₦airaland Forum

Outstrip:
I think what is better is so have those men tie him up and give your sister a cain (the kind our math teacher used to use) and let her whip his bum until he begs. What will the elders tell him that will make a difference. Someone that beats his wife up to the point that she ends in the hospital. Elders indeed

lol,

Poster, get your guys, let them beat him up, the only thing i would suggest, is that, you should not show your face, but let those guys beat the living-daylight out of him, and they should tell him the reason he is being beaten, so that when next he sees his wife, he starts to shiver!!!.

[quote author=aloy/emeka link=topic=795646.msg9477012#msg9477012 date=1320360699]Do you know some?[/quote]My dear, i do ooooo, i know a lot gan sef, i have a very good friend who is presently cheating on her hubby, for reasons i don't know. Then that one no be my konsine, i just pray for her everyday.

My cousin, that one, she just moved out of her hubby's house, she is now living in one of the houses her boyfriend built for her in Lekki, Her case is a different one, because her hubby abused the living-hell out of her, both verbally and physically, i used to hate the fact that she still stuck to him, but one day she just made up her mind to take charge of her life, is cheating the answer?? No!!! but this other guy, has given her a shoulder to lean on, she is happy, she is now emotionally stable. is she thinking of marrying this new guy, nope!!! but she is just glad she is out of her husband's life. In her case, reconciliation will not do anything, don't think she can ever reconcile with her hubby.

Also, sometimes you are in a relationship while your heart yearns for another, so i would rather you stick to that person your heart really wants. (though not in all cases they turn out to be the best).

@ Poster, the truth is if she ever loved that first guy, she would not cheat on him with you. She really and trully loves you. But if she would be faithful that one i cannot tell you anything about that. I know that if you care so much about someone, you will not think of cheating on him/her. Abi, have you caught her with anyone else after you? She is trying to guard her heart.

[quote author=frank3.16 link=topic=795651.msg9475447#msg9475447 date=1320344193]franky mnnn, i love it when ladies call me that. how far with u? lets leave married people alone for a while and talk about us[/quote]So in all the things i posted, it is only your name that caught your fancy? o di egwu!!!!

Kay 17:
@Enigma

Its a valid point to make a distinction among transcendental beings. Zeus is thought to be imaginary, so its up to the Christian to emphatically stress on the superiority of his God

@ronke

let me make my own declaration, THERE IS NO JEHOVAH OR ALLAH OR ANY GOD!!!! So i shout louder, thus i'm right.

Your opinion does not mean a thing, whether you believe there is God or Not, it would not make God more powerful nor richer, it would not dethrone HIM. So if you believe ooooo, it is for your own good, you don't nko? at your peril.

the LINK:
o no i'm sorry, your views can really help in shaping or redefining mine so pls lets hav them

So what would you like to know.?

KacHemNaU:
too much frustration

Did you read the post before my out-burst, i was talking to mbatuku2.

^^^^^ Franky, do not take sides, it is not as if the woman verbally abused the husband and poured hot tea on him, and he was still sitting down watching t.v, they both insulted each other and he further went ahead to hit her. They are both at fault and should apologise to each other, this is marraige and not a relationship.

the LINK:
didn't expect u to accept that, since u'r a Female,

Well you have already said your mind, no point arguing with you, that not all women are the same.

^^^^^^^^^i know they are the same.

Now!! who says women don't cheat on their husbands i wish we could get Nigeria jist on how wives cheat on their hubby, everyday, but they won't come out!

^^^^^^^^^^^^^Your question needs no answer, beacuse you have just compared your 'god' to a banana. God, Himself gave His names, and acts His names out. I don't know the monkeys you have in your zoo, that is calling their own banana'god' , definitely, not the ''LORD OF HOST'' that i worship.

Kay 17:
^^ Thats an empty declaration. Other religious adherents believe otherwise

Who cares what other ''religious adherents'' believe. THERE IS ONLY ONE TRUE GOD. THE I AM WHO I AM, OMINI-POTENT, OMINI-SCIENCE, OMINI-PRESENCE, JEHOVAH RAPHA, JEHOVA ROPHEKA, ELOHIM, EL-SHADDAI, ADONAI, JEHOVAH NISSI, JEHOVAH SHAMMAH, and many many more names. Let the other religion come out and tell me the names of their ''god''??

Poster, am apologising in advance, because one ''akunakuna nwanyi'' just got on my last nerve this morning.

Am actually still waiting for mbatuku2 that just insulted me, to come back and give me reasons for doing that. ''Yanga go dey sleep, trouble will go and wake her''. I do not know if he is a female/male, but if na woman curse me out this morning, she should better bring her st, u.pid self back online, lets iron it out. Because i see that she is very mannerless, senseless and useless. ANU MPAM!!!!!!Anuofia!!!!!!

Mrs Chima, have given a correct response.

@ Poster i don't know what your wife needs that you have not met that is making her sound so unappreciative, ( though some people are just like that). God help us get the right spouse.

Because seriously, the rate at which people complain about their marraiges, is so confusing, that is why we all need God in our lives (can't say for some people shaa!!! that already have their lives mapped out for them). We need to know what we are getting ourselves into. Marraige is not for babies, it is for the matured minds. You have to be able to handle your home and marraige well and have Christ as your foundation.

Nobody is perfect, and you can never find that perfect person, Just let her insults slide and forgive her, and am sure she would forgive you for hitting her, you did not mean to, we know, but hitting her again and again, will never resolve the issue. Infact it will add ''sand to the gari''. Talk to her and let her understand what your pocket is, she might see you as not wanting to meet her needs as a husband, you take care of other things, bills and children and forget about your wife (and that is a 'maybe'), you need to bond back and let your marraige work.

mbatuku2:
Maggot-eating baboon!. Why dont you crawl back into the shytehole you came from and die?

See i do not get, why some people really lack home training, and that is why it so shows by so many posts here!!

so if i may ask?? what has warranted this insults this morning?

Lovely abs.

LMAO, so funny, the lady wan be musician by force by fire.

mbatuku2:
So, none of the wives of these elders can help you to get the cost of the items?

The wives of the elders too are waiting for their own share.

Sandrachioma:
Men are nature born cheat nd d fact dey cheat dsnt me dey dnt love u its just thier nature i tnk she should sit her hus dwn nd have a long sensitive with hym if he realy lves u he wuld apologize evrytin startz wit a step

He would apologise and go back to cheating.

emmatok:
LOL,

She wants harakiri to get a wife, to prove he is a REAL MAN.

, who says thats what i want

pkv:
ronkebp and hakiri, u guys shuld learn 2 respect your opinions,haba there is a civil way of reacting 2 each odaz posts witout making NL afghanistan.if u guys were senators nko@hakiri a real man shuld b amicable @ronkebp a real woman shuld b amicable.waya na wetin una talk, som1 shuld apologize and lets fire on biko

PKV, you can fire on, my fight with Harakiri has just begun. i did not intend to make NL a boko-haram ground, until one very someone, started hurling insults in a 'civilised' way. I don't insult people, but if you try to push me around with words, just to prove you know grammar, i will not get off that person's case on time.

dayokanu:
I did not know there were differences between expections of Real men and Real women till you told me.

So since you have said there is a difference maybe you would be kind enough to tell me what are the role differences

Don't worry, i will reply you when i have gotten home, exercised, taken a shower and eaten, then i will log back in to give you my list.

^^^^^ Now he has seen a bad wife, who is also a bad mother.

pkv:
gud wife,disgusting mum, same boat but different decks

whatever!!!!!!!!!

coogar:
i disagree.

a bad wife does not necessarily make a bad mother.

bad wife - her relationship with you is bad.
bad mother - her relationship with her kids is bad.

it's not written in stone.
she might not love you wholeheartedly but loves her kids.

some men are bad husbands but adorable fathers.
some women are good wives but disgusting mothers.

I agree with you Coogar.

^^^^^^ There is only one GOD!!! the others' are 'gods', so do not confuse yourself any further.

we all know in Nigeria, it is a give and take kind of relationship they have there. There is no need to pretend, as if most relationships are solely based on love.

dayokanu:
Maybe we should have a list of exceptions

What a Real woman is expected to do but a Real man is not expected to do and vice versa

You can write out the list of exceptions.

^^^^^some of the things that real men should not do.

dayokanu:
And what does the real woman do?

A real woman would pull out the sofa, sit and insult any man that crosses her path.