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Love this topic,

@ Poster, she will come around, her emotions are just all over the place, no doubt she has an amazing feeling for you, just give her time to really put herself together.

And as i can see, it is the 'sane' people that voted for GEJ, are the ones' still voting him as the worst leader!

I just feel that, we all should be patient and give this president peace of mind, so that he can do his job well.  Nigeria is not a nation that can be turned around easily, infact the positive turn around would extend to like 20 years, if the presidents know what they are doing.

''Faith without work is dead''!!!!! Only prayers cannot sustain a nation, it can only be a strong foundation for a nation, the nation itself, should build on that foundation.

The FG, should just recruit men, train them well, and send them to all the northern states, any unnecessary movement, should be ''shoot at sight''. Dialogue is not going to stop them. The earlier the FG start to do something, the better, so many people have lost their lives, this situation should not be taken lightly at all.

maclatunji:
Let us put it this way: if you cannot show love to your wife in public, whom are you going to show it to?

They would show it to their girlfriends outside.

Sagamite:
I am multi-talented, baby.

You know how we do it, when we do it.

One thing I have realised over my period on this Earth is that it is not really worth arguing with most women. Logic and objectivity flies out when it comes to discussing their behaviour in a relationship. They know the right thing, but they will frequently try and do what they want that gives them the most pleasure even if it is wrong or selfish.

My planned approach to any issue with a woman in my life is that:

- I will tell you what I have an issue with if it is serious. I will say it clearly and respectfully.

- Let her respond. It is best she makes sense but my fingers are not crossed with women. I expect the me, me, me.

- The respond is not relevant to me. I will see how you attitude changes in respect to the complaint/issue I raised. Actions speak louder than words and I know people can be defensive even though they understand the complaint.

- If I see positive change, I will try and support the change with compliments, advice and patience (people don't change in a day)

- If it does not change, depending on the significance of the issue, if it is low, we will go back to the begining of me telling you about the issue until we get hear again.

- If it is of high significance, I will respond by not giving a hoot. This is where fire starts. It is better she calls fire-brigade and start dousing the fire and see whether we can go to that important discussions.

- [b]If she come with the attitude of "Whatever, I will show you, blah, blah, blah". Then I will show her I really could not give a hoot. I will look for my happiness elsewhere without a jot of regret. By the way, she is free to find hers too.

- If she no like am, I will go to the market and get a rope. I will tie her the noose and offer it to her. If she does not take it, I will help her tie it to some reinforced structure and direct her on how to use it.

Don't argue or debate with unreasonable women. Life is short, enjoy it.[/b]No man/woman not interested in making you happy is worth your time. I can understand why some men might just chin a woman.

And this is for the woman, you claim to 'love'.

namfav:
so you want to carve nigeria in a way which the yoruba have there own part, the ibo with there own, the ijaw with there own, the northerners with there own etc.? dont be too sure

That would foster ''individual unity'', abi naa!!! everyone would be at peace, i think!!!

Yeah!!!!!!!!! i could not help it but cry>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>infact, am still crying, it is so sad>>>>>> , please don't console me!!, let me continue crying,

namfav:
no, we will stay one

Any why is that?? why should we remain one, when we do not live as one.

The truth is Dere I, both men and women are not justified to cheat on their partners, as long as you are married, zip it!!!!!!!!. If you cannot hold body, then there is no need to be married, remain single so that you can ''flenjore'' as many times as you want, with whoever,! at whereever!!!.

We should all go our seperate ways.

^^^^^^that one, na your torro!!!

My dear, that is just a tip of the iceberg, and maybe they are on NL, and would say their wives did this or that.

Respect begats respect, i don't know how a man would totally disrespect his wife and expects her to worship him. In as much as we know that 'we' as women need to work on ourselves daily, the men also should step up their game and be that loving husband they ought to be. If you talk too much now, ''they'' will say, na feminist dey at work again.

Chuck D:
1: abuse in the home can lead a woman to seek solace outside and if it is a man helping her in such troubled times, she might be tempted.
2: infidelity on the part of the man can cause a woman out of hurt, to want revenge, afterall, na the man first.
3: adventure and fantasy: many women fantasize about the thrills in such acts. the adventure. they may be afraid of doing it but thats what makes it exciting.
4: lack: a woman who lacks some things maybe because the husband cant provide may, in order to help herself or even help her family, drop to such level as to cheat.
5: nature; some women are just plain "bad". their case no get repair. they will sleep with any man that appeals to their senses. these types are extroverted and they move in gangs/bands/flocks (whichever you prefer)
6: sour relationship: if a woman falls out of love with her husband and she needs to get some, well,

True reasons!!!!!!!

Back to the sender!! in the Mighty name of Jesus, i reject it in the Mighty Name of Jesus, I USE THE POWER IN the Blood of Jesus to remove every negative pronuncement over my Life In Jesus Name, Amen.

^^^^^^^^^^^We shall see at the end, if He exists or not.

It can go to the north, as long as IBB, Atiku and dem click, are not involved, we do not want people with 'expired money and fame'' to come and rob us once more, it is time for our generation to come out and lead, our 'fathers' have totally failed, hope Jonathan has something good on his plate to offer in the lung-run.

^^^^^^^^^^Don't worry, He will answer you on that 'day'.

randyorton:
Who said nigerian women dont cheat. Well,yoruba Women do cheat.

I did not see that bolded part, who says only yoruba women cheat?? some nigerian women irrespective of tribe, cheat on their husbands.

^^^^^ D-One, haven't you seen some women that are not nags at all, the perfect loving wife, cheating on their hubbys'? (well maybe not, but i have seen ).


Nags, never comeout at first as nags, but once you see a lady complaining of every little thing, ( i mean the smallest of all things), every time, then that person is a nag, moreso, such attitude would grow overtime and become worst. In that situation God help the man she is with.

Some women shaaa!!! if it is me, leaving my hubby because i don't love him, maybe, but going back to my ex? NOOOOOOO!!!!, he should live his own life, though i still love him ooo, but will not rob him of the opportunity of marrying someone else. Love him enough to let him go.

randyorton:
Who said nigerian women dont cheat. Well,yoruba Women do cheat.

A lot of them cheat jare!!!!!!!! they are only pretenders.

kerastase:
i am a woman and i feel sorry to say that when a woman starts nagging and being non appreciative of her man 99% of the time she is dating outside of her marriage. so thats why it is always good to marry a woman that is your friend. because love fades sometimes and all u have is friendship left. so what do u do.

That bolded part of your statement is a fat lie!!!!!!!, A woman does not have to cheat on her hubby to be a nag.

House help ke? in my kitchen nope!!!!, i can't imagine my hubby eating the food she cooked and saying, OMG!!!! this is delicious!!! that statement is only meant for me alone.

I really like cooking for my hubby and family, Though cooking is not my hubby, but wetin i go do now? i gat to.

I agree with Frosbel, just try and use all avenues to save the marraige, who knows, she might just change to a woman you never knew existed. I don't understand why she is combative, is she frustrated?, are there things eating her up, that she cannot bring herself to tell you?. Something is definitely wrong somewhere, because i really do not know how someone would want to live in perpetual sadness.

If my parents despite all they went through, can still be together today, i think any marraige can work. Moreso, you can pray for your wife, i pray for my husband, i wake up every night to pray for him, i pray to God for what i want in his life, and what i don't want i ask God to remove.

Exhaust every channel, and if it still did not work, then you can make other decisions.

Outstrip:
The poster is probably making this up but my dear I like your idea. The next time he beats his wife he will not know where the revenge punch will come from. He will even run when he sees his neighbors 5 year old son walking towards him. No idea whatsoever who was paid to beat his Bottom.

wahlai!! faaa!!!!, some of this men that beat up their wives really needs to be shown pepper!!!! once, twice, we can still let that pass, but constant beating? haba now!!!! that is wickedness. I for don show that man say; khaki no be leather.

kabasa77:
What kind of spirit are you testing? For God's sake,God gave you the free will to choose,and according to HIS word,you do the finding yourself and thats exercising your free will.You never got the chance to choose who will be your Father or mum,or siblings.Its only when it comes to marriage you got that right,and you leave it to one pastor to do that for you?.

We are saying the same thing in different ways, some prophecies are real and some are not. If for example you get a prophecy that you are not sure of, that is when you pray about it and ask God to open your eyes and mind to understand. (that is the ''test'' am talking about).

Kay 17:
@enigma

How do you KNOW there is God? At least you were not born with it.

@ronke

There is no god! You are a LIAR! No god exists!

So because God has not brought Himself to show you Who He is, you don't believe that HE is a LIVING GOD.?? Well too bad, because it simply means He has not chosen you, those that believe, he has chosen and He glorifies them. You need to pray that He chooses you so that you can atleast see for yourself what we that believe see, for us to affirm that God Exist. Moreso, when He has done that, and you decide not to still believe, then that is a different story entirely.

''My people die for lack of knowledge''. God Himself said that. It is wise to ''test all spirits'' (the Bible also said that). So if you hear something from '' a man of God'' and you do not test it, that person is going to be at a loss.

''Not everybody that calls me Lord! Lord! will enter into my Kingdom'' Christ Himself said that. That goes to show that there are serpents/ wolves in sheep skin even among the pastors. Some people have solely placed all their hopes and trust in men, all in the name of believing'' that the Lord says; when he has not said anything. And have forgotten that the Bible also says '' woe to anyone who puts his/her trust in man'

We need to open our eyes and minds, and seek the face of God concerning what concerns us, then there could be comfirmation which can come in different ways.