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You don't understand, the highest I can do is try to look for other means to make my relationship work because
I would rather be unmarried for rest of life than commit fornication, I even prefer that God takes my life than for me to commit fornication. Compatible is very important in a relationship, I can't date a guy just because he has agreed to wait till my wedding night

Tiasma:
I'm curious that you're quite disturbed by your dilemma to the point of being depressed. Ordinarily, I wouldn't expect such a situation as yours to make you depressed except it involves some serious measure of helplessness over a certain aspect of the whole case. This warrants some questions: Are you truly a virgin in the most complete undiluted sense of the word? If yes, is your being one a result of your own deliberate, fully considered choice? What's your taste in men? All these questions have wide ramifications. For instance, consider the last question: it's a recipe for sure psychic agony if you're indeed an absolute virgin but you find yourself desiring men with such physical and Personality profile that cannot endure the least abstinence from sex. I could go on and on, but this is definitely not the place for such analysis.

Here's my email: sammyati25@gmail.com.

I can't stop laughing, too much ego. Do you mean 99% of Nigerian ladies are broke?

tightpussy156:
@OP many of you are confused beign.99% of you ask so many tins in.relationship an you expect guy not too ask you for sex.see that is the truth.many of you are lazy to work, huzzle, you want everything from man.even waiting your papa no fit do for you ask boyfriend.dont be surprise you demand so much from the guy an he is demanding sex in return.am not even sure you be virgin.many girls have use that trick to task foolish guys telling them they are virgin wait till wedding nite while another guy they Bleep the living hell out of the wet pussy to red.you keep.magarizing the guy.we are not in 19th century many guys eyes dont open.poster if you.need decent relationship dont ask guy for unecessary demand.i hate girls who keep asking for money always 24hrs na money.if i want to give from my heart.not today i want to do hair, tomorrow i want to buy new latest phone, next tommorow i want to change my wadrobe,i.want to buy latest handbag,shoe ,an the demand keep.increasing everyday.many cant cook fast food 24hr your papa self no.go tolerate that but u want boyfriend to do all these.many of you girls are the cause of your yeye problem.that is the real truth.who quote me hug transformer.

Change your mindset. Not all Nigerian ladies dating white guys use them to get a visa. Travelling overseas is not a problem for me, I don't need a white guy to travel out of the country. I can travel at ease, I have been travelling since I was little.

rahman3853:
what are u waiting for.ladies of nowadays self. What is going on, u mean out of the whole Nigeria, no guy? Now to a white who is probably seeing u as an object of sex and a lady grown in an impoverished country. This white ppl have little or no traditions. Come yo think about it, why do u think some tribe don't allow inter marriage? Its simply, marriage is not always a smooth ride, when time comes, there would be bumps, who do u go to when u need a shoulder to cry on, is a white mother who don't give a damn? Forget say 3rd party is bad, but sometim its is good to have someone who has the leash to ur spouse. Abeg if I hear u still hang on that relationship, it's either u are greedy or u just one ur ticket out of the country. But that's not the only way u can Gert out of the country. The 19 ur old girl with straight A,'S no get two heads

Yes, sis. Having the same experience over and over can be so frustrating, I think I'm going to follow your footstep on this matter.

The both of us are not broke, we exchange gifts on special occasions. I use to prepare food and take it down to his office to surprise him.
I am in a healthy relationship, we treat each other with respect but the problem is we agreed to wait till our wedding night but now he is suggesting that we start having MouthAction.
Perhaps, he does not understand that I'm not trying to keep my hymen intact, I take fornication as a sin

Afolashade00:
Hope I'm not too late to answer this question.
What I did was to stay away from relationship. I got tired of breaking up for the same reason, I was tired of hurting so I stayed away from relationship.
I understand you perfectly well, like if you dont date,how will you get to know him and all. You have to choose.
I don't joke with my job, I'm a hardworker because I have got me and me alone.
I take myself out, breath and smile more. I chose this path to keep myself, I have been called a fool several times because of several opportunities and all but I choose not to regret it no matter what .
I haven't met a man who understands why I want to keep myself but till then I do what makes me happy.
Shalom!

Yes, responsible ladies attracts responsible guys and responsible guys attracts responsible ladies

StacyO:
[color=TEAN]YES[/color]
It is all a lie. A very BIG one at that.
Men are not scarce, the genuine men are only seeking for ladies with value.

It's not about you being beautiful my sister [color=TEAN]ever noticed that cheap products have the highest customer base in markets??[/color]
Forget the saying that bad girls get married every Sunday. We all know the divorce rate and troubles in every home nowadays.

[color=TEAN]Men are still in the olden era.[/color] Forget 21st century, men are in search of women with worth.


[color=TEAN]Develop yourself first [/color] cause if you don't, you'll depend on men for anything and definitely you know that'll mean opening your legs at any given opportunity.

[color=TEAN]It's your body, you're free to use it any how you deem fit.[/color]
But, you just know that men love ladies with value, ladies with goals & future ambitions, ladies who exercise authority over their bodies and doesn't allow mere words move them.

At age 19, I had suitors coming to see my dad. I mean, men with [color=TEAN]clean rides.[/color]
I was definitely young and I had no big ass nor boobs.

Then, I began to wonder what drew this men to me?
Till I got to discover that I disciplined myself that way. Any man that comes to me, must be in for something serious else, he leaves the relationship disappointed.
My only prayer now is that I get to make a good choice when the time is right.


To those ladies complaining of not meeting any man for marriage,
[color=TEAN]WHATS YOUR VALUE?[/color]
You need to set rules and boundaries when it comes to relationships.
Mind you, the FIRST thing a man will look out for when he starts with you is your body.
[color=TEAN]THE BALL DURING ALL THIS IS ACTUALLY IN YOUR COURT.[/color]
Are you in for sex as well? If no, make it known and make sure you close those legs. Practice, even if you must cause that will be your only saving grace.

[color=TEAN]Develop yourself[/color]
You might not be like Ngozi Okonjo Iweala but, make yourself a woman with worth.
Place yourself even far above your own value. Na men go dey rush you ooo

Men are not scarce. The question is, are you a liability or a woman of substance??

Anyway, the both of us are not broke, we exchange gifts on special occasions. I use to prepare food and take it down to his office to surprise him.
I am in a healthy relationship, we treat each other with respect but the problem is we agreed to wait till our wedding night but now he is suggesting that we start having MouthAction.
Perhaps, he does not understand that I'm not trying to keep my hymen intact, I take fornication as a sin

Skseries:
broke or not broke, every lady in a relationship wants things, things we guys will buy with money.

Just bcus u are not broke does that mean u will be fine if ur bf doesn't buy u a gift in ur birthday? Or doesn't do something special on val? Or can u stay in a relationship where the guy never takes u out or surprises u? How often do u tell ur bf babe leme take u out today all bills on me? Have u ever done that before?

Not all Nigerian ladies are broke

Skseries:
annoying part is do most Nigerian girls have anything to offer in a relationship apart from their body? Let her try spending for the guy engage in reasonable plan and offer advices to him, and the guy won't bother u abt sex. If u can offer me something tangible then the sex is secondary after all if we marry we go sex tire.

But when u have absolutely nothing to offer me, and expect me to do bf duties and not ask u for intimacy, best u just stick with ur single life.

Like I always tell girls no guy will wanna let u go if he sees value in u. If u are offering same thing a dozen other girls are, then why shud I take u seriously

Change your mindset, not all ladies are like that

Posotome:
If she is not sleeping with you , i mean if she is not fxcking you 24/7


then she is fxcking another man and you are a simp


FORGET ABOUT VIRGINS, MY GRANDMA TOO ONCE WAS A VIRGIN, HOLY MARY TOO WAS A VIRGIN

Have you ever been in a healthy relationship? Anyway, I'm not a parasite, I don't collect money from guys.

femi4:
So what will be his gain dating you cos I m sure you are already spending his money.


If you cannot give him sex, don't collect his money

I am getting depressed that why I asked this question. I need advice on how to make my relationship work without sex, that's all.

aktolly54:
its possible as long as you know throw any stupid billing, if you want to confirm whether the guy is generous or stingy ,ask him to send money to orphange but you dare bill him for any reason till wedding day. Even if your phone spoil or anything, ask your brother or father to get you another one

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Telstar:
You're a virgin? And that sounds interesting. How old are you?

I'm financially independent

DICKstractor:




In this current generation, the only person you can date, ask for money without wanting anything in return is your father, brothers and me!!

Rare gems like me are few.

I'm financially independent

I'm a virgin, I don't want to have sex until my wedding night. I'm a Nigerian but my bf is a white guy, he told me he loves and he wants to marry me but he wants us to start having sex while we are dating. I tired of breaking up for this same reason. What do I do?