, 3-slices of bread and butter for lunch and i am not even hungry yet for dinner....maybe i will drink gari and go to bed....(that is just what i crave for at the moment).

babs2011: Thurs 31st May

Tae bo 'celebrity get fit' - 45 mins

Uche hope u start to feel better soon, I sure know how it feels not being at ones optimum health wise having being in such a situation recently. You shall overcome. Health is wealth indeed. I pray for speedy recovery for you.
HG: wow, a 5k run soon, go girl!
Ronky well done for not adding whilst on a break from working out
ML and Modath, how far?
Agaba hope you are doing gd, miss seeing your workouts sha.
Fresh face, Echala hope you are ok?
And Gen B what happened now, you just showed face briefly then disappeared again??

Thank you dear, i have just lost appetite for food, i have to eat just for eating sake this days and not that i am really hungry.

Sammiejo: hello house. Since my last check in here, i have dropped 5.5kg and have about 1.5kg to get to pre-pregnancy weight. However my ab is still flabby , and my upper arms could be better, any tips? I find abdominal exercises a bit boring.

Do pilates and yoga thelp help with the arms and tommy, i will recommend pilates any day, for the tommy, also incorporate a lot of push-ups. it will help with the flabby hands

[quote author=tpia@]^^in nigeria people might laugh it off, or just be amused, but overseas they will descend on your head.[/quote]Actually, nobody has ever descended on my head, since i have been here ooo, unless i do not know what you mean. I just get nice compliments, majority of the times gan sef, dem no notice, even if they do, then, 'big-deal', It is is Naija you will be hearing orishirishi oro....

The adopted child is the first son.

taryour: my sister na true,na to dey watch ur back as you walk now oo, you never can tell o,let this followers not follow you inside your room o when you and oga need to get busy oo.

No!!!! naaa, let them follow inside the room....they will either join or watch...it is sweeter and dirtier, when you know someone is watching you.