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foolinlove:
Real love doesn't cheat.

no such thing as real love cus it doesn't exist and reason why there ars lots of cheats in a relationship..am surprise people can't accept the reality of life, is it that hard.

falconey:


dude that's superstition , whether he told her the truth or not ......sooner or later she will be taken away from him , to avoid that he just should MARRY HER ( obviously he isn't ready , he should deal with it)

your babes them no be person hand you collect am?



trust did you say trust ? do that at your own peril, even your virgin babe no trust am.

my nigge, tell them ooo cus I have be saying it but they think I don't know what am saying..is good to trust is better not to and if you do, do at your own peril

ayrulez:
There is this girl I met and asked out, she told me straight up she's got a boyfriend and that we could just remain as a friend..I heeded to it and we were friends. It was in the cause of the friendship that I got to know his bf was once married and has a kid. He's not with the wife anymore tho, but they didn't divorce. The boyfriend is like 15years older than she is. She is still dating the guy cus of the " he disflowered me" factor. The guy also gives her some stipends... He treats her like a baby considering the age difference... Shout at her, order her around and make her to do things out of her will. To cut the whole story short, we got along. We became so close and we couldn't hold it, so she eventually confessed she feel something for me. She told me if she should leave the guy and go with me. I told her I love her equally but I would not want to cus of my selfish interest say u should drop your 3years relationship without being convinced about me. I told her when she get fully convinced she will make her choice. She later said she's sure I don't love her because if I love her I will tell her to leave the guy and come to me. She said she doesn't care if am selfish or not. She only want to be sure of my love for her. I told her I am not selfish and irrational, yet she won't see reasons with me. I just had to let go.. Do you think I ought to have told her to leave her guy who dint offend her and they've been dating for years or I made the right statement?

IF ONLY THE FILMAKERS HAD THE SLIGHTEST IDEA THAT YOU EXIST, I DON'T THINK THEY WOULD HAVE USED JACKIE CHAN IN THE MOVIE "MR NICE GUY"..I hope you don't regret this somday lol but I know you will.my bad

the day ladies will learn to accept the fact that they are weak vessels n should not trust on their own flesh the better for them..of what businnes do you have ith your ex who didn't think of putting a ring in your finger talk more of making wedding plans...instead of u to learn to let go n build a future with someone who wants to make a home with you..go back n meet your ex that are not controlling..is very simple stop communicating with any guy that will b a stumbling block to your new home..how will you feel if he is keeping touch with other ladies n ex of his?

NOW I SEE THE REASON WHY HE HASN'T FIXED A DATE YET N I DON'T BLAME HIM

pedrilo:
I'll go straight to the point and cut out the frills.
Met her 3 years ago in the sch I did MSc and she was in her first year.
First we were friends then became lovers
Then I discovered she was a Virgin, I was very happy and determined to let her remain that way till marriage.
Few months down the line she started acting up, probably she got confused cos of too many toasters (she is very beautiful) and to make matters worse, I was rounding up with my programme that period (could be her reason for misbehaving I dnt know).
I left the sch and the city and started working in another state, she wouldn't call, text, chat or contact me except I did, and this affected my esteem and I had to advice myself and let her be.
Last week she called me to complain that I abandoned her bla bla bla and I was quite surprised.
She apologized for her past mistakes and I thought I should give her a second chance cos we all deserve one.
BUT what she told me last night is making me think twice seriously.
First, she said she is no more a virgin, and secondly she told me she got epilepsy #MyGod!
I don't know if this is some kind of joke/test from her or if she is for real.
Nlanders please reason this issue with me and let me know your opinion.
Thanks in anticipation. cheers

i won't advice you going back to her cus is obvious she started misbehaving when another sharp guy came into the picture and did the needful...
as for me i would say you should focus on your new found job and wait for the right lady, although you can still be friends with her.

Hyfer:
I'am not so sure about that.

well you can take it or leavae it but i just told u wah i think is the reason..

Pelon:
I recently opened a thread about the girl who asked me if I was okay about her dating another guy..I saw a lot of advices and decided to adhere to one of them.so I knew it was high time I stopped beign a nice guy so I tested her and she failed therefore I decided she isn't worth it I initiated a sex chat with her and to my uttermost suprise she loved it and asked me to wait till when we are both free.

THAT'S MY BOY, INFACT YOU JUST MADE MY DAY, I TOLD YOU SHE ONLY WANTED A FLING, DIDN'T I..LEAVE EMOTIONS ASIDE JUST DO THE NEEDFUL CUS IS A WIN WIN FOR BOTH OF YOU..YOU DID WELL FOR CROSSING THE FRIEND-ZONE BORDER

I DON'T GIVE ADVICE ON THIRD PARTY STORIES

Hyfer:
Please I need advice.. Help my relationship.

sorry bro but is too late already cus she is being treated like a lady elsewhere

MrValIk:
Wat exactly do single ladies find so appealing in married men? Its so common now to see young beautiful ladies following man dat are married wit kids. I cnt understand it. Do u ladies tink these men will leave their wives and happy homes for u?
A married man dat flirts wit a single lady has only one tin at d back of his mind... one night stand. For Gods sake. He is married, with childrn. Most men tell their "concubiles" dt maybe dey have problems in dia marriage, or maybe the wife isn't makn him happy, etc. And d girls will always fall for this cheap excuses.
Who is to blame here? The lady, or d married man.

Cc lalasticlala
He may come "complaining" to u, but he'll go back to bed wit her sleeping right beside him. Every night. Daz how all Dez men behave. Be carefull. Just my small advise sha. (this is 2 my frnd MissM).

i blame both of them but the ladies the most and my reason is this.

the time a lady is using to hang out or chase a married man and destroying her fellow lady's home, she can use that time to get herself a man and build a home of her own..they won't sees things this way why, because they fall prey for men with serpent tongue who only want to satisfy his sexual urge and most ladies don't know what they want..an average lady is moved by three things( what they hear, what they see and what they can get)...as for the man i would call him a FOOL for choosing to destroy his home over a pvssy when he has one at home..

vague:
His sister is sharp for dating a rich guy that can pay their bills and put food on their table, but every other girl who does the same is a gold-digger!

Every other dark woman is ugly and manly but his pitch black mother is the most beautiful woman he has ever seen.

His stay at home mom of a sister is the most intelligent and humble female he has ever come across, but the girl next door who resorted to beauty school because she couldn't get into university is the biggest emptyhead he has knows.

The 190lbs girl who lives across the road is most ugly and lazy girl he has ever seen, while his 280lbs mother is the most beautiful and hardworking woman he knows.


He sees every other person's sister as a sex object but his sister should be treated like a goddess that should never be touched or abused by any other man.

So long he is still taking a bus to work, no woman should be in relationship with a rich because they are all arrogant and aggressive, even though he forms big boy whenever he sees a beautiful woman.

HAHAHA THIS YOUR GUY NA WOSKI GUY O

NASO THEM GO TALK, BY THE WAY HOW MANY WAS IT BEFORE NOW

Greene66:
The subject says it all.

Deal with it

is obvious you are still far behind in fact very far behind...what will you say about EDIBLE CATERING

I have not spoken to anyone about my ordeal but I sincerely hope your advice will go a long way towards healing me and restoring back my sanity.

I started dating this lady whom I still love so much February 2013, few months before I lost my mummy. I was so cautious of the affair at first, knowing that it was the first time I am getting so emotionally entangled to a lady, but after I lost my mum, I was so hurt and the fact that she was the only person very close to me then, I threw caution to the wind and fell helplessly in love with her, hoping that it would help alleviate the pains of losing My mum and praying deep inside my heart that the relationship will lead to marriage. It did to a reasonable extent alleviated the pains of losing my mum.

Even while I was in school, I gave her everything that I somehow lived in deprivation. Her friends were complaining to me that I spend a lot on her and it might backfire one day. I ignored their advice. I buy her handouts, clothes, Mobile gadgets and even give her certain amount of money on monthly basis to add up to her feeding money, I made sure she lived above her peers in school .

The whole problem started late 2014, when I was about leaving for my NYSC. she started acting quite strange, I respected her privacy that I don't even touch her phones, even though I give her the freedom to handle my phones and answer my calls. I noticed she wouldn't pick up her calls while with me. Like I said, I respected her privacy that I never gave so much thoughts into her actions, I loved and gave her my all believing that she will never cheat on me. Then on her birthday, I had got lots of surprising gifts for her and even arranged a little get together without her knowledge. To my greatest surprise, she surfaced at the venue of the party with the excuse that she was going on an errand for her parents. I handed over to her the gifts I got for her, she collected them and left the venue. Little did I know she had gone to see her erstwhile lover. Depression had started creeping in and I was losing my sanity apparently.

To cut the whole story short, when her girlfriend opened up to me that my girl was having affairs elsewhere, I never believed her at first, but after I confronted her, then I was looking so sick and pale, completely lost in thoughts and pains. She eventually opened up and was really sorry to the best of my knowledge . I couldn't help the pains, I. Started taking anti depressants, I have already vowed never to cheat in my life, knowing that prosperity has a way of rewarding Fidelity.

After I was mobilized for NYSC, I left for my Camp, but the ghost of a failed relationship was already hunting me, I had lost interest in living. Shortly after I returned back from my Orientation camp, everyone knew something was wrong with me, I only told them that it was the stress from Camp. Well, I was battered emotionally, that on 31st December 2014, I hit the rock button and decided to end my life and end the pains, I took insecticides and collection of anti depressants in over dose and battery acid, I cheated on death as I was in Coma for 4 days, I was referred to a psychologist for rehabilitation after I was discharged on the 12th of January 2015. I spent 6 months in rehabilitation Center here in Lagos State, where I was also serving then.

After the whole incident, I made up my mind to forgive her and give her a second chance since she was really sorry. The whole scenario started replaying itself, that she started acting strange again, already my friend had told me that she was seeing someone else. My family knew I was slipping into depression again and had wanted to fly me out of the country, but I was denied Visa when I least expected it. I had to leave Enugu for Lagos so as to keep away from her and the environment. but she still calls me on phone, saying that she still loves me, I truly love her so much. Am totally lost of words, lost of ideas. Am terrified to say the least. Am losing my sanity again. Please friends, depression is getting better of me at the moment.. I need a sincere advise

check your box

team january

I, for one, don't cherish distance relationship cus of issues like this..bro move on n look for a lady around your vicinity

nnamezie87:
DEAR NAIRALANDERS, I NEED YOUR CANDID AND FRIENDLY ADVISE. I HAVE KNOWN THIS LADY FOR A LONG TIME. WE WERE NORMAL FRIENDS UNTIL LAST YEAR. SHE HAD A BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE AND WE STARTED DATING. WE LOVED EACH OTHER AND WERE DOING GREAT. MEANWHILE, AM AN ENGR AND SHE IS A GRADUATE. ON SATURDAY, I BOUGHT A 1.9GRM OF GOLD PLATED RING TO ENGAGE HER. I TRAVELLED TO D CITY WHERE SHE WORKS, LODGED AND CALLED HER TO COME OVER. SHE WAS HAPPY THAT I CAME AROUND. AFTER SOMETIME SHE WAS WITH ME, I NOTICED THAT HER FACE HAD CHANGED, AND I ASKED HER WHAT D PROBLEM WAS, AFTER MUCH PERSUASION, SHE DROPPED THE BOMBSHELL " WHEN EVER I SEE YOU, I GET ANNOYED" I COULD NOT BELIEVE WHAT I HEARD. I ASKED HER AGAIN, AND SHE REPEATED THE SAME THING AND STOOD UP TO LEAVE THE HOTEL ROOM. I CALLED HER BACK AND TOLD THAT I WAS ACTUALLY THERE TO FORMALLY ENGAGE HER. SHE BURSTED INTO A BIG LAUGHTER AND ASKED " IF SOMEONE HAD TOLD ME THAT SHE WOULD ACCEPT MY PROPOSAL, WOULD I HAVE AGREED"? THIS MADE ME TO LEAVE HER.
LATER, SHE CAME BACK AND STARTED APOLOGIZING, KNEELING DOWN WITH TEARS SAYING THAT SHE DIDNT KNOW WHAT CAME OVER HER. SHE HAS CALLED ALL HER FRIENDS BOTH MALES N FEMALES TO BEG ME. EVEN D SISTER AND COLLEAGUES HAVE BEEN CALLING. SHE CAME TO MY HOUSE AND I WALKED HER OUT.
GUYS, PLEASE ADVISE ME. BELOW IS THE PIC OF THE 1.9G OF GOLD RING WORTH 22K. TO CROWN IT ALL, THE SELLER OF THE RING IS WILLING TO GIVE ME BACK MY MONEY because HE IS MY FRIEND.

I WON'T ASK YOU TO ENGAGE HER OR NOT BUT WHAT I WILL SAY IS THIS...

NEVER MARRY ANYONE OUT OF PITY OR YOU WILL REGRET IT IN FUTURE...most ladies will agree with me that when a guy who they really love n want to settle down with propose to them, it brings them to tears or unimaginable happiness but on your case she did the opposit.so use your tongue to count your teeth.

geni340:
69...for those who understand

gbam you nailed it...bar man give her anything she asks for..you are the best

foolinlove:
Doggy. Don look at my face and makes gyy quicker to come so it's all over quickly.

hey, we really caused break down on that previous post o..by the way is been four yrs n am still suprise u still remember the beat style lol funny u

fof1:
MY DEAR.PLS STOP THIS TALK AND BE OPTIMISTIC. BE HOPEFUL. LOOK INTO HIS EYES. HE WILL SETTLE U IN A SPECIAL WAY, NOT AS A NUN.STOP THIS IDLE TALK. GOD WILL SURELY HEAL U COMPLETELY NO MATTER UR EXPERIENCES. DONT GV UP DONT GV IN AND DONT BE WITHDRAWN EITHER.CLASSES FOR REHAB CAN ASSIST U IMMENSELY. GOD BLESS U.

hey am a guy n nothing to be hopeful about, is just the truth..everyone speaks of love but non practice it in reality.

adellam16:
the thread has been bought by u n dat foolinglove girl. Make una enjoy. Question way Op ask una bone am dey talk bout love. I guess u both r meant to be

i had no idea this is on fp lol...i just wanted to make her see the truth that's all nothing like love cu i don't believe in it.

obitee69:
Stop being bitter. Who says I can't afford to buy her a new phone? Gush. U rather had kept quiet than spewing this trash

if you say you can then please do and don't bother going to her gate to knock

check your account you just received an alert of *FRIEND ZONE*

shame you don't have, so with all this things u explained you still want go and knock instead of you to either get her a phone or wait till she find a means to reach you...u better seat your Ass home..u wan go knock, na your papa fix gate for them abi iranu

the main reason I don't do street girls, don't want any familiarity if anything happen all road will lead to my house.naa, away is the best

dauntless15:
So yesterday was dull with the constant rain and cold weather, i went with my bro to my god mother's wake keep, and my bro left to find my mum and sibblings, because the crowd was much and i wasn't feeling fine i decided to wait for him where we parked the car,

And minutes later they came with my elder bro dragging my ex along and they just left us staring at each other, my mum has this coy smile plastered on her face because they are all fond of her,

Then she started apologizing seriously for everything and how much she missed me, in minutes i started Smiling like a dead goat, its obvious i have a weak spot for her, and after all the talks which i quietly listened to, she started dragging me around showing me to her groupies and introducing, fond,ling with my hair, acting all mushy like we are still dating when i was leaving she collected my number.

I returned to meet everyone asking me how did it go with excitement in thier eyes. Please people i need your advice am in a relationship with someone who really loves me for me now. I can't control myself around this girl, how do i evade this impending danger shes trying to invade my life again and destroy my new found peace.

who broke up with who?

foolinlove:
I'm guessong I can go for the rest of my life. Been 4 years so far. I didn't date out of pity. i didnt accept marriage proposal from pity. Was him chased me.

I don't have any heart to give. My heart is broken into a thousand little pieces. No one can mend that. Only God will mend when I die and am in His arms.

No matter how much I pray, I still love that one guy. Maybe u just can't comprehend what it is to love truly and wholly.

you know what. you might be right, maybe i dont know what it is to love truly and wholly cus I don't know what the butterflies in your tummy made u feel like while u were in lov neither do u know mine but on the other hand we all have our own definition of love. but for some of us who have built n given 7yrs for love n watch it fall like some pack of cards, which now makes me it hard to believe if that word truely exist..if at all it does then we r not showing its true meaning just the surface..the only love that truely exist is christ love for us, every other love we claim to feel for one another is not real( just cheaters in disguise).

gracejy:
I met a girl while in school and we have been together for over two years now. Beautiful, God fearing and one to call a partner. It has never crossed my mind that we won't get married until recently. About a year ago, I met another lady in my place of work whom I started developing feelings for but didn't tell her because of my relationship status until I did recently. I told her of my feelings for her and about my relationship status. From all indications, she likes me too but does not want to be entangled in my relationship circle since according to her, I'm in a relationship and God hasn't spoken to her yet. I must let you know that these two ladies are without mixing words, children of God.

The issue now is, I love this latter girl more than I love the formal. People around me think I want to cheat the former ( the onew I met in school). No sexual activity has taken place with any of them cos we are all believers. I want God's perfect will (not permissive) for me but HE hasn't spoken concerning this.

What do you sincerely think people?

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BROTHER JEREMIAH WAIT FOR GOD TO SPEAK TO YOU FIRST..IF YOU ASK ME I WILL TELL YOU THIS, YOU ARE BEEN BLINDED BY LUST NOT LOVE..COKE TO THINK OF IT WHY LEAVE A LADY YOU KNOW FOR 2YRS FOR ANOTHER YOU BARELY KNOW...ALSO YOU HAVE NOT HAD ANY SEXUAL ACTIVITY WITH THE LADIES BUT YOU CAN'T SAY THE SAME FOR THE THEM. LEARN TO SPEAK FOR YOURSELF AND NOT FOR OTHERS WHEN IT COMES TO ISSUES OF SEX, CHEAT OR TRUST CUS IS GOOD TO TRUST BUT IS BETTER NOT TO..

foolinlove:
Believe whatever you want, it doesn't affect me. I still love him and I havent and I'm not going to give my heart or pvssy to anyone else. I can't endure any more heartbreak. And I'm hardly going to change myself to make you happy... we are strangers.

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not saying anything to affect anyone, am not saying should give your heart or pvssy to anyone, as a matter of fact, I don't think there is any heart left for u to give to a guy cus u seem like one who will date a guy out of pity..you can go nun but for how long, u say 4yrs already (I still don't believe cus is not possible) but how long more can u go?...finally u don't change to make me happy, because I tell friends n foes around me to do things that make them happy..finally most friends you have now were once strangers to you, so drop that mentality.

foolinlove:
You seem to care judging by your reaction.

I've been 4 years without a man in my life and I'm still going strong! God bless.

tell yourself the truth, you know am not lying..the fact that you loved him so much and almost went suicidal cus of what he did, doesn't mean you should keep yourself in the dark for that long, even though I find it hard to believe that you have not been with any man over the past 4yrs.

succyblinks:
Hi guys I really need your advice on this issue
I've been dating this guy for over a year now and it's been really tough on me, I truly love this guy even when my parents were kicking against him due to tribal difference I stood on my grounds until they finally accepted him but everytime we have an issue, the next thing he does is to break up with me and make me come back begging even if he was wrong, this guy was the one that disvirgined me and I can't just cut off the connection between us no matter how I try, now recently he started hitting me anytime he's angry and whenever we are having an argument he raises his voice and even threatens to beat me like he used to do, this makes me feel so embarrassed cause he says it even to the hearing of my neighbors, i've caught him sexchatting with one girl before and he wasn't even sorry about it, he made me break up with all my male friends and treats me like trash, I know I should leave the relationship but I can't it's like my life depends on it, I've read so many articles on how to get over a loved one but none worked, I've always wanted to get married to the guy who deflowered me but I don't think it's possible, please help me I'm on the verge of committing suicide as I feel like my whole world is wrapped around him. please help me.

thanks.

you presented yourself as a trash to him and thats why you get treated this way..everyone wants to get married to who ever that disvirgined them..truth is just 1% archieve and those are the ones that got married being a virgin..
you feel like your whole world is wrapped around him, truth is you gave him your whole world that's why but guess what, let him have it.create a new world and this time with happiness wrapped around it, that way if anoyone including your guy bring his sad ass around you send him out, why, because It's you world and not theirs..by the way what tribe are we talking of here