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@ Poster, it happens to me, but not as strong as you though, i see some places and people that look so familiar to me, but i can never tell where and how i met them.

We have our duties, men have theirs, women have their own duty to perform as human beings. Yes women want to have families, raise children and live happily ever after (monetary wise). Who does not want a good thing?? or when did aspiring to be great become a sin? Men, decide to put this women in their own homes, no woman can tie a man down, haven't you seenand heard, from the experiences sorrounding you and even on NL, how men leave their wives and children to tend to other things that matter most to them So stop saying women tie men down, instead it is the other way round. Men are the ones tying women down these days.

There are so many women that have decided to stay with their men both interms of need and in plenty, not all women are like what you painted, ''gold diggers' ''fff's'', And there are men, when everything is now clear and good, they forget the woman that stood by them against all odds (and again, not all men are like that). And when i said ''that was his cross' is that; every decision we make, we are accountable to them, we face the consequences alone. so a 40 year old man/woman that decides to not marry or have children, not because there are no spouses, but because of ''hatred'' for the other gender, is sooo carrying his/her cross.


I don't know the crowds you have been hanging with, but you need to change your friends, why live a bitter life?

dayokanu:
^^ Why cant we digress?

Because the topic is about 'real men', when another thread is open that wants a definition of a 'real woman', i will drop my penny.

dayokanu:
^^ So whats the definition of a real woman?

That is not what the topic is all about. we do not want to digress, do we now?

chowbaby:
@ronkepb so how does one know he has been shown favor?

It goes beyond the physical, you will know only if the person allows God to lead the way in his life, Our God is all knowing, though it might seem difficult for us as human to understand what he is doing, but when you allow Him, that there! (which is an act of faith) allows favour in every aspect of life. Spiritually, you have Favour with God and man, in everythinhg you do, you see a breakthrough, no matter what the problem would be, there are hinderances (those are the signs that God has His Eye on you), His protection would be on you. You pray, He answers, (even if you do not see immediate results), you are content with what you have, Doors (after the test of time) begin to suddenly open for you. People who did not notice you before, begin to notice you. you are healthy, people see the Glory of God and praise Him just because they see the light through you, you have this joy and peace that surpasses understanding, And so on.

dayokanu:
So if the hypothetical 40yr old single man decides to go adopt from the numerous children in orphanages looking for love he still doesnt qualify as a real man until he gives birth to his own?

So if a man for any reason, personal, medical or whatever does not have kids biologically, He can never be a real man?

Nope, that is not what am saying, a 40 year old man can adopt a child, and not care for him/her, not every person that brings a child into the world, can be termed a responsible parent, parenting goes beyond, donation of sperm and egg or money or adopting a child, but goes to the length of you sacrificing what is the most important to you, inorder to satisfy the other person, my thoughts right now, goes beyond the ''me'' syndrome, but 'you', 'us', 'we', those are part of the things that make you real, whether male or female.

God shows favour!!!! oh yes!!!! to people he chooses, but he is no respecter of persons, just because he has chosen you to favour you does not mean, he will punish like any other person if you offend him.

If a man chooses to be single at forty then, it is his cross, there is nothing fulfilling, than giving life to another (children) and caring for them, i know some would say, afterall you can have them without necessarily getting married ( well, to each his own). You can do all these, give to charity and so on and so forth and not still be a real man, Being a real man is not determined by the money you have in the bank, but your heart.

Haribo:
None of us is 100% sure if there is a god or not. To be frank even if there was it doesn't make any difference. Life goes on and isht happens. Did god ever come to you personally and tell you to worship him? Or that he cares if you survive the day? Or that you're happy or sad? Don't quote scriptures here, 'cos that's 2000 year old 2nd hand gist. I need personal first hand information here.
Basically, if there is some sort of god out there, we're wasting time worshipping and living for it/him/her. God is a silent hands off type of guy IF he's out there. The world is much bigger than we are, but just because humans have opposable thumbs we try to act like we know what it's all about. Fact of the matter is that human beings are just a small portion of the huge picture that is the universe. We are suffering from hyper inflated sense of self. This makes sense when you consider that the most religious countries are usually the most impoverished. Believing that there is a higher power out there that cares for us makes life more meaningful I guess.

Rather than waste time on made up things, why not focus on appreciating the here and now? Seems like a more realistic goal. In summary yes, man can live without god. We do it everyday, it's just too humbling to come to terms with it.

I don't know what religion you practise, that is if you have any, but in christiandom, Our God is the same, yesterday, today and forever. So the same scripture from
2000 years ago, is still the same today and would be the same forever, God says ''heaven and earth will pass away, but His words will never pass away''.

I think most men/women, should ask themselves what their role in humanity is?, and how to play that part well, if that role does not involve how you treat the other person/ other people around you, then am sorry gan, that person has just lived a useless life. Hence, instead of living as 'real men', they live a 'fake life', proto-type life, irrespective of their acheivements.

Maturity has nothing to do with marraige, (yes we know) but marraige and the way a man cares for his home/wife and children, determines the level of maturity a man has.

He is going to use all of them and dump when he is tired of the game.

[quote author=blogger1.0 link=topic=793163.msg9453784#msg9453784 date=1320085101]ehen?[/quote]eh OOoooo!!!! E don talk am finish

I so love this thread, omo! once i reach my goal, i am so putting my pics up for 1 hour and taking it down, lol< any ways am still doing my 30mintues exercise daily, though i have sore body everytime i do it, am still holding on. Yoga and belly crunches is all i do daily, i have noticed my waist is getting thinner and my stomach flatter (so happy) still on the road to a perfect body.

^^^^^^^^finish! talk don finish.

Don't trust, because once that trust is broken then the calabash, start to lick. Treat your partner with respect, when you respect eachother, you will not think about doing those things that would make each other go crazy.

Just be yourself.

It depends on who is carrying the money, if it is someone i care about, then maybe, if it is just anyhow person, abeg!!! i will use broom to pursue him and his money, even if he brings the money in a truck.

^^^^^^^^^^seconded.

manmustwac:
If you were born in Afghanistan to afghan parents you would've been a Muslim and you would be saying that there is no god but Allah and that Mohammed is his messenger. If you were born in Denmark to danish parents you wouldn't be bothered about religion and would've been an atheist. But since you were born into an halleluyah praise the lord family you are a Christian which is the real reason why you say a life without Christ is empty. But then don't mind me am only talking grammar.

Haven't you seen people born into muslim families, turning to christians? it is all about personal relationship with christ, ''many are called but few are chosen''. Who knows if i were a muslim, i would have rebelled and turned to Christ at all cost. So many Atheist, have given their lives to Christ, so it iS not about the family you were born into (though am glad, my forefathers made it easy for me) it is about having a relationship with HIM (GOD ALMIGHTY).

Ok! Poster, the problem i see is with you, you are very controlling, work on yourself first, before you think about working on your fiance, let him have his way most times, let him make the decisions, not you correcting him on everything, what is the big deal about eating suya on the way?, those are part of the fun, you look back on and smile. And for you to start yelling at him in public shows that you lack self control. You should be lucky if he continues with the relationship.

I don't care what anybody says and justifies their actions, ''A life without God/Christ is an empty life''. No matter how you fill it up with other things that do not matter, it would always remain[b] empty[/b]. Use big grammer, quote different books, it does not make you a living being, only one thing makes you living, 'the Breathe that comes from God' and if the owner decides to take it today, then yakari kena!!!!!!

duke4ever:
if u believe that there must be a builder, but your problem is how the builder came about, then I think u have identified your problem.
After taking a good look @ urself and seeing how beautiful your are made; looking @ your brain how it works, your eyes, your cells, molecles etc oh common, there is definitely an intelligent creator. His name is Jehovah. He has no begining and end. That is the God u must worship.

Gbam!!!!! but until he finds who created God, before he worships Him.

harakiri:
This is coming from someone who wouldn't have been a Christian today if her forefathers weren't brainwashed by the slave merchants. This is coming from someone who can't prove the authenticity her bible being the true word of the creator rather all she can regurgitate are bits and pieces of what she has been fed with during Sunday-Sunday brainwashing sessions. This is coming from someone who believes she was created from dirt and magic. This is coming from someone who believes Noah fitted all the animals on earth in an ark (that's no bigger than a small tugboat). This is coming from someone who believes donkeys and serpents can talk. This is coming from someone who believes a man can lives in the belly of a fish for THREE DAYS without air,food,water. . .all because the bible says so. This is coming from someone who has been indoctrinated with Christianity from childhood and lacks the capacity to think independently outside religion.

And yet. . .We that don't believe in god are FOOLS? If we are fools, what does that make you? Do you know how stoopid,reetard,foolish,dumb and dense your position is?

Harakiri just because you do not believe that God exists, does not mean that i should not believe that HE exists, my forefathers, did my family a big favor for believing in God the 'creator of heaven and earth'. I believe Him, whether you slander my post or not, You are the lonely and empty one that does not have anyother thing to believe in, except your self, What is Life without God?? Emptiness and lack of wisdom. All the wisdom you claim to have is devoid of understanding, Because knowledge/wisdom and understanding come from God, you might have knowledge and wisdom but you obviously lack understanding. And it is not for me to give, But for God, Himself to open your inner eyes, so you can see, since you are obviously blind. ( And that is, if He wills).

A Godless person is a FOOL ( don't lookt at me) the Bible says it. Psalm 14, The fool says in his heart there is no God, '' and so on and so forth. They may seem to live a happy life, but deep down there is a vacuum, an empty space, that nothing can fill, sex can't fill it, riches cannot fill it, drinking (enough shaayooo) cannot fill it, no amount of clubbing can fill that hollow, the only person that can make your life complete is God (Christ).

@ Gaggi, if you do not open your mind for a miracle, you will not find one. If you do not believe that miracles exist, you will nit see any. Everything that has to do with God, involves you believing first and obeying his commandments. The Bible says; '' you ask and do not receive, because you ask amiss'. Do you doubt when you are asking God for anything, then you are still joking, Christ Himself said, for some miracles to happen, it takes serious prayer and fasting. Just beacuse a miracle happened in Lagbaja's life, does not mean that it will happen in your own life. Believe God, and He will answer you, not at the time you seek, but at the time He Wills'.

Why don't you honestly go and talk to the bank manager about the whole situation, if you really want to resolve the problem.

freecocoa:
There's no room for competition gan sef,but if you want just waste your time and resources then BRING IT ON.

Naaa, i really don't do comeptition, personally not for me, i am hooked for life, soliciting onbehalf of my pretty friend, but will let you go for Seun, we still have Dayokanu if he is still single, Toba and the rest of the crew.

dre11:
wa shè re òmó to gbadun
òrí rè wa ni ibé

em!
I like style plus
'call my name'

I sooooo forgot to add that to my bestest songs, i love 'call my name' by style plus.

@ Poster because he knows he can get you anytime, you make yourself available to him at a snap of a finger, that is why he will always make mistakes and still expect you to give him another chance.

^^^^^^^^^^^^ , You no like competition ni

freecocoa:
Wetin you come dey try talk?

Freecocoa, i no talk say, you are not coded , i mean say that babe wey i for refer to Seun, 'na coded chic', but if Seun na your man, will back-off and look for another for her.