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Minemrys:
1. Because he is a muslim? OR
2. Because u actually saw his tweet for yourself?
Brother, [s]Ozil is kn0wn very much for his humanitarianism[/s]. The things he does with his m0ney for society, m0st fo0tballers don't.

Erdogan who persecute Kurds was present at Ozil's wedding. Perhaps Ozil never saw the sufferings and persecution of Kurds in Turkey?

popsy2:
This Chinese folks behave like fanatics.

Not at all... This is what happens when you one of the world's stakes holders.

Freeda08:
I have been for 5 years now but there has been no lasting happiness here. Smile for 2 weeks fight for month.
You see I have a manipulative husband he can do no wrong in his own eyes, I have to be at fault for everything. He has painted it to everybody that I am always the problem.

Hold on...

In the beginning of the marriage I took a lot of bullshit from him and his family all in the name of I want to please my husband but it has never been enough.

You took it comfortably from the outset and clearly suggested you could live with the things you now see as 'bullsh*ts'. Why do you want a change now? Are you aware people almost don't change in marriage?

We had an issue some days back and boom he has called my family members to report me it's what he loves to do. I was shocked because this is an issue we could have sat down to iron out.

Perhaps this issue, based on the fact that he reported found you at fault? If yes, I doubt it would have been possible you settled it amicably save family members step in. He prolly reported because he felt you were at fault and weren't forthcoming. And since you are equal partners, he thought to engage his conflict resolution matrix.

Here are the problems
He is old fashioned he believes he can insult u but you shouldn't do the same

Why would you and your husband engage in trading insults? If he insults you first, why not try as much as possible to avoid the things that lead to name-calling? Why not walk away, ignore and shut him out when he insults and see what happens afterward. Haven't you realized that the need to 'give it to him hot' ends in chaos for you both?

He doesn't help with the major chores in the house only the few ones that are simple and this is only done at his convenience, if I decide to talk about this na fight!

Sadly, this is vague. What are the 'major chores'? What kind of work does he do? Is he at home full time? Are you rarely around? What was decided or agreed upon prior to marriage? 'Traditional men' don't hide their stance as they are highly opinionated and ooze ignorance. Did you not notice how he talked about chores in the home prior marriage?

When he borrows money from someone and I tell him to return it gradually he doesn't listen more like he is not a good in saving

I don't know how to save either. A lot of people don't know how to. Again, this should have been noticed from the beginning. Perhaps you noticed and felt he'll improve at some point. Perhaps you didn't. I strongly feel he is either stubborn or rebuff your counsels because of the way they are presented.

He likes to keep malice and rejects food once we have issues

This is a thing with men. Lock up and reject meals a while

He is always his phone doing what I dont understand (I dont think he is cheating)

Perhaps the phone is his companion when it should be you? I'm sure that won't be the case if you guys connect well and douse the unnecessary fight.

He never owns up to his mistakes he wants me to always beg

Well... Your man might be a baby. The question is do you when you make mistakes? He comes off as entitled and egoistic. It won't be easy but I feel you can teach him these things by leading the way. Before he calls your family, apologize for whatever it is you do. If he sees your pattern and how you quickly come around when you have done wrong, he might take a leaf or two from there.

He doesn't make any effort in sorting issues amicably it has to always be me

The above still applies here.

I am always the chatter box

One person has to be. It might have been him but it is you here. See it as a strength and see his taciturn nature as a one complimentary to yours.

He doesn't go out of his way for me

Sighs...

If you mistakenly tell him to say what I did wrong during a quarrel jeez he paints me awfully black to everyone

How do you guys find it convenient to involve people in your affairs? I think the issue here is of ego and nothing else. One person is always in a hurry to paint the other person as a demon while the other person remains unbothered because he or she is sure a spec can't be found on him or her.

I am tired to be honest I am a good wife I support him virtually in any way I can. I have my own issues afterall no one is perfect but I sincerely watch it because I hate drama

Perhaps, he might say otherwise given the opportunity and chance.

I want things to change and work out but i am tired of being the first person always he takes advantage of that all the time and never changes
Chores are crazy we have 2 kids. I virtually do everything by myself
I just want to be heard and have a good marriage but its exhausting making all the efforts all the time. I just want him to make the move genuinely so we can be on the same page.

I am sure he didn't start today. He has probably been like this over time. Don't just sit him down and talk. Let him see you are responding and adjusting to issues that would normally result in riots differently. You claim he is traditional which implies you know him to an extent. Traditional folks are highly opinionated which means you'd need to do lots and lots of listening and an infinite amount of patience to deal with him. You led him on because you saw the signs and maybe suddenly felt he could change all of a sudden. He won't.

Perhaps you start doing the opposite of what results in the bickerings and name-calling. If you feel the need to 'give him hot' by responding to his 'insults', restrain and walk away, if possible. If he rebuff your counsels, perhaps try to be subtle when doing so. He is a grown man who understands his wife tolerated him from the beginning. A sudden change won't work no matter what.

I don't believe people turn monsters overnight. The traits are always there like baby puzzles to be sighted easily.

MissSweet:
who never can tell Davido might become ambassador for Christ someday and decides to turn a new leaf and start singing Christians song.

Look at the likes of Kanye West. Nothing new under the sun jo

Kanye West started his career as a Christian rapper before 'backsliding'.

I think I just need to rant at this point. Nigerian advertisers who use Google ads are not only miserly but unbelievable. True, there are tons of factors responsible for the horribly low CPC of Nigerian advertisers but then... Is it by force to run their ads by adwords?

The attached is one of my six-month old blog with few American contents and mostly Nigerian pieces.

Blog makes about $8-$12 daily and I just can't help but wonder how it's this bad for Nigerian brands who run ads by Google Adwords.

ednut1:
Lai she elede

LMAO

candidbabe:
Pls is Dino married or not? I have never seen his wife

He was. He is a serial abuser. His ex wife left after she got tired of constant battering.

Ralpdee123:
Uncle Lala...
Please help move for wider response.....

I feel marriage have scammed me...

Maybe it's the heat getting to me this period as I can't seem to wrap my head around this your tale.

I eventually visited and she explained how it all happened,I said no wahala... Being the first time we were seeing after a long time, I didn't make any attempt to sex her as that wasn't my priority. She left my place and I accompanied her to the busstop to leave, while there she brought up an issue like she wants me to touch her or something like that..... We returned to my room and boom it happend.... I came in all over her...etc..

Another tales by moonlight?

atiku4President:
That's insubordination if either you or your would- be wife is a member of the Church. Even if none of you are, you think the house of God is a place to do a thing like that without the consent of the man overseeing the affairs of the Church. What kind of a generation are we and how do human beings reason these days? How do you see it that you are engaging a sister in a Church where the pastor is not aware of the relationship? You think a Church is a social gathering? Tomorrow if anything happens to the relationship/marriage (but God forbid) social media will say you even got engaged before the Pastor. My friend, humble yourself and appreciate the pastor saved the image of the Church.

The church became desecrated the moment church weddings started holding therein!

The guy was only following a secular trend that had found its way into the church.

The place of the church in any potential union is to offer counseling and the intending couple reserve the right to choose whether or not to accept being counseled in the church.

Ilovebigboobs:
Werey nìyeen oo
I dey talk about the company dat made d cars.
ABOKI!!!

Ronaldo still cannot buy Audi. Audi's revenue in 2018 alone was $59 billion. You guys over estimate celebrities way too much.

Ilovebigboobs:
Lol...u're joking
He will buy both d cars and company join

What company? I'm sure you're referring to Madrid. It seems you are high. Ronaldo is wealthy enough to buy the club that paid him for nearly ten years. You guys think Real is Arsenal.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Lemme give u an expo. Simply go to jiji, go to properties, rent, and search for the area you prefer. You'll see many houses and prices. You call and fix date to inspect. Life is easy

Apartments on Jiji are overpriced and don't reflect the true sums as opposed to what applies in real life. The agent who list these properties know this and take advantage of the online factor.

Emmypet:
Please, any experienced webmasters in the house.. Please my google Adsense account has always recently been showing 0.00 in CPC, Clicks, and Page CTR... It wasn't like that before in a long while...

Secondly, the website daily traffic has always been very low... In a month I could only just get 200 views... Website traffic is very terrible... See screenshot below..

Please what could be the problem with this Adsense account? I'm kinda worried about it.. Please what can I do?

Several factors here...

1. Limited ad servings is enabled on your AdSense or was recently lifted.
2. Your website traffic is low (you said this yourself).
3. Most of your visitors have adblock mechanism in place on their browsers. This way your ads are not visible to them in any way.
4. Not all themes are AdSense optimized even though they have slots for ads. Beyond traffic, you just might be suffering this setback.

Major culprit

Secondly, the website daily traffic has always been very low... In a month I could only just get 200 views...

Ad servings might have been limited on your account.

eleojo23:
Sensational headline.

This is not Davido's song.

They are singing "we love you, we love you" and declaring their love for God

Davido's song says "I love you I love you" and he was singing for a girl.

Instrumentals may sound similar but the songs mean different things. Besides, no one has monopoly of instrumentals (chord progressions). There are many songs with similar chord progressions.

It's called a COVER.

Bass line is the same, rhythm is no different and it is obviously a looped excerpt from Davido's refrain of 'IF'.

My choir once covered N'Sync's 'This I Promise' and this is no different from what was done.

Sounds, bass lines can be claimed by their original owners or first users. If you use them afterward without proper reference, it is no different from copyright infringement.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks.

I'm sorry if laughing is insensitive but this is hilarious!

Never in my life have I read or heard that a guy gives his lady knocks on the head.

abbey621:
[s]You lack the proper information to discuss this topic. What do you mean Chinese peiople don't believe in religion? You can say they don't believe in God but they certainly believe in religion. Buddhism, Taoism, Confucianism are all beliefs practiced by the peopel of China.[/s] Chinese people have believed in their gods/ancestors fro thousands of years, in fact there are laws in China protecting these ancestrial beliefs. This is not about Christianity or Islam, it is whether government has the right to dictate what beliefs/religion someone practices. For lame men like yourselves, you see nothing wrong in persucution but for people who see the bigger picture, there is no difference in those fighting ridiculous jihad and what is going on in China right now.

Buddhism, Taosim and Confucianism ARE NOT RELIGIONS BUT PHILOSOPHIES and ETHICAL PHILOSOPHIES! I wonder what you guys read!

Chinese are highly cultural, historical and superstitious. Yes, there's an aspect of lesser gods to them and they believe in certain central gods albeit not the way Islam and Christianity see it.

You guys all come out like rabid dogs because Islam is involved whereas you all acted as mutes when Southern Kaduna was constantly purged just because the section are Christians! I didn't see your wretched handle coming out then to mention right to religious associations. I didn't see you come out when a female Evangelist was beheaded in the same Northern Nigeria.

I don't do religion but bulk of the problems of the world today is caused by the fundamentalism and mindset of Muslims. Maybe you can enlighten me on what apostasy is all about. Come on here to talk about right to association. Dumb fellow.

shaw2:
Ozil may be right in his own ways blc he sees himself as a true Muslim who practices the positive acts of Muslim.
But you all here in Africa ranting rubbish and that's y u all will keep going backwards.
Tell me one good thing Islam and Christianity has done for people of Africa?
If not hatred, deceit, swindling.
China believes in their religion and practices it the way it should be and things are moving on well with them.
While you have headquarters of biggest churches, richest pastors, high profile pastors, great Islamic scholars, high profile imans and yet look at ur life.
Rubbish absolutely rubbish
Make I hear word for here ooo

On point!

abbey621:
So because you don't want a religion, you kill or persecute those who practice it, how is this diferent from jihadists? A wise man once said, evil doers are not the problem, the problem is when good people sympatize or rationalize those evil deeds!

China clamps down on both Christianity and Islam. How is that Jihadist? I am even glad you referenced 'Jihad', the major word known with Islam after Sharia.

THEY DON'T WANT RELIGION IN THEIR COUNTRY. THERE ARE OVER TEN THOUSAND CHURCHES AND SAME NUMBER OF MOSQUES IN NIGERIA BUT IT HASN'T PREVENTED IT FROM BEING USELESS.

WHAT IS THE AIM OF ISLAM IN DEVELOPED NATION AS CHINA? WHY ARE CHRISTIANS NOT COMING OUT TO CRY BUT MUSLIMS?

Heaven knows I am not surprised one bit.

1. It is a despot's government.
2. Gandollar is an ally of Major-Gen Muhammadu Buhari (ret.arded)
3. The AGF is a product of Quota System; got to the exalted position with a university certificate of the ABU (Islamic Studies, Second Class Lower).
4. The Nigerian law favours the rich and influential and becomes blind immediately when it involves a big wig.
5. Nigeria, as we know it today, is f*cked.

LaIabobo:
Man's inhumanity to man.

Such a sad world we live in.

A world of injustice, bigotry and hypocrisy.

Bigotry because they don't want Islam and religion of any sort in their country? We know how well countries with Islamic activities are faring in the world all over.

Let's not sugarcoat things at this point.

Crazeworld:
I have a related problem too. I'm trying to build an online store using woo commerce.

If I type my store's URL in the address bar it will show me that nothing is found. I will need to add /home before the homepage will display. Please how do I solve this?

You installed your site's content in a wrong directory/path.

Joekaynews:
Good day and happy Sunday to all. Please I am encountering a challenge. When I want to access my site it gives the below message:

Forbidden

You don't have permission to access this resource.
Additionally, a 404 Not Found error was encountered while trying to use an ErrorDocument to handle the request.

Please, web developers, bloggers, digital marketers, SEO experts, etc, what does this mean and what is the solution, please? Help a brother, please.

Note: I was about updating the site when I quit to find something on my phone memory, but on trying to get back it gives this and since I have been trying to access it.

I am frustrated here. Please help.

Share the link to the site.

Swissheart:
Sis,
Going by what you v written up there pls leave him. His jealousy is unhealthy and toxic. Now, he wants to start your kinda business because you are doing better than he is doing when he would have clearly come back at you if you failed.

Your husband is dangerous. He is capable of murder.
The Lord is yours Sis. Save yourself

You should counsel her to do so legally and not just run from her family.

The dangerous kind of people to deal with are fanatics and those who are inbetween; neither hot nor cold...neither here nor there. Kindheartedd, I remember your story very well. Shared the link as a matter of fact. Sadly, as much as God doesn't love divorce, your health (mental, emotional, psychological, physical and spiritual) matters a great deal.

Your other partner is a toxic being and reading through the previous thread back then and this makes me wonder whether or not you didn't see these signs before going ahead to marry him. I'll ignorantly claim you did but chose to ignore the signs and thought you could manage or that you overestimated your strength.

However, I feel you're about making a mistake, not because you want to leave your marriage but because you feel you want to prove a thing or make a statement.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

He is horrible based on the way you painted him, granted, but living to impress the man who abused you is similar to being stuck in the past. You might not just have peace of mind if you leave with that mindset as you will constantly think about ways to get back at him. If you ask me, it doesn't make sense to burden yourself with the burden you felt while with him. If you can't live differently from the way you did while with him, then your leaving won't mean a thing.

Finally, pursue this legally and not act like a fugitive when you are not being chased.

If you are leaving, please do so for the pursuit of peace and happiness; for the sake of your health and your kids. Wishing you all the best in your endeavours.

Light1259:
People like you are the reason we have bad leaders, later now you will claim you've sense, have you ever asked yourself why we don't have steady electricity, unlike other country? Why so much killings in the north? We the youth don't reason.
You will mock Nnamdi Kanu
You will mock Sowore
Continue until one day they will come to your doorpost and kill you. It is high time we stand up we youth and act.

You guys should stop mentioning Sowore and Kanu in one breathe. It is disgusting and disrespecting to activism. We know full well that Kanu is loose, glory-seeking and highly uncoordinated. Sowore has been at the fore of activism over two decades ago.

I don't understand why anyone will regard Kanu who takes pleasure in threatening and insulting other ethnic groups, even his own as someone whose head is straight.

byrron:

If they don't sign contracts then the organizers are very foolish and deserves whatever they get.

How on earth in this 21st century will you pay for the services of an artist and you won't table a binding contract on both parties? That's foolishness

You honestly have no idea how Nigerian celebrities approach business. True, the organizers have their own faults but most of the time, communication is cut off the moment it becomes a lawyer or legal binding affair. Nigerian celebrities are that notorious. The only thing they'll wait to sign is an endorsement. Other than that, they'll only negotiate the number of minutes they'll sing for after collecting about 70% of their pay upfront and the balance the moment they get to the venue and not when they finish.

The cycle can't be broken anytime soon because they have been used to it overtime.

byrron:
If true then there is no point lamenting on social media, sue him for breach of contract and claim a hefty sum for damages for a start and he will never do it again to anyone else.

That's the problem. They don't really get to sign any contract which is why they get away with it.

Wizkid and Burna are quite notorious in this department.

mrvitalis:
They are in APC and not not for south west

And the South East is in the PDP not for the Fulanis, right? Tell me what I don't know.

Odingo1:
Imo and Edo State are APC state in the last election, does that make APC to win those state.

Bayelsa is still PDP stronghold.

Imo would have coasted to victory had Rochas not destroyed the party by trying to impose his son-in-law on the people. It was clear as day.

Edo State remains APC. Perhaps you've forgotten that GEJ had a meeting with the tyrant in Aso Rock prior to Bayelsa election. Deceive yourself all you want with Bayelsa but I sure know there will be massive defections in the coming days.

You guys should unilaterally chart your course and stop lumping the South South with the South East. Our political ideologies are not even close to being similar.

PS: I don't do party politics. I don't care about the APC or the PDP.

mrvitalis:
Its more likely for the devil to repent than south west in 2023 ...north won't vote u ,south east won't vote u ,south south won't vote u

The south east can say they have the south south with them
North west can say they have north east

Who do the south west have ...just name the region


The Igbo's can work with northern minorites ,they know we stand for them offer them vice

Who can the south west back on ...the north west your hope lied on is going for it themselves

Why do you guys do this? Why do you guys conveniently attach yourselves to the South South and speak for her people on who to support? I hope you are also aware that the APC has Bayelsa, Edo, a fair part of Akwa Ibom and some parts of Delta in its bag already?

peacefulhome:
Okay then let me check her moniker and update the house.


Modify
Her moniker is Copart's.
If this lady was truthfully with her accussation, why blocked my number? That alone sold her out.

Good you left the sobriquet. Sorry once again.

peacefulhome:
I have talked about it on my diary and I also promise not to reveal the identity. I keep to my words. If she is bold enough, she should come here and defend her self. I bought an item from her which I used twice. The third time was when I observed some funny odour. But since no one at home to cross check with me, it took another two days before I could confirm my fears. Which I chatted her and after she blame me the next thing is for her to block me on Whatsapp. I never knew she had blocked me not until yesterday that I notice. If not that she blocked me I wouldn't have not talked about it here .
Am not writing for any one to believe me or not. All am trying to do is to avoid others falling victim .
Beside she can deactivate and open new account, so what are we saying?

Sorry about your experience but the emboldened is why I quoted you in the first place. Perhaps you don't like or fancy face-offs but it doesn't rule out the fact that some else might fall victim or buy some sub-standard product from the same person. The idea of mentioning a name is not to make your story believable but to assist with hints on who to avoid on here and those with terrible reputation of claiming to be smart by half.

If she deactivates today, she can still be fished out using her contact details, particularly her phone number, save she changes her phone number totally. But then again, sellers with new accounts on here are a red flag which means she'd either be labeled a scam immediately she comes up with a new account or suspected to be the one behind the account.

Let's curb criminal activities by being open. I quite understand your pain but keeping the name to yourself won't help buyers on here.