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OOOOOgaaa oooo, this relocation thing just tire me, my hubby is so bent on moving back home, i am interested too, but i don't know why i am having a cold feet? Miss-Ife, don't worry, will get your 411, so we can be hooking up, and going to the gym together..... , that would be fun...

[quote author=tpia@]poster i seriously sympathize with you.

is it the boyfriend whose manhood you were yanshing here:

https://www.nairaland.com/757663/pls-help-boyfriend-manhood


how did you carry belle this year if you've been having s.ex long before now.

was it an accident or something?

lord have mercy.

and when did you have time for your studies assuming this is a true thread.[/quote]i could not help but laugh @ the "yanshing part"...Tpia cracks me up.....

dayokanu: To kpekus legally

True dat!!!! and that is the only sane reason i can think of. I am just so dispressed with seeing, hearing and reading about so many marraiges that are upside-down. it doesn't just beautify or justify the sole purpose of marraige.

Sagamite: You are listing story characters, or at best exceptions.

The general trends (not exceptions) in history is non-inlove marriages.

Even till this day, in Nigeria for example, we majorly have (s)he-go-do-,-love-will-come-later marriages.

In the good ol'days, I for just clunk fine girl for head and carry her on my shoulders to my cave and she would be my wife from then on. How I miss the golden era, Keri Hilson for get headache.

lol.......e easy for you to just clunk girl put for shoulder dey run?unless you be agbero ooo, i think they used to be betrothed in those days, not like we have it now, that people just pick whoever they deem fit and marry for the wrong reasons.

Sagamite: Marriage about 2 people inlove was only a recent transcient phenomena.

Marriage has historically been about social climbing, power acquisition, political alliances, religious/cultural duty, sexual gratification, financial security, even plainly restitution after r[i]a[/i]pe or pregnancy resulting from it.

Inlove marriage was just a fad that occurred in the last 50 or so years.

I think that love-wantintin marriage originated shortly before the period of launching Mills and Boons.

Recent results question its sustainability.



GAWD, am bad! Yeah.

I don't think love about '2 people inlove marrying is recent at all', the time of romeo and juliet is not recent, or Abraham and Sarah, or Jacob and Rachel, or Akbar and Johdaa (indians). You are right though that it was being used also as a politcal tool and so on and so forth. But there was love and respect then, everything has just been diluted, and a diluted drink is tasteless.

[quote author=Hour_Glass]Thank you Aronky, someone already told me that but I feel there are other dimensions to the coin. It could be TOM (almost), I had an occasion along the way and eating was too few and quite haphazard. You can see it is easier to say it "muscle mass". Time will tell sha. Trust me those your workouts are killer[/quote]My dear, same thing happened to me last week, i climbed the scale and i gained 2 pounds, but it was from (TOM) and the muscle training i did. i loved it though, because i stepped on the scale again and i am down 2 pounds. So you are right it could be....(how i hate those times)

@Mightlove, you can never go wrong with those Zumba dances, i love zumba-ing it ...and you sweat well too.

@Olynkem, thank you so much, that was very informative...i will put that personally at the back of my hands.

@Gen Buhari...welcome back, we missed you. carry those dumbells and start burning all those fats.

Logs for yesterday, 25 minutes total cardio, was too tired to go all the way, i think the sugar (at least the raw sugar) i cut of my daily diet, is making feel so ill. Am still taking enough carbohydrates, but i was so addicted to drinking tea at least 3 times a day, and i put so much sugar in them...but my not adding it to my tea or anything that requires sugar, is making me really feel sick and tired. am not going to give up though. No sugar for me for the next 2 weeks.

^^^^^ it would be great if you opened another thread, that is a nice question you are asking there.

^^^^^^ Good questions!!!!!

jeffizy: I wish ronkebp could just chill out a bit. I understand we all Ђα̲̅v̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣ our opinions. Ronke, loosing up honey.

My dear am good.....i am everly chilling out.... am not a trouble maker....just hate to be cheated.

Infact with the way majority of marraiges are turning out these days, it is so disappointing and i do not blame those people that have decided to remain single. come to think of it, what has marraige really become? infact, who knows what marraige really is anymore? It used to be about two people 'inlove' who have decided to spend the rest of their lives together. But, Now, i just don't know anymore, i guess it is more about saving face.

my dear, i am thinking of getting one, once i get back home, if i am going to be leaving my kids with another person i don't know from Adam, then i should be getting one, whether it is infringing on her private rights or not. Abeg i no fit shout, then God will help her or HIM, when i find unpleasant things in the cam.... talk go finish naaa!!!

^^^^^^^^hmmmm!!!! hia!!!!! Prettycindy...you tried oooo, i think God gives us what we can handle, because God knows i will not be able to manage that your ex for 2 weeks.

@ Poster, that lady matter is not what anybody can advice her on, like Bluediva said, they both need to go for counselling, bulk of the advice should be for the man. And also there are things that should have been handled and corrected from the beginning of the marraige or relationship, if it is not done in the earlier part of the marraige, then, it usually remains as it is.

I guess there are no more condoms in that country.....

Why would two young-uns, have sex without protection in the first place?

Really? so in this day and age, we still have mugus roaming about??

so POSTER, what do you expect us to tell you??, the guy has every right to say no now, you wan spoil im life. since it was easy for you to open your legs, it should be easy for you to deal with the situation.

Nice one Maclatunji!!!!! thank you for helping out.

violent: You are right, I don't have kids...but i wouldn't join the bandwagon of shallow minded people who are quick to call for the father's head for beating his kid. Yes, it may have been excessive and maybe there's need for someone to speak to him about his disciplinary measures...but what's this rubbish i see with people who have absolutely no idea how the family works calling for "measures".."authorities".."police" and what not? That's just excessively stoooopid!

Neither you nor the "Authorities" nor the "OP" will stay awake all night if the boy as much as catches cold...guess who will?

What in people's shallow mind makes them think the father does not in retrospect regret his actions?

What in people's silly thinking makes them think the father does not love the son or the son the father? and if they both mean the world to each other...then what the FUCCK is people's business?

Those screaming child abuse are just high on horse dung! I wonder how many of them actually know the names of their kid's teachers or bothers to help their kids with homeworks

You people should go fucck a squirrel and if you can stop crying over people's headache then you may need high dose of dopamine! nonsense!

Oh so because the father donated sp/e/r/m for the birth of the child and helped in taking care of the child, gives him the right to exert all his energy into beating the child out of anger? There are parents that have abused their rights of being parents. The other time on this same NL there was a picture of a woman who beat her 6 or 7 year old son to the point of only God knows!!!, you needed to see that picture with all the bruises that poor boy had. So because the boy came out of her, she now has the right to kill him so many parents unknowingly have hurt their children because of this anger thingy, they feel they have to unleash on their kids anytime they want. Correction should be done inlove and not extreme anger.

[quote author=Hour_Glass]Good, and you?

Anyone with me on this pushup challenge. I was able to log 25 pushups this morning (too tired to do it yesterday). Week 5 of my run was done yesterday and week 6 starts today. I also started with some strength moves yesterday, the least weight I saw was 5kg, it was worth it.

Have a nice and stay healthy.

Well done burntcoal and babsy? ML hw'r u doin nw?

aronky pls show your face o, 123 where you dey?[/quote]My dear, i dey here oooo.....))

[quote author=Hour_Glass]pele o, how body? Rest is what you need. In this naija system, working and working out looks like a duplication a times, the only difference is that one brings stress and the other relieves it. Take care

@FF, 2500 skips , that is what I call wow!!! Well done dearie

Anyways back to business, today I stood on my scale and I was not surprised to see the pointer on 80kg. I don't know why but I was actually expecting an increase. I just had a hunch that my weight had increased despite the busy week, the healthy choices etc. So I wasn't too down in my spirit either, I just braced up and went on with my daily duty, washing, scrubbing etc, I even planned going to the gym to conclude my week 5 run (one day more), but the rain threat really kept me indoors. It is all good, better days are ahead I believe.[/quote]@HG, My dear, not bad at all, you gained muscles nmass, which is a good thing, it will help your metabolism fast.

Hi ALL good morning, what has been happening??, i am seeing good workouts up there.
@ Freshface, you are killing me in a good way, with those 2500 skips? what da?!!! good, am proud of you oooo

no workouts for me over the weekend, did spring cleaning for 3 hours on friday, was a little bit sick form the allergies, so did not exercise saturday and sunday.

But yesterday, did 40 minutes of cardio, loved it, did 500 skips, 200 jumping jacks, 150 squats,100 oblique twist, 20 pushups, 2 minutes plank position and 100 abs crunches, i mixed everything up and it was fun. so everything spread out to 40 minutes, my sweat was dripping, did not each much yesterday so might have burnt so much calories.
This week, am cutting out sugar, no sugar for me at all, am not a fan of honey, so i will be using splenda as a substitute for the rest of the week.

Take care guys and keep doing your 'thang'!!!!

Hmmmmmmm, very good oooooo!! she try wella......

I think it is only a dumb person that will know another dumb person. If i choose not to see the humour in that post, i don't think is anybody's gari."to your tents O Israel".

My dear poster, you have a woman who does not want to aggravate things beyond any point, i like that, that is a very good attribute and attitude towards life. I just hope you will listen to her too when she complains about the things she does not like.

Tgirl4real:

Even if it's for the child's good?

For which child's good? so killing the child is for his good??, please Tgirl4real, leave story....my mum used to beat me wella, but not to the point of people screaming 'haba!!! e don do' and i can't recall when my dad raised his hands to hit me, and i did not turn out to be a 'gutter girl'.

Every parent should know how to train his or her children, i am not a believer of "spare the rod and spoil the child",but there is a diiference between "constructive lashing and a total drag on the floor-punching and kicking- beat down".

taryour: ronkeeeeeeeee, am still laffin heavily. We are on d same plate. Infact d teacher wey go bit my pikin eehnn go smell him own anus.
@ronke,am sure are yoruba but wetin u find reach amadioha side na?

All of the above ooooo, if i should start narrating how i am mixed blooded ehn!! this whole page will not contain it. it started from my fore-fathers'.

most women are safer drivers to men. for some men, it is all about calculating the distance and rushing to whereever!!! church, office, market nko? they are always in a haste.

My husband is a very good driver but an impatient one, he hates people wasting unnecessary time on the roads, am like him now because he taught me how to drive last year, recently i had to take him some where, and he was so surprised with the way i drove, he was like i drove as if i had been driving for 10 years...well what can i say, learnt from the best.

I don't know how to sink it into some men heads, that removing belt on every little thing, is not the best way to correct a child. Nobody should touch my kids oooooo, if they do not want to see' amadioha' in person.

Unnecessary wahala...shebi she knew his 411 before falling inlove with him. that shows her love is not enough. If she feels they are too different and have different perspectives to life, she should better look for someone that can eat with fork and knie, and stop disturbing people.

I will empower myself, because everything i have naturally belongs to my hubby.....and only because, i am the prudent spender, my hubby can be very very vain....trust him to buy the latest lamboghini and latest range rover, though he will buy it in my name oooo but he will be the one to cruz around.

Alusi Okija: Its a lie jor!!

Sometimes in love, one party has to beat the other, its called tough love.

Havent you heard the song "Your love is wicked" by those ejima girls.

Really whoever does that is 'sick'...

SUV: thanks all for ur varied opinions, comments and suggestions.

she finally came around on sunday and we discussed. i first told her to go and talk to someone she knows the husband respects, she agreed.
secondly, i asked her if she is in pains and whether the man truly loves her, she confessed to me that love is not their problem, they really love each other. i figured out that the problem would most probably the fact that the husband is not able to meet up with his financial obligations.

The husband has been apologizing since the day after the last beating occurred, i told her to forgive him if she wants him back, but to make sure they go for counseling, she agreed. she wants her marriage to work and she confirmed that the husband is not cheating in any way.

no marriage is filled with roses my dear friends even mine, i believe that some of the challenges will make couple stronger, i real;ly do not support domestic violence, but i think the husband has temper issue which the wife confirmed.

Prayer is also key and i asked her to be more prayerful.

baadaadash!!!!!!!!!!! love my foot.

Let the woman organize boys to beat him up and strip him naked....outside, if you people don't stand up for yourselves in your so-called husband house, i wonder what help NL can render. Open your eyes and stand up and stop eating rice and receiving slaps ontop. if you want to keep eating rice and dodo, please do, and don't come here complaining that your hubby is beating you up. Na women like you dey tie their husbands and lash the living-hell out of him.

dayokanu: Since the lady has the money (in Nigerian language) = Shebi you have the money

Now carry cutlass about the use of "Shebi you have the money"

See analysis!!! , still the manner of approach of that guy sucked.

debosky: Thank heavens your hubby has a good brain on his shoulders. . . . .that should more than make up for your own erm. . . .questionable reasoning on this issue earlier.

You open eye enter market my dear.

Yeah,....that is where individual differences come-in, when matter get k-leg like this, i ask him and he answers in a very non-challant way, but drives home a good point. infact he did not blink when he answered. and i saw good reasons with him. Even as i tried to twist it, here and there so that he will be on my side, for where??

logica: Oh, so it took your "hubby" to tell you for you to know what's "right"? Or maybe this is just an opportunity to remind "us" that you have a "hubby"?

All of the above.