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Enahi:
I think I like someone on Nairaland but I don't think I can have him, he is someone most ladies would want to have and be with so my liking him is totally out of it. I don't like men that all ladies want to have, it' destroys the uniqueness of the man.

Do you have someone you like or have a crush on here, mind revealing the person's moniker? Do you take your likeness for someone here serious or do you suppress the feeling and likeness?

funny typical naija girl

1.you wont mention his moniker
2.you won't show your face
3.you won't show full body
4.oya show full nyashh you no still gree

yet you want us to mention the person will like na wa o

foolinlove:
My ex is Yoruba, I did everything I could to know the culture and traditions. Cooking, langauge etc.

He will know if he comes across a post that refers to my country :/

ooo i see now, you can't be who i think ,naa anyway you didn't tell me how u got o know about this forum?

next time try an igbo guy am sure he won't disappoint

foolinlove:
I'm not from Africa. But I'm not going to advertise, because my ex is lurking somewhere around here and I don't want to be noticed by him.

i thought as much, so how did you get to know about the site n what makes you think he will know is you, when he is not ominiknowest

foolinlove:
Correct. But in the context of the Op, I think I have given good advice. Were it a guy asking, I wiuld have reworded and it would have been what you wrote above.

She wants to date him and there has been no conversation. It seems like she is naive to dating and scared of asking him for fear of looking stupid in front of a guy she really likes. So she needs to ask, and avoid the risk of being hurt.

If he was so concerned about being hurt, he would have officially asked her out at the beginning.

Where I'm from, men generally take the lead for asling out. It's not right, but that's what happens. It's also common for women to make assumptions about men they've had lots of contact with - then they get hurt because they didn't make anything official. She just made assumptions with no talking or asking.

Ask him before investing anything further is what I'll advise.

as usual you always have a back up plan reply to my comment, o well you win this time but i still a two way thing..so where r u from sincerely?

Berlyn:
guess you not interested in the upcoming mr nairaland

naaa, don't like the whole idea that's why..they should do most troublesome nairaland contest n i will take part in it happy new month by the way

foolinlove:
This is true. Make no assumptions.

The danger of not asking is that he will lead you on. He says he loves you, he may even sleep wit you...

But when something happens, like you find out he's married or dating someone else, he will say "but I never asked you out, I never said I wasn't married, I never said we were exclusive, what did you expect?".

He'll act like you're a crazy woman and you'll end up feeling like the fool.

Many men play this game with women. You need to find out asap before you invest any more emotion or feeling in him. And if he doesn't answer you straight, then he's not serious about you.

you again hahaha, you never seize to amaze me, what makes yo think the guy won't be the one getting hurt?
or you think op don't have any one? , the guy should ask as well cus op might gt married tomorrow and she will say "but I never asked you out, I never said I wasn't married, I never said we were exclusive, what did you expect?".

she'll act like he is a madman and he 'll end up feeling like the fool.
Many women play this game with men. i only wish he can find out asap before he invest any more emotion or feeling for her. And if op doesn't answer him straight, then she is not serious about the whole affair

nagodesmile18:
Hmmmm..don't knw where to start frm...my name is nene..during savis, I met a cute guy in camp and we were so close.he redeployd bt we still communicate on fone..he calls almost four times a day..anytime he is abt to end d call he says I love u and i reply dat I love him too..the issh is dat he neva ask me out ..

naaa till you have sex, then maybe we can say you are dating official but for now NO

ivyy:
Right


No one should get it twisted though there are a lot of wives out there cheating on their husbands on a daily basis. However, I just think married men do this more.

As for relationships, I think girls cheat more than the guys do.

you deserve an all paid expense trip to anywhere in the world with this truthful comment of yours

lodphil:
hahahahaha bro,DAT our guy is really funny.

the only reason why i didn't say anything is cus a good friend of mine bears that name so i just felt weak to type n decided to leave an image instead..sincerely 7months haba, in this 21century ..i pray he doesn't come here and narrate his own ordeal cus ladies are not to be trusted

so true proudly igbo

Vanquay16:
So, I went with my good Turkish friend after a Soccer match to their mosque...Apparently there's always food to break fast and I never turn down free food(Me Being a college student and shit_)

I noticed during Prayers the women sat at the back of the mosque and I have known about that for a while, Doesn't this prove Mudslim men View Women as their Unequals...Funny Religion.

Sitting at the back conotes the woman as lesser in Spiritiality and Marriage and Romance...I would have duplicated this in Religion section but I found it more romance inclined besides...They have locked their section to themselves and I will rather die than have that despicable Signature on my Profile.

Dare2differ doveda daretodiffer or whatever you go by...Howdy?

Forgive Typos or maybe...

am a Christian guy but i think they do that to avoid temptation, you know they have to bend during prayers, so imagine the ladies in front and the men behind them, obviously t will distract the men.

Nemeka:
Though, a serious matter...I would have pleaded for forgiveness of the lady if it were abortion alone (very bad though) but for the child, it will take greater grace to forgive.

But how on earth did the Lady keep such secret for good 3 yes and still want to proceed with the marriage? when was she expecting to tell the guy? I guess in their old age.

Much as I won't kill her for having a baby, but openness would've solved it long ago

I'm in a courtship of 7 months (no sex as well) but know virtually everything about my woman.
Some girls they form smart when indeed the be dulandoo

chia Nnemeka

MrDojo:
Good day everyone.

One of my friend's ( not me biko ) is in a serious mess right now with the girl he his suppose to marry, he is also a NLander, I'm sure he will be reading this thread.

It started out like this, he met his fiancee about 3 years ago after she completed her N.Y.S.C prog, they fell in love quickly and everything has been wonderful between them, they guy comes from a very rich home and the girl comes from a comfortable family, both parents are really happy with the marriage plans because they can see that their children are really in love...

My friend is the quiet, loving, fun of guy who really gets along with people easily and the girl is really nice too. The guy and girl are on a no sex relationship which was intiated by the Guy,because of his religious background.

The problem started when, my friend received a strange call one day from an unknown number, the number had called several times before but he had always ignored it, the day he finally picked the call, he nearly died from heart attack from what the caller was saying.

The caller was one of his fiancee's ex BF's, calling to tell him that, the lady he his about to marry, has aborted 3 times for him and also has a son for him, that he cannot marry his (ex bf) wife, that if he doubts him, they should go for DNA test to confirm. My friend was shocked to his core and confronted his wife to be ,she could not deny it, she started crying pleaded for my friend to forgive her, that she did not know how to tell him all these years, that she truly loves him (my friend).

Right now the innocent boy is really really confused, its affecting all areas of his life..the wedding is suppose to hold later in the year..

Please guys Advice...

Thanks

cc

lalasticlala
dominique

some stories are really sick to hear, he has known her for three years and all this while he does not know that she has a son for her ex..some ladies are really good in the game of deceit, after God fear woman...(Proverbs 31:1-3)A queen mother appealed to her son King Lemuel as only a mother can do and warned him against a great threat to his life and reign – evil women ...he should call it off, if she can hide such from him then certainly she can kill, also he should not marry out of pity or he else will regret it.

YourNemesis:
LOL... most Igbos are Shameless these days.
They are now impostors all over nairaland, they steal identities and pretend t be Niger Delta, Yoruba and most recently now, Hausas too.
It is quite unfortunate to be Igbo... Honestly.
Unfortunate tribe of coward 4th class citizens.

We all know that you all secretly crave for a good relationship with the Hausas, and the reason you are all bitter wailers is because you do not have the attention of your Hausa - Fulani masters...Lmao.

everybody in Nigeria both the living and the dead knows who the coward in this country is and is definitely not igbos
we have never craved for a good relationship with the hausas because oil and water can't mix.
irrespective of you people selling your daughters to them they still don't look at you as one and that's why you will hardly see a true hausa man go to a yoruba mosque cus they believe you people ar not one of them

funmijoyb:
Thank God at least is not
Baby factories

Drug dealing

prostitution

Boobs/porn actresses

Substandard products

Militants/kidnappers

you would have checked d name and rush out of thread. If u checked his history or background , he might have lived in d South west for a very long time.

look at this ugly thing talking, if one do a background check, we will find out that you have done most of the things you have mentioned. bleached fool, e they pain them say our girls fair thats why they bleach their black stinking skin, no wonder your men always crave for our girls..

Onijagidijagan:
I did not say all igbos are into illegal stuffs.....but most are. accept d truth and it shall set you free(quoting Bible)

then what are yorubas known for? lazy n coward peeps who only know how to give birth in their fathers house

Vavana:
Dear house i need matured advise.

My boss has been so wonderful to me. I mean his God's sent. from the day i was employed till today he has helped me so much. i can't quantify his kindness. if am to list it is unending.
He helped me to grow career wise.
He promotes me, i get whatever that is due yo me. he sometimes fight for me.

When mgt said our dept must ICAN/ACCA only. He encouraged me to enroll. He gave me 1month leave, now am in final level.
He recently gave my cousin job.

He helped to buy a land, invest my savings etc, what he helped me to achieve is uncountable my people.

I took him as my MENTOR but now he wants me, though i noticed the signs last year. I told me NO he said why do i hate him.

Am very close to his family. Am just confused.
How do i aviod him without hurting him.

Please matured comments.
One Love

you asked for matured minds, i will be matured on this n still look for trouble cus is on my siggy..

you mistake is you kept collecting all thie gifts n favor coming from him knowing fully well most of which you don't deserve..
let's call a spade a spade n not a walking stick, there are only three options here..
1.quit the job: if you quit the job then you must have gained experience from it which can be an added advantage in getting a new one.

2.give in to his request: once you start there is no turning back, you both might get caught n u will still lose the job,love n respect from friends,colleagues, his wife n kids.

3.keep saying no: once you stand your ground on this, he will surely make your life in the workplace miserable n stop granting you favor n if possible push for your sack..bear in mind your dignity will still be intact.
normally I don't giv advice of such to ladies who bring this upon themselves, so lets just say am doing this cus of the wife n kids..
for my trouble making, I will say you will go with option 2 cus of fear of being jobless again..if you doubt me then prove me wrong that there r still ladies out there with dignity.

HateU2:
I dont know that girl . I only knw bestie

hmm okay

HateU2:
I hear u bro

Aii sis n wa of your twin loveu2

TemihSmart:
your English is keeping her off,i guess that's reasonable enough?

take it easy with him since is obvious he made some typo error, why didn't you ignore his mistakes n correct him..ladies smh

HateU2:
Sorry, I'm not in one and you can't trust guys. Are u telling me u can resist smtin lyk this

I, for you, don't believe ladies on nl don't v a bf or someone they are seeing or having something with outside this forum..as for me I can resist or chose not to if I want to..v actually pushed of a naked friend who climbed on me when i was fast asleep..it depends on who am with, if she is worth it or not n my ex then was or I thought she was..

[quote author=HateU2 post=47038479][/quote]nop I don't, so r y telling me ur bf can't do that or haven't done that for you

HateU2:
But where are they All dead Not yet born Or what

they will show up when the ladies that deserve them ar born

Estharfabian:
i'm tryna get this.....



the girl sent him pictures of her boobies and instead of wanking to it(like most guys do?) ...he rather sent her A pic of him with bae...


Awwwwe! Adorable! Where can i get me some of that?

how many guys have wanked to yours? non I guess, so why draw that conclusion smh

foolinlove:
I think we understand each other then

yup yup, so instead of love, learn no matter how hard it may be but learn to understand humans both friends n foes n also respect them..so when they dissapoint you, you won't blame t on love but instead blame it on the fact that they didn't understand or respect you back..so any thread u see people hating the word love just let them know it wasn't love in the first place cus its true meaning can't b practiced by any man, but instead they were not respected n their partner didn't understand them better..I hope with this few point of mine v been able to convince u n not confuse u that humans have be misusing the word LOVE for everything..

ayrulez:
when u say love only exist in our mind, does that mean that's what will operate in your marriage? You will only love your wife at head but will always lie to her all cus women want to hear lies? Is that what will operate in your home or that's what you will preach to your daughters?

when i say it only exist in the mind, i mean we don't show its true meaning just the surface.

I will adore, understand n respect my wife..when you respect someone, you won't do anything that will hurt his or her feelings, you will have regards for that person..to me i believ understanding and respect is an important key in marriage.
for more clarification, take your time n do a research on the those two words.

for my daughters, ther is a whole lot that dad is going to teach them about this world from my experience when that time comes.

foolinlove:
Love is hard to action. But it doesn't take away the feeling in your heart.

All we can do is try harder to do loving actions every day. We're not God, and only God can love so perfectly. But we can aspire to that, I think.

exactly my point...so if someone hurts u now after coming in the disguise of love, then it will only make you hate the word love..that's why you see people say they can't love again because that's what they were deceived with.if they understand better that okay o, no one can show the true meaning of love except God n Christ who did already..then we won't b having this much hate in us..

foolinlove:
I thought the idea was to love like God love us. When we love in godly way, then there is no other word.

lol am glad you understood that explanation..yea that's the while idea but v u asked yourself this question..why was it written that man should love thy neighbor as he love himself?

is because he has seen the hate in man's heart n know that we human will find it hard to love others and that's why that scripture was written....mind u i believe there is a word called love, but what I don't believe is finding its true meaning in humans or practice by any of us including me...if we understand this, then it will make things easier for us, just like in your own case or mine..

foolinlove:
Maybe not for you. But other people find it. No need to br so cynical.

I wish I can explain to you but I doubt if you will still understand..am not being cynical about it, am just saying we humans believe love exist(in our mind) but in reality we don't practise it or show it, can we then say it is love?.. I believe ther have to be another word for what we feel or show to our partners and stop making mockery of the word love...is more or less like saying one v Christ in him or her but yet, he or she stil lies n commit other sins considered little.

omonighoblessing:
so I broke up with this guy after two years.before then I had noticed signs ...I saw all the warning signs and trust me I didn't ignore them.
by March last year I finally went back to sch knowing well that I just gave him the opportunity to be free....before then I noticed this babe he was always talking to.every time,in the morning ,in the night ,EVERY DAY!
her pictures were littered in his phone.both one where she is composed and those random pictures u take that might not be fine were just on his phone.I asked what's up n.a. who is this babe again.he said she is his colleague.true to it she was his colleague but they were unusually close.then he would say she is the one disturbing him.that he told her he already has a woman.but u see u he wasn't really stern,he wouldn't have given room for her to be close.
then there were nonchalant attitudes from him from him,thereafter excuses upon excuses.
hahahahahahahahahah
my dear make I laff small.
imagine telling me later that his parents said NO, that they went to somewhere and they juju said we won't be happy together,that there will be tragedy. hahahahahahahahahah.
thinking of it sef, will the devil ever say anything good before?
well.to the best of my knowledge sha.I believe he was using his parents as excuse cos he has even traveled all the way,an 8hr journey to my base to see if he can find any fault in me but he couldn't. no attachment boyfriend , no flitting arround, no single fault could he find.
so it downed on him that he can't use me as an excuse.then he used his parents. poor parents don't even know that their pikin dey lie with their name .
well well.finally he found the opportunity he was looking for.
meanwhile I forgot to say.he told me lets pray and fast so his parents mind can melt.
see me serious dey pray when that "goat" was busy galivanting .
later he blocked me on whatsapp cos I questioned why he was using that same babe as dp. he said do I know what she has done for him?..
huh!!! for God sake what the he'll has she done for u?
well.later he blocked me as I said then.
one faithful day,I just dey my own ooo.n.a. me find trouble.I just pinged him.saying ""it is well"".
meehnnnnnn.that was it ooooo.I couldn't believe what I got next.
he called me immediately and said shouting
""what is the meaning of it is well
?
no tell me
what do u mean by it is well.....
u know what
it is over!
I can't do this anymore.""
my people I was dumbfounded. I no believe my ear.2yrs like that
Jesus!!!.
any way.the next thing my causin told me she saw a lady pix on his dp. I smiled, the pix was an engagement pix.it captured him puting a ring on her finger and then hugging.
jezzzzz.
hahahahahahahhahaha my people make I laff small joor.
this is just two days after the breakup.
so he had been waiting for the breakup to to to the next stage.
hahahahahahhaaha
hmmmm
next thing I saw his pre wedding photos to the same lady he called his colleague.
men shaaaaaa!!!!!
the later I saw their court wedding photo.

u see just when I was about sending him a congratulatory message on whatsapp cos he later unblocked me.
I noticed again that he had blocked me again.
this time whatsapp,BBM,instagram. e remain Facebook.am expecting that one soon.

I think he is just too childish.
so this is to the men..
I know we have the good ones out there just as there are the bad ones ......
why all this.what is the meaning of the whole drama.
this is the last message I sent him sha

another Yoruba guy, am not surprise

halfricanadian:
If u cant be faithful to me stay away from me

abia

Dezolo:
you shoulda pee-ed inside her immediately.. She wouldn't get pregnant..

wow first time hearing this, will check it out n see if it is true.